Can You Be Spontaneous in a Kink Relationship?
There’s no single right answer. This is a wide-ranging conversation where we try to figure out what we think about the idea of being spontaneous. Spoiler alert: Kayla does not have a spontaneous bone...
About us
WHAT DO WE DO ?
We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!
WHO ARE WE ?
We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.
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In our weekly podcast, we discuss all aspects of how to have a happy, healthy power exchange relationship.
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30 Days of D/s
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Feeling Disconnected in D/s
Let’s talk about what might make you feel disconnected from your partner in your D/s relationship – and how to reconnect again. In this episode: Get your FREE ticket to the 2026 Dom/sub Dynamics...
BDSM Q&A
This week, we asked for your kinky questions over on Instagram and YouTube! In this episode: Final donation totals to the Campaign for Southern Equality Questions: I’m a soft dom and my wife wants...
Reconnecting with Silly Relationship Questions
After a couple of stressful weeks where we’re both exhausted, we recognize that we’re disconnected. Part of reconnecting is answering (mostly) ridiculous relationship questions, lol. In this episode: Our 2026 Patreon Membership Drive ends...
Emotional Intelligence and Power Exchange
Emotional intelligence and emotional regulation is extremely important for communication and happy, healthy power exchange relationships. In this episode: Join our Patreon during the 2026 Membership Drive What is emotional intelligence? From HelpGuide.org: “your...
Bonus Section Episode
This week was a tough one personally but we wanted to show up, so we went with a chatty bonus section-like episode, but we also answered kinky questions from YouTube Live Chat. In this...
