“You have to fight fire with fire!”
That’s funny, I thought you fought fire with water….
In fact, I think that the whole point is to try to douse flames to prevent them from spreading[1].
The only role of fire in fighting fire that I am aware of is to use fire to eliminate brush and combustible materials before the fire gets there. The idea is to remove those things that feed more flames so that the fire simply dies out for lack of fuel.
But somehow we have invited into our lexicon this unchallenged notion that you can fight fire …with even more fire.
The purpose here is not to analyze the science of fire. It’s to fight the unexamined notion that you can fight fire with more fire… or that you can fight violence with even more violence…
Or that you can fight hate with hate…
Perhaps it’s our natural human reflexive tendency to respond in kind. “You have heard it said ‘an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth’…”
But if we don’t challenge the conventional wisdom that the way to eliminate hatred or violence is to attack it with more hatred and violence, we are doomed to simply perpetuate the very things we ostensibly try to eliminate.
I think they call this the ‘cycle of violence’
So how do you stop a cycle of violence?
Well, I think the first step is to stop fueling it with more violence and hatred.
I really don’t think you can fight fire with fire.
To finish the old Testament reference above, Jesus continues: ‘but I tell you, to love your enemies and pray for those who hate you.’
I think you truly try to douse the flames of hatred…with love.
At this point you should fight the temptation to dismiss this statement as some sanguine gloss of an idealistic band-aid for a serious malady.
Responding in love to hate is not easily done. And it’s dangerous work. In fact, the author of this approach was brutally tortured and nailed to a cross to suffer an agonizing death.
Many people after him who have responded in love to hate have also suffered grievous harm, threats and most surprisingly – criticism for not responding to hate with hate.
Admittedly, one can see the appealing logic of this type of criticism. The argument is typically voiced this way: ‘In this world, if you want to see change, you have to fight for it. By forgiving the perpetrator, you are implicitly condoning the act, and other aggressors might be emboldened to act if they don’t see the harmful consequences of their actions.’
But when the Kingdom of God breaks through with a stunning word of forgiveness by a victim that has suffered harm at the hands of a perpetrator – an act that can only be conceived of as an act of God’s love paid forward – do we realize what a potent enemy of hate love is. When we hear of such an unexpected act, it usually stops us in our tracks and we pay attention.
To be clear, this is not to say that we should not fight injustice, racism and hatred. We do need to fight determinedly against injustice, racism and hatred … just not with fire.
We fight it heroically with love –
It douses the flames and breaks the cycle… and it gives us breathing space to live in right relationship with each other. Just as God intended.
[1] Humorous point: While it is true that one might use a ‘firehose’ to fight a fire, it’s actually water – not fire – that comes from a firehose.