How do you avoid becoming annoying
Posted: February 12, 2026 Filed under: Analysis, Disasters, Home and Garden | Tags: aging, Baby Boomers, behavior, dievca, Generations, irritation, learning, Life, texting Leave a commentwhile aging?
dievca works in a World with younger humans. The older people in her World work with younger people. One of her colleagues who is 85 years old, knows how to deal with younger people and texting. dievca didn’t understand the complaints about “Boomer” texting until yesterday when she was handing off apartment keys to a friend of a friend.
The person is retired and a control freak who wrote long emails, then long texts at awkward times expecting immediate answers. Their verbiage came off as aggressive.
The same control freak who couldn’t look at their email before traveling, nor realize that they needed to turn off airplane mode when they checked their email. They sent a “demand” text while dievca was presenting at a meeting. Then said, “opps” when dievca pointed out they needed to read their e-mail.
Never again.
Down the rabbit hole about Protein
Posted: June 18, 2025 Filed under: Body Type, Discussion | Tags: body awareness, change, definition, diet, dietician, dievca, eating, Food, Health, learning, Life, menopause, nutrition, nutritionist, Scheduling, weight-loss 2 Commentsdievca finally was able to connect with a nutritionist. It took a year of juggling as a new patient and trying to stay within a certain healthcare system. Contact dievca if you are a dietician and are looking for a new position – she knows where there are openings…
Note: While both dieticians and nutritionists offer guidance on healthy eating, dieticians have more extensive training and legal recognition, particularly in the context of medical nutrition therapy. A registered dietitian (RD) or registered dietitian nutritionist (RDN) has specific credentials and licensure, while the term “nutritionist” can be used more broadly, and may not require formal qualifications.
That said, the person dievca saw was very good. dievca likes to think she eats semi-well and food journaled for 3 weeks before her visit. she got somethings right and the dietician kindly corrected timing issues and a couple of dievca’s misconceptions about certain foods.
It all came back to eating more protein as a post-menopausal woman.
Basically, protein needs to be added to many of dievca’s meals/snacks to beef up (heh, heh, heh) satiety, so she’s not scrambling for something later. Which brings dievca to the issue of having some form of protein at 5:30 am.
This is funny, but perhaps not an option for dievca:

Look, adding two eggs on avocado toast is easy at 11:00 am…
What is easy, quick, and convenient at 5:15 am?
A protein shake?
How does dievca prep one or which one is good to buy? What tastes ok so dievca doesn’t feel like throwing up. The nutritionist suggested “FairLife”, but dievca dislikes stevia – will stevia trigger a sweet craving? Is having some sugar in a bottled protein shake going to kill the process?
Ugh!
There are going to be some “taste tests” in dievca’s future.
PLEASE – if you have any suggestions, let dievca know. she could use the help.
XO
when crabby becomes crotchety
Posted: February 23, 2025 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden, Relationships | Tags: aging, Crabbiness, crotchety, definitions, dievca, learning, Life, New Jersey, old age, Shopping, Wal-Mart Leave a comment
Why are people called Crabby?dievca did a Wal-Mart run to New Jersey. she tries to shop early and avoid traffic and crowds. People watching is always a highlight. This run offered mostly Hispanic and Asian patrons. A good amount of older gentlemen shopping and something new, younger Hispanic couples. A lot of half-awake, kinda grumpy non-morning people.
For the 1st time, dievca made the connection that everyone can be crabby, yet, young people can get away with it while older people just look like a**holes.
There is a turning point where a 23-year-old “Karen” is high maintenance, a 53-year-old “Karen” is a b*tch and an 83-year-old “Karen” needs a nap.
Crabby is crabby at a young age.
Crabby is crotchety and more annoying at an older age.
You can get away with complaining at a young age, but its not a good look at an older age.
Something dievca will keep in mind as she attempts to age gracefully.
mélange, marled, ragg wool, space dye
Posted: January 16, 2025 Filed under: Discussion, Fashion | Tags: comparison, definitions, description, dievca, Fabric, knits, learning, Shopping, sweater, yarn Leave a commentMélange and marled are both terms used to describe a fabric or yarn with a blended color effect. The main difference is that mélange involves mixing fibers before spinning, while marled involves twisting different yarns together.
Melange
The French word mélange means “mixture”. Mélange fabric is made by mixing different colored fibers before weaving or knitting. This creates a soft, multi-tonal look with a shimmering, mottled color effect.
Marled
Marled yarn is made by twisting two or more different colored yarns together. This process is called plying. Marled yarn can be made by combining different colors or different types of yarn, such as cotton and polyester. Marled yarn creates a “marbled” appearance in the fabric.
So, what is ragg wool?
A yarn formed of two strands of dyed wool and one strand of undyed wool often combined with other fibers (such as nylon). So it falls under the “marled” category as a yarn.

What is space dyed wool?
Yarns that have been dyed with regularly repeating sections of colors around the skein. Depending on the width and/or circumference of a project, the colors are likely to stack up or pool and may be used for ‘planned pooling’ projects. Missoni is known for creating knits with space dye yarns.

Indianapolis 500 car #6 (1947 vs. 2023)
Posted: May 23, 2023 Filed under: Analysis, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, car racing, D/s, dievca, fun, History, Indy 500, learning, Memorial Day Weekend, technology Leave a comment

dievca is heading to Indiana this weekend for the Indianapolis 500. she’s a neophyte when is comes to Indy Car racing “Go Fast, Turn Left”… so she is reading up on the race and trying to choose her driver. The advancement of car technology is amazing!
The Silver Lining
Posted: April 15, 2020 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, cooking, COVID-19, D/s, dievca, Disney, Humor, learning, Life, positive mental attitude, submissive Leave a commentof Staying Home.
You can play YOUR own music at almost any moment.

Your personal productivity increases with limited distractions.
The alarm doesn’t ring at 4 am.
You get a chance to work on unused skills.

You can attend dance or workout classes at any time.

You hear or connect to people you haven’t seen or heard from in years.

You have a chance to just “be”.
Personality according to Peanuts
Posted: February 5, 2020 Filed under: Analysis, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, comics, D/s, dievca, Humor, learning, Life, Love, Peanuts, Psychology, submissive Leave a comment
Some say there is nothing to be learned in the comics section of the newspaper.
dievca learned to READ via comic books.
OK, that’s BIG – but other BIG things can be gleaned from reading the comics.
What about Psychology? The BIG 5 personality traits?
Psychological researchers often define personality in terms of five core traits, which can be thought of as stable dispositions that drive behavior. The five-factor model of personality encompasses these basic traits:
The names of these factors convey their meaning. Neuroticism measures an individual’s emotional stability. Extraversion is how outgoing and sociable someone is, whereas Openness to experience conveys someone’s intellectual and experiential curiosity. Conscientiousness taps into one’s discipline, rule-orientation, and integrity. Agreeableness is about being good-natured.
Let’s learn about personalities from Peanuts:
Charlie Brown = Neuroticism
Charlie Brown is a model neurotic. He is prone to depression and anxiety and paralyzing fits of over-analysis. Constantly worrying if he is liked or respected, he has a perpetual, usually dormant crush on the little redheaded girl, taking small joys in her foibles that may make her more attainable. He is noted for his inability to fly a kite.
Snoopy = Extraversion
Snoopy is a typical extravert. Flamboyant, daring, and outgoing to a fault, he tries to join in every activity and conversation. He, perhaps, flies gallant missions against the Red Baron and then brags about his exploits. For reasons potentially stemming from his long-ago abandonment of his mother, he aggressively pursues friendship and food. Snoopy is ‘Joe Cool’, the life of the party.

Lucy = (Dis)agreeableness
Defined by a single word (crabby), Lucy revels in her disagreeableness. Typical portrayals of Lucy feature her bossing around her friends, dominating her little brother, mocking Charlie Brown’s self-consciousness, and generally being a pain in the neck. Her attempts at psychiatry generally involve misguided advice delivered loudly and angrily. One recurring interaction is Lucy pretending to hold a football out for Charlie Brown to kick, and then pulling it out at the last minute. Brown goes thump and Lucy preens.
Linus = Openness to experience
Linus is clearly the brightest of all of the Peanuts gang. Witty and knowledgeable, he is prone to passionate monologues. He has invented his own creation, the Great Pumpkin, and faithfully waits in the pumpkin patches for him every Halloween. Linus has his own idiosyncrasy, an ever-present blue security blanket — but he does not seem particularly sensitive about it. It’s who he is. Too young to actively try new things, he must instead use his intellect to mull over new and interesting ideas.
Schroeder = Conscientiousness
Charlie Brown, Linus, Snoopy, and even Lucy are fairly well-developed characters. Schroeder is equally lovable, but most casual readers know him for one thing: his piano playing. Yes, Lucy has a crush on him, but that’s about her — he will have none of it. He is always practicing. Disciplined and focused on his passion for classical music, one can imagine him setting his alarm clock for 7 a.m. on weekends to try Autumn Sonata one more time. His one other preferred activity is playing catcher for the baseball team — again, the sturdy, reliable director of the action on the field. Schroeder would offer to help you move and show up 10 minutes early.

A ‘Thank You’ to James C. Kaufman and Psychology Today
Prayers
Posted: June 6, 2019 Filed under: Relationships, Vintage | Tags: D-Day, dievca, learning, Life, Military, peace, prayer, WWII 1 Commenthttps://gfycat.com/majesticdazzlingglassfrog
Pretty sure this sucked for all parties involved.
Prayers to all, alive and lost.
Patience
Posted: November 28, 2018 Filed under: Poetry, Relationships, Vintage | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, learning, Life, Love, Master, patience, Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward, Relationships, Rilke, submissive 3 Comments
Rilke:
Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart.
Try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books written in a foreign language.
Do not now look for the answers.
They cannot now be given to you because you could not live them.
It is a question of experiencing everything.
At present you need to live the question.
Perhaps you will gradually, without even noticing it, find yourself experiencing the answer.
Sometimes you cannot get the original…
Posted: October 12, 2018 Filed under: Analysis, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, D/s, Dave Grohl, dievca, education, learning, Life, Master, music, Nirvana, submissive, Tori Amos 6 Comments…but something fine comes along. It’s different, however, it’s still fabulous.
Mind you, dievca’s favorite Nirvana band member is Dave Grohl.
She ran into this interview after watching the previous video: Dave Grohl’s Mom, Virginia, Talks About Raising A Rockstar Child. As a former educator and believer in different forms and paths for learning – dievca appreciates her take on raising her son effectively to be a musician.
The Seven Learning Styles
Visual (spatial):You prefer using pictures, images, and spatial understanding.
Aural (auditory-musical): You prefer using sound and music.
Verbal (linguistic): You prefer using words, both in speech and writing.
Physical (kinesthetic): You prefer using your body, hands and sense of touch.
Logical (mathematical): You prefer using logic, reasoning and systems.
Social (interpersonal): You prefer to learn in groups or with other people.
Solitary (intrapersonal): You prefer to work alone and use self-study.
dievca tends to run verbal and logical — as she mutters to herself and create lists and structures of knowledge (ask Master).
How do you learn effectively?
Your learning styles have more influence than you may realize. Your preferred styles guide the way you learn. They also change the way you internally represent experiences, the way you recall information, and even the words you choose.
Research shows us that each learning style uses different parts of the brain. By involving more of the brain during learning, we remember more of what we learn. Researchers using brain-imaging technologies have been able to find out the key areas of the brain responsible for each learning style.
For example:
- Visual: The occipital lobes at the back of the brain manage the visual sense. Both the occipital and parietal lobes manage spatial orientation.
- Aural: The temporal lobes handle aural content. The right temporal lobe is especially important for music.
- Verbal: The temporal and frontal lobes, especially two specialized areas called Broca’s and Wernicke’s areas (in the left hemisphere of these two lobes).
- Physical: The cerebellum and the motor cortex (at the back of the frontal lobe) handle much of our physical movement.
- Logical: The parietal lobes, especially the left side, drive our logical thinking.
- Social: The frontal and temporal lobes handle much of our social activities. The limbic system (not shown apart from the hippocampus) also influences both the social and solitary styles. The limbic system has a lot to do with emotions, moods and aggression.
- Solitary: The frontal and parietal lobes, and the limbic system, are also active with this style.
With that information cooking in your brain, let dievca leave you with her favorite version of “Smells Like Teen Spirit”. Auditory only…XO
Thank you to Kottke for the Joan Jett/Nirvana videos and learning-styles-online.com.
Update…three choices…and a potential game changer.
Posted: February 23, 2018 Filed under: Musings | Tags: dievca, Father, feeding tube, healthcare, learning, Life, Love, Relationships, submissive, travel 4 Comments1.) Feeding tube in stomach and go to rehab place.
2.) Feeding tube in stomach and full-time nurse at home.
3.) No feeding tube. Hospice in home.
I’m pretty sure some of you have been here, or somewhere close, before.

“You know those young doctors – “well, he’s 87 and had a good Life”, they don’t care unless it’s their Dad. Then she walked in, a Geriatric Doctor, slightly older and she didn’t understand why she hadn’t been called earlier.” – dievca’s brother
Wait!
There is a Geriatric Doctor?
She’s sharp?
On it?
There are two seizure meds?
It may be one too many?
Might be causing the drowsiness?
Removal might help with………..swallowing……..
And the game changes. We will see~ Crossing fingers. Knocking wood.

Seniors over age 85 are the fastest-growing segment of the population. If you or any of your loved ones are over 65, being treated by a geriatrician can make all the difference. Geriatricians are primary care doctors who have had additional training in the health care needs of older people.
PS. The staff of the facility where dievca’s Dad is being treated has been stellar. Sometimes pieces and people get tangled, you learn as you go. Sometimes you don’t know the right questions to ask – but dievca is keeping notes for herself, Master, family, etc. None of us are getting any younger.




