Posts tagged ‘Plymouth’

August 28, 2025

The Last Days of Summer

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A trip to Haytor, Dartmoor

Summer of 2025 is slowly slipping away.

Last week was unusually warm. But even then, in the evenings of the ever shortening days you could feel the winter coming – like the approaching footsteps of a distant army.

The roads are already full of autumn leafs. Adi collected quite a few when we had gone to Central Park a few days back and to Saltram House. He loves yellow leaves.

I’m on leave from work this week. M is in China for a work trip..Adi’s nursery is closed. My parents are still here – but their trip is almost over, they are leaving on the 8th. It was good to have them around for almost six months.

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At Saltram, and Central park, Adi with his Amma Dadu

Life is still somewhat uncertain. M’s lost her job. I’m not having a great time at mine either.

Will we still be here in Plymouth a year from now? A few months back I was thinking this is probably our last summer here. We were both thinking that moving might be best. But now we are not so certain – after thinking long and hard about the pros and cons.

Maybe something will work out. There was some positive news on M’s side last week – but not confirmed yet. Let’s see.

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The rains have started again

From yesterday it has started raining again. The temperature is much cooler as well. As I lie on the bed I can hear the raindrops on the glass window.

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The Britanny Ferry at Plymouth Port

I don’t mind the shortening days.

Sometimes I go out for a walk in the evening. I like watching the soft yellow lights coming out of the windows. The little glimpses of people going about their lives. I float through the neighbourhood unobserved – like a benevolent god out to observe his people.

The wind is often stronger now. If you stop near the anchored boats, the clatter of the masts and all the other moving parts sound more urgent.  The other day, I was sitting near the water with my eyes closed after my little run and for some reason the clatter suddenly conjured up in my mind the picture of an elven factory with the workers urgently hammering away with their little golden hammers on some secret weapon.

The sound of the waves are a lot more subtle, especially in the part near my home, because the little bit of the sea there is, is blocked on almost all sides by the walls of the wharf. When the tide is high, the water going out and coming into holes asking the walls make a strange gurgling noise.

The noise also keeps disappearing based on the much attention you are paying to it. One moment it is there. The next moment you are lost in your thoughts and there are no boats and no sea and no screeching seagulls, nothing except the chatter chatter chatter inside your head.

August 15, 2025

A letter to my son 5 – Loving the unloved things

You are 3 years and 7 months now. Its still summer, but the days are getting shorter. Maybe this is the last warm spell of the year. Your Amma, Dadu has been here for almost six months now. Six months is a lot of time in the life of a three year old. They will leave in September. You spend so much time playing with them. You treat Amma almost like a sibling. You want to play with her all the time. But she is also the one you fight with the most.

Them being here has meant your Mom and me have had a bit more chance to go out without you. Its not like we don’t like going out with you. But sometimes you can be too much of a pain in the … 🙂 . “Not noooow” you would say. “I’m still playing” “I don’t like the new pram” (we have bought a new stroller for you as your old pram was getting a bit small, but you haven’t graced it with your presence yet. Other than toys – you hate new things – we had a hard time getting the two and something year old you to get to wear a pair of new shows when the old one had a hole in it. This time it was easier because we luckily managed to get the exact same looking pair (just a size bigger) like your last one.

The other day you were playing at home with Amma Dadu and your mom and I had gone for shopping to the local Aldi. Union Street probably had seen happier days but these days it looks a bit dodgy. Other than the Aldi and the Lidl, everything else there seems a bit run down. There is a shortcut from our house to the Aldi and if you go through that, you pass by one of these run down buildings. It looks like at one time it must have been something fairly majestic – maybe a theatre, or a hotel. But now its broken down. With boarded windows and crumbling walls and graffiti on the side.

I found this poem there, painted amidst the gloom, on an old red brick wall, flanked by broken windows, exposed electric cables and overgrowing ivy below – off the main road where most people walk on – somewhere few would pass by, and even fewer would notice.

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I hope when you grow up, you have the capacity to love the unloved and imperfect. Find beauty in the ugly and the flawed. Not shy away from the broken and the unfashionable.

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The poem also reminded my of the famous letter written by Abraham Lincoln to his son’s teacher. I think this is the most beautiful letter I have ever read. I had read it when I was in school. And it had stuck with me ever since. Sometimes

He will have to learn, I know, that all men are not just, all men are not true.

But teach him also that for every scoundrel there is a hero.
That for every selfish politician, there is a dedicated leader.
Teach him that for every enemy there is a friend.
Steer him away from envy, if you can.
Teach him the secret of quiet laughter.

Let him learn early that the bullies are the easiest to lick.
Teach him, if you can, the wonder of books.
But also give him quiet time to ponder the eternal mystery of birds in the sky,
bees in the sun, and the flowers on a green hillside.

In the school teach him it is far honorable to fail than to cheat.
Teach him to have faith in his own ideas even if everyone tells him they are wrong.
Teach him to be gentle with gentle people and tough with the tough.

Try to give my son the strength not to follow the crowd when everyone is getting on the band wagon.
Teach him to listen to all men.
But teach him also to filter all he hears on a screen of truth and take only the good that comes through.

Teach him if you can, how to laugh when he is sad.
Teach him there is no shame in tears.
Teach him to scoff at cynics and to beware of too much sweetness.
Teach him to sell his brawn and brain to the highest bidders but never to put a price-tag on his heart and soul.

Teach him to close his ears to a howling mob and to stand and fight if he thinks he’s right.
Treat him gently, but do not cuddle him because only the test of fire makes fine steel.

Let him have the courage to be impatient.
Let him have the patience to be brave.
Teach him always to have sublime faith in himself because then he will have sublime faith in mankind.

This is a big order, but see what you can do.
He is such a fine fellow, my son !

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We went to the fireworks festival yesterday. It was on the Hoe. Walking distance from our home. Luckily you had a nap after coming back from the nursery so you didn’t fall asleep before 9.30. You didn’t want to take your pram. I didn’t want to carry you all the way there. You promised you will walk. You were very excited all the way there. It was also after a long time you had actually gone out after dark so you were looking at wonder at all the things we normally don’t notice – the streetlamps, the car headlights, the dark sky. And describing them excitedly in your wonderful little voice. It was adorable.

The fireworks itself had somewhat of a mixed effect on you. You said “wow” a few times. But then you got scared. “Are they coming towards me”, “where are they falling”, “I don’t like it”, “too loud”. You then wanted to see the lights of the rides on the Hoe. It was full of people. Like half of Plymouth had turned out. You wanted to come back. Your mom and I took turns carrying you. Every time the fireworks went off with loud bangs you hid your face on our shoulders. I could feel your little nose and cheeks and your warm breath on my neck

September 27, 2024

One Autumn Morning Walk to Britain’s Oldest Bakery

Just after eight, a Friday morning. The rain has stopped. After drizzling pretty much the whole night.

The low sun, hesitantly peaking from behind the clouds, has turned the ordinary streets a magical gold.

Little pieces of gold float in a million tiny droplets on the car roofs and windscreens.

The new term has just started. A gaggle of children stand in a queue with their parents outside St. Andrews primary, some excited some anxious.

Someone in heels is walking in front. The clatter on the cobbled stones turn the corner and fade away. But the whiff of perfume she has left in the air enters my nose and creates a sudden longing.

Some of the cafes along Barbican are getting ready to open. Upturned tables and chairs still line the pavement.

A queue of people has already formed in front of the bakery. Led by two policewomen in uniform. Maybe grabbing a coffee and pastry before the morning beat.

It’s semi dark inside the glass windows. Breads appearing on the old wooden racks. The pastry counters still empty.

The oldest bakery in England. It supplied food to the pilgrims on Mayflower, and to Drake’s ship, going out to meet the Spanish Armada.

What would it have looked like in those days? Did the shop still have a glass window?

Did the pilgrims queue? Did Sir Francis Drake barge in, impatiently twirling his moustache?

Historical reverie gets broken. Someone (is it the bakers wife?) has come outside. We will be open in a minute. She says. Sorry for being late. The baker was unwell. He had migraine.

The door opens. The queue starts moving forward. Only sourdoughs so far, no pastries yet.

The bread is warm in the brown paper bag.

Walk back through the Hoe Park. There is a half cobbled – half grass road which goes along the border. Under a line of trees.

The lightest of breezes is floating away a few early autumn leaves. Lemon yellows, dark  oranges, golden browns.

A sudden realisation that another year has almost gone by. I’m growing old. One day I won’t be there any more.

It’s not a sad feeling. Just a feeling of being lucky somehow.

And a feeling of connection. To  the trees. To the squirrels and the seagulls. To the sky above and  the sea in the distance. To the fluttering flags and the silent red and white lighthouse. To random people passing by. To everything. To nothing in particular.

The branch of a tree lightly brushes against my temple. As if giving a friendly pat. As if saying I know what you feel my friend.

I feel grateful for the friendly touch…

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The waves and the reeds
Whisper gentle farewell -
To the setting autumn sun

June 18, 2024

And Again..

Do you remember this one, from November 2017. I had called it Leaving. Or this one, from August 2019. I called it Leaving Again.

I had said this in the 2017 post, “Leaving should be easy now. I have done it so many times in this life. I shouldn’t be putting down roots anywhere anymore. Just rolling along from one place to the next. A little trolley on wheels, pulled along where life takes me, pausing but never stopping, calling a place home but always knowing that this is just another pit stop on the way to somewhere I know not…But God hasn’t made me like a trolley. I do tend to get attached. Like a piece of scotch tape or a discarded chewing gum, I get stuck every time you put me down somewhere and then moving hurts. Not a lot, but just a little”.

And in the 2019 post, this is what I had said. “As I sit here with the door of my balcony slightly open, sudden gusts of wet wind bringing in a few drops of rain which are wetting my feet, I know I will miss this house, as I did the last one. And all the ones before...But when I reflect on my post from two years back, I seem to be a lot less sad now. Maybe I have just got used to moving. Or maybe as I grow older, I have got more used to the impermanence of things“.

So I am leaving again. Leaving this place in Plymouth where we lived for 5 years, through the initial excitement of living on the South West coast near the sea, through the peculiar time that was the pandemic, through my wife’s pregnancy and through brining the little one day old Adi home, and through the last two and half years as I have watched him grow up so fast, like everyone warned he would but I never quite believed.

Not going anywhere that far away. Just down the road. To a house we bought rather than rented. My wife is really emotional about it. This place has meant a lot to her. To be brutally honest, I am not feeling anything much. One reason is perhaps the anger inside me. Of life not having turned out the way I always dreamt of.

I never wanted to live this long in the UK. I have nothing against the country – its beautiful in many ways, and the people are more friendly (and definitely more polite) than any place I can think of. The weather sucks but you can’t have everything. Its just that my plan (and agreement with my better half) was that we will live here for a few years to support her career and then go back. But now she refuses to. And I feel like a tree cut off from my roots and transplanted somewhere I never wanted to be.

So no, most of the time I don’t feel any sadness about leaving this place. Or much excitement about going to a new place which I theoretically own and should be happier about. The anger subdues other emotions.

When the anger goes away, I do think of things I will miss. Probably most of all the gorgeous sunsets (cloud permitting) from the balcony. The tops of the buildings all around bathed in the orange glow which makes even the drabbest of buildings look beautiful.

Or being able to go the Plymouth Hoe whenever I want, like I decided to do today after dinner. There were not too many people about. I decided to take a few photos (looking a bit like a tourist who is here for the first time).

It was quite beautiful actually. It wasn’t a full moon but nearly there. So it looked as if a side of the full moon had melted away. A wonky moon – like the wonky onions you get at a slightly lower rates on the supermarket. There was a cloud just below it which looked like a kids drawing of a flying swan. Matched perfectly with the silver sea below and the little blinking and twinkling little lights from the distant buoys.

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I will miss the sunsets from our balcony
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..and miss being able to just go the Plymouth Hoe with it’s beautiful sea views and statues and war memorials and lighthouses (only one)

PS: Sometimes the little one surprises us with things we don’t expect from a two and half year old. Like when I told him that we will leave our old home and go to the new home. And never come back here again. He thought for a moment and then said, “old home sad..”

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May 17, 2024

Postcards from a Plymouth Summer

The still asleep river
Meets the early morning sea
A snake of mist melts away

I went for my twenty minutes morning walk. The sky was clear, except for what looked like a thick white mist over the Tamar valley. Where the river met the sea, so did the river mist. But it continued in a long white line, like a serpent made of smoke, slowly disappearing in the sea breeze.

Sunlight dances
Friday morning at park
On orange dino hat

Friday’s are my stay at home father day. If the weather is good we try to go to the park early. Before there are lots of kids. My son loves getting on the swing. The little kids swing, always the one on the right. He points to the twin swing on the left and says baby swing – as if he is on the big kids swing. Both are exactly the same, but he always insists on going to the one on the right. If there are others, we wait for our turn, even if the one of the left is free.

Yellow chu chu train
A thousand humans buzz
Happy summer sun

Little one and his mom are on the yellow chu chu train. There are three of them. Yellow, red and blue. Primary coloured. Little one always insists on going on the yellow. It’s his favourite. He always insists on going with his mom. She is his favourite.
I sit and wait on one of the wooden picnic tables nearby. The sun is warm on my back. I semi close my eyes and listen to the sounds.
The sea breeze forms a soft background noise. People talking. Laughing. Children playing in the park. Shouting. Running after the ball. Cars driving by. Everything blends together into a joyous summer afternoon drone, like something coming from a happy insect colony. Punctuated every now and then by the raucous cries of the ever present seagulls.

Red sky, yellow sky
Zippy has turned amber
Bedtime, little one

Zippy is a sleep timer we have got for the little one. It stays blue during the day. When its his bed time it turns amber. If the clouds aren’t there, the sky to the west has turned red and yellow by this time. Red sky! yellow sky! little one shouts. We say red sky yellow sky means…we pause..he says sun bedtime! Yeeees, sun bedtime, Adi bedtime we say. Sometimes he listens, sometimes he doesn’t.

May 23, 2022

The Best View in the World

The plaque on the bench says to my lovely man, who thought this was the best view in the world..

I sit down for a few minutes.

The sun is out today and the water looks bluer than ever. There are a few whispy white clouds about but otherwise the sky is as blue as the sea.

The grass is overgrown at places. The overenthusiastic park maintenance crew hasn’t yet mown everything down to a bland one inch carpet.

There are white and pink and yellow wild flowers in the grass. They are tiny. If they were clothes, they would be XS size.

The dandelions on the other hand are an M. They stand in patches of yellow swaying gently in the wind. With occasional white dandelion puff balls in their midst.

You can see the sea front road below from here. Cars parked facing the water. Many with the occupants still in them, enjoying the sun, watching the waves.

The ice cream van – Mr Whippys – parked in its usual spot near the cafe. A queue of excited children and dogs has formed in front.

There are a few sail boats out, triangular white sails glistening in the sun. Going lazily to nowhere in particular.

Seagulls are there as usual. And all season fixture of this place. At this time of the day they mostly seem to be out over the sea or flying around overhead, although a lone one walks about, looking here and there and ignoring the humans nearby. It has a confident air about it, like a king out to inspect his kingdom, or a lord taking a morning walk on his estate after a breakfast in the gardens.

Behind me, on the wide pedestrian area called the Hoe (which actually comes from an old English word meaning high ground) there are kids milling about, dogs big and small, teenagers skateboarding, the athletic types out for their runs and old couples walking hand in hand; all under the watchful eyes of the statues of Britannia, Sir Francis Drake and the Unknown Airman.

On my left, the old lighthouse, Smeaton’s tower stands overlooking the water. Painted in bright red and white and with the glass windows on top which you can reach if you are willing to climb ninety three steps and pay a small entry fee; it is perhaps Plymouth’s most famous landmark.

On my right, I can see Mount Edgecumb, the easternmost part of Cornwall, flanked by the Tamar estuary which separates Cornwall from Devon. The Britanny Ferries is harboured in its dock, white and blue chimneys towering over the nearby houses.

I can see why Sue’s lovely man thought this was the best view in the world…

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I must have said this before, but I really like this British practice of dedicating benches in public places to their departed loved ones – in parks, on a coastal walk somewhere, overlooking a field outside a village, on a windswept cliff by the sea.

When you sit on one of those benches and read the dedication and look at the view the person loved so much, you feel a kind of oneness with this stranger who you never knew and who is no longer in this world.

We Indians on the other hand, when we die, generally become framed photographs on the walls of the family home, keeping an eye on the going ons of the family; or in some cases sitting uncomfortably alongside the gods in the family altars. The dead belong to the family. There is no chance of any stranger ever wondering about you, or thinking what your life must have been like.

Unless you are a famous politician or something like that ofcourse, in which case you can aspire to have a road named after you or a statue or government schemes or official buildings or (if the local government is bone headed enough) even metro stations. This last one I find the most disturbing. Imagine your legacy becoming people at the ticket counter saying – give me two Netajis or how much for one Rabindranath etc.

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If I had a choice I would definitely prefer a bench.

Mine would be somewhere high in the Himalayas. Maybe just a niche carved into a rock where one or at most two people can sit; on a walking trail which is barely two feet wide; overlooking a deep gorge hundreds of feets below through which a river runs, foaming white and angry.

Sometimes the place will be enveloped in the clouds so that you will have difficulty seeing whats a few feet ahead of you. Sometimes, the rains will lash down like there is no tomorrow and the wind will feel like it wants to blow you off your feet and push you into the gorge. And sometimes, on a clear cloudless moonless windless night, it will be bathed in ethereal starlight, with the distant snow capped peeks glowing silver in the starlight and the milky way rising over them like a necklace of pearls displayed over a frame of jagged silver and at those moments you will be able to hear the mountain whisper it’s tales to you in the silence.

And when you, the traveller, sit on this rock after a hard days hike, take out your box of roti and red hot aloo sabzi, and have the long awaited sip from your flask of butter tea, you will spot, carved into the rocks, almost covered by moss but not quite, the words by Zen master Ryokan.

My legacy —
What will it be?
Flowers in spring,
The cuckoo in summer,
And the crimson maples
Of autumn…

..And you, the traveller, will maybe wonder about who this bench belongs to, before you move on on your journey..


May 17, 2020

Lockdown Haiku

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