Relevant ba talagang tawagin ang ating mga partner ng “kumander” “master,” or kung ano mang terminologies na makakapag boost sa kanila ng confidence? Relevant ba talaga iyon, ha? Alpha male ka pa rin ba kapag tinatawag mo siyang ganun? Nakasisiguro ka ba na napapanatili mo pa rin ang dominant attitude mo kahit topakin ang gf/asawa mo?
You know of all the experiences I had with my friends who have their girlfriends treated as their boss. I once read the posts of my male friends who are flexing their girlfriends/wives treated as “master,” “boss,” or what. At first, it was a joke or parang pangkatuwaan lamang na ito ang mga itinatawag sa kanila. However, when I read one of the books of Mr. Ardy Roberto, I realized that it is a serious problem for the boys, not only as a real man but as a man of God because we men should not be designed as “ander de saya.” We are supposed to be ourselves as men who are initiative but the problem is women become substitutes and they are the ones who are taking over men nowadays. Men are being led by women which is VERY UNHEALTHY. So, ano ang connection nito sa mga katawagan natin sa kanila? Well, if we will treat our partners as boss or masters, then we don’t know that our partner will boost her ego and making an attempt to beat our initiative skills. Paano? of course, by being “topakin.” Turn off talaga ako sa babaeng soy sauce ang iniinom, ayaw ko ng ganoon kasi topakin din ako eh I don’t want to fight fire with fire because if her fire is big, then my fire is bigger or if she has fire, then I have water to kill it! What else? by being demanding or what. For me, everything starts from words and thinking and eventually, it becomes an action.
In my experience of being member of a well-known community, I have witnessed all of the women who are also leaders. Yes, I would like to commend all women who are putting their best foot forward to become an empowered being and overcome their struggles. Kaso, ang problema, minsan, kapag nasobrahan sila ng compliments and empowerments, they will become so overconfident and dominant that even men will be afraid of them. You know, I recently read a post that men are being afraid of women’s intelligence and power. Nakalulungkot talaga iyon na nakakainis. Nakalulungkot kasi siyempre we men are supposed to be the leader tapos bigla na lamang tayong susuko just because of a woman na empowered na nga, medyo umaastang boss pa? Nakakainis dahil sa post na iyon, nagpapatunay lamang na lumalaki rin ang ulo ng mga babae (tanong ko lang sa inyo, ilang per square inch ba iyang ulo ninyo at ganiyan kayo magsalita/kumilos? Ilang ounces ba iyan? Ilang kilo?). Kaya ang nangyayari, dahil sa kanilang very strong personality, natatakot na tayong tapatan sila. Alam niyo kung bakit, because we men, sometimes compliment women A LOT.
Ngayon balik tayo sa couple life. Matanong ko nga kayo, bakit kayong mga ibang lalake ay tinatawag ninyo ang mga partner na kumander? Isinusuko niyo na ba ang leadership and initiative skills ninyo? Paano na kung may sariling pamilya kayo eh hindi ka na head of the family kundi ang asawa mo na? Natatakot ka ba sa pagiging topakin niya? Are you really smart enough to deal with your partner? Do you have a very nice wisdom to tame your monster partner? Hindi ba kayo nate-threatened kapag dinodominant kayo ng mga partner ninyo? TELL ME para matuto naman ako! I cordially admit that I am being led by my mom not because mahina ako kundi dahil siya na lamang ang nagpo-provide sa amin ng solutions sa aming pamilya and she is teaching me. I am also cordially admit that I am being led by some of the women in our community. Tapos, pati pa naman sa partner ko, having the threat of being led by my girlfriend? P…, hindi na ako papayag niyan sa pagkakataong ito.
You know what, if you really want to call your partners like that, make sure that you call yourself in a rank higher than her like she is a commander, you should be a commander-in-chief and not a cadet! Ano pa ba? uhm , kung ang tawag mo sa kaniya ay boss, dapat maging CEO ka sa puso niya (masyadong general word ang boss eh kaya sana maging specific). Kung ang tawag mo sa kaniya ay master, dapat ikaw ay grandmaster at hindi novice. Minsan tayong mga lalake ibinababa ninyo masyado ang sarili para lang hindi mapanghinaan ng loob ang babae kaya ayan ang nangyari, nahuhulog tayo sa patibong. tsk tsk tsk, nakaiirita’t nakahahawa iyon nang sobra. If you call your partners with such terms, eh ano na ang tawag sa sarili mo para sa kaniya, alalay?, alipin (parang kanta ng shamrock “ako’y alipin mo kahit hindi batid.” UGH REALLY SUCKS)? Isagad mo na, gawin mo nang ALIPING SAGIGILID ang iyong sarili para wala ka nang initiative skills and women will be motivated more to dominate men because they believe that we men are losing confidence abruptly.
Some men are losing the spirit of being an alpha male, they are now embracing the spirit of being an omega male (omega is the last greek alphabet so I replaced beta with omega para sagad to the bone marrows). why beta male if you will call yourself an omega male? And for those alpha males out there, please learn more on how to deal people with unusual personality nang sa gayon ay kaya ninyo nang makipagsabayan sa kanila. Nang sa gayon ay hindi kayo madaig ng ibang tao lalo na kapag babae kaharap ninyo, at nang sa gayon ay hindi kayo maisama sa omega male zone. It’s all about enhancing your confidence talaga saka facing the risks dahil doon talaga tayo matututo sa ayaw mo at sa mas ayaw mo.
Now, if you are going to ask me, for instance, kapag may partner akong topakin, I will just be silent. Or, kung kinakailangan, makikipagsabayan ako sa kaniya. Yes, of course, para malaman kung ano ba ang problema saka ano ba ang solusyon. Huwag naman sana tayong matakot sa pagbabanta ng mga partners natin kung wala tayong ginagawang mali (and of course, kung may nagawa kang mali, you really have to say sorry to your partner). Ngayon, there is a saying na mas mabuti pang matalo ka sa argumento kaysa mawala ang minamahal mo, I disagree with that kasi minsan, mas ma-pride pa ang mga babae kaysa sa atin kasi nga, katulad ng sinabi ko, we complimented and encouraged them A LOT that sometimes it leads them to be more prideful and taking advantage of our kindness. Yun yun. At saka paano nga kung talagang PABALANG sumagot yung partner mo? Of course you cannot stand a raging partner kahit hindi mo inaamin, right?
At ito pa ang mas masakit, ang mga babae, kapag nagkakamali sila, hindi nagso-sorry. I have already seen that sa mga episodes ni Raffy Tulfo, yung mga babaeng, sila na mga ang may kasalanan, ma-pride pa. Putang ina, WHAT AN IMMATURE MIND OF A DOUCHEBAG WOMAN! Tapos eto naman ang ibang mga lalaki, nagso-sorry sa babae kahit wala namang ginawang mali, PUTA! MGA TANGA-TANGANG LALAKE, MGA OMEGA MALE NGA TALAGA KAYO. Clap, clap, clap for that. An applause from yours truly to some men for ashaming of themselves. HUWAG NA HUWAG kayong magso-sorry sa mga partner ninyo kapag hindi niyo naman kasalanan, sobrang katangahan na iyon.
Kung kinakailangan talaga, you really have to fight fire with fire. Never give up in being an initiative man. It is a reality that women prefer men who are confident enough to deal with scarcities in their personality. Ganun talaga, women are more immature than us and they really need learnings from us kasi kapag nagmukha na tayong omega male sa kanila, sila na ang mag-li-lead sa atin. Gusto niyo ba iyon? At saka, hindi naman ibig sabihin na kapag maging dominanteng lalake ka, mananakit ka ng partner mo physically, huwag ganun. Kahit verbally (maliban na lang kung talagang palasagot masyado ang partner mo eh, kailangan mo na talaga siyang sabayan). What I mean is you have to show to your partner that you lead her and hindi siya. Gusto niya, IKAW ang mag-lead ng relationship niyo and she will add everything. Inuulit ko, kung gusto mong tawaging kumander ang partner mo, siguraduhin mong commander in chief ka sa buhay niya at tigilan mo na ang pakikinig ng awiting Alipin ng Shamrock at maging aliping sagigilid.
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