Monday, September 27, 2010

Amara Ruth Arrives

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We are excited to announce the arrival of our first daughter, Amara Ruth Bolin, born on September 27th at 10:45am local time.  Amara weighed 6 lbs 14 ounces (or 3.120 kg).

The name Amara is a name with many origins.  We know people in our city named Amara, although when you search baby name web sites, the origins are traced to many languages & cultures...

Indian (Sanskrit): Immortal
Greek: Unfading, Eternal
Latin: Everlasting
African: Paradise
German: Eternal, Steadfast

One of the reasons that we like the name Amara is that it is so cross-cultural, easily spoken & understood by people from many nations, languages, and cultures.

Ruth, meaning companion or friend in Hebrew, is in honor of both of our mothers, as both of their middle names are Ruth.  Dan's great-grandmother's name was also Ruth, and an amazing woman of her day!  We also love the story of Ruth in the Bible, a woman who left her own home & culture behind for a new land out of love & devotion to her mother-in-law.

As Amara was born in a land that is foreign to her parents, our prayer is that she grow into a girl & a woman who comes to deeply love the many beautiful cultures and people that God has created on earth.

Hasankeyf

We've been wanting to head to our next stop since we arrived in Turkey... Hasankeyf.  It's scheduled to disappear under water with the building of a new dam on the adjacent Tigris River.  So we wanted to make sure to get there before we'd have to go scuba diving to reach it!

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As you can see there are many houses and rooms carved into the rock walls.  

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We climbed to the top for an overhead view.  

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The old was and new bridge is the only way to cross the Tigris River for over 100km. 

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A view back across the river... can you see the houses on the top of the rock cliff?

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Mardin

Our next stop was Mardin, although we didn't get to spend as much time here as we would have liked... there is a lot to see in this old town.  Hopefully we'll get to go back someday!  

Mardin is located at the crossroads of the old caravan routes, built high on a hill overlooking the plain below.  As dusk settles and lights go on, it's beautiful to overlook the city which has now grown beyond the original hill. 

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 The streets are narrow & quaint... and not a lot of fun to drive (Dan will tell you that!).  But they feel very authentically middle eastern/arabic, as Mardin has a significant Arab speaking/influencing population. 

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We stayed in an old caravan hotel, which as been refurbished.  It was a lot of fun!  

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I wish I had a better picture of Mardin from further away, as it truly is a 'City on a Hill' and stunning with it's homes.  But hopefully the picture below can give you a small idea! 

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We found Ronald McDonald while walking around... unfortunately he wasn't promoting McDonalds but a local breakfast restaurant.  Maybe next time we find him, he'll be outside a McDonalds!

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Diyarbakir

In mid-June we had some friends visit us and we took off with them for a tour around SE Turkey.  We visited a few different cities, saw a lot of history, made some great memories, and met a lot of great people who live in this country!  

Our first stop was Diyarbakir.

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 One of Diyarbakir's distinguishing features is it's enormous city wall.  The walls are formed out of black basalt and cover 3.4 miles around the old city of Diyarbakir and hold 72 towers.  There are inscriptions that give evidence of the Byzantine, Arabic, and Turkish building phases of these walls. 
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 The walls over-look the Tigris riverbank... a beautiful and fertile valley.
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 We did climb to the top of the walls and walk around a bit, although I was very careful, since I was pregnant (as you'll see in future pictures). 
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Another highlight is the Syriac Orthodox Church of Virgin Mary.  
You can read more about it in the photo below.

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The Grand Mosque (Ulucami) of Diyarbakir is also impressive, being of the oldest mosques in service Turkey.  Originally it was the Church of St Thomas which was converted to a mosque in 639 and then rebuilt again in 1115.  

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 Through the door above are the bathrooms/wash rooms.  They are modernized but still feel very much like they would have many years ago.  Mosques usually have very clean bathrooms because before each of the 5 prayers of the day people need to do their washing to purify themselves before prayer. 
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 Above, another more public area for washing before prayers.

Below, a classic example of men sitting around outside of a mosque drinking tea. 
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Sunday, September 26, 2010

Eating the Local Fish

We have a famous local lake - Lake Van.  It's big and only can support one type of fish, because of it's very alkaline & sodium carbonate properties.  Locally people eat the fish, the Pearl Mullet, although outside (and even inside) of Van, it's not considered a delicacy.  We had some friends visit us and they were willing to take a chance and try it with Dan (he's eaten it a couple times with local friends).  

The first step is to head down our street to the fish seller man with your over tray to buy the fish from him.  Then you walk across the street to the bakery/large over and they HEAVILY salt it and stick it in the oven.  Awhile later you head back to get your fish.

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Then you eat it by picking out the bones, avoiding the head & skin.  Needless to say there's not a lot of fish left after taking all that out.  I, Lynn, did not participate in this event, since I don't really even like normal plain fish sticks!  It's eaten with bread with lemon squeezed over it. 

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Saturday, September 25, 2010

A Typical Maternity Appointment

Since our little girl still hasn't arrived I thought I'd share a little bit about our hospital and the medical care we're receiving here.  First of all we're very thankful that we can have our little girl right here in Van.  Only a few years ago, usually foreigners traveled to Istanbul or Ankara or back to the States to have their babies.  Now that we have sufficient health care here, we can stay home.  And especially now that she's deciding to show up a bit late, that's a blessing!  We probably would have already been away from home for a month or more now if we would have had to travel somewhere else to wait for her arrival.  

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Our hospital is Medical Park.  You can click on the link for their English website & pictures of the Van hospital. (They didn't ask for our help with the English, so it might be a little choppy, but we're probably one of the only English speaking patients they have anyway, and we know Turkish).  

On the topic of language, our appointments and interactions at the hospital are usually in Turkish.  A lot of the doctors do know English (there are two doctor 'tracks' in the universities here - English or Turkish), but don't have the opportunity to practice speaking it very often so they're usually more comfortable in Turkish.  In fact we are usually too, since it seems potentially less gets lost in translation - we understand Turkish (especially Dan) better than the doctors can speak English.  
This is what an appointment usually consists of...

- We arrive and check-in with the special administrator, not the normal check-in way, since we're foreigners and usually confuse the normal check-in girls since we don't have some of the necessary numbers that other Turkish citizens have (like a social security type identity number).  We used to think we should have an appointment but have since realized that we don't really need one, so we just show up - usually in the morning (about 9am) since it's the least busy at that time.  They don't really see patients before 9am.  

- We head upstairs to the doctor's office and start by going across the hall to a nurse who takes my weight and blood pressure.  

- Then we wait outside the doctor's office in the hallway (lined with chairs) with the other patients & their husbands or moms or sisters.  Seemingly we usually get called in for our appointment fairly quickly, we're not sure if we get special treatment because we're foreigners or if we just don't fully understand the system.  When you think about the huge waiting rooms  in the States with magazines and toys, it almost makes us laugh that we wait in the hallway... but really it's a better use of overall space and people here don't feel like they need to have a whole chair between them and the stranger sitting next to them in the waiting room (I mean really have you EVER been to the doctors office and waiting room was full??? except the ER).  Usually the women are all sitting in the chairs and the men are standing.  

- Eventually we get called in to the doctors office.  The first room has the doctor's desk with a computer and a few chairs.  Her administrative assistant is also there to help enter data into the computer as well as other tasks.  Often there are multiple women in this room and you talk with the doctor in their presence (making patient privacy something of little value).  You find out the other women's problems, what they need to be doing, hear the doctor scolding them for this or that, not a lot of privacy - but really what are you going to do with that information anyway?  Then I hand the doctor my weight & blood pressure readings for her to look at.  Early on in my pregnancy I got scolded almost every time for not gaining enough weight, although little girl has always been doing fine and growing like she should.  

- Next the doctor sends me back to the examination room - and I can call Dan into the office at this point to come with me into the examination room (men aren't usually in the first office).  Here I get an ultrasound - at every appointment.  This is also where we have conversations about what I should be doing, what to expect, I can ask questions I might have, etc - all during the ultrasound.  Typically women here don't ask questions or have opinions about what should or should not be done since they usually don't have or seek out the loads of information we have in the States.  So we're sure we ask more questions than the typical patient.  

- Early on in the pregnancy at this point I was done with my appointment but in the last couple months, we've added doing a Non-Stress Test at ever appointment as well.  So after my ultrasound I head back across the hall to the weight and blood pressure nurse and she hooks me up to the non-stress test machine.  Dan gets to come back with me to this room which is nice.  After she hooks me up I lay there for around 10-15 minutes while the machine tests Baby Girl's heart rate and movements.  Then she hands me the result page and I bring it over the doctor to show her and then I get to bring the paper home.  

During a Non-Stress Test a Few Weeks Ago

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- During the course of the pregnancy we also had a deep ultrasound twice (which shows deeper problems), blood tests (twice), and the gestational diabetes test - all standard procedures, not because there were potential problems. 

- Finally we head back downstairs to the administrators office to pay our bill, probably have a cup of tea and chat with him and others in his office, and finally head on home. 

We're headed to the doctor again this morning for another ultrasound and non-stress test, but we hope this will be our last and little girl will show herself soon!

Friday, September 24, 2010

The Finished Nursery

I know we've posted pictures of the nursery before, but these are the truly finished pictures of the nursery.  As I mentioned, Kate helped us a lot with the finishing touches, and we LOVE our room, and hope our little girl does as well!  

We'll start off with a picture of the amazing lady who helped this nursery come into being!  She pretty much sewed all of the fabric things in the nursery (I'll highlight them as we go) ... she's so talented and I'm so thankful that we're friends, as this nursery wouldn't be half as great without her!  

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This is a good overview picture of the nursery, now on to some of the more specific corners/areas.
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The photo board below actually has more pictures on it now, but was thought of, designed, and made by Kate!  We had a piece of foam that didn't really have a purpose and now it does as both decoration as well as sound absorption.   The chair is a POANG chair from Ikea, it's not a rocker but bounces some.  My seamstress friend sewed the Bobby Pillow you see (from a picture), the pillows & pillow cases, and the curtains!
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 Here is our changing table area.  We already had the dresser but weren't really using it in our room so we moved it over to her room.  I had found the picture frame at a local store and place pictures of our parent's wedding days and Dan & my wedding day.  In this picture my friend sewed the cover fro the changing pad - just by looking at the old version and the black liners in the basket! 
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 Here are the finished sound absorption/decoration panels.  They turned out great!  My friend sewed the black "ribbons" holding the panels as well as the sheets for the crib (as well as mattress cover, which you can't see, and the crib skirt (which you can barely see).  On the bottom panel to the left of the maroon flower we're planning to put her name... letters are cut out but we'll wait until her arrive to glue them to the panel.  :)  I'm so happy with how these panels turned out!  Thanks to Kate & Dan for all their help! 
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 Here are some pictures of Kate & I working on them. 
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 Overall I would say that the nursery might be the favorite room of our house now.  Probably because we've spent WAY more time thinking through and putting together and buying things for it than any other room. It also just has a comfy warm feel to it.  We can't wait for our little girl to come and spend time in it! 

Still Waiting...

Well, we're still waiting on Baby Girl Bolin to arrive. We're thankful that our doctor is willing to wait with us, as we want her to come on her own timing, especially since we don't have the option of pain medications, and often with inducing labor comes more painfully intense contractions then normal labor (which although I don't know yet, is obviously painful as well!)

Since we've been "prepared" for over a month now for her arrival (they say you're suppose to be "ready" at 37 weeks), we are now VERY prepared for her arrival. Really the only thing still left on my list of things to do before she comes is update the blog with our summer happenings and write some reviews on travel websites about the places that we've traveled.

So assuming she decides to continue to wait, you'll actually get the chance to see some of what we did this summer. I'll probably write a few different posts about our different trips/experiences from the summer but post them to the blog every couple days, spread out a bit. So we'll probably get some summer blog posts mixed in with baby posts... after a long hiatus from the blog, here come the posts!

We'll start with the past couple weeks. As I mentioned before my best friend Kate came to see us and was hoping to be here to see Little Girl born and help us out at home when she arrived. Unfortunately Kate had to leave on Wednesday of this week and didn't see Baby Bolin outside the womb.

BUT, we still had a GREAT time and she was such a BIG BLESSING! We would not be as prepared if Kate hadn't come. She helped me deep clean my entire house (and deep cleaning means wiping off the walls from last years coal dust, washing curtains, washing windows, cleaning out cupboards, vacuuming our couches, and much more!). She cooked us lots of yummy meals (some Spanish ones since she's living there with her husband right now) and we froze some of them so we don't have to cook when little girl arrives.

We created sound absorption/decorative panels for the nursery - so our neighbors hopefully won't be able to hear little girl cry too much. We did A LOT of walking each day around town to different local sights as well as little errands, just to get out and about. We visited our local friends either during the holiday that happened while she was here, as well as just visiting them during other times. She baby-sat for our friend's kids so we could all go out for an almost kid-free meal (my friend Rachael had to bring her 2 mo old). I got the baby book started. She gave me foot massages (hoping to induce labor) and painted my toe nails. We talked, played games, laughed, and had a great two weeks together! I'm so thankful that she came... and sad that she had to go, but such is life, and we'll see her again :)

ImageEating 'durum' - grilled shaved meat wrapped in a flat bread with veggies inside (kinda like a gyro)
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ImageVisiting the local island that has on old Armenian church on it. The shirt I'm wearing says in Turkish "Baby Escape Hatch". Obviously I got it here, and was pretty excited about it since usually their shirts have English, not Turkish on them.
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Thursday, September 16, 2010

Recent & Not-So-Recent Happenings

Well today is Little Baby Girl Bolin's due date... but we're still just waiting. My best friend Kate is here visiting, which is wonderful! She recently did a post about her time here... so I'll just let her do the sharing, as I'm way behind in posting and unfortunately you might just never know all of the fun and exciting things we did this summer because soon they're probably be trumped by baby pictures & stories! Click here for Kate's post

Here is a recent belly photo... I'm about ready to pop - pray she makes her entrance soon & in His perfect timing!

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If you're interested in a few things we did this summer here are some posts from our friend's blogs:

B is for Baby - Baby Shower

4th of July Celebration

Sights of our City

Lunch on a Boat

A Trip to the Island

Dan & Asher's Tricks

Friday, September 3, 2010

Why I'm glad I'm giving birth in Turkey

As I reflected this morning on my upcoming labor & delivery here in Turkey, I realized I was so thankful that God has placed me here for this time. I've been meditating on a verse or set of verses most mornings for the past couple weeks, to prepare myself emotionally & spiritually for the upcoming challenges and changes in life. We've also been doing birthing preparation reading with exercises & gaining knowledge about labor & delivery - preparing mentally & physically.

But what really struck me this morning, was how I'm not sure if I would be as desperate & realize how much I need to trust God in my labor & delivery if I was in the States. In the States (at least as far as I can tell from reading books & talking with friends), you have a birth plan with every detail of how YOU want it (not how the doctor thinks it should go), your doctor spends time answering ALL of your questions (even if they're silly & petty), you can communicate clearly in your own language with anyone, you know your husband (and any other loved ones) can be with you, and you feel like you're the princess (although in much pain) as you get pampered before, during, and after labor & delivery.

But all for all of these comforts and things that make us feel so secure, they're not worthy of our trust... they can fail. We can know all the "right" positions, have done all of the "right" preparation, we can know & understand every contingency for complications during labor & delivery, we can have a birth plan that we expect to be followed, but in the end those things don't matter.

Because...
  • it's God who opens the cervix
  • it's God who knows the timing of contractions & when a baby will be born
  • it's God who is in control of the position of the baby
  • it's God who is in control who else is giving birth at the same time as you (recently my sister-in-law had to wait for a room at a hospital in the States b/c there were so many women giving birth that night!)
  • it's God who is in control of keeping the baby safe
  • it's God who is the ultimate birth partner & coach
  • it's God who is in control of which nurse, mid-wife, or doctor might be on duty when you go into labor
Ultimately, no matter where we are, God is the one in control. If I was giving birth in the States, I know I would know this theoretically, but I'm not sure I would really "know" it like I do know, here, living in this place.

Don't get me wrong, we're confident in our doctor, our hospital, and the skills we've learned for our upcoming labor & delivery, but ultimately I have a clear understanding that all of those things can and could fail... and that everything that I WANT in a labor & delivery might not happen.

The only thing that won't fail is God watching over us & giving us peace that no matter what happens He's in control, and in that end that's all that really does matter.

Please pray with us and for us Isaiah 26:3-4...

"You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You. Trust in the Lord forever, for in Yah, the Lord, is everlasting strength."

Pray that we would continue to be at peace before, after, and during our labor & delivery because we TRUST in Him, the one who is worthy of our trust!

ImageAnother way that we're prepared... our little girl's nursery is ready for her arrival!