A step-by-step system so you know exactly how to reduce sibling conflict — without being the referee, one less fight at a time
You love your kids. You just don't love what happens between them.
You didn’t sign up to spend your days breaking up arguments, negotiating over who looked at who wrong, or lying awake wondering if the way your kids treat each other is normal or going to follow them forever.
But here you are…
And nothing you've tried seems to actually change anything.
Your home feels chaotic and you wonder if you’re failing as a parent
You're constantly breaking up fights and you genuinely don't know what to say or do to make it better
You thought: "they'll grow out of it", but honestly the stress of fights and wondering if it will change is getting to be too much
Half the time you end up threatening or yelling, and then feel so much guilt about it afterwards
You’re overwhelmed by their behaviour towards each other and you just want some peace
Does any of this sound familiar?
Like you, I am raising multiple kids and here's the truth (and it's actually good news)
What’s keeping you stuck isn’t your kids
It's that no one gave you a clear system.
Say goodbye to the Referee Mindset. It's the reason nothing is changing
Here’s what most parents are unknowingly doing every single day:
Playing referee.
It looks like stepping in to decide who started it. It sounds like “stop hitting,” “be nice,” “just leave him alone.” It feels like putting out fires all day long, and being completely exhausted by dinner.
You’re doing it because it feels like the only way.
But here’s the problem…
Refereeing keeps you in the middle of every fight — and it never actually teaches your kids anything.
When you're in Referee Mode, you:
Spend hours of your day managing conflict instead of enjoying your family
Unknowingly make things worse because you’re reacting without a plan
Keep repeating “stop fighting,” “be kind,” “work it out” — words that go in one ear and out the other
Stay permanently stuck as the family peacekeeper, when what you actually want is for your kids to start handling things themselves
You've been doing the best you can
And you're only one system away from changing it
And if that's you
It makes total sense that you’re trying those things. When you hear screaming from the other room, your brain goes straight into emergency mode. You react. You intervene. You try to fix it fast.
The trouble is: parents need to intervene in a helpful way. Kids don’t grow out of conflict. They grow into it. Patterns form, fights repeat, and resentment builds…
The Referee Mindset isn’t a character flaw. It’s just what happens when you’ve never been given anything else to work with.
Until now.
Here's what happens when you start thinking and acting like a COACH, not a referee...
Instead of reacting to every fight in emergency mode
➤ You go in with a clear plan
Instead of dreading family time together because you can’t handle the bickering
➤ You set yourself up for success by preventing problems before they start
Instead of worrying about their future relationship
➤ Start seeing their bond increase day by day
Instead of feeling like you’re failing them
➤ You feel calm and in control, even when things get heated
Instead of the fighting feeling like it’s too much and you react with anger or threats
➤ You see the fight as practice, and you have the tools to coach them through it
Your kids aren’t fighting or misbehaving because they’re bad kids (or you’re a bad parent)
They’re fighting because they’re missing valuable skills.
That’s why no amount of sticker charts, threats, consequences, separating them, or rewarding good behaviour makes a change.
Think about it! Conflict resolution is a skill, just like anything else we teach them. You wouldn't just throw your kids in a swimming pool and say "don't drown!" But when it comes to getting along, usually all we tell them is "stop fighting"
There’s only one way sibling conflict actually improves over time: parents stop refereeing fights and start coaching conflict skills
And it’s not about saying the perfect thing or telling them over and over (cause we’ve all done that)
You don't need more tips or scripts. You need a system.
We have more information at our fingertips than ever before. You’ve probably saved more than a few articles, watched a few reels, maybe even tried a few easy scripts.
But it doesn’t actually change their behaviour.
Tips tell you what to do in a single moment. A system tells you exactly what to do at every stage: Before, During and After the fights — so you're never caught off guard again. And you can actually reduce the conflict
That’s why I created the 5 Step Referee to Coach System inside Sibling Solutions.
Meet your 5 Step system for finally reducing sibling fights and knowing exactly what to do
Understanding
You can't fix a problem if you don't know what's causing it. Get to the root of sibling conflict
Preventing
Why deal with problems if you can prevent them?
Responding
Stop reacting. Start responding. Put coaching tools in your toolbox.
Draining
Remove what doesn’t work to make room for what does
Building
Hope is not a plan. Stop hoping your kids will get along and create a plan.
What parents like you have said
Sibling Solutions isn't just more information
It's a step by step system that puts you in the role that changes everything for your family
5 Complete Video Modules: The full 5-Step Referee to Coach System — so you can finally stop reacting and start coaching, one fight at a time.
Word-for-Word Scripts, Videos & Guides For every sibling scenario from tattling and name-calling all the way to hitting and physical aggression. Never wonder what to say or do again.
4 Live Group Implementation Coaching Calls with Colleen: Get real-time support and direct coaching for your unique family to implement everything you’ve learned.
Step-by-Step Intervention Frameworks: Know exactly how and when to step in during arguments, disagreements, and moments of aggression — every single time.
Beautiful Printable PDF Guides: One for every module. Print them, use them, stick them up. Immediate implementation without rewatching a single video.
Downloadable Audio for Every Lesson: Listen while you walk the dog, stir the mac and cheese, or sit in the school pickup line. Built for real, busy parent life.
Let me show you
what’s waiting for you once you become a member inside…
Designed to
Understanding
Module 1:
Decode the Drama: Why they're fighting and what to do first
You can’t fix a problem if you don’t know what’s causing it.
Before you can change what’s happening in your home, you need to understand why it keeps happening and discover it’s true root cause.
In this module, you’ll stop seeing misbehaviour and start seeing patterns; and that shift alone will change how you respond.
You finally understand why your kids keep fighting the same fights, and it changes everything about how you respond
Stop reacting to misbehaviour and start seeing the pattern underneath it
Know exactly which conflict dynamic is playing out in your home — and what to do about it
Lesson breakdown:
The Coach Mindset – The mindset shifts that changes how your kids behave—without saying a word
The Roots of Rivalry: The 6 hidden drivers behind sibling fights—and why they keep repeating
The Conflict Decoder: 6 conflict patterns that explain every sibling fight so you’re not guessing
Designed to
Preventing
Module 2:
Prevention Playbook: Essential tools to stay calm, prevent fights and eliminate overwhelm
Why deal with problems if you can prevent them?
The best conflict strategy is to set yourself up for success before the fights even happen.
This module gives you the tools to get ahead of the chaos — and stay calm when you can’t.
Your home feels calmer because you preventing fights, not just reacting to them
You have game changing prevention tools you can start using immediately – and at any age and stage
You learn to stay regulated, even when your kids aren’t – and it changes the whole dynamic.
You end the guilt and overwhelm of feeling like you can’t give each child what they need
Lesson breakdown:
The Behaviour First Aid Kit: Using the power of connection to calm behaviour (before it spirals)
The Game Changers: Your 5 Go-to Prevention Tools that stop fights before they even start
The Calm in the Chaos Kit: Your guide to staying calm when your kids aren’t
The Overwhelm Reset: Avoiding burnout when it feels like too much
Designed to
Responding
Module 3:
The Ultimate Game Plan: What to say and do in the heat of the moment
Most parents are just reacting to fights. Start responding with a clear action plan.
This is the module parents come back to again and again. Walk away with a repeatable 3 step action plan, powerful coaching tools to change behaviour and exactly how to stop being the referee.
Confidence in the heat of the moment, so you stop freezing and start leading
Finally stop refereeing every fight and start coaching skills
You know exactly what to say and do in the moment, and it actually shifts behaviour long term
Lesson breakdown:
The Conflict Clarity Map – Know exactly when to step in—and when to stay out
Referee Remover: Give yourself a raise and get out of the role you don’t want
The Conflict Circle: The repeatable step by step plan for the heat of the moment
The Sibling Coach Method: Your coaching toolbox with specific scripts and phrases that change behaviour in real time
Designed to
Draining
Module 4:
The Clean Slate: Remove patterns that fuel rivalry and conflict
Remove what doesn’t work to make room for what does.
Some of what you’re doing right now is quietly fuelling the conflict, and it’s not your fault, because it’s what most parents do.
This module helps you let go of what isn’t working and replace it with language and limits that actually teach.
You stop doing the things that were quietly making conflict worse, without even knowing it
Consequences and threats stop being your default, and something that actually works takes their place
Your words de-escalate instead of pour fuel on the fire
Lesson breakdown:
The Consequence Trap: Why consequences make sibling fights worse (and what works instead)
What to say Instead: The exact phrases that calm fights instead of escalating them
Designed to
Building
Module 5:
Build the Dream Team: Raising kids who get along and solve their own conflicts
Hope is not a plan. Stop hoping your kids will get along and create a plan.
This is where the real magic happens. You’ll learn how to rebuild trust and connection between your kids, naturally, without forcing it. Discover the power of play and how to use it to your advantage.
And finally, set your kids up to solve their own conflicts without you in the middle.
You create the relationship between your kids you’ve always wanted, so they genuinely want to spend time together
Play becomes your super power so that your kids see the best in each other
Gift your kids communication and conflict skills they will use for a lifetime
Lesson breakdown:
The Team builder Blueprint: Simple strategies to rebuild connection (so your kids actually like each other)
Sibling Playbook: Use the power of play to bond siblings, without forcing it
Sibling Team Huddles: Simple steps to help kids to stop, repair and resolve conflict – without you in the middle
Designed to
PLUS +
The Situation Room: Your go-to guides for every situation they throw at you
No more guessing. Take what you’ve learned and apply it to any situation and conflict your kids have.
Videos, printable guides so you’re never left wondering “what about this…”
Aggression
If your kids are hitting, kicking, biting or anything else that is painful, this lesson is for you! Follow the C.R.I.E.S Framework for why your kids are aggressive and the 3 step plan to deal with it. This powerhouse lesson will truly help you know how to respond to aggression.
Sharing
Tired of being the police for who gets to play with a toy, who is snatching a toy, and who is crying about a toy? Learn 4 new sharing rules to make it a whole lot easier.
Tattling
I love tattling! Ok, you probably don’t and that’s fair. Let me show you what to do and say about tattling and make it your friend too.
Fairness
“It’s not fair!”, “She got more than me!” This lesson gives you exactly how to respond and reduce fairness issues.
Competition
Racing up the stairs, and to the car, and every time they possibly can. Getting mad and annoyed when they lose. It’s never ending. What to say and do when kids are constantly competing.
Name calling/Teasing
When kids are just saying mean things to each other, it can feel like they’re just trying to pick a fight. Surprising ways to deal with name calling and teasing in this lesson!
Roughhousing
Kids love to roughhouse and then suddenly, someone is crying! Every time! They can’t seem to keep their hands off each other and yet, it always ends badly. Set them up for success in this lesson.
Bugging/Provoking
Do you have a kid (or 2) that seems to love to get their sibling riled up? Figure out why they’re doing that and what you can do.
Babies
Having a new baby, or have one under 1? Learn how to prepare, what to say, how to reduce jealousy and create more time to get stuff done!
By the end of these steps...
- You'll have completely transformed the way you think and act as a parent. You'll feel confident because you know exactly what is causing the conflict and how to respond
Enroll before Monday, May 4, 2026 at 11:59pm EST
Investment Options
$997
Get started for $110 or save when you pay in full!
Essentials
All the must-haves!-
All video modules
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4 Live Sessions
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PDF printables
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Download Audio files to listen on the go
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Lifetime access
VIP
Limited to 10 spots-
ALL features +
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1:1 Private Coaching (Two 1 hour sessions)
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Private communication directly with Colleen
1:1 coaching sessions can be booked on your schedule
Payment options available
Plus, invest in your family today and get…
The Sibling Solution Bonus Stack
Bonus #1
Coach in your pocket APP
Your on-the-go reference app (so you know exactly what to do in real-life conflict)
A separate website resource you can simply click a button and exactly what to do: Before, During and After is explained to you.
Find over 30 of the most common scenarios.
This takes the information you learned and makes sure you remember it in the heat of the moment when your brain goes blank!
Valued at $99
Bonus #2
The Co-Parent Same-Page Toolkit
“What if my partner isn’t on board? Or, what if they are but I need help talking about this…“
I hear this from parents all the time who just want to stop arguing with their spouse about “how to handle the kids”.
Scripts and strategies for getting on the same page as your partner, even if they’re not fully on board yet. Includes: what to do when you’re all-in and they’re not, and how to start the conversation without it turning into an argument, and cheat sheets for the non-course spouse to have at a glance.
Valued at $24
Bonus #3
The Skeptical Survival Guide
You are on a journey to learn a whole new way to parent your kids. You might get some pushback!
You know that feeling when someone judges your parenting? Arm yourself!
Get exactly what to say when grandparents, in-laws, or well-meaning friends or even strangers question your parenting approach — without second-guessing yourself or feeling attacked
Valued at $19
Bonus #4
The Neurodiverse Superpower Guide
Designed for families where one or more child is wired differently. Help your kids understand each other’s strengths and seek their super power!
A second section just for you so you can stop feeling guilty when you can’t seem to give everyone what they need.
Valued at $24
Bonus #5
Sibling S.O.S. Fridge Guides
The entire course broken down into simple, easy to read S.O.S. guides.
At-a-glance laminated-style reminder guides for when your brain goes blank in the middle of a fight. Print them, stick them up, and stop second-guessing yourself in the moment
Valued at $17
AI Bonus
Colleen Chat Bot
Let’s use AI to our advantage! If you aren’t sure what to do, just ask my bot.
The chat bot will search through all the videos, PDF guides and training sessions and tell you exactly what to do, and where to find that info in the course!
It’s like having me in your back pocket!
Priceless
Plus, enrol before 11:59 pm EST on April 29/2026 and get
FAST action Bonus
The Script Vault
Never wonder what to say again.
Your complete go-to phrase guide for every sibling situation — tattling, name-calling, hitting, sharing and everything in between.
Valued at $17
You could actually transform your family
And it's all within your power
Imagine if...
Your kids CAN get along, and YOU have the power to help them do it.
But honestly, it won’t happen on it’s own. Hope is not a plan. Kids don’t grow out of fighting, they grow into patterns that become harder to break.
It’s not too late. Don’t let 6 months go past and still be dealing with the same issues that you’re facing today.
The same fights, the same stress, the same worries.
The perfect time to start is now.
Meet your
Coach
When my kids were little, we had so many sibling fights, hitting, yelling and everyone screaming at once. It was SO hard.
I have been where you are and as a certified positive parent educator, I have worked with many parents who tell me their home felt chaotic and stressful.
Sibling Solutions is the information and strategies that I wish someone had handed me the moment I had my 2nd child. Now I want to hand it to you.
I created this program because I know that parenting is the hardest job in the world. AND I also know how much easier it can feel when you have the right tools.
Let's Recap!
What you get when you invest
A breakdown of everything included in Sibling Solutions
Sibling Solutions Video lessons
The 5 Step Referee to Coach System: 5 Modules walking you through the exact steps to handle sibling conflict like never before. With examples, action plans and aha moments
$997 value
The Situation Room Videos
Videos, PDF guides and lessons for everything your kids will throw at you. Tattling, Sharing, Aggression, Rough housing, Being mean....and more!
$229 value
Live Implementation Sessions
4 Live calls where you can quickly implement what you're learning. Ask questions, get feedback and support for your unique family.
$225 value
PDF Support Guides and downloadable audio
Designed for the busy parent, so you can listen on the go and learn through reading beautiful printouts
$45 value
Coach in your pocket APP
This invaluable resource is yours forever on your phone. Just click a button and get the answers you need in the heat of the moment
$99 value
Co-Parent Same-page Toolkit
Scripts and strategies for you—and an easy starting point for your partner (even if they’re not on board)
$24 value
The Skeptical Survival Guide
What to Say When Others question Your Parenting (without doubting yourself). In-laws, other parents and even strangers will question you. Be ready!
$19 value
The Neurodiverse Superpower Guide
Help your kids understand each other’s strengths and superpowers! And you can let go of the guilt of everyone needing different things.
$24 value
Sibling S.O.S. Fridge Guides
At a glance reminders for when your brain goes blank (Stop second guessing in the moment). Print them, stick them and refer back when you need it
$17 value
Colleen Chat Bot
Don't know what to do or where to find something in the course material? Just ask the bot! You will be directed to exactly the time and place in the course that you can get your answer.
Priceless
Lifetime Access
Once you purchae the course, all of the videos, audio, PDF guides and bonus offers are yours forever. AND, any future course updates are yours too!
Priceless
Fast Action only: The Script Vault
Your go-to phrases for handling any sibling situation (from tattling to aggression). Know exactly what to say in any given moment. Available ONLY until APRIL 29, 2026 at 11:59pm EST
$17 value
That's over $1600 in value!
If you're still wondering if this program is worth the investment...
The fact that you’ve read this far on this page means something important: you’re ready for a change. You feel it.
Is future you – 6 months or 6 years from now going to be more stressed about the cost of the investment, or about the feeling in your home?
When you weigh the cost of the program against what it will do for your family, I hope it’s an easy choice
I’m committed to making Sibling Solutions as accessible to parents as possible – you can get started for as low as $110 (the same as one single 1:1 coaching session)
Investment Options
You're backed by a risk-free
14 day money back guarantee
After 14 days in Sibling Solutions you will have access to all of the video trainings, bonus lessons and 1 Live session. I am confident you will be blown away by the value.
I want this to be a No brainer for you!
But if after 14 days you don’t feel confident that this course is the answer to your sibling problems, simply reach out and we will refund your investment.
*There is one disclaimer though: you have to show me you watched at least Module 1 and 2. Listen…nothing will work if you don’t do some work. A lot of people think buying a program means change (and they never even log in). Change takes action.
But I know what you might be thinking
That sounds great, but...
I don't have time for a program
Coaching sounds time consuming
I have tried coaching them before
This isn't going to work for my kids
Registration closes in...
Here from my students yourself!
You've got questions,
I've got answers!
As soon as you click on the purchase link and choose your payment option, you will be prompted to set up your password in the student portal. The student HUB (through Membersip.io) is a beautiful place! The videos are organized wth a PDF guide for each lesson and easily downloadable audio files. You can even search by keyword to find exactly what you’re looking for.
The principles in this course are suited for every age. Throughout the program I show you how to adapt the lessons for multiple ages, and even non verbal kids. If you are interested in the VIP option with personal coaching, I specialize in kids under 12.
You get lifetime access to the course materials! As soon as you join, I will encourage you to take immediate action, because I believe the time is NOW! The live sessions take place over 4 weeks and you can easily go through the material in that time.
They vary from 10 minutes to 30 minutes, depending on the material. I have had many parents tell me “they are the perfect length”
These live sessions are your opportunity to get hot seat coaching on the spot. The zoom calls are recorded if you can’t attend. I will give a short recap of your primary focus for the week and then open it up to questions.
You get two 1-hour private coaching session with the VIP package. I will give you my booking link and you can book the sessions according to your availability.
The 4 Live sessions are there for you!! As well, the VIP option is great if you know you want some individual attention and coaching – as well as a private What’s app chat with me. Private coaching is invaluable to really figure out how this fits for your family.
Yes! Make sure you check out the section explaining the lessons in detail. The aggression lesson is one of the best in the course. It will give you an understanding of what is causing the hitting and actionable and easy to understand steps to get your sweet child to learn new skills!
I truly believe that these parenting lessons are even more important and even more beneficial for neurdivergent kids. These are the kids who don’t conform to the traditional parenting methods and they are the ones who push us to change! This program gives you essential tools and skills that WILL create change for your unique kids.
Colleen is a positive parenting coach and that is always the lens in which she creates content. The course discusses how to accomplish change in your home without punishments, consequences or control. You simply have to have an open mind about how parenting can be effective without those things.
YES! I am more than happy when couples want to do the program together. Instead of sharing an account, just send me an email with their details and I’ll give them their own log in
Investment Options
So now that you know what's out there for you, you have 2 choices:
Try alone
You can keep carrying this burden by yourself. Trying to figure out why your kids are acting this way and reacting in the moment. You'll wake up in 3 months and still be overwhelmed.
Get help
Let someone who has been there, who created a system that works, help you. There is nothing braver than asking for help. Wake up tomorrow with a clear action plan you can follow in any moment.
Cold hard truth time: The dynamics in your home flow from you.
When you confidently step in, with a plan, the energy you give off is contagious.
Let’s use the power that you already have to make amazing changes.
Most parents think:
Kids just fight and there isn’t much you can do.
➤ Yes, siblings fight! The goal isn’t to stop the fights. The goal is to reduce the frequency and give them skills to manage themselves.
It’s their personalities and temperments causing the fights
➤ Sure, that’s a factor. But it’s a small one. And why focus on what you can’t control? Let’s focus on the 90% of other causes that you CAN control.
They have to be calm perfect parents all the time to make a change
➤ This is not about perfection, it’s about intention. And once you understand the root causes and full system, you can make amazing changes
A final note from ...
Colleen
My kids and I were at the playground one day. My two kids were happily playing together as they always do. Another mom said to me “Oh, you’re so lucky your kids get along so well, mine are always fighting”
It made me think 2 things; 1) That’s so sad that her kids are always fighting and 2) It’s not luck lady.
It’s not luck that my kids get along. They are not special unicorn siblings who just agree all day. I worked HARD to figure out how to deal with fights and create kids who love to be together. In fact, I believe what I did instinctually is what will be the secret sauce for you too.
As I became a positive parent coach and started Heartstring Parent Coaching, I talked to more and more parents who struggled with sibling fights. And I realized more and more the pain it causes the whole family.
I created Sibling Solutions to give you:
➤ Easy to follow Step by Step Instructions and support
➤ A sense of relief that there is something you can do.
➤ A home filled with more joy and less stress.
➤ Confidence to parent in a way that feels good.
➤ The ability to actually enjoy family outings and weekends at home together.
It’s possible. Let’s do this!
If you keep doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you're getting
Investment Options
$997
Get started for $110 or save when you pay in full!
Essentials
All the must-haves!-
All video modules
-
4 Live Sessions
-
PDF printables
-
Download Audio files to listen on the go
-
Lifetime access
VIP
Limited to 10 spots-
ALL features +
-
1:1 Private Coaching (Two 1 hour sessions)
-
Private communication directly with Colleen
1:1 coaching sessions can be booked on your schedule
