Iris Vyla

Today I wanted to talk about codependency , one of the core elements of my debut novel. While explaining it to a friend, I realized I could actually write a long post about it, because having experienced it firsthand, I feel a bit more aware of it. Codependency refers to a situation that emerges in the dynamics of a relationship between two people, where one party is excessively emotionally, psychologically, or even physically dependent on the other. This kind of bond typically creates an imbalance, with one person constantly in the role of the giver and the other consistently in the role of the taker . In codependent relationships, the giver places the other person's happiness, satisfaction, or needs far above their own. This can lead the person to disregard their own boundaries and even lose their sense of identity. A codependent character might give up their own dreams just to make their partner happy. It sounds sweet at first, but if we look closer, it’s easy to see how someon...

So this is my first post... Years ago, I had a blog where I reviewed the books I read; now, as an author, writing something feels so foreign to me. Perhaps I should act formal and cold, yet I feel as though I have so much to say about these kinds of things. When I finally decided to publish my book, I felt a huge sense of relief. Because for years, it was as if I had given up. I had given up on my relationships, my dreams, everything. I was just living for the sake of staying alive. It felt like whatever I touched, I ruined. Like I couldn't succeed at anything or please anyone. My adolescence was spent with these kinds of thoughts. Better not to start at all than to be disappointed. If I’m not going to be the best at it in the end, why even bother spending time on it? These were the things running through my mind. If I wasn't going to be perfect at it, what was the point of doing it? There could be many sources for this obsession, I won't get into the psychological facts. B...