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Current issue about Christian BGR book

Read at your own risk.

To Christians who are "in" or "not yet" or "had ex" relationship...

Recently, this book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" (and also "Boy Meet Girl") was so popular among the groups of people mentioned above that it started to become "The Bible of Relationships".

Let me get straight to the point. Those books are good & Joshua Harris does have a very good point (& it's biblical too). His advices are practical. Those are good books & I do support the reading of it too. I am NOT against the book, don't get me wrong. I'm supporting the book.

The problem is not with the book. But the attitude of people reading the book. Correct me if I'm wrong, this is based on my observation & experiences talking with those who had read them. To those who are not yet in a relationship, the books are like "Revelation" to them . To those who are in a relationship, the books are like "Gospel" to them. To those who had break ups, the books are like "Old Testament" to them.

There are MANY OTHER Christian books written by godly authors about relationships, yet it seems like this is the MUST READ or "The Bible of Relationships". Everywhere everyone (the group of people) talks about it. I don't understand since when Joshua Harris become the prophet of relationships & his writing is venerated like "holy scroll". Whenever there's conversation about BGR (boy-girl relationship), when asking "what YOU think/experienced/know about this or that...." there's high probability of answering "the BOOK says..." or "HE (author) said....". Where is their own opinion & understanding about BGR? Why is the "meditation" of his writing there? Everyone's BGR is special, unique case, different from others. His principle may be universal, but there is no "one-fit-all" book. Please read other books as well. & know what is written in the Bible also.

Although the book is good, don't meditate it like a Bible. Don't idolize Joshua Harris. He is not God. His word is not The Word. He is just a servant of God. Don't make him into an object of sin (idol). I wonder how many actually understand his forewords? His advices & ideas are good, but everyone's situation is different. His intenion is to lay down the godly foundation of biblical BGR, not pointing a gun at every's neck to follow him word by word. His intention is to raise awareness about the rightful BGR before God with his writings, not to saturate people's mind with his writings akin to meditation or "holy words". Don't make his godly writing into sin. Don't read his book more than the Bible when you are intersted to learn more about relationship. His books are NOT the sole truth or "handbooks" or "dummies guide" of BGR. The Holy Bible is the one.

Joshua Harris is telling people to have BGR the God's way, NOT Joshua Harris way. Please have your own mind & thinking in your specific unique relationships. Blend it into his book (AND other Christian BGR books), & remember the Bible! Please understand his intention & hope before jumping straight into the contents. 

BTW, it's a good book. By all means, read & study it.

for those who know me well enough, for me to write this kind of thing..........

Rape & Possession

Both is a form of invasion to the victim.
Both happen without the consent of the victim.
Both may result in injury of the victim.

Both leaves traumatic experience to the victim.

Both temporary steals the rightful & legal owner's privilege over the victim.

Both can be "cured" when they embrace love.

Both can be avoided if precautions are made & awareness is there.
Both will have higher chance of happening if people play around with the "criminal" or indirectly "inviting/enticing" them.

Body when given rightfully = marriage

Spirit when given rightfully = worship

Body when taken by force = rape

Spirit when taken by force = possession

Body when not given rightfully & not taken by force = adultery

Spirit when not given rightfully & not taken by force = spiritual adultery

That's where the term "spiritual adultery" comes from.

My dear

I'd been searching for someone like you for quite sometime.
I knew about your existence for quite some time already.
But I never get the chance to go for you previously.
Now the door is open for me to get into you.
Recently you got my attention & focus.
But I do not really know much about you actually.
All I know is what I seen in you for some period of time.
Early exposure of you has no impact on me.
Until recently when I start to deal with you personally over time.
Situation had changed, now I know more & more about you.
Times of searching ended up finding you near me.
I know you are the one I wanted.
I need to learn more about you.
But I have problem to focus now on you.
I do not know why.
Maybe feeling insecure that I may not be able to do it.
But I know I must do it for I had made a commitment in my heart for you.
Because I'm already into you now.

To....
my dearest PhD project.

I'm too bored & can't focus so I write this piece of crap haha

^^

Just some random update..
Off to Thai for Christmas & New Year

I miss you, Malaysia