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            <title><![CDATA[5 Silent Traps That Are Killing Loan Officers’ Dreams (And How I Escaped Them)]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Mon, 15 Sep 2025 15:35:07 GMT</pubDate>
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            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>From a mortgage vet who’s missed school plays, burned out, and almost quit the business I love.</em></p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*BMnTHCmwVRjtTNYulNyujA.jpeg" /></figure><p>I’ve been in this business long enough to see it break people.</p><p>I’ve pulled all-nighters gathering conditions on approved loans — yes, approved loans. I’ve missed my kids’ games, school plays, and family dinners because I was too busy fighting fires to put the laptop down. I’ve gone through a divorce in the middle of the grind. And I’ve seen incredible loan officers walk away from this industry — not because they weren’t good at what they do, but because they were caught in traps no one warned them about.</p><p>If you’re a top producer with dreams of running your own branch<strong>, <em>you need to hear this</em></strong>. These traps are sneaky. They look like progress. They feel like “just part of the job.” But they’ll eat away at your time, your family life, and your ability to scale.</p><p>Let’s talk about them.</p><p><strong>1. The Hustle Hamster Wheel</strong></p><p>When I first started, I wore “hustle” like a badge of honor. I was proud of being the first one in and the last one out. I closed plenty of loans, but I was chained to my laptop. Nights, weekends, holidays — it didn’t matter. If a file needed something, I was on it.</p><p>Sound familiar?</p><p>Here’s the truth: that hustle mentality will keep you stuck forever. You can’t scale when every deal relies on you grinding yourself to dust. That’s not building a business — it’s building a job you can’t quit.</p><p><strong>What I learned:</strong> You have to invest in systems and support early, even if it feels scary. Hire before you think you can afford it. Partner with a company that has real infrastructure so you can focus on relationships, not file-stacking. That’s what finally got me off the hamster wheel.</p><p><strong>2. The Comfort Zone Casket</strong></p><p>There was a season in my career where I got “comfortable.” I was making good money, closing my usual number of loans, and feeling pretty secure. But comfort is sneaky — it feels safe, but it quietly kills your growth.</p><p>Years passed, and I realized I hadn’t leveled up. I was stuck at the same production, the same income, the same stress. That’s when it hit me: comfort had become a coffin.</p><p><strong>What I learned:</strong> Growth requires discomfort. It means reinvesting in marketing, trying new things, and stepping into leadership even before you feel ready. If you’re comfortable, you’re probably coasting.</p><p><strong>3. The Shiny Object Spiral</strong></p><p>I’m going to be honest — I’ve been a “subscribe-a-holic.”</p><p>“It’s only $30 a month,” I’d say, signing up for another tool. Then another. And another… Oh and a coaching program or two. Before I knew it, I was buried under subscriptions, marketing fees, credit report charges, CRM fees, and the company taking a huge percent of my commission for corporate allocation fees or LOS costs. I was closing 7–8 loans a month <strong><em>just to break even</em></strong>.</p><p>That’s not growth. That’s survival.</p><p><strong>What I learned:</strong> Audit every expense. Stop letting “just $30 a month” stack up until it strangles you. And find a company that doesn’t nickel-and-dime you for every tool and service<strong>.</strong></p><p><strong><em>You can’t scale if your overhead is eating you alive.</em></strong></p><p><strong>4. The Broker’s Low-Rate Mirage</strong></p><p>I’ve worked in environments where “low rates” were the big selling point. But here’s the problem: those low rates come at a high cost and with zero real support. I was doing everything — every email, every marketing piece, every bit of recruiting — on my own.</p><p>Low rates don’t matter if you’re working yourself to death to deliver them.</p><p><strong>What I learned:</strong> Look at the whole picture. Rates are important, but they aren’t everything. Support, technology, coaching, and leadership opportunities matter more in the long run.</p><p><strong>5. The Recruiter Blind Spot</strong></p><p>For years, I thought “recruiting” was someone else’s job. I focused on my book of business and waited for someone else to hand me a branch. That’s not how leadership works.</p><p>If you want to be a branch manager, you need to recruit talent, build relationships, and create a brand that attracts people. Leaders recruit. Period.</p><p><strong>What I learned:</strong> Start branding yourself now. Share your wins, invest in relationships, and become a magnet for talent before you even get the title.</p><p><strong>Wrapping It Up: There’s a Better Way</strong></p><p>I’ve lived these traps. I’ve burned out, overspent, and missed moments I can’t get back. But I’ve also found a way to scale without sacrificing everything.</p><p>That’s why I’m passionate about what we’re building at <strong>Southwest Funding</strong>. We’re cutting out unnecessary fees, giving real backend support, and creating a path for loan officers to become true branch leaders — without living on the hamster wheel.</p><p>This isn’t a sales pitch. It’s an invitation to talk about what your future could look like if you avoided the traps I fell into.</p><p>Let’s start a conversation. No pressure — just someone who understands what you’re going through.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=9ec25bb063a6" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[10 Sheets Deep: The Mortgage Prison You Didn’t Sign Up For]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Fri, 06 Jun 2025 19:25:40 GMT</pubDate>
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            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*wfZU00DLM8TiwhkLWrTA8g.png" /></figure><p>Let’s start with something weird.</p><p>I was at a baby shower the other day for an amazing mom-to-be in our compliance department, and found out it takes exactly <strong>10 squares of toilet paper</strong> to wrap around the waist of a 9-month pregnant woman.</p><p>Ten flimsy little sheets. That’s it.</p><p>Why am I telling you this?</p><p>Because sometimes, it only takes 10 little things — 10 overlooked decisions, 10 missed signs, 10 tiny compromises — <strong>to trap you in a life you never meant to build.</strong></p><p>And if you’re a mortgage loan officer right now, there’s a good chance you’re wrapped up in something just as tight.</p><p>Only it’s not cute or funny — it’s suffocating.</p><h3>You’re a Loan Officer, Not a Prisoner</h3><p>Every week I talk to LOs who are burnt out, underpaid, unsupported, and silently drowning under the weight of their own potential.</p><p>And what I keep hearing is the same version of this story:</p><ul><li>“I’ve been here for years.”</li><li>“My manager says we will have support soon.”</li><li>“We’re working on new tech.”</li><li>“I can’t risk starting over right now.”</li></ul><p>You know what that sounds like?</p><p><strong>A prisoner justifying the size of their cell.</strong></p><p>If you’re waking up numb, chasing loan scraps, juggling all the ops solo and and praying for a miracle to save your month…</p><p>You’re not running a business.<br><strong>You’re doing time in a system that stopped serving you years ago.</strong></p><h3>The Cost of Staying: It’s Not Just Money.</h3><p>Forget the industry BS. Let’s talk about what staying stuck <em>really</em> costs you.</p><p>You may be in Danger. Staying in a bad system can cost you everything.</p><h3>💔 Your Marriage</h3><p>You think your spouse doesn’t notice the edge in your voice?<br> The thousand-yard stare at dinner?<br> The fact that you’re constantly “just checking something real quick”?</p><p>Business stress eats relationships from the inside out. And this business, done wrong, will bleed your family dry before you see it coming.</p><h3>🧸 Your Kids</h3><p>That football game you missed?<br>That cake-cutting you caught only the crumbs of because a file went nuclear at 4:45 PM?</p><p>They remember…and they don’t care about your pipeline.</p><h3>🔥 Your Inner Peace</h3><p>You call it loyalty. Let’s call it what it really is: slow rot.</p><p>Loyalty is something you give, not something that’s squeezed out of your burnout. If you’re still feeding a company that offers you no lifeline, your allegiance isn’t noble — it’s self-destructive.</p><p>The hustle-harder gospel? It’s a scam. Grinding in a busted system just leaves you bruised, calloused, and empty-handed.</p><h3>You Don’t Need To Hustle More — You Need Better Conditions</h3><p>Here’s what no one tells you when you first get into the loan origination game:</p><blockquote>When you stop finding loans, you stop getting paid. Period.</blockquote><blockquote>There’s no pension. No base salary. No safety net.</blockquote><p>If your company’s marketing is trash, your CRM sucks, your processors ghost you on closing day, and you’re working 70-hour weeks to prop up a broken model —</p><p>You’re not “in a rough patch.”</p><p>You’re <strong>in danger.</strong></p><p>Your clients don’t care why the deal went sideways.<br>They care that it did.<br>And they won’t refer you again.</p><p>You’re the one prospecting. You’re the one doing damage control with agents. You’re the one holding scared first-time buyers together with duct tape and screenshots.</p><p>And when the smoke clears, who wins?</p><p>Definitely not the LO stuck in a 65/35 split with no leads and a processor who disappears every Friday at 2 PM.</p><h3>Your Success Can’t Be Handcuffed</h3><p>The top LOs aren’t lucky or gifted.<br>They’re just the ones who said, “Enough.”</p><p>I work side-by-side with the CEO of a major mortgage company — someone who actually carried a heavy pipeline himself, not just sat in a corner office pushing paperwork. He’s obsessed with systems, scripting, follow-through, and hitting the damn closing date.</p><p>Because he knows: <strong>You can’t scale chaos.</strong><br>And you can’t build a brand on excuses or apologies.</p><p>Too many LOs are building their careers on bad bones — <br>Broken ops. Garbage tech. No strategy. No support.</p><p>And it’s not just hurting your business.<br><strong>It’s hurting your name.</strong></p><h3>What the Best LOs Know That Most Never Figure Out</h3><p>The best LOs?<br> They’re not superheroes.</p><p>They just got honest.</p><p>They stopped saying “maybe next quarter” and started saying:</p><ul><li>“This isn’t working.”</li><li>“I want more.”</li><li>“I’m willing to do something about it.”</li></ul><p>They built systems that save time.</p><p>Aligned with leaders who’ve actually closed loans.<br>Invested in marketing that sparks conversations.<br>Tracked their numbers. Took control.<br><strong>And they took massive, uncomfortable action.</strong></p><p>They didn’t just <em>learn</em>.<br>They <em>moved</em>. Loudly. Publicly. Imperfectly.</p><h3>The Toilet Paper Trap</h3><p>Let’s circle back.</p><p>Those 10 little toilet paper squares?<br>They aren’t chains.</p><p>They are soft. Harmless. Innocent.<br>But lined up just right?<br>They can <strong>wrap around someone powerful</strong>. Someone growing. Someone on the edge of something life-changing.</p><p>That’s you.</p><p>You’re not wrapped in steel bars.<br>You’re wrapped in routine, comfort, and in quiet little lies that say:</p><ul><li>“Stay loyal.”</li><li>“Don’t rock the boat.”</li><li>“Next month will be better.”</li><li>“This is just how it is.”</li></ul><p>But 10 small things trapped you:</p><ul><li>Tolerating bad tech</li><li>Saying yes to chaos</li><li>Avoiding discomfort</li><li>Accepting mediocrity</li><li>Ghosting your brand</li><li>Blaming the market</li><li>Selling your instincts</li><li>Waiting for someone else’s leads</li><li>Playing small</li><li>Staying safe</li></ul><p>And 10 bold moves can free you:</p><ul><li>Say no more</li><li>Demand better armor, not scraps</li><li>Fire dead weight</li><li>Get visible</li><li>Build your personal brand</li><li>Track your numbers</li><li>Speak up</li><li>Learn fast, act faster</li><li>Set boundaries</li><li>Bet on yourself</li></ul><p>You’re not trapped in mortgage prison. You’re just comfortable.</p><p>And comfort, my friend, is wasting time with the future you deserve.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=9037877292c5" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[3 Questions That Determine 99% of Your Pipeline Stability]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Fri, 30 May 2025 18:11:12 GMT</pubDate>
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            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*gMYWYuHuyF8NRvqjU6sX3Q.jpeg" /></figure><p><em>If your months still feel like a f</em>**ing rollercoaster, read this twice.*</p><p>Let’s get one thing straight: most loan officers are not failing because of rates, inventory, or the market. That’s the lie we tell ourselves so we can sleep at night.</p><p>They’re failing because they have no real system, no real pipeline strategy, and no clue where the hell their next deal is coming from.</p><p>And trust me, I’ve been there. Broke. Burned out. “Busy” but somehow still underpaid. High one month, crushed the next. Living off <strong>hype</strong> <strong>and hope</strong> like a junkie.</p><p>So let me save you years of pain. These <strong>three questions</strong> changed my business. I answer them <em>weekly</em>. I coach others with them. And if you’re honest with yourself when you answer them, they’ll change everything for you too.</p><p>Let’s get into it.</p><h3>Question 1: Where Is Your Business Actually Coming From? (Not Where You Think)</h3><p>Every struggling LO I’ve ever met has a fantasy about where their business comes from.</p><blockquote><em>“It’s mostly referrals…”<br> “I get a lot of repeat clients…”<br> “My social media is pretty strong…”</em></blockquote><p>Cool. Prove it. Show me the numbers. Show me what worked this quarter. Show me what you spent time on vs. what made money.</p><p><strong>Because here’s the truth:</strong><br> You don’t have a business — you have a bucket with holes in it. You pour your time, energy, and emotions into “working,” but you’re leaking opportunity because you’re not tracking what feeds you.</p><h3>💀 Low performers:</h3><ul><li>Can’t tell you where their last 10 deals came from.</li><li>Spend 3 hours making Canva flyers and 3 minutes following up with leads.</li><li>Say “networking” and “being visible” is their strategy. That’s code for “winging it.”</li></ul><h3>⚡ High performers:</h3><ul><li>Know their top 3 referral sources by name.</li><li>Track pull-through rates like their commission depends on it (spoiler: it does).</li><li>Review the data monthly and cut what doesn’t convert.</li></ul><h3>💣 Do This Now:</h3><ul><li>Open a Google Sheet. One column for the source, one for the lead name, one for the status.</li><li>Write down every deal or lead from the past 90 days.</li><li>Highlight which ones funded, which ghosted, and which are still cooking.</li></ul><p>Now stare at it. That’s your reality. If you’re relying on dead leads, flaky agents, or Zillow tire-kickers — you’ve got your answer. And you’ve got work to do.</p><h3>Question 2: What Keeps Your Pipeline Moving When You Don’t Feel Like Working?</h3><p>Let’s be real: you’re not always “on.” No one is.</p><p>There are days when you’re dealing with a pissed-off underwriter, a divorcing borrower, a locked-up file, and your kid’s blowing up your phone about football or cheer practice. You’re fried. And guess what?</p><p>Your leads don’t care.<br> Your pre-approved buyers don’t care.<br> The realtor with three LOs breathing down their neck doesn’t care.</p><p>If <em>you</em> are the only engine moving your business forward, then when you stall — so does your pipeline. Welcome to the rollercoaster, my friend.</p><h3>😵‍💫 Low performers:</h3><ul><li>Have zero automation. Everything’s manual, emotional, or forgotten.</li><li>Follow up when they feel like it. AKA, never.</li><li>“Mean to” call old leads back but let them rot in a CRM graveyard.</li></ul><h3>🚀 High performers:</h3><ul><li>Have drip campaigns firing off even when they’re on a beach, asleep, or in the ER.</li><li>Use workflows that remind, prompt, and push deals forward <em>without</em> relying on willpower.</li><li>Have scripts ready, systems humming, and VA support when life hits the fan.</li></ul><h3>💥 Build Your Machine:</h3><ul><li>Set up a <strong>post-close 12-month nurture sequence</strong> — calls, emails, value drops, birthday texts.</li><li>Get a CRM that actually works <em>for</em> you. Plug in automations, assign tasks, and hold it sacred.</li><li>Hire a $7/hr virtual assistant to handle tasks you’ve been avoiding for 7 weeks.</li></ul><p>If your pipeline dies every time life punches you in the face — you don’t have a business. You have a time bomb.</p><h3>Question 3: Who’s Feeding You — And Are They Worth Starving For?</h3><p>Let’s talk about your referral partners.</p><p>Some of y’all are in <strong>toxic relationships with agents who don’t even like you</strong>. You send them weekly updates, co-brand flyers, buy them coffee… and in return, they send their deals to the guy they met at Top Golf.</p><p>Brutal truth: <strong>not all business is good business.</strong></p><p>You can’t build a stable pipeline with unstable people. Especially the ones who:</p><ul><li>Close 1–2 deals a quarter (when the moon is right).</li><li>Ghost you after you pull credit.</li><li>“Forget” who helped them when the next deal rolls around.</li></ul><h3>👎 Low performers:</h3><ul><li>Cling to unloyal agents out of fear and comfort.</li><li>Confuse access with production.</li><li>Get abused for free advice, prequels, and rate quotes — with no actual deals.</li></ul><h3>💪 High performers:</h3><ul><li>Audit their partner list quarterly. Fire weak links.</li><li>Build relationships with real producers — and bring <em>value</em> worth protecting.</li><li>Focus on <strong>depth over width.</strong> They’d rather have 5 beasts than 20 duds.</li></ul><h3>👊 Want Stability? Do This:</h3><ul><li>Look up every agent you work with on MLS. See how many sides they’ve closed in the last 6 months. Be honest.</li><li>Prioritize agents with momentum, ambition, and hunger — not just tenure.</li><li>Have a real conversation: “Here’s what I do for my partners. If I go all in on you, can I count on your loyalty?”</li></ul><p>If the answer’s “well… I send to a few people,” then cool. Send that energy somewhere else.</p><h3>🧠 Final Words: If You Don’t Take Control, You’ll Keep Getting Thrown Around</h3><p>The up-and-down months? The “good year” followed by a ghost town? The burnout? That’s not the industry. That’s you — still playing checkers while the big dogs are playing chess.</p><p>Want real pipeline stability?</p><p>✅ Know exactly where your business comes from<br>✅ Build a machine that follows up relentlessly<br>✅ Surround yourself with hungry, loyal, producing partners</p><p>No more guesswork. No more excuses.<br> This is the blueprint.<br> Now execute.</p><p>And if your company isn’t giving you the tools, tech, or training to make this happen?</p><p>You’re not just stuck.<br><strong>You’re choosing to stay stuck.</strong></p><p>🔥 <strong>Let’s build something real.</strong></p><p>If you’re a high-producing LO sick of carrying dead weight — and ready to plug into a system that grows with you, not against you — let’s talk.</p><p>📧 ppitts@southwestfunding.com</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=35b2f2cbde4c" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Loan Officers]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Mon, 19 May 2025 13:52:30 GMT</pubDate>
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            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*jZobnCotzl6aNZe51-Ncog.jpeg" /></figure><p><em>Because Average Isn’t Paying the Bills. Trust Me.</em></p><p>I’ve been in this game almost 20 years — and honestly? My last few years were average at best.</p><p>Not because I lost the drive. But because I needed to <em>rebuild it differently</em>.</p><p>I stepped back. Sharpened the saw. I got obsessed with the stuff most LOs ignore — marketing, automation, client experience, brand-building. I studied some of the top people in this industry up close and finally understood:</p><p><strong>Success isn’t about grinding harder — it’s about operating smarter.</strong></p><p>Let’s be real — this industry doesn’t reward people who coast. It rewards the intentional, the strategic, and the relentless. You don’t need 100 new tricks. You need a few key habits executed with discipline and swagger.</p><p>After re-reading <em>The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People</em> by Stephen Covey, I started thinking: how do these principles apply to loan officers in the trenches?</p><p>This list is what I’m living by now. Not theory — execution.</p><p>I’m done coasting. Maybe you are too.</p><p>Let’s get into it:</p><h3>1. 🧠 Be Proactive (Not Reactive)</h3><p>Waiting for leads to fall in your lap? Cute. Top LOs <em>create</em> momentum. They text realtors first. They follow up before the client ghosts. They own their pipeline and make moves daily — even when no one’s watching.</p><blockquote><strong><em>Tactical move:</em></strong><em> Time-block specific time each day for “offense” — calls, texts, videos, DMs. No Distractions. No Excuses. Hunt. Don’t wait.</em></blockquote><h3>2. 🎯 Begin with the End in Mind</h3><p>What’s your close goal this month? How many apps do you need? If you don’t know your numbers, you’re just winging it. High performers reverse-engineer success — they don’t “hope” into it.</p><blockquote><strong><em>Pro move:</em></strong><em> Work backwards from your income goal. Break it down into daily actions. Then </em><strong>attack </strong><em>like rent is due….because it is.</em></blockquote><h3>3. ⏳ Put First Things First</h3><p>Busy ≠ productive. Being busy is a trap. Stop checking email like it’s a slot machine. Do the income-producing tasks <em>first</em> — not after you “get everything organized.”</p><p>Checking emails, updating Canva, “prepping” all day? Nope. That’s hiding.</p><blockquote><strong><em>Focus on:</em></strong><em><br> ✅ Calls<br> ✅ Pre-approvals<br> ✅ Follow-ups<br> ✅ Relationship-building</em></blockquote><p>Everything else? Triage it.</p><h3>4. 🤝 Think Win-Win</h3><p><strong><em>Realtors don’t owe you referrals.</em></strong> You earn them by solving problems, being reliable AF, and showing up with value. Help them win more listings, close faster, and stress less — and you’ll stay top-of-mind.</p><blockquote><strong><em>Game-changer:</em></strong><em> Create a “mini VIP experience” for their buyers. Overdeliver and make them look like rockstars.</em></blockquote><h3>5. 👂 Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood</h3><p>Stop pitching. Start listening. Ask better questions. Find the emotion behind the numbers. When people <em>feel</em> heard, they trust you more — and we work with people we know, like and trust.</p><p>Your client isn’t a credit score or a loan number — they’re a human navigating one of the biggest moves of their lives. Be the expert advisor they need and show them how to use a home to grow wealth.</p><blockquote><em>⚠️ Stephen Covey nailed it: </em><strong><em>“Don’t be efficient with people. Be effective.”</em></strong></blockquote><blockquote><em>You’re not optimizing a spreadsheet — you’re earning trust. Listening is a skillset. Empathy is a power move.</em></blockquote><blockquote><strong><em>Power lines:</em></strong></blockquote><blockquote><em>“What’s most important to you about this move?”</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>“When do you see yourself moving into this home?”</em></blockquote><blockquote><strong><em>Speed can win the race, but connection wins the career.</em></strong></blockquote><h3>6. 🚀 Synergize</h3><p>You’re not a solo act. Use your processor, underwriter, LOA, manager, marketing team — hell, even ChatGPT. Great LOs know how to <strong><em>orchestrate</em> </strong>results by activating their team’s superpowers.</p><p>Leverage talent not just time.</p><blockquote><strong><em>Pro tip: </em></strong><em>Three 15-min syncs with your processor = smoother files and fewer fires.</em></blockquote><h3>7. 🛠️ Sharpen the Saw</h3><p>If you’re burnt out, overwhelmed, or stuck — it shows. You have to pour into yourself. Learn something new. Take a day off. Get coached. Hit the gym. Whatever helps you recharge your drive, do it.</p><p>I’ve been there. Burnt Out. Mentally Drained. Pretending I’m “grinding” when my business was stalled.</p><p>So I stepped back. Recharged. Learned.</p><p>Now? I’m climbing again — with new sharper tools.</p><blockquote><strong><em>Investment idea:</em></strong><em> Read 10 pages a day. Listen to one sales podcast a week. Join a mastermind. Upgrade </em>you.</blockquote><h3>Final Word 💣</h3><p>This isn&#39;t a checklist. These aren’t just habits — they’re your <em>operating system</em>. Stack them. Live them. Refuse average.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=248b338d26ac" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Growing in a Saturated Market Is Hard — Here Are 7 Cheat Codes Most Managers Won’t Tell You]]></title>
            <link>https://medium.com/@patrickpitts/growing-in-a-saturated-market-is-hard-here-are-7-cheat-codes-most-managers-wont-tell-you-e7ea5210bde7?source=rss-6a5df1f82cb------2</link>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Patrick Pitts]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Thu, 08 May 2025 20:27:23 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2025-05-08T20:44:28.653Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<h3>Growing in a Saturated Market Is Hard — Here Are 7 Cheat Codes Most Managers Won’t Tell You</h3><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*5gmnc4vemd9qYgs9mw782Q.jpeg" /></figure><p>If you’re a loan officer right now, you’re probably feeling it.<br> The market’s tight. Rates are meh. Every agent has 4 LOs blowing up their DMs.</p><p>And leadership? They’re still yelling:</p><blockquote><em>“Call more agents!” “Do more videos!” “Work harder!”</em></blockquote><p><strong>Newsflash:</strong> You don’t need to work harder. You need to work <em>smarter</em>.<br> The game has changed — and if you’re still playing by 2018 rules, no wonder you’re tired.</p><p>Let’s fix that. Here are <strong>7 cheat codes</strong> that help you cut through the noise and build actual momentum.</p><h3>🧠 Cheat Code 1: Niche Like You F***ing Mean It</h3><p>“I help first-time buyers” is not a niche. It’s a cop-out.</p><p>You need to own a <em>problem</em> and <em>solve it better than anyone else</em>.<br> Think:</p><ul><li>VA loans for cops in Dallas</li><li>Self-employed borrowers with messy tax returns</li><li>DPA programs in under-marketed zip codes</li></ul><p>Pick one. Obsess over it. Build your brand around it. When you’re known for solving <em>something specific</em>, people start coming to you instead of ghosting your calls.</p><h3>📲 Cheat Code 2: Post Like You Talk</h3><p>Stop sounding like a mortgage robot online. The average LO post sounds like it was written by ChatGPT in 2022.</p><p>Tell stories.<br> Drop real takeaways.<br> Talk about the deal that fell apart — and what you learned.<br> Let people <em>feel</em> you.</p><p>People want to work with someone they like and trust, not someone who only posts rate sheets or National Donut Day.</p><h3>🤝 Cheat Code 3: Go Deep, Not Wide</h3><p>You don’t need 30 agents. You need <em>3 killers</em> who actually send deals.</p><p>Look for agents who:</p><ul><li>Respect your process</li><li>Are coachable and collaborative</li><li>Want to win together</li></ul><p>Then <em>go all in</em>. Help them get listings. Show them how to win more offers. Be their unfair advantage.</p><p>Make their business better — so they can’t imagine doing deals without you.</p><h3>🧯 Cheat Code 4: Question Every Damn Blueprint</h3><p>Here’s some truth: A lot of managers haven’t closed a loan since <em>Tiger King</em> was trending.<br> So why are you blindly following their advice?</p><p>If their “proven system” hasn’t been working for <em>you</em> in <em>this</em> market, toss it.<br>Test what works. Track it. Pivot fast.</p><p><em>This</em> market rewards creativity, not conformity.</p><h3>💎 Cheat Code 5: Build a Killer Follow-Up Machine</h3><p>This is where most LOs fall flat.<br> You don’t need more leads — <strong>you need to stop <em>wasting</em> the ones you have.</strong></p><p>Build a system that:</p><ul><li>Follows up automatically <em>and</em> personally</li><li>Tracks every lead like a hawk</li><li>Nurtures long-term prospects <em>without</em> forgetting them</li></ul><p>Your database is a goldmine. Shame on you if you’re not mining it right now while business is slower. <em>This</em> is when fortunes are built.</p><h3>🧠 Cheat Code 6: Get in the Right Room</h3><p>Surround yourself with killers. Period.</p><p>That means cutting ties with energy vampires, ditching lazy coworkers, and seeking out a circle that challenges you to level up.</p><p>You want to grow fast?<br> Spend more time around people who <em>already are</em>.</p><p>Whether that’s a coaching group, a top branch, or just a hungry accountability partner — environment matters.</p><h3>⚡ Cheat Code 7: Create Micro-Moments of Value</h3><p>This is next-level. Every time you talk to a prospect, agent, or past client — drop one useful nugget.</p><ul><li>A clever way to get under contract with a low down payment</li><li>A scipt to handle rate objections</li><li>A neighborhood data stat that makes someone think</li></ul><p>Small moments of value = massive trust over time. And trust? That closes deals.</p><h3>Final Thought:</h3><p>You’re not behind. You’re not broken. But you might be stuck in someone else’s outdated system.</p><p>This market isn’t easy, but it <em>is</em> full of opportunity for LOs willing to play a different game.</p><p>If you’re ready to shift — not just companies, but mindset, systems, and results — hit me up.</p><p>No BS. No pitch. Just LO to LO.</p><p>👉 Let’s connect and trade cheat codes.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=e7ea5210bde7" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Denied for a Mortgage? Fix These 3 Things First]]></title>
            <link>https://medium.com/@patrickpitts/denied-for-a-mortgage-fix-these-3-things-first-a71aac54e4e8?source=rss-6a5df1f82cb------2</link>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Patrick Pitts]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Thu, 01 May 2025 19:21:58 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2025-05-01T19:24:53.141Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*FAjTQvL-xrljVrc6h5HZ1w.jpeg" /></figure><p>Getting denied for a mortgage can feel like a punch in the gut. You’re excited, maybe even found a house you love — and then boom… the lender says “<strong>no</strong>.”</p><p>But here’s the truth most people don’t hear:<br> <strong>Mortgage denials are common. And most of them are fixable.</strong></p><p>Let’s talk about the <em>three biggest reasons people get denied — and what you can do to bounce back stronger.</em></p><h3>1. Your Income Isn’t Enough… or Doesn’t Look Right</h3><p>More than <strong>half of mortgage denials</strong> come down to income — either it’s too low, not consistent, or calculated wrong by the lender.*</p><p>That’s not always your fault. Sometimes it’s:</p><ul><li>Freelance or 1099 income not being averaged correctly</li><li>Bonus or commission income not counted properly</li><li>Gaps in job history making things look riskier than they are</li></ul><p><strong>What to do:</strong></p><ul><li>Bring in <em>every</em> source of income (side gigs, child support, etc.)</li><li>Be ready to show tax returns, paystubs, and deposits</li><li>Work with a loan officer who knows how to present your full story (not just plug in numbers)</li></ul><h3>2. Your Debt-to-Income Ratio (DTI) Is Too High</h3><p>Even if you <em>make</em> enough money, you can still get denied if too much of it is already going to bills. This is called your <strong>DTI</strong>, and lenders don’t want to see you stretched too thin.</p><p><strong>Common culprits:</strong></p><ul><li>High car payments</li><li>Student loans</li><li>Multiple credit cards with balances</li></ul><p><strong>How to fix it:</strong></p><ul><li>Pay down balances strategically (credit cards hurt more than installment loans)</li><li>Consider consolidating or refinancing existing debt</li><li>Increase income with a side hustle or co-borrower</li><li>Look at loan options that allow higher DTI (yes, they exist)</li></ul><h3>3. Your Documents Don’t Match Your Story</h3><p>Lenders are basically financial detectives. If your paperwork doesn’t line up, they’ll pump the brakes — even if you’re solid.</p><p><strong>Big red flags:</strong></p><ul><li>Unexplained large deposits</li><li>Inconsistent paystubs</li><li>Gaps in employment</li><li>Missing tax returns or bank statements</li></ul><p><strong>What to do:</strong></p><ul><li>Organize your docs early (2 months of bank statements, 2 years of taxes, 30 days of paystubs)</li><li>Be ready to explain anything weird</li><li>Partner with someone who double-checks everything <em>before</em> you submit</li></ul><h3>Real Talk: One “No” Doesn’t Mean You Can’t Buy a Home</h3><p>It just means something needs to shift — and that’s what I help people do every day. There’s always a path forward. Sometimes it takes 30 days, sometimes 90, but either way, you’re not stuck.</p><h3>Let’s Get You Back on Track</h3><p><strong>Need a second look at your numbers or a real strategy to qualify?</strong><br> No pressure. No judgment. Just honest answers and a plan that works.</p><p><strong>📲 Call me at 972–925–9313 or click my calendar to set up a FREE call:</strong> <a href="https://calendly.com/patrickpitts/">https://calendly.com/patrickpitts/</a></p><p><strong>Let’s fix what’s broken and get you back in the game.</strong></p><p>*Source: Consumer Financial Protection Bureau — Mortgage Denials Report</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=a71aac54e4e8" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[How To Use Market Data To Win Referrals — Plus 4 Costly Mistakes To Avoid]]></title>
            <link>https://medium.com/@patrickpitts/how-to-use-market-data-to-win-referrals-plus-4-costly-mistakes-to-avoid-f275cb89bea5?source=rss-6a5df1f82cb------2</link>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Patrick Pitts]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Wed, 06 Nov 2024 22:07:49 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2024-11-06T22:07:49.016Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<h3><strong>How To Use Market Data To Win Referrals — Plus 4 Costly Mistakes To Avoid</strong></h3><p>In today’s competitive real estate market, knowing how to interpret and use market data can make you a realtor’s go-to loan officer. When you’re the one with the stats, insights, and predictions, you’re not just another lender — they’ll see you as a valuable partner they can rely on for accurate information.</p><p>Let’s break down some key ways to use market data effectively to build relationships and win referrals, plus a few common mistakes you’ll want to steer clear of.</p><p><strong>1. Track Local Trends</strong></p><p>Knowing the pulse of the local market is invaluable. Look at current trends in home prices, inventory levels, and time on market for different neighborhoods. For example, if there’s a trend of rising home values in a specific area, you can highlight the potential for increased equity to realtors and their clients. They’ll appreciate that you understand not just numbers but the context behind them, helping them educate clients on why now might be a good time to buy.</p><p><strong>Tip:</strong> Provide realtors with easy-to-digest data points, like “Homes in [Neighborhood] are selling 15% faster than last year.” It’s a stat they can mention confidently, setting them up to look well-informed in front of their clients.</p><p><strong>2. Understand Mortgage Rate Impact</strong></p><p>One of the most valuable data points you can bring to realtors is the impact of interest rate changes on buying power. If rates have dropped, explain how this increases a buyer’s potential loan amount, making it easier for them to afford higher-priced homes. When rates go up, help realtors educate their clients on staying within budget. Realtors are more likely to refer you if they know you’re there to keep clients calm and informed when market shifts happen.</p><p><strong>Tip:</strong> Provide sample calculations showing how rate changes affect monthly payments. This makes it easier for realtors to illustrate the numbers to buyers, reducing their anxiety and empowering them to make decisions.</p><p><strong>3. Analyze Buyer Demand and Inventory Levels</strong></p><p>If you notice a trend in rising buyer demand, especially in a specific area or property type, share it with your realtor partners. High demand can push up prices, so knowing this information can help them act quickly with their clients. When inventory is low, a realtor might want to move faster on a property before prices increase further or consider other nearby neighborhoods. A loan officer who can share this kind of insight will always have a realtor’s respect.</p><p><strong>Tip:</strong> Share updates, like “There’s a low inventory of single-family homes in [Neighborhood] — let’s talk about how to help buyers get pre-approved quickly so they’re ready to make an offer.”</p><p><strong>4. Highlight Loan Programs That Match Market Conditions</strong></p><p>In certain markets, specific loan programs can be advantageous. For instance, if first-time buyers are struggling with down payments, talk to realtors about programs that offer down payment assistance. In a higher-priced market, you could discuss the benefits of jumbo loans. This approach can be a real game-changer for realtors who might not be aware of the latest loan options that could benefit their clients.</p><p><strong>Tip:</strong> When you know a realtor’s client profile, provide customized loan options that would fit the majority of their buyers. This saves them time and shows you understand their needs.</p><p><strong>4 Costly Mistakes to Avoid</strong></p><p>Using market data can give you a huge advantage, but there are pitfalls to watch out for. Here are some mistakes to avoid:</p><ol><li><strong>Avoid Overloading with Numbers</strong><br> Numbers can be powerful, but too much can overwhelm. Focus on a few key data points and explain why they matter. The goal is to make the realtor’s job easier, not bog them down with extra math.</li><li><strong>Don’t Make Assumptions About the Market</strong><br> Avoid bold predictions about where prices or rates are going unless you have solid data to back it up. The real estate market can be unpredictable, so it’s better to stick to current trends and let the data speak for itself.</li><li><strong>Skipping the “Why It Matters”</strong><br> Data is only useful if it has context. Explain why a piece of data is important and how it impacts their clients. For example, knowing there’s a low inventory is helpful, but it’s more valuable if you explain how it could lead to bidding wars and faster closings.</li><li><strong>Neglecting Regular Updates</strong><br> Market data becomes irrelevant quickly. Keep your realtor partners in the loop with periodic updates, even if it’s just a quick email about a rate change or a notable shift in inventory. Realtors will appreciate that you keep them informed, and it keeps you top of mind for referrals.</li></ol><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=f275cb89bea5" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Simplifying Home Insurance for Loan Officers: A Guide to Boost Your Earnings]]></title>
            <link>https://medium.com/@patrickpitts/simplifying-home-insurance-for-loan-officers-a-guide-to-boost-your-earnings-09ec7115c05f?source=rss-6a5df1f82cb------2</link>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Patrick Pitts]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Fri, 27 Oct 2023 17:15:15 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2023-10-27T17:15:15.455Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*hyauAso-p2TV0xEvgADzkQ.png" /></figure><p>If you’re a loan officer looking to close more deals and increase your income, there’s a crucial aspect you might be overlooking — home insurance. Tom Kriby, Vice President of Client Development and Partnerships at Westwood Insurance Agency, discussed making the home insurance process easier for borrowers and how it can benefit loan officers. Let’s break down the impact of climate-related risks on insurance and how integrating insurance seamlessly into the home-buying process can help you earn more as a loan officer.</p><p><strong>How Climate-Related Risks Affect Home Insurance:</strong> Tom Kriby pointed out that getting home insurance has become harder in certain areas due to rising climate-related risks. Places like California, where wildfires are common, and coastal areas prone to hurricanes, along with states like Texas that see severe hailstorms, have seen insurance companies raise prices or even stop offering insurance. It’s also getting tricky to find insurance for older homes, typically those over 10–15 years old.</p><p><strong>The Trouble with Last-Minute Insurance:</strong> Even in areas with lower risks, many people tend to leave buying home insurance until the last minute. This isn’t a good idea because insurance is not just a formality; it’s a requirement. You can’t close on your new home without it. Waiting until the last minute can cause delays because insurance applications may need extra time for review, or you might need to provide more information.</p><p><strong>The Benefits of a Strong Connection between Insurance and Home Buying:</strong> Having a closer connection between insurance and the home buying process can benefit both loan officers and homebuyers. Transparency is the key. Some companies such as Westwood Insurance Agency make it easy for customers to buy insurance through dedicated portals. They also provide portals for lenders to keep track of the information submitted throughout the process. This means less back-and-forth communication about changes like names or closing dates, making the process smoother, more transparent, and easier to understand for everyone.</p><p><strong>The Role of Technology in Making Insurance Easier:</strong> Technology plays a significant role in making insurance part of the home buying process. By quickly and directly sharing information among all the people involved, technology reduces the time it takes to gather essential data and documents. For instance, getting a home insurance quote can involve a lot of information that you might not have readily available. Working with lenders to access the data needed makes the process faster.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1000/1*JkW8DP4KuL0fE7V4F--UDQ.jpeg" /></figure><p><strong>For loan officers who want to close more deals,</strong> making insurance a seamless part of the home-buying process is vital. By understanding how climate-related risks affect insurance, addressing last-minute insurance issues, and using technology, you can enjoy a smoother process, get more referrals, and ultimately earn more money. Westwood Insurance Agency’s focus on transparency and efficiency can serve as a valuable example for loan officers looking to improve their services and grow their businesses.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=09ec7115c05f" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[A lot can change in 30 days.]]></title>
            <link>https://medium.com/@patrickpitts/a-lot-can-change-in-30-days-540220cf22cf?source=rss-6a5df1f82cb------2</link>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Patrick Pitts]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Tue, 04 Feb 2020 14:04:20 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2020-02-04T14:04:20.276Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/543/1*XOa88CBE-vNoOsO9HUftaw@2x.jpeg" /></figure><p>A lot can change in 30 days.</p><p>Your life can be turned upside down and everything you think you’ll do one day can be put into question.</p><p>Instantly….With no warning.</p><p>Below is me in a 6 day coma just 30 days ago.</p><p>Or on the other hand, blessings can happen.</p><p>I’m now 2 weeks from getting back to workouts and I’ll be playing basketball again really soon.</p><p>My arm is getting better everyday.</p><p>You can dig deep and fight your way out of almost any situation.</p><p>Are you broke?</p><p>Are you facing addiction?</p><p>Are you living an unhealthy lifestyle?</p><p>You CAN change it!</p><p>I want you to KNOW It’s not too late!</p><p>A lot can happen in 30 days.</p><p>Stay positive.</p><p>In the past I have been pretty singular focused with my work, this showed me the importance of family time.</p><p>As much as I love what I do, lying there I didn’t think of Mortgage’s one time.</p><p>It showed me the importance of prayer.</p><p>It showed me I’m NOT indestructible.</p><p>So I want to share this lesson with you, before it’s too late for either of us.</p><p>Faith, Family, Fitness and Finances are all equally important.</p><p>Don’t be one dimensional.</p><p>Life is about the relationships we build and the lives we touch.</p><p>Who can we positively impact?</p><p>Take the time to get to know people and not just hope for a referral or a kickback from them.</p><p>Just get to know people because you actually care.</p><p>By staying positive and building relationships when you go down a weird thing will happen…</p><p>…people will rally for you when you need them most.</p><p>A lot can change in 30 days!</p><p>Make sure it’s for the better.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=540220cf22cf" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[What Makes A Good Friend?]]></title>
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            <category><![CDATA[friendship]]></category>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Patrick Pitts]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Wed, 29 Jan 2020 13:53:13 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2020-01-29T13:54:19.754Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1000/1*P1Ev3HkS8rU2piboRYjwMw@2x.jpeg" /></figure><p>They say you are the sum of the 5️⃣ friends you hang around the most.</p><p>But what KIND of friends should we hang around?</p><p>Most of us just have a few good friends that we have known for a long time and as long as they aren’t criminals and drug dealers we think we are doing pretty good.</p><p>But knowing someone for a long time doesn’t make them friends.</p><p>Some people we start our journey with don’t get to see us to the finish line.</p><p>But like anything in life you have got to be intentional.</p><p>This has me thinking about what are the 5 best types of people to surround yourself with?</p><p>Let me say first all that all of our compadres should be supportive of our goals, accepting of who we are and genuinely care about about our well being.</p><p>But what other qualities would help us?</p><p>🤷🏼‍♂️ Here’s what I came up with:</p><ol><li>🤨 Someone inspirational/motivational or ambitious. This person should inspire you to be the best version of yourself that you can be. When you are down they are there to pick you up. Maybe they just show you by example and arent always the “rah rah” type.</li></ol><p>2. 😇 Someone who can help guide your faith. This friend should not be afraid to let you know when your doing wrong or going down the wrong path. Someone who can be a spiritual guidance or sounding board for you to discuss your faith with and help make decisions that will ultimately get you in to heaven (or whatever you believe is next).</p><p>3. 🤣 Someone who can make you laugh. This friend doesn’t take life to seriously and if laughter is therapy you’ll need to be able to laugh at yourself every now and then.</p><p>4. 😤 Someone who can help you in fitness and nutrition. This is one of my favorites because a healthy fit life usually means more years to spend with your family or fight off diseases or viruses. As someone who grew up on Griff’s, Whataburger and hot dogs I needed to find this friend…bad.</p><p>5. 🤑 Someone who can help guide you in finances. As they say it’s not about having lots of money but knowing how to manage it. Planning for the future and retirement. I don’t think any of us want to literally work to death or miss every child milestone because “we need the money” and can’t afford to miss this next shift. I’ve been here often and recently and it sucks. As I laid in a coma for a week I never thought about anyone’s mortgage only vivid dreams about my family and the milestones that were coming and the ones we’ve been through already.</p><p>Am I missing type of person?</p><p>Do you agree or disagree with my 5?</p><p>Would love your feedback.</p><p>I can tell you that you all are great friends.</p><p>So supportive and your comments, prayers and messages up lift me every single day.</p><p>I’ve gotten so much support since the cancer diagnosis, through surgery and now focusing on the comeback, it’s truly been amazing and please keep on encouraging me!</p><p>I used to focus on “the haters” but that was a waste of time.</p><p>Now I choose to focus on the much louder group of supporters.</p><p>Those encouraging people that took the time to reach out and let me know I’ve helped them in some way or those who have prayed, commented or sent cards to tell me to keep going, I’ll NEVER let you down.</p><p>Love y’all for that. ❤️</p><p>Either way find good friends to smile with and more importantly BE a good friend.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=d2aaa374b405" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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