I recently came across a Reddit post from someone asking, “How can you stop yourself from breaking someone else’s illusions?”

They explained that after awakening to a new sense of reality, after seeing through what many call the “matrix”, they began to feel conflicted. It became difficult to watch others live under illusions, and even harder not to point them out. They didn’t want to seem different or alone, but they had this deep urge to “name the illusions” they saw.

And I get it. I really do.

When you’ve gone through something like a spiritual awakening, your whole world can change. You might see patterns, systems, beliefs, even entire lifestyles, for what they truly are: illusions. And it can be painful to watch the people you love living within them, especially when you feel like they could be freer, lighter, more conscious.

But here’s something I’ve learned:

You’re not here to break other people’s illusions.

You’re here to live your truth.

You might inspire someone through a book, a piece of art, or a quiet conversation. But directly telling someone they’re asleep, or that they’re living a lie, will only create resistance. Not because you’re wrong, but because it’s not their time.

Some souls may never “awaken” in this lifetime. That might sound harsh or sad, but it’s not. Every soul is on its own path. Some are here to learn love in relationships. Some are here to explore material success. Some are here to struggle, to grow, to serve, or simply to be.

And let’s be honest, none of us are free from illusion. Even after awakening, illusions sneak back in. Beliefs about purpose. Ideas about what “truth” looks like. Spiritual ego. It’s a constant dance between seeing clearly and being humbled by what we don’t know.

So what do we do?

We let people live their lives. And we live ours.

You can keep your feet on the ground and still honour what’s awakened within you. You don’t need to isolate yourself from the world just because your perspective has changed. You can go bowling. Watch Netflix. Chat about work. Laugh at silly things with your friends.

You can still have those deeper conversations too, just don’t force them. Let them happen when they’re invited. And trust that if someone is meant to awaken, they will. In their own way. In their own time.

In the meantime, pour your insights into creativity. Write your book. Share your story. Let your art carry your truth. Those who are meant to find it, will.

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The other day I read a Reddit post titled “I think my Kundalini awakening broke my mind lol.” The person described an intense experience of “decoding mode” a constant, exhausting attempt to pull meaning from every moment, sound, number, or emotion. Even as a music producer, they couldn’t enjoy a song without dissecting it symbolically.

I felt a wave of recognition reading their words.

After my own awakening, I noticed signs everywhere. At first, I interpreted every synchronicity as a message or instruction , like the universe was giving me to-do lists. If I saw a name, I followed it. If I got a “feeling,” I acted on it. I thought the signs were there to tell me what to do next.

But over time, they shifted. The signs didn’t stop, but they changed form, mostly numbers now. It started with 33, then 333, and eventually moved to 44, 444, 14, 144, 1144… I could go on. I often still google them (out of habit), but they show up so frequently now that I usually just smile and let them go.

Because I’ve learned: you can’t hold onto all of them.

The mind wants to make sense of everything. Even before any spiritual awakening, our brains are wired to look for patterns and meanings. But when this natural tendency is amplified by an awakening, it can become overwhelming.

I’ve had vivid dreams, sometimes symbolic, sometimes strange. Once I dreamt of a portal. I often wake up around 2 or 3am, half-asleep, half-alert, with my brain whirring, trying to make connections or interpret ideas. It’s like my subconscious is trying to keep decoding even while I’m sleeping.

So how do you not get swept up in the flood?

Here are a few things that helped me:

• Journaling: Write the signs down. Then, choose to leave them there on the page. Let them exist without needing to keep solving them.
• Therapy: If you have access to a therapist, it can be a real lifeline. Cognitive behavioural therapy helped me recognise my own thought spirals and create healthier boundaries in my mind.
• Mindful tasks: Do something with no meaning or goal, like rearranging your kitchen cupboards, folding laundry, or doodling shapes. Let your hands move and your thoughts rest.
• Walking: Go outside. Feel the ground under your feet. Look at trees. Breathe.

The Reddit poster said their only peace came from shifting out of the head and into the body. I couldn’t agree more. Awareness, not meaning, is the anchor.

So if you’re in the thick of it, feeling like everything’s a symbol, like your mind won’t stop, it’s okay. You’re not broken. You’re just in a stage.

You don’t have to solve every sign. You don’t have to figure it all out.

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A few weeks ago, I found myself lying on a Reiki couch, eyes closed, feeling calm and open, when my Reiki Master quietly said, “You’ve got four attachments.”

I didn’t feel anything unusual at the time. I hadn’t been unwell or feeling unlike myself. I’d just been to a few historical places recently, including a spiritualist church and Traquair House, Scotland’s oldest inhabited house and felt it wouldn’t hurt to check.

That’s when the dowsing stone came out.

What Is a Dowsing Stone?

Also called a pendulum, a dowsing stone is traditionally used in the practice of dowsing , a method once believed to help people locate underground water, minerals, or lost objects. It swings one way for yes and another for no. You don’t even need a crystal , any small object on a string can become a pendulum.

I actually remember doing something like this as a child, tying objects to string and pretending they were giving me answers. And I recall hearing about people using pendulums over pregnant bellies to guess the baby’s gender.

Traquair House: A Strange Experience

Before I continue, let me say this, I have no proof I had attachments. I felt like myself the entire time. But if what he said was true, I’d been carrying them for about two months. And it does connect strangely to something that happened at Traquair House.

Traquair is steeped in history. It began as a watchtower in the 11th century and was slowly transformed into a home by the 18th century. It has a full-size hedge maze which is really fun!

Since my Kundalini awakening, I’ve become more sensitive to energy. I used to feel energy even before my awakening, but more a feeling of a heavy weight or uncomfortable feeling in old places. So, visiting Traquair was both nostalgic and intentional. I wanted to feel what my body would pick up now.

It started as the usual heavy feeling, but in the oldest part of the house, things shifted quickly. I began to feel dizzy and sick. Since my awakening I have been able to channel energy, when I feel it shift it’s like the energy surgest up through my chest and I get energetic breathing, it sounds like shivering for a few seconds. In this room, I felt my body reacting with the feeling in my chest and teh energetic breathing, but this time it was very very heavy and like it was getting stuck in my chest. I had to leave, fast. I quickly said to my husband ‘I need to get out of here’. He grabbed my hand and pulled me along the corridor, down the stairs and as soon as I got outside, the feelings lifted.

Back then, I put it down to stagnant energy in an old space, as if my body was trying to channel all that old energy but it was too much. However, when my Reiki Master asked the pendulum if my attachments came from Traquair House, it swung: yes.

Spiritual Tools or Inner Compass?

During the session, I was intrigued. I had no idea he’d used a dowsing stone the last time I had attachments, and I was curious to ask it some personal spiritual questions, ones that had been on my mind since my awakening.

Questions like: Am I a Lemurian soul?

Lemuria is something I stumbled upon while researching, and I had a vivid dream involving a lemur soon after. It felt meaningful, especially since lemurs are historically tied to the idea of Lemuria, a lost land once believed to connect parts of the world before tectonic shifts. I’d even recently visited lemurs in real life, and one came close to me, triggering a strange energetic reaction.

So I asked the dowsing stone if I am a Lemurian soul. It said: no.

In fact, it said no to nearly 80% of my questions. Which completely contradicted my own inner knowing.

Trusting Yourself First

That was confusing. My intuition has only grown stronger since my spiritual awakening. How could this simple object disagree with everything I’ve felt so deeply?

My Reiki Master explained that I should try using the pendulum myself ,it would tune to my energy better that way and I would learn to trust it.

So I did. I bought a rose quartz one (because pink is my favourite colour), cleansed it on a selenite plate, and tried it out at home.

This time, I got different answers. It gave me a yes to some of the same questions it had previously said no to.

That’s when I noticed something interesting: if I was hoping for a yes, I found myself subtly moving my eyes in a circle and willing the pendulum to swing. I realised it was responding to the tiniest micro-movements in my hands.

Maybe it wasn’t telling me the truth , maybe it was reflecting my inner beliefs.

And perhaps that’s the point.

A Spiritual Tool, Not a Spiritual Authority

For now, I don’t believe the dowsing stone gives us answers from outside ourselves. I believe it gives us access to what’s already inside. This is my own personal opinion.

If you’re on a spiritual path and feeling unsure, maybe you’re not supposed to look for external confirmation, maybe you’re supposed to learn to trust what’s already within you.

Right now, I’m paying attention to my dreams, what resonates when I read something, and those gut-level yes/no feelings I’ve had since I was young. For me, the pendulum is a lovely object, but not a necessity.

It’s a tool. One that can show us where we already lean.

You don’t need a stone to connect with your soul. You just need to listen.

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