Stacy Larson's Lesson On April 22

The Songs They Could Not Sing: 

By Elder Quentin Cook

       Many people face significant problems or even tragedy during this mortal journey. All over the world we see examples of trials and tribulations. We are moved in our souls by television images of death, acute suffering, and despair. We see the Japanese struggling heroically against devastation from an earthquake and tsunami. The haunting scenes from the destruction of the World Trade Center towers, which we recently reviewed, were painful to relive. Something stirs us when we become aware of such tragedy, especially when suffered by innocent people.

       *Why does a just God allow bad things to happen, especially to good people?

       While we do not know all the answers, we do know important principles that allow us to face tragedies with faith and confidence that there is a bright future planned for each of us.

       All wrongs will be righted, and we will see with perfect clarity and faultless perspective and understanding.

       There are many kinds of challenges. Elder Cook tells about 3 different kinds and why we have them.

Some give us necessary experiences that prepare us to meet God:

       Quote #1: Adverse results in this mortal life are not evidence of lack of faith or of an imperfection in our Father in Heaven’s overall plan. The refiner’s fire is real, and qualities of character and righteousness that are forged in the furnace of affliction perfect and purify us and prepare us to meet God. *Can you think of an example of someone who has become stronger from a trial they had to face? Please share.

Some challenges result from the agency of others:

       Quote #2: Agency is essential for individual spiritual growth and development. Evil conduct is an element of agency. Captain Moroni explained this very important doctrine: “The Lord suffereth the righteous to be slain that his justice and judgment may come upon the wicked.” He made it clear that the righteous are not lost but “enter into the rest of the Lord their God.” The wicked will be held accountable for the atrocities they perpetrate. *Can you think of an  example from the scriptures where innocent people have suffered because of the wickedness of others this from the scriptures?

Some challenges come from disobedience to God’s laws:

       Quote #3: Health problems resulting from smoking, alcohol, and drug abuse are staggering. Incarceration in jails and prisons as a result of alcohol- and drug-related crime is also very high. The incidence of divorce because of infidelity is also significant. Many of these trials and tribulations could be avoided by obedience to God’s laws.

       Some of the trials we face could fit in more than one category. Having health problems does not always come from disobedience, even those who may follow the word of wisdom all their live can still struggle with health.

           *How is having an eternal perspective so important while in the midst of trials?

            From the limited perspective of the world, this life can seem depressing, chaotic, unfair, and meaningless. It is like someone walking into the middle of a three-act play. Without knowing where we came from, why we are here, and where we are going it is hard to understand suffering in this life.

       Righteousness, prayer, and faithfulness will not always result in happy endings in mortality. Many will experience severe trials. The Lord has declared, “The elders … shall be called, and shall pray for and lay their hands upon them in my name; and if they die they shall die unto me, and if they live they shall live unto me.”

Titanic

Last Sunday marked the 100 anniversary of the sinking of the Titanic. 1,500 people lost their mortal lives because there were not enough life boats. There were at least two Latter-day Saint connections to the Titanic. Both illustrate our challenge in understanding trials, tribulations, and tragedies and provide insight as to how we might deal with them.

Elder Sonne was finishing up his mission in Brittan, and he booked passage on the Titanic for himself, his friend Fred, and four other missionaries who had also completed their missions. When it came time to travel, for some reason Fred was delayed. Elder Sonne canceled all six bookings to sail on the new luxury liner on its maiden voyage and booked passage on a ship that sailed the next day. Elder Sonne subsequently learned of the Titanic’s sinking and gratefully said to his friend Fred, “You saved my life.” All of the missionaries thanked the Lord for preserving them. Elder Alma Sonne went on to serve as a Stake President in Logan, Utah and then served as a General Authority later in life.

       Irene Corbett was 30 years old. She was a young wife and mother from Provo, Utah. She was a talented artist and musician; she was also a teacher and a nurse. She attended a six-month course of study on midwife skills in London. It was her great desire to make a difference in the world. She was careful, thoughtful, prayerful, and valiant. One of the reasons she chose the Titanic to return to the United States was because she thought the missionaries would be traveling with her and that this would provide additional safety. Irene was one of the few women who did not survive this terrible tragedy. Most of the women and children were placed in the lifeboats and were ultimately rescued. It is believed that she did not get in the lifeboats because, with her special training, she was attending to the needs of the numerous passengers who were injured from the iceberg collision.

       Whenever tragedy occurs, we mourn and strive to bear one another’s burdens. We lament the things that will not be accomplished and the songs that will not be sung.

       Quote #4: A unique challenge for those who have lost loved ones is to avoid dwelling on the lost opportunities in this life. Often those who die early have demonstrated significant capabilities, interests, and talents. With our limited understanding, we lament the things that will not be accomplished and the songs that will not be sung.

The Savior said: “Therefore, let your hearts be comforted. … Be still and know that I am God.” We have His promise that we with our children will sing “songs of everlasting joy.”

       *Sometimes it seems when we are going through trials that all we focus on is how hard our live is. Why do you think it is important to be grateful even while going through trials?

       Quote #5: We should be grateful for all the tender mercies that come into our lives. We are unaware of hosts of blessings that we receive from day to day. It is extremely important that we have a spirit of gratitude in our hearts. If we are righteous we are entitled to have the Spirit of the Lord with us always. *Can you share a time in your life that you found yourself “counting your blessings” how did it affect the way you felt about your life?

       I love this quote: “What if tomorrow you woke up with only the blessings that you thanked God for today?”

       Regardless of the trials we face in this life, the Savior’s Atonement provides lifeboats for everyone. For those who think the trials they face are unfair, the Atonement covers all of the unfairness of life.

       When we think of the perfect life the Savior lived, it really does seem “unfair” that he suffered and died for all of OUR sins. But he did it lovingly and willingly. I know that our Father in Heaven knows and Savior loves each of us personally. They are there and willing to hear and answer our prayers. They provide comfort through any trial we will face in this life.

Wed May 17 Evening Meeting...What a Great Time!

Sisters! What a wonderful Evening Meeting! Naomi and Ruth are such an inspiration to how we love one another. Thank you for the smiles, laughs, and the way you were an example to me on being a friend and learning to accept, communicate, and love each other. When we reach out to each other, we are being Christ like. Elder James E. Talmage of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles said, "The world's greatest champion of woman and womanhood is Jesus Christ." We definitely made the Lord smile upon us last night. 

Love to you all. Cami

RUTH Scripture Story of Love,

Relationships and Communication

Chapter 1

v  Naomi, Elimelech and sons are Israelites.  They lived in Bethlehem during the time of the Judges in the Old Testament.  Because of famine they made the decision to move to Moab.  The Moabite people were idol worshippers.  Their sons married Moabite women.  Which means they married outside of the church.

v  Naomi's sons and husband died.

v  Naomi decides it is better for her to move back to Bethlehem where she might find help and support.

Verses 8-11

8 And Naomi said unto her two daughters in law, Go, return each to her mother’s house: the Lord deal kindly with you, as ye have dealt with the dead, and with me.

 9 The Lord grant you that ye may find rest, each of you in the house of her husband. Then she kissed them; and they lifted up their voice, and wept.

 10 And they said unto her, Surely we will return with thee unto thy people.

 11 And Naomi said, Turn again, my daughters: why will ye go with me?

Ø  What might Naomi be thinking?  In our relationships do we push people away?  When in reality they are the people we need the most!

Ø  How might Ruth have responded to this rejection?

Verses 14-16

14 And they lifted up their voice, and wept again: and Orpah kissed her mother in law; but Ruth clave unto her.

 15 And she said, Behold, thy sister in law is gone back unto her people, and unto her gods: return thou after thy sister in law.

 16 And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from afollowing after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:

Verse 16 shows that Ruth was converted to the Gospel.

Ø  Why do you think it is important to our relationships for us to be converted to the Gospel?

Ø  A testimony is something we have to nurture to help to grow-How does that relate to our relationships?

Verse 20

20 And she said unto them, Call me not Naomi, call me Mara: for the Almighty hath dealt very bitterly with me.

v Naomi means "Sweet or Pleasant"-Mara-means "Bitter or Very Sad"

I think they were expressing in this verse that it was not Naomi's nature to be "Bitter or Very Sad".

Ø  Why does our nature make a difference?  Why does that matter?

Hard times come and tests the resolve we have in our relationship.  How we respond is a choice...

Chapter 2

Verse 2

2 And Ruth the Moabitess said unto Naomi, Let me now go to the field, and glean ears of corn after him in whose sight I shall find grace. And she said unto her, Go, my daughter.

Ø  Naomi allows Ruth to provide service for her.  How does this affect a relationship?

Ø  Ruth is a "doer"-is that of help in a relationship?  Is it necessary for us to be doers?

Verses 5-16

v Boaz is a near kinsman to Naomi

5 Then said Boaz unto his servant that was set over the reapers, Whose damsel is this?

 6 And the servant that was set over the reapers answered and said, It is the Moabitish damsel that came back with Naomi out of the country of Moab:

7 And she said, I pray you, let me glean and gather after the reapers among the sheaves: so she came, and hath continued even from the morning until now, that she tarried a little in the house.

 8 Then said Boaz unto Ruth, Hearest thou not, my daughter? Go not to glean in another field, neither go from hence, but abide here fast by my maidens:

 9 Let thine eyes be on the field that they do reap, and go thou after them: have I not charged the young men that they shall not touch thee? and when thou art athirst, go unto the vessels, and drink of that which the young men have drawn.

 10 Then she fell on her face, and bowed herself to the ground, and said unto him, Why have I found grace in thine eyes, that thou shouldest take knowledge of me, seeing I am a stranger?

 11 And Boaz answered and said unto her, It hath fully been shewed me, all that thou hast done unto thy mother in law since the death of thine husband: and how thou hast left thy father and thy mother, and the land of thy nativity, and art come unto a people which thou knewest not heretofore.

 12 The Lord recompense thy work, and a full reward be given thee of the Lord God of Israel, under whose wings thou art come to trust.

 13 Then she said, Let me find favour in thy sight, my lord; for that thou hast comforted me, and for that thou hast spoken friendly unto thine handmaid, though I be not like unto one of thine handmaidens.

 14 And Boaz said unto her, At mealtime come thou hither, and eat of the bread, and dip thy morsel in the vinegar. And she sat beside the reapers: and he reached her parched corn, and she did eat, and was sufficed, and left.

 15 And when she was risen up to glean, Boaz commanded his young men, saying, Let her glean even among the sheaves, and reproach her not:

 16 And let fall also some of the handfuls of purpose for her, and leave them, that she may glean them, and rebuke her not.

 17 So she gleaned in the field until even, and beat out that she had gleaned: and it was about an ephah of barley.

Ø  These verses are rich with hard work, kindness, respect and humility...Why are those qualities a huge asset in relationship?

Ø  Hard work?

Chapter 3

v Naomi gives Ruth advise as to how to approach Boaz...

Verses 3-4

3 Wash thyself therefore, and anoint thee, and put thy raiment upon thee, and get thee down to the floor: but make not thyself known unto the man, until he shall have done eating and drinking.

 4 And it shall be, when he lieth down, that thou shalt mark the place where he shall lie, and thou shalt go in, and uncover his feet, and lay thee down; and he will tell thee what thou shalt do.

v Ruth is obedient to Naomi's guidance...they are working together...taking guidance and direction from each other.

9 And he said, Who art thou? And she answered, I am Ruth thine handmaid: spread therefore thy skirt over thine handmaid; for thou art a near kinsman.

v Spread therefore thy skirt over thine handmaid-Hebraist proposal-An expression of "protect me or be my protector or husband".  Ruth is proposing to Boaz...

 10 And he said, Blessed be thou of the Lord, my daughter: for thou hast shewed more kindness in the latter end than at the beginning, inasmuch as thou followedst not young men, whether poor or rich.

 11 And now, my daughter, fear not; I will do to thee all that thou requirest: for all the city of my people doth know that thou art a virtuous woman.

Ø  Do we allow our husbands to protect us?  Are we grateful for what they do to provide for us-do we prattle on about what we don't have, instead of expressing gratitude for what we do have?

Ø  He expresses to Ruth that she is a virtuous woman?  What does a virtuous woman look like today?

Chapter 4

v By law the nearest kinsman is the one that has the right to marry.  Boaz is not the nearest kinsman.  So he is required to petition the nearest for the hand in marriage.  So he had to go negotiate to be able to marry Ruth.

Verses 13-15, 17

13 ¶So Boaz took Ruth, and she was his wife: and when he went in unto her, the Lord gave her conception, and she bare a son.

 14 And the women said unto Naomi, Blessed be the Lord, which hath not left thee this day without a kinsman, that his name may be famous in Israel.

 15 And he shall be unto thee a restorer of thy life, and a nourisher of thine old age: for thy daughter in law, which loveth thee, which is better to thee than seven sons, hath born him.

17 And the women her neighbours gave it a name, saying, There is a son born to Naomi; and they called his name Obed: he is the father of Jesse, the father of David.

v Christ is descended through this blood line.  What conclusion can you draw thinking about that?

The 5 Love Languages

Written by Gary Chapman

The quiz for wife's and husband's followed by a brief description of each of the five love languages...obviously the book has much discussion

The Love Language Wife's Quiz:

1.         A)  I like to receive love notes from my husband.

            E)  I like to be hugged by my husband.     

2.         B)  I like to spend one-to-one time with my husband.

            D)  I feel loved when my husband gives practical help to me.   

3.         C)  I like it when my husband give me gifts.

            B)  I like leisurely visits and long trips with my husband.           

4.         D)  I feel loved when my husband does things to help me.

            E)  I feel loved when my husband touches me.    

5.         E)  I feel loved when my husband puts his arm around me.

            C)  I feel loved when my husband surprises me with a gift.       

6.         B)  I like to go almost anywhere with my husband.

            E)  I like to hold hands with my husband.

7.         C)  Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me.

            A)  I feel loved when my husband tells me he loves me.

8.         E)  I like to sit close to my husband.

            A)  I like for my husband to tell me I am attractive.

9.         B)  I like to spend time with my husband.

            C)  I like to receive little gifts from my husband. 

10.       A)  Words of acceptance, especially from my husband, are important to me.

            D)  I know my husband loves me when he helps me.     

11.       B)  I like being together and doing things with my husband.

            A)  I like it when my husband speaks kind words to me.

12.       D)  What my husband does affects me more than what he says.

            E)  Hugs make me feel connected to and valued by my husband.

13.       A)  I value praise from my husband.

            C)  Small, meaningful gifts from my husband shows me how much he cares.

14.       B)  I feel close to my husband when we are talking or doing something together.

            E)  I feel closer to my husband when he touches me often.

15.       A)  I like for my husband to compliment my achievements.

            D)  I know my husband loves me when he helps me with something he hates.

16.       E)  I like to be touched as my husband walks by.

            B)  I like it when my husband shows genuine interest in what I am saying.

17.       D)  I feel loved when my husband helps me with jobs or projects.

            C)  I really enjoy receiving gifts from my husband.          

18.       A)  I like for my husband to compliment my appearance.

            B)  I feel loved when my husband takes time to understand my feelings.       

19.       E)  I feel secure when my husband is touching me.

            D)  When my husband runs errands for me, it makes me feel loved.

20.       D)  I appreciate the many things that my husband does for me.

            C)  I like the thoughtful gifts that my husband makes for me.

21.       B)  I really enjoy the feeling I get when my husband gives me undivided attention.

            D)  I really enjoy the feeling I get when my husband cleans the house for me.

22.       C)  I feel loved when my husband celebrates my birthday with a gift.

            A)  I feel loved when my husband tells me how important I am to him.

23.       C)  I know my husband is thinking of me when he gives me a gift.

            D)  I feel loved when my husband helps with my chores.

24.       B)  I appreciate it when my husband listens patiently and doesn’t interrupt me.

            C)  I never get tired of receiving gifts from my husband.

25.       D)  I like knowing my husband is concerned enough to help with my daily tasks.

            B)  I enjoy taking trips with my husband, no matter where we go.       

26.       E) I enjoy kissing & cuddling with my husband.

            C)  I enjoy surprise gifts from my husband.

27.       A)  My husband’s encouraging words give me confidence.

            B)  I like to watch movies with my husband.

28.       C)  Gifts from my husband are always special to me.

            E)  I love it when my husband can’t keep his hands off me.       

29.       D)  I feel loved when my husband enthusiastically helps me despite being busy.

            A)  I feel loved when my husband tells me how much I am appreciated.

30.       E)  I love hugging and kissing my husband after we’ve been apart for a while.

            A)  I love hearing my husband tell me that he missed me.

Now that you’re finished, count the number of times you wrote down each letter.  One of them should seem more dominant than the others. That one will be your love language!! Sometimes there can be two that are fairly close but one is always dominant.  Just means you are maybe more versatile in language...but always remember one is usually the strongest and is the goal.

Mostly A’s: Words of Affirmation

Mostly B’s: Quality Time

Mostly C’s: Receiving Gifts

Mostly D’s: Acts of Service

Mostly E’s: Physical Touch

The Love Language for Husbands Quiz:

1.         A)  My wife's love notes make me feel good.

            E)  I love my wife's hugs.     

2.         B)  I like to be alone with my wife.

            D)  I feel loved when my wife helps me with my work.   

3.         C)  Receiving special gifts from my wife makes me happy.

            B)  I enjoy long trips with my wife.

4.         D)  I feel loved when my wife does my laundry.

            E)  I like it when my wife touches me.       

5.         E)  I feel loved when my wife puts her arm around me.

            C)  I feel know my wife loves me because she surprises me with gifts.

6.         B)  I like to go almost anywhere with my wife.

            E)  I like to hold my wife's hand.

7.         C)  I value the gifts my wife gives to me.

            A)  I love to hear my wife say she loves me.         

8.         E)  I like for my wife to sit close to me.

            A)  My wife tells me I look good, and I like that.

9.         B)  Spending time with my wife makes me happy.

            C)  Even the smallest gift from my wife makes me feel good.   

10.       A)  I feel loved when my wife tells me she is proud of me.

            D)  When my wife cooks a meal for me, I know that she loves me.      

11.       B)  No matter what we do, I love doing things with my wife.

            A)  Supportive comments from my wife make me feel good.

12.       D)  Little things my wife does for me mean more to me than things she says.

            E)  I love to hug my wife.

13.       A)  My wife's praise means a lot to me.

            C)  It means a lot to me that my wife gives me gifts I really like.          

14.       B)  Just being around my wife makes me feel good.

            E)  I love it when my wife rubs my back.

15.       A)  My wife's reaction to my accomplishments are so encouraging.

            D)  It means a lot to me when my wife helps with something I know she hates.

16.       E)  I never get tired of my wife's kisses.

            B)  I love that my wife shows real interest in things I like to do.

17.       D)  I can count on my wife to help me with projects.

            C)  I still get excited when opening a gift from my wife. 

18.       A)  I love for my wife to compliment my appearance.

            B)  I love that my wife listens to my ideas and doesn't rush to judge or critize.         

19.       E)  I can't help but touch my wife when she's close by.

            D)  My wife sometimes runs errands for me, and I appreciate that.

20.       D)  My wife deserves an award for all things she does to help me.

            C)  I'm sometimes amazed at how thoughtful my wife's gifts to me are.

21.       B)  I love having my wife's undivided attention.

            D)  Keeping the house clean is an important act of service.

22.       C)  I look forward to seeing what my wife gives me for my birthday.

            A)  I never get tired of hearing my wife tell me that I am important to her.

23.       C)  My wife lets me know she loves me by giving me gifts.

            D)  My wife shows her love by helping me catch up on projects around the house.

24.       B)  My wife doesn't interrupt me when I am talking, and I like that.

            C)  I never get tired of receiving gifts from my wife.

25.       D)  My wife can tell when I'm tired, and she's good about asking how she can help.

            B)  It doesn't matter where we go, I just like going places with my wife.         

26.       E)  I love having sex with my wife.

            C)  I love surprise gifts from my wife.

27.       A)  My wife's encouraging words give me confidence.

            B)  I love to watch movies with my wife.

28.       C)  I could not ask for any better gifts than my wife gives me.

            E)  I just can't keep my hands off my wife.           

29.       D)  It means a lot to me when my wife helps me despite having other things to do.

            A)  It makes me feel really good when my wife tells me she appreciates me.

30.       E)  I love hugging and kissing my wife after we've been apart for a while.

            A)  I love hearing my wife tell me she believes in me.

Now that you’re finished, count the number of times you wrote down each letter.  One of them should seem more dominant than the others. That one will be your love language!!  Sometimes there can be two that are fairly close but one is always dominant.  Just means you are maybe more versatile in language...but always remember one is usually the strongest and is the goal.

Mostly A’s: Words of Affirmation

Mostly B’s: Quality Time

Mostly C’s: Receiving Gifts

Mostly D’s: Acts of Service

Mostly E’s: Physical Touch

The universal language of Gratitude is important no matter what love language you may speak...being Grateful is a God given principle...we must always be grateful to our spouses, children and friends.   Strong and wonderful relationships are built and sustained on a grateful heart!

Words of Affirmation

            Mark Twain once said, "I can live for two months on a good compliment."  If we take Twain literally, six compliments a year would have kept his emotional love tank at the operational level. Your spouse will probably need more.

            One way to express love emotionally is to use words that build up.  Solomon, author of the ancient Hebrew Wisdom Literature, wrote, "The tongue has the power of life and death."

            Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

            This involves providing honest, authentic, genuine, and focused compliments and positive, affirming words of encouragement. These help build another’s self image and confidence.

Examples: Say how nice someone looks or how great dinner tasted, compliment another’s haircut or clothing, verbalize what a great job someone did, make a big deal about someone’s efforts /work, whisper romantic sweet-nothings, etc

Keys: Focus on the other person’s successes, strengths, and interests / dreams she is passionate about. Remember, we cannot read each other’s minds! Writing a note or letter with affirming words is great because it can be revisited as desired.

Important: Sarcasm, discourtesy, harsh tones, negative attitudes, and judgment deeply affect people who draw love energy from words of affirmation.

Quality Time

            In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

            Show someone how much he/she means to you by setting aside special time with your full and undivided attention to just “be together”, focus on each other, and participate in shared activities / experiences.

Examples: Plan a grandiose or simple date night, go to a baseball game, take a walk around the neighborhood, enjoy dinner or dessert at a restaurant or quietly at home, embark on a road trip, etc.

Keys: Intentionally set aside the time to focus on the other person, and let her know you are doing that so she can look forward to and more intently enjoy the time together.

Important: Do not appear distracted or hurried. Often it is a good idea to mute common distractions like television noise or a ringing / buzzing cell phone. When communicating during this time, offer more sympathy and less advice, more questions and fewer solutions. Focus on the person and not the problems.

Receiving Gifts

            Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

            This often gets a bad “WRAP” (buh duh chhzzz… haha) in our materialistic American culture. People who love through / with gifts appreciate any type of gift, large or small. For example, while your wife will probably not complain if you surprise her with swankily shimmering and sparkling jewelry,  just picking up her favorite kind of candy or a single rose on the way home from work can make her heart melt.

Examples: A gift she has mentioned on a previous outing, a goofy toy that will make her laugh, hand-made arts / crafts, a favorite food or drink, a gift card to her favorite store, etc.

Keys: Gifts are visual symbols of love that demonstrate you listen to and care about her wants and needs. Ye  old adage that the value of a gift is in the eye of the beholder is important to remember! Keep a stash of small gifts at home that you can pull out as needed when your spouse has had a particularly difficult day. For a gift receiver: It is OK to directly communicate the types of gifts you like!

Important: When receiving a gift from a gift giver, not appearing thankful or expressing gratitude can really hurt the giver’s feelings.

Acts of Service

            Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

            Communicate that you truly care for, enjoy and appreciate your spouse by going out of your way to joyfully serve him/her by completing activities without being asked. This definitely explains why some women get quite hot and bothered when their husbands wash dishes, vacuum, or perform other household chores.

Examples: Hang a picture, wash a car or the dishes, take out the trash, clean up around the house, organize the cabinets, bathe the kids,  etc.

Keys: Perform the activity JOYFULLY and make a special effort to complete activities the other person particularly dislikes. It is absolutely OK to “toot your own horn” and let your spouse know you did this for him / her as long as you communicate in a positive, non-”score-counting”, and non-condescending way.

Important: It is important to complete the activities as the OTHER person prefers, not  necessarily the way you think they should be done.  The receiver of this gift of time cannot expect the chore list is not out of their hands and the sole responsibility of the giver...working as a team has value and is important.

Physical Touch

            This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

            Whether it is a simple touch on the shoulder, a gentle hug, or a passionate kiss,  physical touch is a powerful method for communicating your love for and comfort with someone.

Examples: Holding hands, a lingering hug, putting your arm around another, a massage after a long day, etc. Your imagination can go wild here…

Keys: Seek and give appropriate touch for the situation, environment, and relationship. Be aware of what makes the other person uncomfortable.

Important: For Husbands – It's Not About Sex (and foreplay matters)!

For Wives – Your Husbands love Sex!

May 16th Evening Meeting 7:00pm

May Food Storage Specials and Order Form

Here is the Link if you are interested in ordering food storage at a good price.  Cami has been working hard to find the best deals for us.  Please make sure you give Cami a check before she orders...She needs money in hand before she places the order.  Follow the link below to see and print the order form.  Bring it to church with a check before the order date.

Certain Quantities need to be ordered before we get the discount...
May Food Storage Order Form

Shelf LIfe:

Refried Beans 30 years

Bananas and Peaches 25 Years

Applesauce Cool place 5 Years

Granola 20 Years