As anyone can see from my infrequent posts, I am horrible at blogging on a regular basis. I tend to blog when there is something major going on that others might want to be updated on. I guess I update a little with statuses and photos on Facebook but, maybe that’s not quite the same.
Anyway, we are down to our last 4 or 5 months here in Japan. The only big thing that we were anxious about was the timing of the our little baby boy that is due June 2nd. But now we have other things to add. I’ll start with our youngest to begin the updates on our family.
Our baby (possibly named Dylan MacKay Stout) is growing and healthy. I’ve been taking it easy and trying my hardest to make sure that I’m not stressed or overworking my body so it can focus on keeping this little guy in until he’s full term. We’re hoping that he will come no sooner than May 12th, but we would not be disappointed if he came any time after that. It would be nice to have as much time as we can between his birth and our move back to the states. He is very active and I love that because it helps me feel reassured that he’s doing alright.
Mia– She is doing great developmentally. She is talking up a storm and stringing complex words together in her sentences (which leaves her father and me baffled). Her hair is getting longer and I’m excited to be able to put it up in pigtails and ponytails. She loves to play with Kelsey and mimics her a lot. She loves to eat–which I don’t mind. Her favorite books to have me read are “Brown Bear Brown Bear” and “Grampa and I”. She tries to read them herself and it’s very cute to watch.
At her doctors appointment 6 months ago the doctor was excited because it seemed that the hole in her heart was closing and we just needed to wait until we got to America to make sure nothing further needed to be done. Unfortunately, at her doctors appointment three weeks ago the X-ray showed that her heart was enlarged again. We took her to her heart doctor in Matsuyama last week. He said that we will need to operate within the next year or so, but the sooner, the better. Unfortunately her surgery is close to my due date and we were worried about how that would affect my pregnancy and the added stress of medications for Mia after her surgery.
She will be in the hospital 5 days before the surgery for prep and then over 2 weeks afterward for recovery. A parent must stay in the hospital with her. Which means no home cooking unless it is brought to the hospital and sleeping on a short and very thin pad for a bed. Not really ideal for a tall man like Jesse or a very pregnant me. We’re not quite sure what we will do because Jesse has limited time off, some of which is needed for when the baby is born. And though it would be good in case I went into labor early to be in a hospital already, it would be costly to put Kelsey in temporary daycare because I can’t have her at the hospital with me while Jesse works during the day. It’s also a town away and we don’t have a car for easy commuting to and from the hospital. I’m sure it will all be fine. We actually feel blessed that she is able to have it here for free because we have the national health insurance rather than back in the America where it may cost us a few thousand dollars of out-of-pocket money.
Kelsey is 4 and a sweetie/troublemaker. As is common with most 4 year-olds, Kelsey is testing the limits and boundaries of what she can get away with. She is beginning to be better at including Mia in her play and not terrorizing her. She also enjoys feeling the baby kick and move in my belly. She likes to play games on PBSkids.com. I love it too, because she has learned a lot from it and it’s full of educational games as apposed to mindless games. I know it’s not good to have her doing that all day (not that she plays ALL day), but I figure it’s so much better than having her watch movies. We do have some learning time together.
She is totally into Princesses. She is a girly girl and tom-boy at the same time. She loves it when I do her hair and loves to play baseball with daddy. She is starting to make up songs about what she is doing at the moment (something she got from her father). The other day she took Mia to an imaginary ball, but was put out when Mia would not pretend to be her prince and dance with her.
Now that the weather is getting warmer we are both looking forward to more walks and park time. This winter I was able to take them to the 3rd floor of Saty ( a nearby grocery/department store). The play area is a nice way to play with other kids and get out of the house without freezing our butts off outside.
Me– I’m doing surprisingly great, all things considered. My pregnancy is going smoothly. I have tried to not be too stressed about gaining weight during this pregnancy. I realize that even though I gained 40 lbs. while pregnant with Kelsey I lost more than that afterward. My doctor said I could gain as much as 50 and be ok. I’m aiming for 30-35 lbs.
I’m definitely counting down the days until we move back to the States. I have begun organizing our stuff that needs to go back to America. Usually they recommend people to start 3 months from when they are moving to really start organizing everything, but we are going to be so busy with Mia’s surgery and the birth of the baby that now seems like the best time.
After we found out that Mia would need her surgery around the same time as I am expecting to have the baby I had a couple days afterward that I let myself stress about what we were going to do. I let myself have one moment of tears for the stress/uncertainty that lay ahead. Then, I prayed that the Lord would give me strength, vented some of my stress to some family, and enjoyed a good hug from my husband. Now I feel much better and I’m not too worried about it.
I’ve been studying (midwifery and medical books) when I can. I’m not sure when I will be able to really pursue my dream of becoming a midwife, but it doesn’t hurt to begin studying now. I was learning to pray in Japanese before we visited America last July, but since we’ve been back I have not really practiced and I’ve lost most of what I had learned.
I am definitely looking forward to being able to pick up some of the hobbies I enjoyed before moving here. I think I’ll have to make a list of things I think I will enjoy once we move back and a list of things I will miss about Japan . Then maybe I can look at it later and see what the list really should be once I’ve been back for a while. Maybe I should even make a list of things I’m NOT going to miss about Japan too. I’m also excited to have a car when we get back so I can take the kids to do a lot more things.
Jesse– He’s a lot more stressed than me but that’s because he will have to deal with a lot more things than I will. He will be the one to communicate with doctors and staff when Mia is in surgery. He is doing a great job translating at my prenatal appointments and he has mentioned how much he appreciates the way Dr. Ochi (my OBGYN) talks to him in Japanese. Dr. Ochi speaks some English but we can tell that when he tries to use his English, it’s because he’s wanting to practice, and not because he lacks confidence in Jesse’s ability to communicate in Japanese. Jesse is getting really good at translating for me at church which he couldn’t do when we first moved to Japan.
There is also a little stress when it comes to buying our plane tickets back to America. His ticket will be free but mine and those of our 3 children will not. Prices for flights are tricky and we hate the idea of buying them and having them drop by a couple hundred a little bit later, or waiting too long and getting hit with a steeper price. He also got asthma while he’s been out here (not uncommon for foreigners from what we hear). He’s been taking medicine for it but we’re hoping it will go away when we go back to the States.
He was anxious about finding a job when we get back. We both feel confident that he’ll be able to find one but uncertain what field it will end up being. He went to a conference for teachers returning home put on through the company he works for. He felt like it gave him a lot of peace of mind about his prospects.
Overall we are doing great. It is continuing to be quite an adventure living here in Japan and we continually feel blessed to have such wonderful family and friends who love and support us so much.