Say the hard thing.Keep the relationship.
Write it the way you feel it. We turn it into words that land: clear, kind and still yours.
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Private by design. Your message arrives as a plain personal message: no app logo, no banner, and never your phone number or email address. See exactly what they see
You ALWAYS change plans last minute and I'm sick of it. Just say so if you can't stick to the schedule.
Hi Jordan, last-minute changes are hard for me. Could we talk about what changed and agree on a plan that works for both of us?
Three steps to a better conversation
- 1
Write it raw
Type or say it exactly how you feel. Nothing leaves until you decide.
- 2
Get a calm review
See what might land badly, and a version that keeps your meaning without the heat.
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Send with confidence
Email, text or WhatsApp, or keep it as a draft. Their reply gets the same care.
The conversations that matter most
Co-parentingCalm, child-focused messages about schedules, pickups and money, with a neutral record of what you agreed.
WorkPush back, ask for a raise or answer a tough email without sounding cold, defensive or passive-aggressive.
FamilySay sorry, set a boundary or reach out after a long silence, in words that sound like you on a good day.
DatingFirst messages, honest "I am not feeling it" texts and the talk about what you are, kind and clear.
Landlord and homeRepairs, deposits and neighbor noise: firm, polite, on the record, and easy to follow up.Private by design
Your messages arrive clean: a plain personal message with no app logo, no header and no banner. They never see your phone number or email address, and replies still come back to you.
You write it the way you feel it. MessageMediator helps you say it well, and you approve every word.
I'm sorry about Mom's birthday. I was having a hard day and I said things I didn't mean. I'd really like to make it right. Could we get coffee on Saturday?
— Sam
This is a private message delivered by a private message relay service. Reply to this email to answer; your reply goes only to them. Stop all messages like this · Block this sender · Report a problem
Today the sending address ends in @messagemediator.com, and the reply address and the stop/block/report links also use messagemediator.com. Someone who looks closely at the address can tell which service delivered it.
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A plain personal email: your words, your name and a private reply link.
Text message
Comes from our registered texting number, never yours. Your number stays hidden.
US carrier rules (A2P 10DLC and CTIA guidelines) require opt-out instructions and can require the service to identify itself, so a text is never "traceless": the recipient can tell it came through a messaging service.
Comes from our WhatsApp Business account, never your own number. Your number stays hidden.
The business display name is always visible in WhatsApp, so the recipient can see the message came through a business messaging account.
Discreet is never a way to hide from the law: threats, harassment and stalking are blocked and kept with the sender's details. Privacy · Safety rules
Safe for both sides.
- Encrypted history. Private chats between members are end-to-end encrypted.
- You stay in control. Nothing is sent without you. Export or delete it all.
- Threats never get through. Recipients can block, report or opt out in one tap.
- Honest AI. AI-edited text is always labelled.
Every feature, in one place
All 44 things MessageMediator does today, including the new Daily Assistant & Planner.
Most popular
Write better
Understand replies
Plan your day
Private and safe
Family and life
Channels & plans
See all 44 features
Write better 8
Understand replies 8
Plan your day 9
Private and safe 7
Family and life 4
Channels & plans 8
Status, limits and help for each one: All features. Text messages and WhatsApp are built and switch on once their providers approve us.
Daily Assistant & Planner
Your day and to-dos with reminders. Type "Remind me to call Mom at 5" or "Plan my Saturday" and it is done.
Open the PlannerStart free. Upgrade when you need more.
Free credits every month for calm reviews and rewrites, and 5 free emails a month. Plans add texting, more credits and deeper reviews.
Good to know
Can MessageMediator remind me of things and plan my day?
Yes. Planner keeps your to-dos and events with on-time reminders. Type plain words like "Remind me to call Mom at 5".
What are the intelligence levels?
Clear is a fast check on Claude Haiku (free for a limited time). Insight and Diplomat use Claude Sonnet for deeper, multi-perspective help. Strategist uses Claude Opus for high-stakes and multi-party matters. Each level uses a different number of credits.
What if I am in crisis?
If a message mentions suicide or self-harm, MessageMediator shows support first: call or text 988 in the US or Canada, 800 911 2000 in Mexico, 116 123 in the UK and Ireland, or your local emergency number (findahelpline.com lists lines worldwide). You can still reach out to the person you are writing to.
What is a mediation room?
A shared space you invite the other person (or up to 7 people) into. They see the ground rules and exactly what the neutral AI facilitator can see before they join. Posts are reviewed, private notes stay private, and the facilitator summarizes agreed facts and open issues and drafts an agreement that is only final when everyone approves. Anyone can leave at any time.
What does it cost?
Free accounts get 15 credits a month for Clear reviews (free for a limited time) and cannot send. Plus and Pro plans include monthly credits and sending, with two months free on yearly billing; Business is per seat. Credit packs and pay-as-you-go top-ups cover AI, read-aloud, voice notes and photo or video checks.
See more examples22 before-and-after messages, from rude texts to tough work emails
See what MessageMediator can do
22 examples, before and after. Examples (fictional)
A rude text, mediated
You NEVER answer. Typical. Don't bother showing up Saturday.
I haven't heard back and I'm frustrated. Are you still coming Saturday? Please let me know by Thursday.
Flags blame and threats, keeps your point, adds a cool-down if you are heated.
A long rambling text, organized
ok so about the move, the truck is booked for the 14th but i'm not sure about the deposit, it was $450 right? also can you bring the boxes from your place and do you still want the couch or should i sell it, oh and mom asked if sunday works for dinner
Questions for you: 1. Was the deposit $450? 2. Can you bring the boxes? 3. Keep the couch or sell it? 4. Does Sunday work for dinner with Mom? Dates: truck on the 14th. Amount: $450.
Every question listed and linked to the exact words, so nothing is missed.
A curt reply, softened (and labelled)
No. Send the file today.
Hi, that won't work for me, could you please send the file today? Thanks. [Tap to see the original]
Meaning unchanged; the original is one tap away. Threats are never softened.
A draft, polished and concise
hey so i just wanted to say that i think we should maybe meet at like 3 on friday if thats ok, i will bring the contract
Can we meet at 3 on Friday? I will bring the contract.
Numbers, dates, names and promises are checked by code; nothing new is added.
Another language, both ways (voice note too)
"Hola, ¿puedes recoger a los niños a las cinco? Llego tarde del trabajo."
Hi, can you pick up the kids at five? I'm running late from work. Reply in English; they read it in Spanish.
Transcribe, translate, reply, and send your answer in their language.
A screenshot, deciphered
[images of a WhatsApp thread, overlapping]
Ana (Mon 9:41): Rent is due Friday. You: I sent my half. Ana: Not received yet. -> Open question: did the transfer go through?
Who said what, in order, overlaps removed, ready to summarize or reply.
Send anonymously, get the reply back
Hi, your dog got out again; he is safe in our yard.
Oh no, thank you so much! I'll be right over.
A neutral name and a plain message; replies come back to you. Threats are never anonymous.
Every conversation in one inbox
WhatsApp export, Android texts, iPhone texts, Telegram, email, screenshots
Urgent (1) · Family (6) · Work (4) · Bills (2) · Personal (9), searchable, with summaries.
Import your history; duplicates are skipped.
Scheduled message, auto-reply and vacation mode
Send "Happy birthday, Dad!" on June 3 at 8:00 (his time zone). Vacation mode until the 20th.
It sends at 8:00 his time. People who write to you get your away note; VIP contacts still reach you.
Sends later, never back-dated. Arriving in the next update.
Never leave someone hanging
Ana asked about the deposit on Monday. You meant to answer...
Push: “You haven’t replied to Ana in 2 days.” Reply, snooze until tonight, or tap a suggested reply: “Yes, I sent it Friday.”
Follow-up reminders, reply later, Waiting on lists, gentle nudges you approve, a daily catch-up, and notifications even when the app is closed.
Talk your grocery list. Get a real list.
"Milk, eggs, two litres of oat milk, bananas... oh and call Mom Thursday."
Groceries, by aisle. Dairy and eggs: milk, eggs, oat milk (2 L). Produce: bananas. Added to your open list, duplicates merged. Organizer: Call Mom, Thursday 9:00.
Mixed memos are split. The recording is discarded after it is transcribed; the text is encrypted. Share the list with family and check it off in the store.
Bring your contacts, some or all
Android: pick from your phone. iPhone: share contacts as a vCard. Computer: Google or Outlook CSV.
312 found, 9 duplicates merged, numbers fixed to +1 / +52 / +44. You tick who to import. Nobody is messaged.
Encrypted like your messages; delete all imported contacts in one tap.
Block and delete
A number keeps texting you.
Silent block on every channel. Delete the thread and it is really removed from our servers.
Threat records follow the legal hold.
A video call with an AI mediator
Raised voices about the holiday schedule.
"Let's pause for a moment. Can each of you say what matters most about the 24th?" Summary and agreements at the end.
No AI listening or recording without everyone's consent. Full video opens when our video service is connected.
Workplace and HR conflict
Since you obviously can't manage a schedule, I'm done covering your shifts.
I've covered three extra shifts this month and can't take more. Can we set a fair rotation by Friday?
Facts and asks stay; blame goes.
Landlord and tenant
The heat has been broken for a WEEK. Fix it or I'm not paying rent.
The heat has been out since Oct 7. Please arrange a repair by Thursday; I'd like to confirm the date in writing.
No legal conclusions; it suggests professionals when needed.
Customer service
Your company is a joke. Third time asking for my refund!!!
This is my third request for the $89.00 refund on order 4471. Can you confirm when it will be processed?
Order numbers and amounts are preserved exactly.
Dating and boundaries
why aren't you answering?? hello??? ok whatever
You've sent 3 messages without a reply. Give it some space; we'll remind you tomorrow if you still want to write.
Respect, consent and no pressure, ever.
Family and siblings
Of course you forgot Mom's birthday again. Classic.
Mom's birthday is Sunday. Want to split a gift and call her together in the morning?
Turns a jab into a plan.
Roommates
The kitchen is DISGUSTING. Clean your stuff.
Could we each clean our own dishes the same day? A quick rota on the fridge might help.
Neighbours
Your music at 1am is unacceptable. Next time I call the cops.
The music was loud around 1 am last night and woke the baby. Could you keep it down after 11 on weeknights?
Business negotiation
That price is insane, nobody would pay that.
At $12,000 we're above budget. Could you do $10,500 with net-30 terms if we sign this month?
Strategist mode suggests options, not pressure.
Co-parenting (one of many)
You ALWAYS do this. If you're late again you can forget about seeing them.
Pickup was late again and it's hard on everyone. Can we agree on 5:00 pm sharp this Friday?
Schedules, expenses and court-friendly records in the co-parenting desk.
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