My Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is 81!

Your emotional quotient

This quotient shows how you use emotions in life. This number considers various sides of the emotional intelligence: your thoughts about oneself, other people, your abilities for communication, what do you think about life and search for harmony.

Your level of emotional intelligence is the same as most of the people have. You are right in the middle and this isn't bad! You are good in understanding other people and successful in controlling your emotions, but you can do better. Continue to work on display of your emotions, pay attention to their physical symptoms, to your mood and spirituality (our emotion born from non-verbal experience); listen to others and try to understand them (their emotions allow you to learn about oneself). At last, be tolerant to yourself, because a constant war with your inner ego give birth to many negative emotions.

Self-management (Internal EQ)

Our emotions are the expression of the most inner part of our essence. If we disregard or neglect them, they still find their way out but in a distorted form. In this case we'll act in affection instead of using them deliberately. We need to be able to recognize and control them in order to not allow negative emotions to take control over ourselves.

Your emotions only cause troubles for you. You often suppress them, or you blow up. You don't understand them well, don't consider them or take them into an account only when it is too late and they went out of control. You put up with negative emotions for too long; sometimes they will force you not to do oneself any favors (be sulky, quarrel, become unsociable). Try to pay more attention to your emotions and do it in time. Take them as an alarm signal: they indicate you that you need to do something.

Social awareness (Social EQ)

Our emotions influence our relationships with other people: this is also true for our ability to understand them (to listen and to express sympathy), and our ability to react and communicate. Some researchers believe that the basic function of emotions is to be a quick and reliable non-verbal communication channel. Most of our emotions are really born from social contacts; you can make it sure by remembering what caused strong emotions for you last time: anger, happiness, sadness, shame, etc.

You are able to use your emotions with other people fruitfully. First of all, you can listen (you feel and understand emotional state of other people). Secondly, you are a master in relationship building: you can express anything you would like to tell, and don't hurt anyone feeling in progress. From the other hand, your expressions always consider individual personality of other people, which makes your expressions even more convincing. This is true for the case of emotional positives (tenderness, compliments, etc), and for the case of negatives (criticism, disagreements, etc). You can carry your point and bring it to the notice of others. And you can't be pushed out of balanced because other side doesn't agree with your points of view.

Life management (Existentional EQ)

The place we assign to emotions in day-to-day life influences our way of existence in this world. What aims do we follow? What priorities have we defined? How do we care about oneselves? What place we assign to intuition, creativity, and spontaneity? From this perspective, emotional intelligence is important when making decisions and deciding what is needed to raise a quality of our life.

You tend to sacrifice your own feelings in favor to everything else: your family, work, liabilities, with no idea why you are doing it... You don't know how to perceive and respect those of your needs, that are neither material nor rational benefits. This leads to a vulnerability to stress, frustrations, existentional torments and fits of fatigue. How about you start spending more time for yourself? You should consider your emotional needs when making decisions: don't subject to stress, don't go too far from your aims, goals and hopes. Less knowledge - more perception, less control - more spontaneity, less planning - more improvisation! Give more efforts and energy to the quality of your life, and you'll see that in long-term outlook this won't harm your success in any way.

My temperament is Phlegmatic!

Your results show that you are a phlegmatic person!

Positive traits: Calm, quiet, easygoing, dependable, objective, diplomatic, efficient, organized, practical, humorous.

Negative traits: Unmotivated, procrastinator, selfish, stingy, self-protective, indecisive, fearful, worrier.

The Phlegmatic is an introverted, calm, easygoing, never-get-upset person. They are best characterized by the words "easy going". He is the steady person who is not easily disturbed. He is the easiest temperament type to get along with. Life for him is happy, unexcited and calm. The Phlegmatic is more an observer and does not involve himself in the activities of others. Phlegmatics make excellent teachers, counselors and administrators. They are very dependable and organized and, while they never volunteer, they make good group leaders. The Phlegmatic communicates a warm, sincere interest in others preferring to have just a few close friends. They will be very loyal to their friends and find it difficult to break long standing relationships regardless of what the other person does.

The weakness of a phlegmatic include lack of motivation or even laziness; they appear to lack drive and ambition. The phlegmatic is self-protective and may be selfish. He is often very stubborn, though it is hidden beneath his mild-mannered style. The Phlegmatic tends to resist change of any kind without reason, other than they just do not want the change to occur. Phlegmatics show little emotion and are prone to be a grudge holder. Phlegmatics tend to avoid conflict and making decisions of any kind.

They live a quiet, routine, life, free of the normal anxieties and stresses of the other temperaments. The Phlegmatic will avoid getting too involved with people and life in general. Phlegmatics are persistent and consistent at whatever they undertake. This temperament is associated with the season of winter, and element of water.