The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why by Amanda Ripley
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
This is a pretty interesting book with lots of case studies about how people behave during disasters; Ripley clearly did a lot of research! I thought it got a little less interesting as it went, but I still learned a lot and would recommend it!
One of the major things I learned is that in disasters, the popular conception is that people will panic. This is true in some cases (although a lot of crowds won’t tolerate irrational panic behavior), but it’s actually more common for people to sort of freeze up and become quiet and docile. (a theory is that this is evolved behavior for prey that maybe predators won’t want to eat you if it looks like you’re weak or sick!) I think just knowing this may help, but if you’re in a disaster and you do have your wits about you, you can try to help people snap out of this state by doing something drastic like yelling at them. (pg 14)
Another big thing (that I was mostly aware of) is that realistic drills save lives. Because of the above effect, the more thinking one has to do to get to a safe place, the less likely that is to happen. But if you’ve been in a realistic fire drill and know which stairwell to go to, etc, this is much easier to overcome. In my mind this is similar to what airline pilots do when faced with an emergency – for certain extreme situations there are memory items that they have to have memorized that are a short series of steps for what to do. And they’re required to practice them in the simulator every so often to boot, so when something scary happens and the adrenaline is flowing, they can fall back on the few steps they need to do to keep things from getting out of control. (I say “in my mind” because I’m not an airline pilot, I just read a lot about aviation!) (pg 287-296)
Other interesting parts:
– In most disasters, most rescues are done by ordinary people and not first responders. I was a bit surprised by this, but it makes sense; it takes times for first responders to get to a site and undoubtedly there are some people there already. (pg xxix)
– Ripley defines the “survival arc” as having three phases: denial, deliberation, and the decisive moment (and structured the book around these) (pg xxxvii)
– The evacuation after the 1993 World Trade Center bombing was a fiasco; there were still people in the building ten hours after the explosion! (pg 4)
– The number of people in the World Trade Center on 9/11 was artificially low because it was the same day as the New York City mayoral election and it was the first day of school and the visiting platform (and the New York Stock Exchange, which was relevant to the many stock traders who worked there) doesn’t open until 9:30. The evacuation on 9/11 was also slow (although not as bad as in 1993), and the estimate is that if the building was full five times as many people would have been killed. (pg 13)
– When Hurricane Katrina hit New Orleans in 2005, the victims were disproportionately old. Of course, being old does make it harder to evacuate, but Ripley’s claim is that this is more due to the fact that older people had been through storms before that weren’t so catastrophic and didn’t take it seriously enough. (a survey after the fact of people who didn’t evacuate showed that around half could have found a way to if they had really wanted to) (pg 34)
– Ripley has an “equation” for what kinds of things we fear; something like “Risk = Probability * Consequence * Dread/Optimism”, and “Dread = Uncontrollability + Unfamiliarity + Imaginability + Suffering + Scale of Destruction + Unfairness” (pg 41)
– I had read this before, but it’s still striking that the reduced amount of air travel and corresponding increase in driving in the two years after 9/11 killed ~2300 Americans. Our brains are just not very good at risk! (pg 42)
– People in extreme situations often feel like time is slowing down for them. But a careful study revealed that they can’t actually read a special digital watch that displays numbers faster than normal; instead, the theory is that trauma makes such an impression on your brain that your memories are “recorded” in such a detailed way that it feels like slow motion. (pg 113)
– During Hurricane Katrina, the Coast Guard rescued thirty-four thousand people without waiting for orders from anyone! (pg 287)
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Life advice from a 43 year old, in a 14-point list!
Is 43 too young to be giving life advice? I’m honestly not sure, but here are some things I’ve learned that have helped me. Maybe they’ll help you!
General advice
- Maybe you’re just tired? – A piece of parenting advice is that kids are often cranky because of HALT: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired. This is true, and I’ve found that the T affects me a lot! About half an hour before my usual bedtime I often start to feel depressed and a deep sense of ennui. Knowing what’s going on doesn’t stop the feelings, but it does mean I can not take them too seriously, and get off my butt and get ready for bed. (I also have great difficulty making any sort of decision when I’m tired, which is another sign I’ve learned to recognize!)
- Do the best you can but accept you’re gonna fail sometimes – I try to do this in all aspects of my life. It’s easy to either beat yourself up over every little mistake, or swing too far the other way and just give up entirely. I don’t really have any useful advice on how to do this, though!
- Take a break when you’re stuck – This past year at work I’ve been working on some hard problems, and there gets to be a point when I can tell I’m really stuck and trying to just grind through. Occasionally this does work, but most of the time I just exhaust myself. Nearly every time taking a walk to clear my head gets me unstuck! (sometimes this requires setting aside the problem for the day and coming back tomorrow, which works even better!)
- If you’re feeling down, maybe do a chore? – YMMV but if I’m feeling down (but not too bad!) I often try to do a task from my to-do list. Best case I feel a bit accomplished, and I know that when I’m feeling better I can do something I enjoy instead of said task.
- Don’t wait for big life changing things, instead make the best of what you have now – It’s easy to get into the trap of “oh, my life will be so much better when I score that promotion/get that raise/buy that boat”. And most of the time it’s just…not? And then you’ve sort of wasted time and now you have to chase the next big thing that will vastly improve your life. So I try to make sure I’m enjoying the now and not just looking toward what’s next. (the tricky part is that there are exceptions to this; see point 13 below!)
- Assume the best from others who do you wrong – When someone cuts me off in traffic, I try to imagine that maybe they’re in a big hurry to get to the hospital or to see their kid’s play. Obviously a lot of the time this is not true, but it’s a good reminder that there are more important things going on around me than whatever I’m doing, and helps me not get upset at something dumb.
- You don’t have to be productive all the time – Give yourself permission to just relax sometimes and not be productive. (or worry that you’re not being productive) I am, uh, not good at this!
- Some problems can be put off – the trick is figuring out which can be put off and which will get worse if you put them off. I don’t have any advice here, sadly!
- When traveling, pack boxers and sleep pants regardless of weather – You never know what temperature the place you’re sleeping will be! (this is my golden rule of travel, far inferior to my grandpa’s “never back up in the car more than you have to” and my grandma’s “when traveling, always use the bathroom when it’s available”)
Kid advice
- Kids change your life – Obvious statement, I know, but I wish I had realized just how much my life was going to change. I wouldn’t have changed anything but I think it would have made things a little easier!
- If you’re going to say yes to your kid about something, try not to be grumpy about it – A common pattern I find myself in is that my kid will ask me for something, and I’ll be torn about whether to allow it or not, and then I’ll grudgingly say yes and maybe even be a little snarky. I don’t think this is good; it’s OK to say yes or no, but “saying yes but making the kid feel guilty about it” probably isn’t optimal for anyone? (to be clear, I am extremely bad at this and am working on it!)
- Two weeks of paternity leave is not enough – Fun story: when our first kid was born, we both got two weeks of paternity leave (which wasn’t even extra! you had to use your sick leave!), so until the kid was old enough to go to daycare whenever I wasn’t taking care of the baby I was working, and same for David. Then we did it again for the second kid. I am still bitter about this!
Relationship advice
- Long distance relationships are really tough – David and I dated for three years living in different cities. It sucked! It seemed like things would be so much better once we didn’t have to talk on the phone or instant message to keep in touch. (this was before video calls, kids!) And you know what? They were! (but see the next point)
- Living with someone is very different than just dating them! – Moving in together is a huge adjustment. Be prepared for that. (this is why I think it’s a bad idea to get married before moving in together, although I realize opinions differ here)
Danger and Other Unknown Risks review – very enjoyable graphic novel!
Danger and Other Unknown Risks by Ryan North
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
All else being equal, I’m not a big fan of graphic novels – I often find it hard to tell what’s going on. I’m not sure if I’m just bad at it, or if I get impatient and don’t spend enough time looking at the pictures.
Anyway, for about the first third of this book I only had a vague idea what was going on and was very much not invested. Thankfully, after that something clicked and I really enjoyed the rest of it!
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Do Aliens Speak Physics?: And Other Questions about Science and the Nature of Reality review
Do Aliens Speak Physics?: And Other Questions about Science and the Nature of Reality by Daniel Whiteson
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
An interesting book that points out that the traditional ideas of how to communicate with aliens (just start with prime numbers and work your way up!) may not work because aliens may think so differently than we do. I started the book not terribly convinced about this but by the end I was willing to concede that the authors had a point.
Having said that, I felt like the book was too long, and a lot of the jokes seemed pretty tacked on. (maybe I was just in a grumpy mood though!)
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