absentee and uber-busy husband – okay, I have to admit this is my main bone of contention. Since the start of the house project, my husband just disappeared in my peripheral vision. The house construction have consumed all his time and energy and it just drives me crazy. On the other hand, although I don’t see him that much nor I can’t count much of his support when it comes to child-caring and rearing nowadays, I know it won’t be forever. He won’t have the time for us now but at least I know that what he is doing is for us – his family. At least he is not busy in ‘some other hanky panky way’.
+ clingy, demanding, whiny, attention-deprived child – mainly, a by-product of having an absentee daddy. FirstPrincess also had to deal with the transition from daycare to kindergarten and having a new addition in the family which competes for attention and care. Right now, her life is in topsy-turvy. The only thing that she can get a super-attention from her mommy and daddy is to have a full-blown tantrum regardless of time and place. On the other hand, after all the drama, she still ends up sweet and loving girl to us. She can be territorial with her toys and overly-jealous with the attention that her baby sister gets, but she doesn’t take it out on her. She is very loving and caring with her baby sister and always willing to give a helping hand to her overly-harrassed mom.
+ sleep-challenged baby – since we arrived from Ch1na, our baby hasn’t sleep straight through the night. She’ll wake up several times and if I’m not there sleeping beside her, she’ll go ballistic and won’t stop until I cuddle her. I think I only sleeps an average of two hours before being wake up by her wailings. On the other hand, while her sleeping pattern drives me nuts, when she wakes up in the morning, she gives this unbelievable smile which seems to say, ‘I’m so happy to see your face, Mommy’. Her cuteness and gentle demeanor compensates the endless battle of getting her to sleep longer.
Having two kids is an awesome responsibility. It is a challenge to balance time, care and affection between the two. However, in my lucid moments, I wouldn’t exchange it for all the money in the world. Just holding my babies (specially when they are sleeping) reminds me of heaven. I am fortunate enough to be given this opportunity to nurture them. I know that countless of women would like to be in my shoes hoping to be called ‘Mommy’ and countless of grieving moms would rather hold a screaming child than dealing with empty arms.
+ unfinished dream house – Constructing a customized house is a lot of work! So many details, so many decisions and so much work. Self-contracting and doing it yourself is sanity buster. I’m amazed that our marriage is still intact. Blood (just a little scratch here and there), sweat (from hubby) and tears (from me) were poured on this house. On the other hand, the end product will be worth it. As we move in next month, I hope our laughters will eradicate all the pains that ensued while constructing it.
+ messy house – what can I say. Show me a house with kids that is clean. I’m sure there is a cleaning lady lurking behind the sofa ever ready to pick up toys from the floor. As for our house, ain’t gonna happen. I just hope it won’t be the same arrangement in the new house. On the other hand, clean or not, I’m glad that our house is sold and not foreclosed.
+ looming house move (in 2 weeks time) – this would be my fifth move since I migrated here. We hired a moving company to haul off our major stuff but the bulk of packing and unpacking rest on my shoulders. Good thing, I got help from my sisters and brother-in-law when they came for a visit last holiday. On the other hand, I can’t wait to start anew. It is a lot of work but this is the best time to purge and to shop for new stuff.
+ bitterly cold weather – Nowadays, the average temp is – 20. Being outside for ten minutes is the maximum I can tolerate. I have nothing really positive to say about the extreme frigid temperature. Would I prefer this than the searing heat of summer? Either way, extreme temperature sucks. Well, at least, there is Spring to look forward to. Anyhow, I’m fortunate that I don’t need to go out and work in this glacial place.
+ raging PMS – hell hath no fury like a woman in PMS. Positive thing to say about this? Are you kidding me?! Enough said.
So anyway, I’m fine today. Just don’t let me go outside. I’m happy in my cocoon.
Life is still good. 😀