This is a message for single men that are tired of online dating.
Guys, if you’re frustrated with online dating… I have some advice.
Delete your dating apps and start going out every single day.
You need to go to the gym, go to the grocery store, or go work from cafes.
You need to try a new group fitness class every other day, go to yoga and pilates, and join meetups for things you’re interested in.
Be someone who is out and about.
Talk to strangers, make friendly conversation, add value, and don’t be sketchy.
Find fun things happening in town that you can invite people to.
I guess that’s pretty complicated so try this for now:
Start saying yes to every single invitation that you get.
What you want as a single guy- and this is key- is IRL surface area.
You want to get out of your home and off your phone so that you improve your odds to meet someone special in real life.
That’s what I am calling your IRL surface area.
I knew I needed this IRL surface area because I do bad on dating apps.
See, I’m not 6-feet tall and I don’t have a chiseled jaw.
But I do feel comfortable talking to strangers.
I met my girlfriend at the pool on a hot summer Tuesday evening.
My friend Katelyn invited me to come hang out with her and her friends.
I was busy with work and I didn’t want to go, but thank God I did.
I went to the pool that day because I wanted to say Yes to everything that would help me find a girlfriend.
- Sitting at home doing work = No
- Going to Barton Springs Pool = Yes
Lauren was sitting up on the hill reading a book. I mustered up the courage to go chat, but that’s another story.
For now, I’m telling you that you should just go out. Every day.
Make it a challenge if you want: Go out every day for 10 days straight starting tomorrow.
Try new restaurants, coffee shops, and all the things I said above.
Just start talking to people and doing the things that the person you want to date might do too.
You can find a girlfriend if you get more IRL surface area.
Good women are out there. You just have to put in the work.
THE END
Originally posted on my X / Twitter.
Hi from Nick! I’m engaged now. Read my full article on what I did. I even write about how I changed my mental models on dating, why I love the woman I’m going to marry, and what comes next.
