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[20 Jul 2006|01:40pm]
So buying Tom Waits tickets was a brutal failure. I showed up at Kroger at a quarter to 10 and everything was being set up beautifully, the girl was ready to go the second they went on sale, but what's this? "I can't find any tickets, what's going on!" and for 15 minutes is baffled until a coworker passing by says, "You're not finding tickets 'cause it says right here they're only available online or by phone through Ticketmaster." Fuck.

I get home at 20 after and am on the phone with ticketmaster whilst searching online and at that point there are no longer ANY TWO SEATS NEXT TO EACH OTHER. I needed 3 and there was a 2 ticket minimum...I wasn't particularly worried about us all sitting together, that's just indicative of how quickly these tickets were selling. I find one too far back online and buy another much further back through the automated system on the phone. I go to get my third online....no more tickets available.

I'm being relied upon to have these 3 tickets, so I call to speak to a representative while researching/refreshing the page every 20 seconds during the half hour I'm on hold. Finally one seat pops up deep in the theatre's asshole, very last row very last seat on right. A human answers my call at that moment and informs me that tickets are completely sold out, so I buy the worst seat in the house for $75.

Couldn't have been more of a failure and I tried so hard. *L* I'm keeping my eyes peeled on ebay; that'll be a couple hundred I don't have.

In good news I went roller skating for the first time in probably 10 years the other night. Man, I am awesome! *L* No, I really blew at first, but I want to be a roller girl next year if they'll have me, and I figured all I had to do was learn how to skate and learn how to be better than everyone else at it in under a year, so this was an important initiation for me. *L* At least I never fell, and I must say, I felt very comfortable going faster and faster despite my lack of experience. I guess it would be pretty bad to fall at that speed, but I'm trying to come to terms with getting broken limbs. I don't mind pain...it goes away and even the worst pain is tolerable; I don't really consider pain something to get all worked up over. But imagining the actual effects on my body makes me uneasy. What I mean is that were I to break a bone, I wouldn't be able to stop myself from thinking in detail about the muscle, tissue, nerves, etc. that were damaged, ripped by splintering or broken bone and although I know it'd probably heal alright, the idea of shit all messed up would make me...I don't know, uneasy is the only word I can think. Like leaving a splinter in...it's not really a big deal, it'll work it's way out, you just have to watch for infection...but I would rather dig a hole in my flesh than leave a splinter or something untended. I just prefer it resolved. *L*
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AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!! [07 Jul 2006|03:05pm]
I just spent all this time bitching about no good shows coming to town, and I just now learned.......

Tom Waits is coming to Akron!!!!

Tom Waits is at the very top of my list of people I would like to see. I didn't know if he would ever be touring again.

But now I have a dilemma. I want close...buying tickets to shows now is a hassle that reams you up the ass 7 ways. There's no way to ensure you can get good seats anymore, 'cause showing up early to buy gets you nothing but the second best crop of seats. The best are bought up by independent sellers these days. But I'm afraid to risk waiting for the good seats to show up and paying $900 or ending up without seats at all. Is there a good way to do this, is there a trick to it? Do I just buy the best seats I can, wait for better seats to show up on ebay or through Dream Seats or some crap like that and then sell mine? That sounds like a serious pain in the ass. I haven't been to many big buy-your-tickets-from-Ticketmaster shows lately and I got Screwed with NIN. And even though I get the system now, I feel like I haven't got a good way around it.
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[28 Jun 2006|03:14pm]
So I saw Nine Inch Nails tonight with Bauhaus and Peaches. It was a great time, but there was a serious aftertaste of disappointment. In fact, even during the show I was kind of in this limbo between excitement and being aware of how much better it could be, how much better it was before.

A lot of it had to do with the fact it was at the Polaris ampitheater. Peaches puts on a fucking awesome show, but it's not quite the same watching in broad daylight. Also, I'm not used to not being able to get close, get right up front. That personal and physically taxing aspect is part of what makes the whole thing so great.

And the main act, they sounded great, everything was perfect. Except me in seats 'cause the lawn is further away. Me watching this little area roped off up front where people could actually stand in front of the stage and go wild, the area I could not get into. I never really moshed, but being in a sea of people fighting towards the stage, holding your place as long as you can...that last show demolished me, and I was happier for it. The alternative was tonight...a weak imitation of the experience I had years ago.

But he played his older stuff and I was totally into it. I had a great time. But you know, I kept a hairstyle the whole night. *L* I mean, going to a show used to mean wear your steel-toed boots and a shirt you don't mind being destroyed. You will be drenched in your sweat, the sweat of others, beer, what have you, you will not be able to hear and your ears will ring for days and you will barely be able to talk because you've screamed yourself hoarse.

I mean, the last show I went to in a big arena before this, during the slow song, people held up their lit cell phones instead of lighters. Doesn't that feel a little strange? Used to be you could always go to Bernie's or some dive and find chaos and a pretty good show. Now even the craziest show I've been too returns and everyone sways or dances in their only personal space and I come home undamaged. I will be wide awake for a few hours, and I did have a hell of a time. It's just enought to make you think and to make you really miss it.
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[24 Jun 2006|04:41pm]
It's been a year and a half since I posted anything. It's funny to see that only recently has there been any resolution to the problem I spoke of such a time ago. It just goes to show that hope alone can take you a long way. And some would say waste a lot of time considering the outcome, but I'm not really worried about that. A hard lesson to learn is that something great can fail even when it feels right. But it's probably not a failure that we're better off as friends.

This past week or two has changed a lot for me. I'm reconnecting with a lot of things that used to be a part of me. But I'm different in a lot of ways now, so it all feels somewhat new. I do find myself very nostalgic, or I probably would not have bothered writing anything at all. I just remember when I used to. And it's probably good to be reflective when on the cusp of new things. And introspective.
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[14 Nov 2004|02:40pm]
I talk too much and he barely talks at all. I tend to mention even the little things almost all the time, because I think little things in excess can form together into big things, big things that are all the stronger because of the time they've had to sit in silence, remain unchallanged, and therefore grow in resoluteness.

He thinks I'm nit-picky and melodramatic. But I'm passionate and interested in everything. Or at least I was. It used to be that I could defend everything about myself with confidence. I think his opinion of me has started to have an effect on the way I feel about myself though.

I am loud, open, honest, blunt. I say fuck some 300 times a day, and probably only twice a month out of anger. I am not an old-fashioned girl.

But he doesn't understand who I am. I've had this problem with innumerable people that I've met in my life, I just didn't expect to have this problem with him. I ask hard questions about his ideas and ideals, and he sees it as my calling them stupid. His family never questioned one another he said. If someone brought a piece of information to the table, they all just said, "Oh really, that's interesting."

In my family, you show respect by challenging one another. If my father challenges me to defend my opinions and beliefs, I know that he respects and loves me enough to believe I'm intelligent enough to have thought about what I said before I said it. If I mention a statistic, he wants to know where I heard it. We try to trip each other up, but end up laughing because he's too smart for me and I'm too smart for him.

I get that kind of thing. I get not being the same and respecting and loving one another none-the-less. But I do not feel gotten here. I hurt his feelings when I talk about certain things, even though, to me it should be a painless conversation. I offend him when I challenge his beliefs, when I only feel like I'm learning more about the way he thinks. I understand perfectly that I am of a minority. Few people are as bold and brash as I am when they're neither angry nor competitive. But I like the passion, I like the life, I like to be challenged, I like to be told I'm wrong and then to have someone try to prove it to me. I like to play like that and in the end, if I'm wrong, I love that I learned it 'cause I'll be right next time.

And similarly I want to tell him something's bothering me if I think it's the symptom of a greater problem because I refuse to allow little things to destroy something big. But he's too defensive and can't talk with me. He feels guilty even though I don't accuse. I beg him to tell me my faults, to tell me if and how I hurt him, to not be afraid to tell me I'm being an asshole. But of course he never will.

Instead, if things continue this way I know he will grow to resent me. Because as hard as I try to get him to stand up to me, he keeps it all to himself and will eventually convince himself that I'm the oppressor.

But the problem is that he's already starting to convince ME. I try to be more gentle when I talk about things, and I end up feeling bad when he gets to feeling guilty because I think I made him feel that way. I start to see myself the way so many other people see me.

But this isn't supposed to be that way. He's supposed to understand me. I thought he used to, but maybe it just didn't matter to him back then. The problem is that I resent him for not understanding me anymore. I resent him for being offended by me when I do not mean to offend. I resent him for feeling guilty when there's no reason to. I even resent him for making me feel like a bad person because I make him feel guilty. I think, if he'd just grow some balls and stand up to me, he'd see that I don't get mad, I get delighted. He oppresses himself out of fear that I'd get angry with him if he challenged me, but then I end up feeling like an oppressor for speaking my mind at all.

It's like I'm a vegetarian and this big turkey comes up to me and kills itself because it expects I will kill it anyway. But I had no intention of eating the fucking thing, and furthermore, it's presumptions leave me with an almost unending supply of guilt because I wonder if I should have done more to show I was a vegetarian.

But it's not in my nature to soften blows or tell half-truths or remain silent about things that interest or bother me. It's not in my nature to NOT ask questions and it's not in my nature to accept all "facts" presented to me without a shadow of a doubt. I am happiest when someone keeps up with me, keeps at me, questions me, challenges me, and pulls at the frays should there be any on any of my beliefs. I want them to do it to learn who I am, I want them to do it because they're overwhelmed by my mind and in love with the way it works, I want them to do it because they know they'll have a rebuttle, I want them to be open to learning from me because they know I'm smart, and I want them to know how open I am to learning from them as well. This relationship as it is seems more master and servant and I never wanted that. But that doesn't change the reality of it, and I end up feeling responsible and overbearing either way.

It's not hard to see why I feel like I'm changing into not as good a person as I used to be. The man I love has a consistantly wrong and judgmental opinion of my character. I've spent years learning who he is...how could he be so wrong about me? I know in my heart he's just too quiet, too timid to speak his mind, and too afraid of losing me also. But that makes me feel like a bully, and when he puts himself below me it's like I'M putting him below me.

This is something that possibly cannot be fixed. I'm not sure how to believe that. I think this situation is a change from the way things were when this began. And all I want is the way things were.
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I picked the wrong day to give up smoking. [17 Sep 2004|12:48am]
But I've made it. I mean, it's 2 AM and I haven't had a cigarette in over 24 hours.

And that's an accomplishment. ?

Really it is strange, because it's not like I've never done that. In fact, I've gone WEEKS without cigarettes and I barely gave a shit. Two weeks ago I was on vacation and didn't smoke a cigarette for 4 days in a row because the air was too fucking delicious and I didn't want to ruin it for a moment.

But that's not the point. I can do it physically. Today, I know I mean to never smoke another cigarette again. When I don't FEEL like smoking, when I've decided not to, forget about it for a while, or have gone through oral surgery or something of the like, it's a different story. Nothing significant has changed. I've set no limits for myself. I can do it whenever I want to again and it doesn't matter.

No. The struggle is with both habit and desire. It's all mental for me. And frankly, knowing I will never smoke again makes me miss it already. I miss it like a lover who's just gotten on that plane to leave forever. *L* I think about all the great times we've had...after meals, after great sex. I remember how good she tasted with beer and how much she calmed me down after a long day at work. I remember chain-smoking habitually when enveloped in extremely good conversation, or perhaps miserable "hate to say it but it needs to be said" conversation.

Yes, I realize that I've had 9 years to learn when it's the perfect time for a perfect cigarette, and I've had 9 years to learn that a perfect cigarette definitely increases the perfection of a situation. *L*

And I must say, today was not the perfect day to quit smoking. Maybe I wouldn't have sent him away. Maybe I would have sat down, lit a cigarette, and worked up the balls to say all I wanted to say. Maybe I would have smoked twice as much as usual, chain-smoking as I explained everything that was going through my head about this brand new and devastating problem of ours. Maybe we could have talked it all out instead of my telling him I just didn't feel like talking about it and showing him the door.

But then again, perhaps today was the perfect day to quit smoking. I've never before told someone, "I don't much feel like talking about it," and showed them the door. I've always said everything that was on my mind. But maybe this time it was actually better to keep my mouth shut. I suppose that's possible. But honestly, in the end he does need to come to his own conclusion about all these things and I'd be afraid my emotions would affect that significantly. It would almost be irresponsible and selfish to bare my feelings for him now when he is teetering on the cusp and perhaps waiting for just such a breeze.

But of course it had nothing to do with the cigarettes. And it doesn't have anything to do with responsibility or selflessness or even a lack of balls. I'm just too tired. The day before yesterday I received possibly both the best and worst news of my life. But they were relatively intertwined. And I found that all the excitement and joy I should have felt for what I'd been waiting and hoping for for so long now was absolutely drowned out by the foreboding nature of our conflict. And absolutely, right now I feel as though this is affecting me much more than it it's affecting him. And perhaps I have too much pride to be more involved in this than he. Whatever the case, the only word that describes what I feel is just "tired." Almost bored with disappointment. Detached and somewhat defiant. I hate when I get like this because I know I tend to think less clearly. 'Cause when I get like this I feel like I'd rather end what he and I have now before having to face another problem. I can make myself not care whether I truly care or not, and that's the danger of my not feeling equal.
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[21 Mar 2004|03:36pm]
This isn't really related to anything. I was just thinking about something and it made me laugh to myself.

I can't lie anymore. If I try to, I'm transparent and I feel guilty. Even about the smallest things. When I was little it was easy as shit. I'm not the world's best actress, but I could pull anything off to my parents, and that shit could get complex. But I hit this time in high school where I decided I wanted to be a really really good person, and to me being a habitual liar is about the worst thing you can be. I was gonna be myself and be blantantly up front and honest with everyone, whether I knew them well or not. Ever since then it's become less about skill and more about conscience.

I got pulled over for speeding recently. Went to pay the ticket, but everyone had just left for the day. My parents kind of got on me about paying it after that, as I was late in doing so. After spending a day out with my boyfriend, my parents asked me if I paid the ticket. I kind of went "uuhhhhh....it's taken care of..." because I actually thought in my head "okay, that's not quite lying. I intend to do it tomorrow and at least I'm not outright saying I paid the thing." *L* My mom said, "Did you really?" Right away, "No." It didn't take a second. I just caved. Like a little kid. *L*

Later, when I actually went to pay the ticket I didn't know if I would face an extra charge because it was late. I said to myself, "Alright, just don't mention that it's late. Hand her the check and see what happens. Maybe she won't notice. Either way, don't mention it just in case." I tell the woman I have to pay a ticket and hand her the ticket along with my money. It's in her hand for two seconds and I blurt apologetically, "It's really late. I'm not sure if I have to pay more because of that...I could write another check." *L*
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Another damn movie! [07 Mar 2004|06:21pm]
Matt's back from Toledo for spring break and we're shooting our first actual film! 16mm!!!!!! It's pretty exciting; a much more complicated process than with a digital camera or anything of the like. Shots take 5X as long to set up: measure distance, adjust camera; consult light meter, adjust camera; needs a filter, needs more light (we actually have professional lights this time!! I mean, the sun gun is a beautiful thing, but it catches things on fire and is extremely uncomfortable to hold *smile*) only 10ft. of film left (each role only films 2 minutes!), tape up sides, wind it up, etc. Very fun!

We shot for 7 hours today. It was windy and cold as fuck. Incidentally, my part required me to wear a short skirt and short-sleeved top. I'm no good with cold weather. I shake like a fucking chihuahua. I had to harness every ounce of energy in my body to be still during takes (I found it especially challenging during the "eating ice cream outside scene *L* ...I'm serious--there was such a scene on this monster of a day). Anyway, it was fun as hell.
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WE HAVE INVADED THE INTERNET!!! [05 Oct 2003|05:59pm]
So one of our movies is finally on the web! How fucking exciting! This is our most recent movie, Melvin Conquers the Martians. It's pretty short, done for fun in about two days and really as a kind of last HUZZAH! before our director left for school in Toledo. If you wanna check it out, it's about 15 minutes long and can be found at http://www.rewindvideo.com/R2004/Movies.shtml
The picture looks really dark throughout, so it's hard to see some things as well, but it's still really cool to have it online. Too bad the blooper reel wasn't added...it's fucking hilarious. Anyway, if you're interested, check it out!
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Someone put feces on this poor man's pants. [22 Aug 2003|05:05am]
Tonight was a great night. And on the whole I'd say it's been a pretty good week. Which is amazing considering last week was one of the worst, and also acknowledging a certain incident today that made me scream obsenities while my co-worker was on the phone with my boss. I will elaborate.

It's just Ben and I at work in the old cleaners today and he brings a bag of pants back to me in the hole beneath the clothes racks where I have a tiny computer and do all the mark-ins. Nothing odd there. These pants are on a rush for tomorrow, so I empty out the bag and fondle the clothes hurriedly, as it is my job to do, checking pockets and safety-pinning tags and the like--checking for stains. My thumb grazes across something coarse. I look down. To my ABSOLUTE FUCKING HORROR there's FUCKING FECES on this man's pants. On the fucking OUTSIDE, CHUNKS, I'm telling you. About 5 sq. in. of this shit, dried but revolting none-the-less.

I'm normally a pretty calm person, don't get too bent out of shape, but I throw them to the ground and yell, "FUCK!" and punch a bagged group of laundered shirts which is the only punchable thing near me. It's human feces, for Christ's sake, but what's worse is being forced to believe in a man whose common decency is so nonexistant that he didn't even consider informing us about the biohazard he was leaving in our care--in our human hands.

Yeah, it's gotta be embarrassing--you shit yourself or sat in shit or had someone shit on you or slipped on shit and fell into a bucket full of shit or what-the-fuck-ever, but it's worse than fucking abominable to let people explore with their hands and discover it by surprise. If we had known, we would have gone about it differently without putting our hands on it, and frankly it's pretty much standard procedure--skidmarks, wear gloves, send through; chunks of fucking shit, tell 'em "sorry dude, you gotta take this home, scrape it off, and run that through the washer yo' DAMN self." It's apalling.

It's fine now, of course. I scrubbed my hands and Ben called the owner, who said he'd call ol' crap-ass in the morning and tell him to pick up his dirties, but I was livid, and that's rare. When customers came in, I was exceptionally pleasant to compensate for the boiling in my blood, but when they left, there was about a half hour where I'd sporadically punctuate the silence of that place with a screamed obsenity like I had Tourette's or something. Good times.

But yeah, other than my shitty (ha ha ha) day, it's been a good week. We saw Matt off to college in Toledo yesterday, which is wierd, 'cause I've seen him several times a week for some five years now, and I am gonna miss him. But, to be sure, he's gonna love being at college studying film, doing what he has a passion for. It was a really nice goodbye...very fond and a very fun night. And of course we're all gonna keep in touch.

And tonight Jon and I watched some Black Adder and then drove around for about three hours. If you were outside tonight you know it was the most perfect temperature...with the windows rolled down, the breeze felt excellent. We listened to good music at a high volume and talked about all kinds of shit and generally just had a great time. And to my delight there was some kind of distant storm going on. You know, the kind where the sky's completely black, but every once in a while there's that lightening that illuminates a section of the sky just enough for you to see the silhouette of the clouds. Really cool.

So yeah, it's been a pretty good week. Tomorrow we go to Mr. Harnack's to have a movie marathon in the theatre in his basement. I believe there will be some Texas Chainsaw Massacre and a number of other good horror films. He shows a lot of classics too, and it's really cool to see his film arsenal with canisters piled to the ceilings. Not to mention, it'll be cool to see Mr. Miller again, the kind of guy I think everyone hopes to be like when they're older, if they know what's good for them. Published author, horror movie fanatic, and just a really fun and youthful guy. I remember seeing him when I went to Lincoln, and it's funny how I never would have known he was anything other than your typical teacher. But Matt and Jon were in his film class, and I was always involved in the movies. Mr. Miller was incredibly supportive and always seemed so impressed with what we did. Matt and Jon really look up to him; he's kind of a mentor to them. But also, he's a friend to them, and it's nice to have someone like that in your life. I look forward to tomorrow. 1:00PM to 1:00AM. That's a whole lotta movies. We're gonna be drunk on film before the night's over and walking like our legs are wet spaghetti noodles.
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[02 Aug 2003|06:54pm]
It's been a long time since someone has so accurately judged how I'm feeling without my coming right out and saying it. But really, it just made me cry, 'cause things have been bad lately.

I'm sure they'll get better........
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Nothin' like a show [30 Jul 2003|03:10am]
I went and saw Gotham Rd. at Bernie's last night. What a show...standing there right in front of Michale Graves...there's something so incredible about a show. No shit, I know, I just mean that I am awed by musical talent to such a degree. I used to get so impatient with the opening bands, 'cause normally I don't like their style of music and I'm excited for the main band, but the past several shows I've been to, I just start watching someone with real talent. An incredible bassist or impressive drummer. It makes the time fly, and when they part the stage, you're left feeling at least respect. Well, last night there wasn't really anything incredible going on in the first band, just a lot of screaming, but I guess I could say they had hell-loads of lung power and probably ruin their throats every night. *smile* And frankly if you've ever heard or seen the Reacharounds, they don't have an ounce of fucking talent and the little annoying punk-rock prince who sings fakes a british accent so he can sound like the Sex Pistols (who are overrated anyway) and ruins Ramones songs. That's one band that makes me wanna claw my face off.

But I'm digressing. Standing there in front of Michale Graves or Danny Vapid or Evil Presley...vocal talent like that just floors me. I don't even know what I would have done with myself if I could have seen the Misfits play when Danzig was in the band. I probably would've been comatose for a week. But it's worth it. My ears are still ringing a little and I can't wait for the next show...maybe it'll be the Riverdales now that they're back in the saddle. Oooh, I'm excited.

And on a side note, I really hope Jon does something with his music soon, 'cause to me it's up there with all that stuff. I don't know if I'd tell him that, 'cause from someone he's close to it would probably sound like bullshit. But even last night, before sound turned fuzzy, I could hear him singing along, and he really has an amazing voice. It's been ages since I've heard his stuff, but I still find myself singing it in the shower sometimes, just like the Misfits or Blitzkid. It's nice to know he's still writing stuff though. And I know he'll do it someday. It would be awesome to see him up there.
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My parents [20 Jul 2003|01:59am]
I was doing the cryptoquote the other day and the solution was, "The best thing a father can do for his child is to love his mother." And I have to say that I feel really lucky for the happiness my parents find in each other. I feel like that's one area of my life that's always been great.

Many times my mom has told me how it was when she met my dad. My dad was a very tough guy. He grew up in a bad area, served in the Vietnam war, and later moved to Detroit for a couple of years. He was a pool shark and got in bar fights on a regular basis...a huge guy too. Kids in the neighborhood used to be afraid of him--they made up stories about him walking through the streets with brass knuckles on, just wanting to kill someone with his bare hands. Which was funny to me, 'cause he was just my daddy, you know? And really, I was just a daddy's girl. There's nothing he wouldn't do for me.

But anyway, my mom said that she went into this bar and was shooting some pool and shooting the shit with some people. She said my dad walked in and right away she knew he was the one for her. She spent the rest of the night flirting and shooting pool with him. The part she never told me about until recently is that that night they went out to her car and spent several hours just sitting and talking. The very next day he moved in with her. And now it's, what, thirty years later? When I wake up early as they're getting up for work, I hear them talking and laughing, teasing each other and talking about their problems. Every time we have dinner together or we're watching t.v. we're always laughing and having a good time. And their eyes still shine. I mean, they really just love one another. And they've had a million horrible things thrown their way, and have been in debt for as long as I can remember, but they still are HAPPY. That doesn't mean my dad doesn't work too much overtime and break his back or that my mom doesn't get stressed out when bill collectors call and sometimes start crying. What I mean to say is that as bad as things can get, they have each other. And they really can't be miserable with that kind of love in their lives.

Anyway, I was just thinking about that. So many people get married for the wrong reasons and so many people are getting divorced these days, I feel really lucky to have my parents still love each other so much that everyday they revel in it. A couple months ago when talking to me about the past, my dad said, "You know, Lisa, your mom was the best thing that ever happened to me." And my mom smiled so big.
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trash [10 Jun 2003|05:22am]
It's very early in the morning. Tonight I sleep on the couch 'cause we've been painting. Tomorrow I go to the film festival at Columbus State and see our movie on the big screen. I can hear birds chirping outside between songs, so I guess that means it's time for me to go to bed. But it's been a while since I've written and I guess I kind of feel like it.

I've been deep cleaning these past couple of weeks. It's quite a task. So far I think I've put out 5 or 6 trash bags full of things I don't need anymore. I used to be a pack rat. I couldn't throw anything away...shit, I have school work from middle school and a lot more from high school. Not anymore, anyway. And I've gotten rid of a lot of the shit I've accumulated over the years: bottles, candles, etc. I've gotten rid of furniture I don't particularly need. I've thrown out a lot of old poetry, which several years ago to me would have been a crime. Something about never wanting to forget how I felt about all those things I felt compelled to express. But hell, I don't need things right in front of my face to remember them. In fact, I think merely having written about them committed them to my memory sufficiently. I just feel like uncluttering my living space and frankly I've changed. There's a lot I don't need that I have. And there's something to be said about space. It's not that I was afraid to let certain things go, or maybe that is it, but it's been a while and I can't remember feeling that way. I just thought everything had the possibility to be useful in the future. And perhaps that's true, but it's not incentive enough for me to become one of those old ladies that has stacks of newspapers filling up the corners of her house. And less is more. What I need I have. Everything could burn and I'd be fine and that's the same for everyone. Material crap, that is. This house, someplace to live, the relationships I have with people, thoughts, memories, the present...those are the things I really need around. I think it's harder to live in the present or even for the future when you've got loads of shit from when you were younger. Things that were expressions of who you were, "were" being the operative word. I think that's why I never go in my room except to sleep. The basement is open, spacious...my room is stifling. There's too much junk. Or anyway, there WAS too much junk, but it's starting to look really great up there.
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feeling static [11 May 2003|03:18am]
This time when everyone seems to expect more from themselves...a time by which we've figured we should have it all figured. Is there pressure from this outside world where other people our age seem to have it so much more together, seem to be making something of themselves, have all those things society tells us we should have? And not all of those things are bad...security's not bad, and neither is accomplishment. What when you're like me and static with no money in the bank that doesn't belong to someone else? How do you progress? Not even any real direction just a long shot at something that might work as a career and is kind of worth it to try if only for a lack of anything better.

Static...everything's static, everyone feels static, and as for all these people who have it so together at our age...I'm not quite sure where or who they are 'cause everyone I've talked to lately's in the same boat. So maybe it's silly to feel pressure from that invisible standard. Then again, it's not so much the standard that presses...I guess it's that desire to DO something...to make change to accomodate the changes in your life. That's the problem. It seems you graduate from high school and you have this brief period of calm where you're okay with where you are and have faith that things are going to work out because they're supposed to. But then you kind of grow up. No matter how much you've grown already, there's this time where a feeling hits with a kind of urgency...realizing things like how you need to move out of your parents' house and begin your adult life which brings in the question of rent and bills and insurance and car payments if your piece of shit won't hold out.

In the bigger scheme of things, it doesn't have shit to do with happiness. I mean, it can be a hell of a distraction, but I know I'll always be happy if I have good people around and I'm able to maintain an appreciation for the things in life that really matter. But when you're static, it's not about material things, it's not about any imposed standard. It's a personal desire for progress and continued growth. To feel a purpose and to make something of yourself.

When things limit your ability to make progress, that urge to grow is kind of attacked. That feeling that "now begins my adult life" is paired with the realization of how hard that is without financial means, how harder, in fact, it is if you don't know where you're headed.

I think it's this precisely that has made so many people I know turn into alcoholics within the past couple of years. Or smoke pot all day or close themselves off from the world. But it always remained kind of outside of me. Then the feeling hit me and lately I've been closing off myself. And it's happening to other people that I'm much closer to also. Everyone's dealing with this differently, and I know I'm not doing a great job of it myself, but I'm scared 'cause there are few ways to get through this without giving up or in in one way or another. There are so many other ways than drinking all day to run away from reality. And even if you're not running from reality, it's also scary to see people look for an end-all solution to things.

I can't say I know more about anyone else's struggles than I do, except that I feel I'm probably in the same boat to some extent. And I don't have any advice to give, 'cause I've spent so much of the last 5 years or so of my life being a really optimistic person and lately it's unreliable at best. I get these surges of hopefulness about my future, but they come and go. I guess anymore, to keep myself sane, I don't think about the future as much.

Or I suppose I do, but more broadly. I make short term goals and try to go slowly. Yeah, I wanted to get some things done and out of the way sooner, but it's not always that easy. To keep myself sane I have to continue to enjoy the present. I can't just worry about how I'm going to create the perfect future for myself when currently it's out of my means.

So I guess I am pretty hopeful, just sad and scared too. There are things I don't want to lose that I may. I just hope that everyone who feels like I do at this time in my life is able to break free from it often enough to get a different perspective on their situation, to take stock of what really matters, and to have enough faith in themselves to at least give the things they're passionate about a shot before they allow themselves to believe they're only left with one option.

Yeah, I think I will be okay. This time in my life isn't going to be my entire life. And perhaps this is the time during which we're supposed to build the foundations for our future, but we've got more time to do that than we think. When I went to college steadily, there were 40 and 50 year old men and women who realized they wanted something different and were making that change for themselves. And those I talked to didn't seem to feel as though they'd wasted their lives. They did what they had to and built their futures without jumping out of high school straight into college straight into a career. So maybe I'll figure something out soon, and maybe I won't until much later. But all I really need to be happy is good people and the ability to appreciate life. And I suppose it helps to make something of yourself...DO something. But there are a lot of ways to do that that don't necessitate figuring it all out right out of high school or even into your 30s. Whatever society would like us to believe, it's not that easy to figure out the rest of your life in one sitting, and taking longer doesn't really ruin anyone who can keep it in perspective. Just to kind of make sure to keep the passions you already are aware of alive and trudge on at all that other shit with enough diligence to break even and maybe learn from it and enough distance to understand where the real importance lies is enough.
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midnight in a perfect world [08 May 2003|04:14am]
Are there times when you feel like everything will be okay in spite of bad things, but you're really wrong and it won't at all? Fuck, I hope not. I don't know why I feel this way. Maybe it's just right now, listening to this song, letting hopefullness overcome me. But I don't want to be partaking in blind hope, and this is a big deal.
The fact is that right now I do sort of feel like everything will be okay, and in my position all I can really do is hope that it's intuition and not blind hope. Some things mean so much more...well, I'll just leave it at that.
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Drive [24 Apr 2003|03:13am]
I poked at that tire with the slow leak and was satisfied, as though I could ascertain from touch what constitutes a dangerously low amount of air. A full tank of gas, and the roads all mine at 2:00 in the morning.

I've been doing that a lot lately. Tonight I went solo as I often do, but Jon and I have been doing that a lot these past couple weeks too. Sometimes he'll just knock on the basement window late at night and ask if I wanna go for a drive. Always. And I take roads I don't know and sometimes I make him arbitrarily pick left, right, or straight and we end up in leatherface country where roadsigns are torn down and there are no lights. Or we end up in Mount Vernon, which I now know is northeast of Columbus an hour or two, if you're taking the most ridiculous route from point A to point B possible.

We got a little nervous, and I think when we started driving I said how disappointing it was that it was near impossible to acutally get LOST. So lost as to lose comfort and not have the faintest fucking idea as to how far from home you are, or even which direction you're headed, like being sucked under water. We got fucking LOST, but still, it was too easy to get back. I mean, at 5:00 in the morning it doesn't feel easy, and you're on the road for a while before seeing anything familiar, and it happened that the road we needed to get back was closed, but still. There was that map in my glove compartment, and even with the road closed, the detour was cake. Time consuming, but cake.

That is strange, though. Disappointing, but it liberates you from real fear. There's no way to really get LOST. I mean, even when I was in Florida and I didn't know my ass from a hole in the ground, if we got all mixed up, I didn't break a sweat. Things just FELT familiar, intuitions were just RIGHT, again and again.

I suppose I'm not complaining, 'cause I guess I really wouldn't like to get fuckin' LOST. I mean, perhaps even lost like Mount Vernon is what I'm talking about anyway, 'cause other than that, what does it take to truly be lost? Never finding a way back and having to build a lean-to in the middle of nowhere and live off the earth? Fuck that. Is it just the greater the distance and/or time from home without knowing how to get back? Is that what signifies LOST instead of just lost?

So I'm not complaining. It's getting lost that I like. And I don't mind getting LOST either, as long as I don't have to become a hunter-gatherer as a result.

I just like to drive, out late at night when there's no one else on the road. I don't want another set of headlights to ruin my time, and frankly out on those back roads I'm normally appeased. I wanna go on roads I've never seen before and take 'em until I'm not sure which direction I'm headed, and I suppose that's to set myself up, because surely half the fun is trying to figure out how the hell to get back. When getting back is TOO easy...when I hit fucking Main St. or some shit like that, it's a huge cramp in my good time.

No, I don't wanna get LOST, impossible to find my way back before I have to be at work the next day, but it makes you think, the fact that it's so unlikely for that to happen. Everything's connected, and all it takes is running into 62 and going the right way to just be perfectly safe again. Which really means you're safe all along. Unless a tire pops and you have to knock on the door of the nearest house which has doll bits stapled all over front door, a pool of blood in the driveway, a makeshift graveyard, and a family of backwoods creeps who wanna wear your face as a mask living in it. Maybe it's time I got that fuckin' tire replaced.
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"I push things out through my mouth I can refill through my ears" [04 Apr 2003|04:33am]
I would like for tomorrow to be excellent. I would like for tomorrow to be filled with pleasant surprises. Tonight was a pleasant surprise, and it's good to have that every once in a while. I have Kacy to thank for providing.

I want tomorrow to be sunny and warm. I wanna be able to wear a t-shirt. And I want something old mixed with something new. And I don't want anything to get in the way of that.

Really what I want ain't too much. I would like for tomorrow to be excellent. I wanna drive around with my windows rolled all the way down, some good music, take care of some shit, see some good people.
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what's begun without our consent... [20 Mar 2003|03:24am]
It happened when I was in the airport waiting like an excited puppy for Kacy to walk through those gates. A man who had been talking on his cell phone turned to me and said, "They're getting off the plane right now." Then he said, "We've bombed Iraq." I went kind of cold and said, "My god, how did I miss that?" He said, "It just happened. I saw it on one of the tv's back there." All I could say was, "Wow." And we stared ahead sharing this sombre silence...this heaviness of watching things unfold over which we have no control.

Now there's this air of a movie, almost. Things seem to be moving so slowly, and upon us is what I'd expected to happen. My voice doesn't mean anything, especially not at 3:00 in the morning here in my basement watching CNN, so I just sit and stare, mind racing, somewhat afraid, somewhat heartbroken, somewhat just kind of dumbfounded, shocked. Images of our firing the missiles, and every one of those missiles has human targets. Human beings who are going to die...rather, human beings who are dead now. For the war or against it, good people or bad, I can't relate to any kind of detachment that would inspire someone to not be affected by this reality. Sure, people die every day, but I think of the horrible folly to pride ourselves in being peaceful--no democracy will ever be the aggressor!--and to now be doing this. But as I have no voice, I'll just watch...wait for it to be over and hope that innocent lives are unaffected by this, although you can't expect that in war. It's barely six hours into this war, this new chapter in American history. What will it teach us, what effects will it rear? I have a feeling that the rest of the world isn't going to take too kindly to our doing whatever we please in spite of international law, and maybe the rest of the world will begin to view us as a threat. Hopefully they won't take our view and strike preemptively, should they ever catch that fear.

But enough politics. It's all opinion, and really the one thing I feel that I think many people share is fear and pensive waiting. Everything does seem slow and the silence is deafening, and maybe this all will be nothing but fodder for history teachers everywhere in a couple years, but it's something new for our generation...something we've never faced. Uneasy is a horrible understatement for the way I feel right now, but I don't feel anger or misery or even panic...it's too sudden for all that. Just uneasy and pensive.
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Striking terror into her heart first thing in the morning... [13 Mar 2003|03:39am]
I took Kacy to the airport this morning to go to San Fran...I stayed at her house last night 'cause we had to get up at 5:45AM.

For some reason, and I'm not sure this has ever happened to me before, I was laughing in my sleep. Laughing...loud. I remember the last of it, just before I woke up, or perhaps as I was waking up. I was kind of curled up facing the outside of the bed and I remember shaking back and forth and laughing in a really strange, hearty, and sometimes gutteral way. I don't know how I remember that so clearly if I was asleep, but maybe I was just waking up. She says I was doing that for a while. So anyway, I'm laughing and all of the sudden I feel this rush of fear and I bolt up and turn around and see Kacy staring at me with a horribly freaked out look on her face. The first thing I do is gasp really loudly in terror, and then I gasp again and jump back away from her 'cause I was really creeped out to have someone sitting up and looking at me and I didn't realize it was her at first or perhaps thought she was possessed in that early-morning delerium.

It's quite hilarious though. She said, "That was fucking creepy, you just kept laughing in a really maniacal way." She's going to be afraid to ever sleep with anyone again. *smile*

As soon as I woke up I remembered laughing, but I couldn't remember any kind of dream that might have inspired it. I tried really hard...really I would like to know what inspires someone to laugh out loud in their sleep. I mean, I was completely delighted in an almost childlike way. And I suppose the laugh did sound a bit sinister too...I also don't know why I can remember hearing myself laugh for a few moments before I woke up. But it was kind of fun, and maybe it started the day right...I was bright eyed and bushy tailed as they say, and it was balls ass early in the morning. Fucking hilarious though. Apparently something was...*smile*
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