I am not a dreamer, by nature, but I've always been a thinker. For the past 5 years or more, I've felt a need to prepare myself to earn an income, should the need arise. My BYU degree is not enough to get me a job that would pay enough or be interesting to me at this point in my life. So I've pondered, studied out a handful of options, never really holding onto one idea long enough to be excited about it and go after it. I love being a stay at home mom. I feel very blessed that I can be. It's hard and often not rewarding but it allows me some freedom and flexibility and I like being boss of the kitchen and the home, maybe more than I should. I'm happy that I don't have to juggle a paying job, along with my calling, my kids, housework, etc. But because I feel the need to be prepared, I want to work doing something I enjoy. This seems like a daunting task.
To help in this journey of discovery, I went to Time out for women a few weeks ago and looked up a book from a speaker on the tour who didn't come to us. It's called "Dare, Dream, Do..." By Whitney Johnson. She speaks specifically to women about dreaming. It was a very inspiring book to me. Since I married, one thing I wanted to do was open a prenatal and infant massage practice. But massage is hard on my body and I didn't think I would be able to do it for very long. So I've considered piano teaching, not for me, nursing, not sure I could handle all the yuck. I guess my main goals have been to find something that is flexible, pays well, and is rewarding, not a 9-5 job. My friend suggested midwifery, which I had never even thought of. The idea has sparked something inside of me. In this region I live, there isn't much access to natural childbirth and in the big cities, midwives are in such high demand that many families get turned away, I was one of
them when I was pregnant with Spencer. So I've looked into schooling, it's intense and expensive, I've been taken in by a midwife for this pregnancy(!), and I'm looking at possibilities of opening a birthing center in this area. Anyway, what I realized from reading that book ⬆️, is that dreaming and doing is so good for me as a person, and as a mom, and if I dream, it will encourage my children to dream as well. I've spent way too many years feeling like I've been sacrificing so much, which is necessary, but not spending nearly enough time dreaming for me, I gave over my mind to my kids, and for me that hasn't been healthy. So here's to a re focus for me. I'm still bearing children and I don't know when the end of this period will be for me but that doesn't mean I can't find me, and become who I'm supposed to become. I'm positive if I'm doing what I should be doing, I'll have the capacity to do all I need to, whatever that may be.