Story of the Split is a zine about ace community history and a breakdown in community memory that has kept many people in the dark about the origin of the term “split attraction model.”
This zine is available in three formats: 1) a PDF for reading digitally, 2) a PDF intended for printing and folding, and 3) a webpage for reading online.
A request for more and better coverage of aro community history, posted for the September Carnival of Aros.
Crossposted to Pillowfort. Preview image created using Arrow Tips by Don and Janet, licensed under CC BY-SA 2.0.
Continue readingA post about sexual orientation as shorthand for potential (in)compatibility, written for the August 2023 Carnival of Aces.
Crossposted to Pillowfort. Preview image: Wooden Gate by Samuel S, licensed under CC BY 2.0.
Continue readingNote: if you are reading this after June 8th, 2023 please see a new comment by Kate Wood below.
Update March 21st, 2024: the AACAU has now updated the report and posted an apology.
Continue readingSurveys are a popular type of project both for formal advocacy groups and casual identity bloggers alike. While professional researchers might have gotten some dedicated training on the subject, there are also a lot of other people who try their hand at it, too, and they might not have encountered much (if any) guidance on how to go about it. That’s why I’ve put together this post: to offer you some tips and point out common mistakes in designing an identity survey.
Crossposted to Pillowfort. Preview Image: Pencil and Paper by Thomas Eagle, licensed under CC BY 2.0.
Continue readingIn all of the talk on QPRs over the years, I’ve run across some occasional disagreement about whether or not “queerplatonic” as a term has room for ambiguity — with both implicit and explicit attempts to define it as a narrow and rigid concept, while treating those definitions as the way it’s always been. Simply put, that’s wrong, and here’s why.
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Continue readingBased on A Timeline of Anti-Ace Blogging, made in Canva, crossposted to Pillowfort, and reposted to Tumblr. Much thanks to everyone who helped with feedback and revisions.
This image is free to repost and distribute. If you do so, I would prefer if you would include the transcript and a link back to this post, where possible. Transcript under the cut.
Continue readingAbout nine years ago, I wrote and published a blogpost with title “Why I Wear an Ace Ring.” At the time, I don’t think I could have ever anticipated the reception that post would get, and is still getting, almost a decade later.
Crossposted to Pillowfort.
Continue readingThank you to everyone who participated in or helped to spread the Gray-Ace & Gray-Aro Survey. This survey was released on July 28, 2022 and ran through September 15th, with the link shared on WordPress, Pillowfort, Tumblr, Twitter, AVEN, Arocalypse, Dreamwidth, Reddit, and various Discord servers.
The survey collected 1,404 responses in total.
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The Ace Theist 
Reading Elementary as a Nonromantic Love Story
CBS Elementary centers on a close friendship between a man and a woman that accomplishes something unique: it stays that way. More than that, it tells the story of the evolution of their relationship from initial animosity to collaboration to exceptional intimacy, to the point of treating each other as the most important person in their lives, all while keeping sex and romance out of it. In light of that relationship and the characterization of the main leads, this analysis presents aro reading of Elementary in order to highlight what it can look like to tell a nonromantic love story.
Crossposted to Pillowfort.
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