Born November 7, 2012
7:45 PM
7 lbs 11 oz, 20 inches long, 13.75 inch head
Brent's Birth Story
For the "birth junkies" out there. It is pretty detailed so read at your own risk:)
This story starts long before the day our little baby was born. I had been having so many contractions the whole week before my due date that I was pretty sure this little guy would make his appearance early. Then on my due date (the 30th) I found out very emotional news that pretty much put my labor on shut down.
I decided to call my sister and beg her to come out and help me through everything. A few days later she arrived. We tried to relax and talk and take it easy in hopes that I could calm my emotions down.
Finally on Sunday (the 4th) I was feeling pretty desperate to get the baby out so I took Castor oil in the morning and headed to church. *Note to self never take Castor oil before heading anywhere. I started having small contractions at church but nothing great. Then later that night they started to kick in. I had them for a good couple of hours and was starting to think it would happen. Then again they petered out. Talk about making me crazy!
My sister was leaving town on Wednesday morning and I wanted to have that Brent early so I could have some help after he was born. Plus she was going to be my doula during the birth.
Monday came around and the whole day I had nothing. Jason and I walked every night for hours in hopes that something would start. I was feeling pretty discouraged.
Then on Tuesday I went to my midwife and told her I needed her to strip my membranes. She said no at first because of a staph culture I had had, but after getting all the info I went back at 4 PM and got them stripped.
Then again I went walking. I lost more of my mucous plug which had been coming out for weeks but this time there was some blood in it (bloody show). I then had a blessing that the contractions and labor would start soon. That was the best news ever!
I came home and got everything ready. Sure enough contractions started and I just went to bed in hopes that I would wake up with very intense contractions. It was all working good. I woke up in the middle of the night to some that we're very strong but after 2 hours or so they stopped again! Oh good grief! I was mentally and physically exhausted at this point but kept remembering my blessing that I had received and looked to that with hope and faith.
The next morning (the 7th) came and I was feeling nothing so Jason and I decided to walk to Panera before we took Brooke to school. The walking did nothing. So to school Brooke went and then we took Preston to the park. We walked and walked but still nothing was happening. In my blessing I was also told that the baby would come on Gods timeline so I just tried to focus on that. It was hard though because in just a few hours I would need to take my sister to the airport.
The time came to drop her off and say goodbye. I was pretty emotional but I know God had another plan for this birth that I wasn't willing to accept unless my sister was gone. That's a story in and of itself.
After dropping my Sister off at the airport we picked Brooke up from school and just went about the day as usual. At around 3PM my contractions started again and were pretty intense but I didn't think much about them because of the stop and go I had been having. At around 5 PM I could tell that it was different this time and started timing my contractions. They were about 5 Min's apart and lasting a minute. I still just went about the usual night routine. Made dinner and ate and just breathed through the contractions when they came.
At 5:30 PM I could tell that things were picking up and that tonight would be the night. I called my Dad and asked him to come out so he could be with the kids.
My Dad arrived at 6:30 PM. My contractions went to 3 minutes apart very quickly but I was still handling it all okay. They say you should go to the birth center when you can't handle it anymore.
At around 6:55 PM my water broke. It is so weird because with Preston and Brent both I could tell my water was going to break a second before it did. As soon as it broke I knew it was game time. I got very serious and focused and within minutes we were in the car on the way to the birth center.
The contractions were very intense in the car. At one point I totally lost it and screamed pretty bad, but after that one was over with I told myself that I needed to relax and that I could not loose it like that again. I put Hypnobirthing on and just breathed.
In the Hypnobirthing CD it talks about going into a room that is filled with peace and that I could invite anyone I wanted into that room with me. I thought of Christ and how he had gone through this before and so I decided that he and I could do it together. I breathed and breathed and breathed. My mind kept thinking what if I am only at a 3 when I get there? I told myself that if I was only at a 3 I would kindly tell everyone I made a big mistake and to take me to the hospital and get me some drugs.
We finally arrived at the birth center at 7:30 PM. Lori came out to greet us. I told her I needed to poop really bad. She said go ahead and then told Jason not to let me push in case it was the baby. After being unsuccessful in the poo department and feeling very uncomfortable I went into the birth room and saw that glorious tub all filled with nice warm water. I have never wanted to jump into something so bad before. Within seconds I got mad at Jason because he wasn't taking my shoes off or helping me to get undressed. It seemed like an eternity waiting for him to strip off my clothes when in reality it was only about 20 seconds.
Once in the water it felt so good. It was like a comforting blanket on a cold day and was just what I needed. I then began to pray hard that I could do this. I kept telling myself you are only at a 6 and you have hours more of this ahead (I had conditioned myself because of how long my labor was with Brooke.) Lori then checked the baby's heart tones and then checked me. I was in an awkward position and she said "Natalie I think he is right there." Once I got into a better position I had Lori check me again and sure enough his head was right there and I was fully dilated. I was praising God with all my heart at this point.
I felt so much relief when I heard that. Lori told me to push with my next contraction but I told her that I had no desire to push. I waited through a few contractions when Lori told me to try to push. I asked her to help me. She put two fingers inside me and said "push my fingers out with the next contraction." Once I had that sensation triggered I had the most intense pressure and sensation to push. It felt like I had a giant bowling ball in my butt. Jason looked down and saw Brent's head half way out. My eyes were closed because I was focusing so much. I started freaking out a little because of how it felt and started to stand up to find a better position. Lori told me to sit back down and Jason held me a little. I wanted to push slowly so I could ease the baby out and not rip. The urge to push was so strong though that I gave up and pushed him in out in one push. I didn't care anymore if I would rip or not, I just wanted him out. Then I felt immediate relief as I pushed him out with one push just 15 minutes after getting to the birth center.
Lori brought him to my chest and I couldn't believe he was already there and I was holding him. I'm pretty sure I was crying. It was one of the best moment in my life. I immediately fell in love with him.
We bonded in the tub with him still attached to me while we waited for the cord to stop pulsating. We spent a good 30 minutes or so before Jason cut the cord. After that we got out of the tub and got to bond in bed for a few hours. He latched on like a champ and I was in bliss. He was my little joyous miracle and he was finally here!
After a few hours Lori did the newborn stuff and then by 11 PM we were home and snuggled in our own bed. It was so nice to be home and not in a hospital where they keep waking you up constantly.
It was my perfect birth and I loved every minute of it.
*Birth Slide Show. No gross shots but I am in a sports bra in some of the pics. I don't know why it published so poor quality but I can't figure out how to fix it.
The After Birth Story
Why do I need an after birth story? Because this has been one of the hardest weeks physically I have ever gone through and I want to remember how strong I am and how it brought me close to the Lord.
After we got home from the birth center we were able to go straight to sleep. My after birth contractions were so strong that I was having to wake up and breath through them. The next day they were very bad still and almost unbearable. I was just doing what I could but felt like I was about to have another baby any minute.
The next night I got up to go to the bathroom and felt like I was pushing something out of me that I shouldn't. It really freaked me out so much that I threw up. I called the midwife and she said I could come in in the morning and not to worry too much since I wasn't bleeding a lot. I received another blessing and it allowed me to sleep until my appt. When we got there I found out that I had a prolapsed cervix which means I was pushing and my cervix out of me. Really? How does that even happen? I was also worried that I might have something still left in my uterus because the contractions were so bad. Lori gave me some pills to take that would clean anything out of my uterus if there was something. I was supposed to take 1 pill every 6 hours for a total of 4 pills.
I took the first pill before we left and then we headed home. Within 10 Min's I started to have the most intense pain in the form of cramps and contractions that wouldn't let up even for a second. I was writhing in pain and crying the whole way home. I informed Jason that I would not be taking those pills again after suffering for hours.
In the blessing that I had received it talked about experiencing a portion of the atonement. I did. It sure made me grateful for all that our Savior went through for us. I sure love him.
To top all of this off my kids were super sick with fevers and coughs themselves. I have been so worried they are going to get the baby sick.
The next day I felt better and then on Sunday I was actually able to get up and go to the first part of church.
I thought I was through the worse.
Then I woke up on Monday morning in the same excruciating pain and with a fever of 103. I called the midwife and we waited for a while until Jason demanded I go to the ER. I hate hospitals and I didn't want to take my newborn to one. He gave me no choice though.
We arrived and after lots of tests and an ultrasound to see if I had something in my uterus, we found out that I had a pretty bad infection in my blood. They hooked me up to an IV with antibiotics and gave me some to take home. Now here I sit still waiting to feel better. I feel seriously weak and still have a very high temp. I have an angel friend Bonnie who came the last two days and helped me with the kids. How grateful I am for wonderful people who are always willing to sacrifice and help. Thanks to those of you who have been praying for me and my family. I can feel your prayers and I know they are being answered.
Now hopefully onto brighter days:)
Please excuse anything that doesn't make sense. I am not in my right mind.