Pretty much every-time.

Will start with I don’t feel close anymore, she seems distant… blah blah blah. We’re not having regular sex like we did 5 years ago before we had 2 children and she had to carry everything.

They need to start a thread before it reaches that point. I feel like the woman could be on her knees with stress, hair falling out, no sleep but as long as he is getting regular sex then he doesn’t care.

He doesn’t look at the bigger picture just cares about the lack of sex.

Please go and have a look at some of the recent threads that are started by men.

I'm looking for a swimsuit for a special Asia holiday later this year.

I'm not in terrible shape but I am 50+ and am definitely experiencing a gradual move southwards. My top half looks good but there's a mid-section volume and wobble that wasn't there before.

I'm a tall 14/16 and have a long body and FF boobs so find one piece swimsuits really hard. I'm willing to pay more this time than I usually would (£150) for something good.

Any suggestions for brands I might not have heard of?

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1. Botanical extracts and essential oil fractions — e.g., peppermint, rosemary, citrus terpenes. These provide aroma and may contribute to perceived alertness via scent.
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3. Stimulant compounds — low doses of caffeine derivatives or similar actives may be included in some “boost” formulations (though exact identities and concentrations should be listed on the label).
4. Nootropics / cognitive enhancers — small-molecule ingredients (claimed to improve focus) are sometimes added, though inhalable delivery of established nootropic pharmaceuticals is uncommon and regulated.
5. Carrier liquids — propylene glycol (PG) and vegetable glycerin (VG) or other carrier bases that create the visible vapor. Quality and purity of carriers matter for safety and throat feel.

• Fast onset: Many users say they feel effects quickly (within 1–10 minutes), especially relative to oral supplements like pills or capsules.
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The people opposite me, who were tenants, moved out just a couple of days before Christmas.
The house doesn't have a "to let" sign or anything up yet, and there's definitely noone living there. However, today was bin day and someone, presumably the owner, had been round and put the wheelie bin out ready last night.
The binmen come at 7am.
At 6:45am, I had the idea of maybe adding a bag of my rubbish to their black bin, if it wasn't full, as I am still trying to catch up from Christmas and have extra.
I nipped over the road, had a peek and there was nothing but one single Tesco carrier bag of rubbish in there.
I went back inside, tied up my own full bin bag of rubbish from my kitchen bin and carried it over the road. By this time, I could hear the bin lorries already coming so I know noone was going to be using that space in that bin.
I then took the bin back up their drive for them.
I went back inside, very pleased with myself for now having completely empty bins.
DH was horrified and said it was very cheeky behaviour and very embarrassing. He really hopes noone saw.

Was it cheeky and embarrassing?

Not sure if 'relationship' is the correct category to post this, as there's no real relationship going on, except in my head🙈

To tell something about my background - woman from a conservative background, career woman, married and a mum of a toddler..

Married for almost 8 years, husband is a great guy, a very happy and bright child.. marriage is kind of great too, except the normal regular fights, arguments, making up etc..

DH has a really good friend.. he himself is married and father of a teen.. we have all met a couple of times, like family meets.. not one to one.. This guy is cool, very smart, very intelligent - profession wise ( intelligent guys are my type- that was the beginning point of chemistry with my DH too) and a great listener👀

Everytime he talks, it's like he actually talks to me, like he is really interested to talk to me, to know my views and opinions.. I knew (or may be I might've imagined) that he did steal some glances towards me while having an animated discussion last time we met a couple of weeks ago..

It's been weeks after this incident but he is living rent free in my mind😵😵 I keep thinking about him like I am a teenager..

This behaviour of mine is causing me distress and I am struggling as this is very antagonistic to the values I was brought up with..I feel like I am cheating.. irl I would never do anything to harm my marriage, but these thoughts.. exhilarating and distressing at the same time!

Has anyone gone through anything similar? How did you cope?😪

W&B dress

Birthday party in London in February.

Don’t want to wear shoes that will hurt my feet as I want to dance so don’t want super high heels, but don’t think flats will work so maybe mid height block heels or wedges?

Leaning towards bare legs (fake tanned). Venue is indoor.

Or I could wear something else.

5’4, size 12, white, blonde hair brown eyes, age 38.

Thank you!

Hi all, NC’d for this one! Never thought I’d be this kind of person to question an allergy policy in schools as I have lots of friends and family both currently and in childhood with dietary requirements like coeliac/ severe nut allergies/ vegan etc which I’ve always tried my best to accommodate when hosting them at mine or going out places to eat. However, my DC’s nursery have created such an exhaustive list of banned food in packed lunches that I’m really struggling to put together something healthy ish that a 3 year old will eat! Not allowed:

• egg (incl mayo and as an ingredient)
• nuts (incl coconut)
• seeds
• fish
• Chocolate
• sweets

I try to cook/ bake most things we consume and keep mainly low UPF but I’m not a zealot about it. Because of this however, the teachers are routinely removing things from my child’s lunchbox for fear of causing a reaction. In the short return after Christmas this has included greek yoghurt with strawberries blended into it (questioned the seeds so replaced with a packaged yoghurt), a sandwich made with wholemeal bread (seeds), a sandwich made from white focaccia (had some black flecks in - pepper, but they couldn’t be sure), hummus (homemade with no nuts but they couldn’t be sure!!), beetroot brownies (too much chocolate), sausage rolls (queried egg glaze, it was actually milk) and a piece of cake (as cakes are made with egg).

Genuinely tearing my hair out to figure out what I can put in a lunchbox that ticks all the nursery’s boxes plus my own lower UPF plus my DC’s picky habits - plus isn’t the same thing every day! For ex DC won’t reliably eat white bread, probably because we don’t buy it, prefers the hardest crustiest uncut bread you can buy 😂 I can’t afford school lunches and the menus aren’t great from a UPF perspective. Help! AIBU to think this is really difficult?

I have a young ds with an unusual name/very rare surname. There are less than 30 people in the UK with the surname and all of these people belong to my dh’s family/extended family. No one else in the family has the same first name as my ds. Let’s say he’s called Kiddy McKiddly.

At the end of last week, my MIL received a voicemail from a headteacher at a local primary school, not the school my ds attends. The voicemail said something along the lines of “I’m returning a phone call regarding Kiddy McKiddly. Can you ring me back on ###########”. My MIL rang back, baffled as to why she was being asked to ring back a random school about her dgs, and spoke to the headteacher who said that someone had rung her school and left a message asking the headteacher to ring my MIL’s number regarding Kiddy McKiddly. No name was taken for the caller and no reason for the call was given.

My ds has never attended this school or visited this school. My MIL has never attended or visited this school. DS doesn’t know anyone at this school. I’ve never been to school. I’ve never applied to this school for a place. We have zero links to this school.

I have spoken to my ds’s school just to check that this isn’t some misunderstanding between schools but they were as baffled as I was and confirmed they haven’t contacted the school.

Can anyone think of a reasonably explanation for what is going on here? I feel a bit uneasy and am hoping someone can come up with a reasonable explanation as to what on earth is going on here.

I often hear people saying they’ve paid off their mortgage on here. I wonder how! Ours is valued at 640 and we owed 300 ish. Obviously if it was worth 350 we would almost be mortgage free. Are people paying their mortgage off early generally in lower valued homes?

My newborn is a week old today and keeps turning himself during his sleep. I woke up to him laying side ways in his next to
me instead of laying straight in the centre of his crib. Is this normal for a baby that is only a week old ?, I’ve seen posts about children that are 12weeks onwards doing this by never a a baby that’s a week old.

thanks

My elderly uncle lives on the same road as me, so I visit regularly, do shopping for him and help with bits of care (he also has carers). He’s always telling me to stop rushing around, sit down and have a good tea and chat session for a couple of hours. I’d love to but I work, have DC and a household of my own to run.

My DM always argues with me when I say I’m busy and says retired people are just as busy as working people. Some might be, I agree.

One of my other elderly neighbours recently said she’s “just as busy as me” because she has two appointments next week: the doctor and the hairdresser.

AIBU to feel like some retired people forget what full-time work + parenting + life admin actually involves?

Note I said SOME not all.

Good evening all,

my mum passed away and we are about to receive our inheritance from their estate. This will be split equally between me and my two brothers. I get on extremely well with both of my brothers.

I want to forgo my share of the inheritance and have it split between my two brothers. They have both had it harder than I have and neither of them own their own property yet. I have been fortunate to be able to buy my own and we are now mortgage free and fairly comfortable financially.

DH strongly disagrees and says that we have to take our share of the inheritance. He feels that it’s my brother’s responsibility to sort themselves out. I’m disappointed by his attitude and I still really want to help my brother’s out by allowing them to have my share of the inheritance.

WWYD??

I bought someone an expensive water bottle as a Christmas gift. Today they handed it back to me and said I should return it because its only single walled so condensation develops on it when they put icy water in and I should try and get a refund. Partly my bad, it didn't claim to be double walled and I didn't think of it when buying, for me it doesn't matter as I just fill from the tap and keep it in my bag on my desk. They maintained this water bottle is not fit for purpose and should be returned under distance selling laws. I don't think I have grounds to return it on this basis. I'm not sure what to do, they insisted they didn't want me out of pocket for something they can't use, but what should I do? I'll happily take it and use it myself if they don't want it. I can't return this item can I? I know this is trivial!!

Background: I've been offered voluntary redundancy from my job working for the Government. I earn £40k with a rise every year. My payout would be in the region of £50-55k after tax. I'm currently on maternity leave. I rent privately in London (£1300pcm) and have approx £260k in my savings account.

Pros of leaving:
£50-55k is a lot of money.
I would need to get childcare if I returned to work (and my husband found a job) instead so a large chunk of my take home pay would be spent on that. Not to mention being knackered from running around doing the nursery drop offs.
I don't really enjoy the job. It's a low skilled job that I fell into about 20 years ago and it made sense to stay as it paid the bills. I was looking forward to going on maternity leave for a long time.
I only have to wait 6 months before returning to a Government job if I want to avoid repaying the redundancy compensation. It's worth noting that it's much harder to get a job nowadays and the majority of jobs tend to get filled by internal candidates.
A HUGE pro IMO: I run the risk of returning from maternity leave and realising that I either don't like what my job has become whilst I was away or childcare costs make going to work a bit pointless therefore leaving at a later date with no payout i.e. I would be better off leaving now and getting a large amount of money instead of returning to work for six months and leaving empty handed.

Cons of leaving:
I have a relatively easy job which is well paid for what I actually do and I WFH for part of the week. I could get a job elsewhere doing the same work as it's non specialised however I doubt I would earn the same. The Government tends to pay quite well for my kind of work.
I have a defined benefit pension, 33 days annual leave plus bank holidays. You get the jist. It's a pretty family friendly & flexible place to work.
I have a laid back manager who doesn't micro manage me. Although she could leave at any moment of course.
My husband is unemployed. He used to have a very well paid job but lost it several years ago. He has spent the past year applying for jobs in his field without success. He's now applying for supermarket jobs to get some money coming in. He's reliant on me financially as he's spent his savings. Ideally he would get another well paid job meaning that he wouldn't be available for childcare anymore. But I have a week to decide on redundancy and who knows how long it will take him to find a job.
Making myself unemployed means even less chance of getting a mortgage.
My aforementioned savings rule me out of claiming any benefits (my husband is also ineligible because of this too).

She is 8 and swears at me all day, tells me to shut up, fuck off, calls me a stupid bitch, idiot, twat.
I do not swear and don’t want this language in my home let alone from a child.
When I tell her not to do something she will ignore means do it anyway or say one of the above phrases, even if I repeatedly tell her to stop doing something she will carry on.
I remove one privilege after another until there’s nothing left and she’s still telling me to fuck off, hit me or kick me and she doesn’t care what I say or try to do.
How do I make her stop?
She’s worn me down so much, I am quiet and softly spoken by nature and have anxiety so I try to be firm and assertive but she’s loud and confident and just walks over me it’s destroying our relationship and being called names and talked to like dirt all day really affects my confidence and I feel so overwhelmed with her right now.

Just started running, am really enjoying it! Large size 16 with a tummy but strong thighs.
However, I basically look like Miss Trunchbull and can’t seem to work out how people look so glam when running or at the gym.
I am a warm person so I often wear cycling shorts, also as I find they roll down less than leggings. I wear a variety of types of t shirts or vests and usually an old sweatshirt. I have a running zip top but it’s a bit tight still. Long sports socks and ghastly bright Asics trainers.
I just feel so frumpy with my thin/fine hair pulled into a top knot or ponytail.
What are the “put together” people wearing for running/gym wear? Will I feel less like Agatha Trunchbull if I lose some weight? After all the tips to look less ropey when exercising…

BIL is getting married later this year (June). It's quite a big wedding from what I can work out and they did ask our DDs to be bridesmaid's which they were happy about. They also asked DH to be best man.
So plans were kind of in place. Until tonight.
BIL phoned and after a while I could hear DH getting more and more angry. He ended up shouting well none of us will come then and ending the call.
He wouldn't tell me what was wrong for ages but finally said BIL had asked if we could arrange childcare for our son as they felt DS would struggle and take attention away from the wedding. They absolutely know we don't have anyone to look after him so if he doesn't go I obviously can't either.
Now DS does have severe SEN but he also loves being with people and I planned to sit near the back of the church so I could take him out if needed and I would do the same at the reception. All the other bits does it make if he's walking round the room? Or hand flapping?
We feel he's being excluded because he's different and BIL and his partner can't deal with that. I'm angry but sad as well. I can't believe his own family won't accept him.
DH has said that's it we're not going but DDs can (late teens) if they want, we haven't told them yet.
I'm just so depressed. How can they exclude my little boy just because he's got SEN? He's lovely little boy always smiling and he rarely has meltdowns (and as I said I would remove him before it got to that stage). I guess it's their wedding but it's causing problems as MIL is also annoyed with them, but she also thinks we should attend.
Are we being unreasonable to say if DS isn't invited we won't go either?

I bought him something for his birthday that we needed to return to the shop for an amendment, we both went together.
The assistant serving us was a lady who looked in her 20s, I started the conversation to ask about their returns policies etc. And she only spoke to me when she had to.

She complimented my partner on what he was wearing then they ended up in a wider conversation. We had to wait with her for around 5 minutes for a supervisor to come and check she'd issued a refund correctly or something.

I was smiling and approachable but couldn't really find an inn in the conversation, she barely looked at me. She was asking how old he is, and to be honest I felt he was flirting back slightly, he teased her about something and they had a bit of a laugh.

I may have to go back into that store this weekend and when we left he said something like oh you'll have to check if she's in, then something like sorry hope that didn't seem weird.

I know she was his type physically (both goths, and he's into that). I know this will happen and it may happen when I'm not around, some people are just like that. If she'd also spoken to me more it would have been different.

To be fair I just laughed it off and didn't say a word about it, 20 year old me probably would've made a comment or been a bit offended to him. Anyone else had this?

I’m rooting for you !!! Anyone else want to show their support ?

This is a really awkward situation! I recently started my own business where I sell goods that I’ve made. Im lucky it took off quickly and am managing to make it work so far. I mostly sell to strangers as I knew I’d struggle to sell and take money from friends if they ordered. These items are for children.

a couple of friends have ordered for their children and I’ve always sold them much lower than I would to strangers, not making a profit but breaking even on materials. A friend asked about ordering 3 items for her daughter for Christmas, which would usually have come to £30. I told her £10 would be ok. She took the items and her daughter got them for Christmas and has been wearing them however she didn’t pay for them. At the time I offered bank details and she said she’d pay cash. I’ve seen her a few times and last time I mentioned her daughter looked nice in what I’d made and her reply was “oh I’ll pay you at some point.” The woman is usually complaining about being skint however books nice holidays etc. I feel awkward but frustrated as I did them at a cheap price anyway and taking on her order before Christmas meant I couldn’t take on as many other ones (I only take so many a month to make sure they get done in good time and I don’t overwhelm myself). This is the reason I don’t want to take orders from friends!! I’ve asked a couple of times now with no reply. I don’t want to lose the friendship or people think ill of me by pushing it, especially in our small community. WIBU to ask again for the money or should I just let it go?

Hiya

After over 20 years together DP and I have finally decided to get married. Originally for tax/inheritance reasons (we have two kids) but we've agreed we want to have a great party for all our friends.

The only other bit I know I want is a splendid wedding dress. I am well known for having a very glamorous/avant garde approach to fashion. The problem is my figure is quite a challenge these days to present attractively - so please can I have some advice.

I am 5ft with an obese BMI. I am almost completely spherical and with big boobs (32H) My waist still goes in at the sides but at the front I look heavily pregnant (though at mid-50s that is obviously not the case). Even for my stature my legs are disproportionately short (I can't wear long boots because the cut into my thighs at the back when I sit down). My wrists have become very chunky and so my arms don't look good. I can't show my back because I have a long row of birth marks between my shoulder blades that I hate. My cleavage is quite nice but I am getting very wrinkly there these days and my neck folds are awful.

Please can anyone suggest a flattering style? Any colour will do - white/red/black/pink/green. I'm keen for it to look over the top/bridal. My ideal dress is Carrie's Vivienne Westwood one in SitC. I think I want a massive veil or maybe hat as well because I am balding.

I have presented a rather unflattering portrait of myself here but I know I can still look fabulous - as I manage it all the time - I just wanted to be realistic about what I am dealing with!

If you've bought your house outright, either by cash or from the sale of another house, did you get a copy of your deeds and when.

I bought this house last July and I haven't received anything and I'm starting to get a bit twitchy now.

Link to previous thread: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/telly_addicts/5472793-this-time-its-personal-traitors-2026-thread-5-spoiler-free?page=1

Welcome to Thread 6 of Traitors 2026.

This thread runs at TV pace so do not read any further if you are not up to date with the live broadcast. Whilst most discussion will be on the current series, inevitably people will refer to previous series/players/winners so reader beware if you’ve not seen the 3 previous editions, or the celebrity version.

While we welcome posters discussing their theories and speculating on relationships/connections between players, please don’t post spoilers from elsewhere that may ruin things for those of us who like to see things unfold over the course of the series.

The story so far:

Traitors
Hugo
Rachel
Stephen
Fiona (Secret Traitor)

Murdered
Netty
Ben
Maz
Reece

Banished
Judy (Faithful)
Hugo (Traitor)
Ross (Faithful)
Amanda (Faithful)
Fiona (Traitor)

No murder cliffhanger after episode 6, but Matthew (aka Interchangeable Male #3) has taken an interesting approach. We wait to see what cunning questions Harriet can come up with.

The floor is yours…

Recently signed up to a city centre gym. Went earlier, 8pm and you need a personalised pin to get in so ideally should be secure.

However 4 teenagers were in the hallway, unsure how they got in. One of them moved past so I said thank you.
Obviously didn't hear me so he shouted, say thanks then!! I said, I did, didn't you hear me?

The other then said 'fucking ungrateful cunt.
I should've ignored them because they want a reaction, but I was shaken up so I said 'Don't you dare speak to me like that.' They left and I alerted gym staff that kids were getting into the building and verbally abusing members, they said they'd keep an eye on it.

I've previously been a secondary school teacher so have heard all sorts, but it can still be intimidating. Is 8pm too late to be going out? It's on a busy road.

So I need to decide whether im going up to 0.5 on wegovy. I have a lot of weight to lose. What happens if a dose will become ineffective? Am I likely to undo any progress or may I just not lose weight? I couldn't handle the former and the appetite that may come with it.