Dolly Parton died today. The news came to me at 2:08 p.m., with a message from a friend: “RIP DOLLY.”
It’s a bit more striking than the average celebrity passing, despite the facts that she was relatively quiet during my lifetime, I only overlapped with the last 35% of her life, and I’ve never been a particular fan of hers anyway. I think it’s because she was one of the last great pop culture characters of the last century, one of the oldest remaining mega-stars whose life stretched back almost as far as the modern music industry. There’s a sense of a link to the past being severed, like when one of the last veterans of a war dies. It’s also possibly because she’d turned herself into something a little more than human, both physically and as a brand. It’s like I just found out SpongeBob died. It almost seems impossible. Was he even real in the first place? And now he’s gone forever?
When I went to visit my parents for dinner tonight, my car was tuned to Willie’s Roadhouse, an old-school country station on Sirius XM backed by its own ancient star, Willie Nelson. By that time it had become a call-in vigil hosted by one of the station’s regular voices, Dallas Wayne. “My Tennessee Mountain Home” by Dolly Parton was playing as I started to drive. Here are a few of the stories people called in to tell.
Hilda:
I will never forget standing in my living room when she was on that award program, and they ended the program with her and a choir singing “He’s Alive.” I had the Don Francisco album of that for several years, and so I knew the song, and she touched many lives, because that was on nationwide, worldwide, and if you’re as old as I am you might remember the reaction the next day, that’s all they talked about was her singing “He’s Alive.” I stood there and cried because I knew that she was singing to so many people that had never heard the gospel in that way. … I don’t remember what network it was on, but the telephone lines got jammed. … It was unforgettable, and if you can play it, she can do it again.
Steve:
Several years ago, April of ‘71, I was a junior in high school, and Dolly was travelling with Porter. They did a show at the local high school gymnasium. Admission was $2 for students and $3 for adults. The dressing room, which was the boys basketball team locker room, was for Porter and Speck and the other guys. Dolly had to walk up a little set of steps into the band room, and that was her dressing room. I was walking around the backside of the gymnasium, and Dolly came out of the band room and down the steps. I encountered her there at the steps. She said, hi, how you doing? I turned around and looked behind me and had nobody behind me and I said dadgum, she’s talking to me! She is talking to me! And I will never ever forget that, Dallas. She was in a beautiful blue dress with white flowers on it. We stood and talked for, it seemed like forever, but it may have been 10 minutes or something. She was waiting to go on stage, and she just asked me how I was doing, and how I liked school, and everything about my community, and was just so down to earth, just so easy to talk to. Fifty-five years ago now, and I’ll never forget that conversation. … I have six grandbabies, and their Christmas gifts are passes to Dollywood. It’s about a three-hour drive from our home in eastern Kentucky, and we always try to go early April or May when Dolly usually goes for a little ride through the park when the park opens. We have been lucky enough to be there on some of those occasions, and my little grandkids’ faces just light up. They love Dolly, they love Dollywood, and they love papaw’s story about meeting Dolly at the local high school 55 years ago. It’s just a special, special, special memory for me.
Sherry:
I heard the news, and I was OK with it, you know, everybody’s gonna go. But when I heard Dallas’ announcement on the radio earlier, that’s when I lost it, because I heard the hurt in his voice, and that’s when it became really real. My favorite Dolly memory is one from years ago when I was younger. My uncle was fortunate enough to be able to set up concert venues for many, many artists, many that he met. One of them was Miss Dolly. I had tickets to her concert, and as a teenager, I was so excited. But two days before, my brother and I decided to go hiking and climbing rocks and things. Well, I jumped down, broke my ankle, then I went to the doctor, fell backwards through the doctor’s window, got stitches on my legs, stitches in my arms, so I was just not able to go anywhere. My uncle was there, and he was like, yeah, my niece was supposed to be here, she was supposed to come, but she can’t. Somehow, word got back to Miss Dolly about it. And she hunted down until she found my uncle. … She took pictures with him, she signed an autograph for me, gave him a hug and said give it to her. When he said, I got a picture with her for you, I didn’t believe him, of course, being doubtful, and sure enough, as soon as he got that camera back and the film developed, I was over the moon excited, and I keep it tucked away inside of a trunk, inside of a box, just for safe keeping, and tonight I’ll probably go home and look at it and realize how much I miss her already.
Sophia:
When I got married to a wonderful man 50 years ago, he told me shortly after we got married that he wanted me to know that there was only one woman in the whole wide world that he would ever leave me for. And he said Dolly Parton. He said, now, I’m not going looking for her, but if she ever calls me, I just want you to know that I’m gonna go. So I said, you know, I feel like I should start singing, “Dolly, Dolly, Dolly, please don’t take him just because you can.” She was my Jolene in a way. He is a preacher, by the way. We’re married 50 years. He was a pastor this whole time, but he loved, loved, loved, we all did, Dolly Parton, and our favorite Dolly Parton song, of course, my children, my grandchildren, all of us know every word to: “Daddy Was an Old Time Preacher Man.”
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