ARROW-15312: [R][C++] filtering a Parquet dataset with is.na() misses some rows

[jonkeane]

The real fix was in #12891 (ARROW-12659) but this adds integration tests from the ticket to confirm this works in R + we don't run into this in the future

[github-actions]

https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-15312

[ursabot]

Benchmark runs are scheduled for baseline = a6296cb and contender = 285667c. 285667c is a master commit associated with this PR. Results will be available as each benchmark for each run completes.
Conbench compare runs links:
[Finished ⬇️0.0% ⬆️0.0%] ec2-t3-xlarge-us-east-2
[Failed] test-mac-arm
[Failed ⬇️4.14% ⬆️0.0%] ursa-i9-9960x
[Finished ⬇️0.84% ⬆️0.0%] ursa-thinkcentre-m75q
Buildkite builds:
[Finished] <https://buildkite.com/apache-arrow/arrow-bci-benchmark-on-ec2-t3-xlarge-us-east-2/builds/584| 285667cc ec2-t3-xlarge-us-east-2>
[Failed] <https://buildkite.com/apache-arrow/arrow-bci-benchmark-on-test-mac-arm/builds/572| 285667cc test-mac-arm>
[Failed] <https://buildkite.com/apache-arrow/arrow-bci-benchmark-on-ursa-i9-9960x/builds/570| 285667cc ursa-i9-9960x>
[Finished] <https://buildkite.com/apache-arrow/arrow-bci-benchmark-on-ursa-thinkcentre-m75q/builds/582| 285667cc ursa-thinkcentre-m75q>
[Finished] <https://buildkite.com/apache-arrow/arrow-bci-benchmark-on-ec2-t3-xlarge-us-east-2/builds/583| a6296cb5 ec2-t3-xlarge-us-east-2>
[Failed] <https://buildkite.com/apache-arrow/arrow-bci-benchmark-on-test-mac-arm/builds/571| a6296cb5 test-mac-arm>
[Failed] <https://buildkite.com/apache-arrow/arrow-bci-benchmark-on-ursa-i9-9960x/builds/569| a6296cb5 ursa-i9-9960x>
[Finished] <https://buildkite.com/apache-arrow/arrow-bci-benchmark-on-ursa-thinkcentre-m75q/builds/581| a6296cb5 ursa-thinkcentre-m75q>
Supported benchmarks:
ec2-t3-xlarge-us-east-2: Supported benchmark langs: Python, R. Runs only benchmarks with cloud = True
test-mac-arm: Supported benchmark langs: C++, Python, R
ursa-i9-9960x: Supported benchmark langs: Python, R, JavaScript
ursa-thinkcentre-m75q: Supported benchmark langs: C++, Java