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I wrote a book that came out in April and just realized that I never posted about it on here??? BAD FORM. Anyway you should read it.
Semi-related, most of the stuff that I used to write on my Tumblr now exists on my TinyLetter, so you should subscribe to that if you still want to read my unfiltered ramblings.
Figured I’d put all of these in one place — happy shopping/massaging/dog walking/etc etc etc! Most of these are discounts, but a few are just referral links to services that I love and use. Consider these all endorsements! I’ll update this continuously as I get more. (N.B.: I’m not posting referral links to any companies that I have written about or might write about on BuzzFeed.)
Tradesy — buy and sell used designer clothing. $20 off your first order over $50.
Zeel — in-home on-demand massages. This is my favorite thing in life. Sign up at zeel.com and use referral code 90h2 for $25 off your first massage.
ClassPass — unlimited boutique fitness classes (up to 3/month at any one studio, but overall classes are unlimited). I gave up my gym membership for this. $20 off your first month.
Trunk Club — get a “trunk” of clothes picked out specially for you each month. Keep whatever you want (no minimum order) and send back the rest for free. It’s where I’ve gotten all the clothes that I get the most compliments on. Use my referral link to sign up.
Poshmark — buy and sell clothing. A lot more stuff than Tradesy but also a lot more to wade through. Still, worth checking out for brands like Madewell, J. Crew, Lululemon, etc. Use this link for $10 off your first order.
Rover — find dogsitters and dog walkers in your neighborhood. $20 off your first booking.
ZenRez — last-minute discount boutique fitness classes in LA, SF, and Pittsburgh. $10 off your first class.
Digit — a really neat app that siphons small amounts of money from your checking account on a regular basis so you save money without even thinking about it, and you can withdraw your cash at any time. Use my referral link to sign up.
Hotel Tonight — last-minute hotel bookings via the Hotel Tonight app. (Download it via the website or app store.) $25 off your first booking when you sign up with code DSHAFRIR1.
Gilt City — discounts on spas, clothing, restaurants, etc. $20 off your first order.
Glossier — Love their Milky Jelly Cleanser and their Boy Brow products. 20% off your first order.
Figured I’d put all of these in one place — happy shopping/massaging/dog walking/etc etc etc! Most of these are discounts, but a few are just referral links to services that I love and use. Consider these all endorsements! I’ll update this continuously as I get more. (N.B.: I’m not posting referral links to any companies that I have written about or might write about on BuzzFeed.)
Tradesy — buy and sell used designer clothing. $20 off your first order over $50.
Zeel — in-home on-demand massages. This is my favorite thing in life. Sign up at zeel.com and use referral code 90h2 for $25 off your first massage.
ClassPass — unlimited boutique fitness classes (up to 3/month at any one studio, but overall classes are unlimited). I gave up my gym membership for this. $20 off your first month.
Trunk Club — get a “trunk” of clothes picked out specially for you each month. Keep whatever you want (no minimum order) and send back the rest for free. It’s where I’ve gotten all the clothes that I get the most compliments on. Use my referral link to sign up.
Poshmark — buy and sell clothing. A lot more stuff than Tradesy but also a lot more to wade through. Still, worth checking out for brands like Madewell, J. Crew, Lululemon, etc. Use this link for $10 off your first order.
Rover — find dogsitters and dog walkers in your neighborhood. $20 off your first booking.
ZenRez — last-minute discount boutique fitness classes in LA, SF, and Pittsburgh. $10 off your first class.
Digit — a really neat app that siphons small amounts of money from your checking account on a regular basis so you save money without even thinking about it, and you can withdraw your cash at any time. Use my referral link to sign up.
Hotel Tonight — last-minute hotel bookings via the Hotel Tonight app. (Download it via the website or app store.) $25 off your first booking when you sign up with code DSHAFRIR1.
Gilt City — discounts on spas, clothing, restaurants, etc. $20 off your first order.
Glossier — Love their Milky Jelly Cleanser and their Boy Brow products. 20% off your first order.
Why America Is Ready For Novelist Angela Flournoy
After raising Detroit’s ghosts in her critically acclaimed novel, The Turner House, this debut author suddenly has everyone’s attention.
(photography by Laura McDermott)
I wrote this. :)
This somehow came up on Google when I was searching for something else to put on my website, and my goodness. This was 7 years ago! Fucking A. I think the most shocking thing is that I biked all the way from Fort Greene to the 92nd Street Y and back like it was nothing. (WHO WAS I?) Also funny to see how much has changed (dog, relationship, employment, domicile, actually writing stuff on Tumblr with any kind of regularity) and how much hasn’t (still have a lot of tchotchkes, still have that same damn bike, still friends with Emily). Anyway, #fbf, I guess!
Please tell me Britney’s converting 🙏🏻
One problem with the “personal essay” is that it requires the essayist to speak too plainly and for too many people “as a woman,” “as a black woman,” “as a black queer woman,” rather than to write in a womanly style, a black womanly style, a black queer womanly style—a personal style, the thing I feel so passionately and contradictorily about. There are so many essays with no style which are subsequently not essays at all. Didion said style was character. Hardwick said style was fate. Someone else I’m sure has said what I believe, which is that style is argument (again, there is nothing more stylish than an argument raged against yourself, and there is nothing less stylish than an argument raged against people who don’t even care about you, which is one of the traps of what we now call “identity politicking” (never mind that in America all politics are identity politics)).
Another problem with the “personal essay” in our moment is that it mistakes the first person for the personal. An essay can’t just be about something that happened to you because you’re you. Everything has happened to someone; what new can you make of it is the question. There is nothing more personal than the connections you see between seemingly disconnected things, the ability to do so being, as I learned in an old episode of the X Files, “a mark of genius”; I just think it’s a mark of individuality, which is normal and easy to confuse with genius. There are enough geniuses but not enough individuals. There are a lot of people who know a lot, but knowing a lot is no reason to write an essay. Neither is feeling a lot. Neither is having learned a lot: a good essay is not a lesson but a relentless taking apart of the object(s).
"SNP (via her tumblr) where she generously answered a question about her thoughts on the personal essay (via durgapolashi)
Good dog
Elena Ferrante, speaking the most truth to the most power, interviewed in the Financial Times
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I did this post and it’s going viral and I’m so proud that the lead image is this photo from my bedroom sophomore year.
37 Things You’ll Only Understand If You Went To College In The ‘90s
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20 Sad dads highlighted this insightful passage
Connelly, Michael (2002-01-01). The Black Ice (A Harry Bosch Novel Book 2) (p. 170). Little, Brown and Company. Kindle Edition.
(via 37 Difficult Questions From My Mixed-Race Son)
Mira Jacob is so brilliant and talented and amazing. Read this whole gorgeous cartoon about race and parenthood and hard conversations immediately.
(via rachelfershleiser)
