Since I hadn't even mentioned anything on here about being pregnant with Nate, here's a recap. It took us much longer to get pregnant with him, about eight months longer than it took with the others and it didn't happen until I went on some homeopathic hormone/adrenal medicines. It was a blessedly uneventful pregnancy and this time I didn't need to have the progesterone shots every week, which was awesome. We decided to do a blood work only genetic screening at 10 weeks which had the added benefit of letting us know the gender of the baby. We had really hoped for a girl and I admit that I cried the whole way home when they told me I was having another boy. Now, before conclusions are jumped to, it wasn't the fact that I was having a son that was upsetting. I knew this was my last baby and I wanted a daughter so that I could have a relationship with her like I do with my own mother. I wanted to have that experience because no matter what people tell me about having daughter-in-laws or granddaughters someday, it is NOT the same and it doesn't make me feel much better. For whatever reason, it just isn't meant to be. I allowed myself to have sorrow over the loss of a dream, not sorrow over the child within me.
It took us up until we saw Nathaniel to decide on his name. We knew we wanted James as a middle name (David's middle name is James) but other contenders were Aaron, Timothy and Isaac. All our other boys came with names pretty much built in, so this was a new situation to not know what his name was. David was the one who decided, since I liked all our options. We called him Squishy through the pregnancy.
It was nice being second trimester pregnant through the holidays because I felt great and could eat whatever I wanted without any guilt. Of course that lead to me gaining almost 50lbs. Of course twenty pounds have already gone due to baby, blood and fluid retention loss, but I will have a longer road to get back into my clothes this time. Hooray for leggings and long tunic style tops being in fashion! The third trimester was a bit rough due to pretty intense back and rib pain. Now that I know I was carrying a 9 lb 9 oz baby, this isn't surprising at all. At my last check up before going past my due date the doctor couldn't even measure him because he was up underneath my sternum and ribcage. Ouch!
After waiting and doing everything I knew to induce labor naturally (except caster oil, heard too many horror stories about that one) I was induced on 4/22 four days past my due date. I was worried that it would be another long labor like my inductions with Ben and Sam. This one only took five hours from start to finish, and the finish came so quickly that I almost missed getting an epidural! I went from 4cm to 10cm in twenty minutes after getting that first blessed push of pain relief. I had an excellent anesthesiologist who had it placed and meds flowing in less than three minutes, but I still had enough feeling to move my legs and feel when to push. The doctor was prepping to insert the catheter when baby decided it was time to come. I don't know exactly how many minutes it took me to push, somewhere between 10 and 15 I think. It hurt worse than any of my other babies, but this isn't surprising considering his weight, length (21 in) and huge head size (14.5 inches). As with all of my previous pregnancies, I tore along all the old scar tissue and then tore further. Third degree tears if you're curious and want to look up what that means, but don't say I didn't warn you. It's taken about a week for me to feel like I can walk and take the stairs normally and it still hurts to sit for a long time.
When Nate came out he was of course huge and rather purple. It took longer for him to pink up than my other ones did. He had been in so long that he had lost the waxy vernix coating to protect his skin from the watery fluids so the skin on his feet and hands were/are still cracked and dry. He has a light layer of hair on his head that looks blondish in some lights and brown in others. We're not sure yet which way his eye color will go, but if I had to guess I would say brown.
We only spent one night in the hospital because I knew I wouldn't get any sleep. And I didn't. Not a single wink of sleep that whole night because Nate is a voracious eater and would cry the instant I tried to take him away from the boob. He has more suction than any of my other babies, so that combined with a lack of milk meant that I was incredibly sore and he did damage I'm still trying to heal from a week later. After 24 hours without any pee or poop, we started supplementing with formula. The inability to breastfeed has been a major guilt-inducer for me with each baby. I have taken every supplement and medication, I pump, I feed on demand and nothing helps. We suspect a lack of glandular tissue, but can't confirm it without doing a scan and I'm not willing to pay for that just to satisfy curiosity. It has been a little bit better this time with a new combo of homeopathic herbs, but mainly I've just come to the conclusion that I'm the dessert bar for him, not the main course and source of nutrition. Just the fact that I can give him a tiny bit of milk and comfort (I BF him after he has a bottle so that he isn't so ravenous and undoes all the work I've done to heal up my chest) is more than I was able to do with the others. I don't know how long it will last, or if by doing this it will somehow up my supply eventually, but I am very grateful to live in a time and place where I have a safe and reliable source of nutrition for my baby.
Nate is thus far a champion sleeper, usually always sleeping at least two hours and sometimes three hours in a row. David takes the first part of the night, staying up with him until midnight and feeding him before putting him down. I go to bed at 9pm so I am generally getting to sleep from nine to three these past few nights. It makes such a difference because I don't have opportunities to sleep or even lay down during the day! He's doing well sleeping even while his brothers are ridiculously loud around him. I feel like I need to record my voice saying "the baby is sleeping, please be quiet" so that I can just push a button and play it.
Brothers are adjusting as well as can be expected. Sam has regressed in his language usage and Josh is fine until he doesn't get what he wants in the evening. We've been dealing with defiant behavior for a while with him, so this is just an amped up version and not unexpected. With Nate he is absolutely wonderful; always asking to hold him, singing to him, reading to him and just being generally helpful (until the evening time). Ben has been very sweet as well. When we were waiting for Nate to arrive Ben drew him pictures every day and put them into the pack n play that Nate sleeps in. Sam tends to not pay him a lot of attention and pretty much just wants to occasionally hold his hand. I can tell that he's feeling some jealousy because when I do set aside "Sam time" he will climb on top of me, wrap his arms tightly around my neck and hold onto me for a very long time. I'm doing my best to give each of them the attention they need individually. It's hard with four little active boys, but I think I'm doing a fairly good job. I'm lucky that thus far I've never dealt with the baby blues and I have lots of support from friends and family.
And now some pictures!
| What do you mean he's going to be almost 10 lbs?! |
| Squishy is such an appropriate nickname for him. |
| Baby wearing a newborn is the best. I'm wearing him while I can before he gets too big to do this comfortably. |
| This is such a good reason to be up all night. Luckily only the first few nights were bad with only a few hours of sleep, if any. |
| Josh loves to read to Nate. |
| I had to bribe him to get him to smile with his brother. |
| All four boys as babies. I think Sam and Nate look the most alike, and I keep calling Nate Sam. |
| Taking care of their own babies. |
| Snuggles with daddy. |






