THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!! WOW!! We are so thankful to those that are helping us help others in Ghana by giving monetary donations or helping us fill our suitcases...
Our family:Gene and Laura Meyer, Tom and Kathy Davidson, Gene and Mary Warne, Noel and Elaine Simmons, Joanne and Lyn Simmons, Kristen Spencer and Scott Sanders, Kristen and Gray Fontenot,
and friends: Ginny Westerby, Char Fujino, Pam Bradley, Rebecca Dorsett, Bryan Thomas, Mark Wagner, Todd Muilenberg, Bonnie Cross, Mary Garcia, Fran Klein, Chris Hall, Colleen Gaba, Chief John Cocca, Director Helen Gandara- Zavala, Commander Burl Haenel, Kevin/Christine Furia, Ginger/Jeff Golden, Doug/Diane Montemayor, Bill/Mary Ita Smyth, Chief Sean Duggan, Kim Miller, Cody/Carla Standage, Mike Hanafin, Pat Lomonaco, Terri Terlazzo, Donna Mulvey, Steve Capone, Bruce/Marcy Fredette-Roman,
Denise/Mike Mueller, Molly Lyons, Dr. Matt Jones, Coach Michael Doerr, Gloria Roberts, Paul/Nicole Rogers, Brooke Scritchfield, Monty Thomas, Soccer teammates- Jason, Edward, Jack, Gunnar, Jarret

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Welcome Ryan...

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Is that the sweetest picture ever???!!!
Ryan Martin entered the world on Friday weighing in at 9lbs 7 oz! Yikes!!
I am an aunt again!! I am so excited to have a second nephew and only wish that he was not across the country!
Congratulations Kristin, Gray and Tyler...We are all so happy for you!

Sunday, September 28, 2008

The last of the donation money....

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is spent! So here is the story...

It took over three months and a few emails but I have been able to move forward and Albert will be getting an artificial arm!

Ever since meeting Albert briefly the day after seeing the Orthopedic Center in Nsawam, I have felt that I really needed to look into getting him help. Albert is a student at the same free school that Selina was at for a short period of time before entering the adoption center. This school is run by Percy of our adoption agency (he wears many hats). I was told that Albert was very self conscious about his arm.

Prior to leaving Ghana, I was able to talk to Brother Tarcisius who runs the center and he said that he would take Albert in at the center and make him an arm if I am able to pay for it and if Albert will have support in his life to help him with his new arm.

I informed Percy of this before leaving Ghana. I also emailed him when I returned to America but did not hear back from him. About two weeks ago, I was about to give up when I decided to email his brother Edward (who was my driver while I was in Ghana). Edward took me to Nsawam when I was in Ghana and saw the center and met Brother with me. Edward emailed back immediately and agreed to take Albert to the center for evaluation the following Monday.

Last Monday Albert was to go to the center with Edward and his teacher Gifty. As things tend to be in Ghana, it wasn't easy. Brother never emailed me back when I tried to let him know that Albert was coming so I was concerned the Edward would take him and Albert would not be evaluated. On Sunday evening I found Brother's phone number and so I called Edward (actually spoke to Percy as he answered) and gave him the number. It was great to talk to Percy and to know that he is also excited about this. I was nervous all day Monday wondering if it all would work out until I got this email...

I was there this morning with Albert and Gifty Albert's teacher and were told Tarcisius has stroke so we could not see him. Since we don't have any appointment we have to join a long cue and finally Albert was seen around 5pm. Some measurements was taken and an amount of $700 before they will start working on him. As soon as the payment is made we have to go back for them to work on the plaster. if that is done he will be admitted for a for them to fix his hand. I will scan the bill and send it to you tomorrow.

They feel he will be a fine candidate for an arm and estimated the cost for the arm and for him to live at the center for a month or two to learn how to use it would be $700. Thankfully, I have enough left to cover this as well as the cost for Edward to transport him back and forth from the center at least four times to complete the process. The center is a few hours away.

Given what I was told about Albert's history, I was not sure if he would have family support to help with his new arm or that he fully would understand what is going on. I have spoken to the center and emailed back and forth with Edward and am no longer concerned. In fact, I was blessed with the following email on Tuesday...

About six family members of Albert were in my house this morning to thank me and they ask me to tell you that God Richly Bless you for what you are doing for Albert, and they are very grateful. They said the Almighty should bless you in all areas of your life. Brother Tascisius is still in Ghana and hospitalized in the room next to his office, I spoke to him on phone and said he is doing fine. Yes the family will be able to help him with his new arm. It is okay with me to take Albert to the hospital...

On Tuesday this email was the sign I needed from God to proceed with this. I spoke to Sister Elizabeth from the center on Friday and she confirmed every thing and I told her that I would be covering the cost of this with donation monies I had received. Elizabeth requested that Albert go back to the center on Monday (today) to get measured and for more evaluation. She is leaving to Holland with Brother Tarcisius who is doing much better following his stroke. He will be seen by doctors there and they will bring back some items needed in particular for Albert's arm as he will require some imported parts!

So I can't tell you how excited I am that this is working out!! This is due to all of you listed at the top of this page that donated monies for me to use to help others in Ghana. Thank you for trusting me with such generous donations! Now that all the money is spent, I will be doing another post sharing my last story of where another large portion of the money went.

Part of doing this for Albert, I was told that the arm he receives will last about five years and then he will need an adult arm that he will have the rest of his life. This adult sized arm will be more complicated and will cost considerably more (closer to $2000). I have already committed to the center that if Albert uses his arm and they feel he would benefit from the adult arm, that I will pay for it. I would hate to have people wonder what is going to happen next for him and so in five years, I hope to be having a fundraiser for Albert!!

I also sent Edward an email asking how Albert felt about this and if he understood what was happening and that he would be leaving his family to live alone in the center with all the other children that are learning how to use their new limbs (there are currently 50 children in the children's center) and he said this...

Albert knows what is going on he is very happy about it, I heard he told the classmates that very soon an arm will be fix for him and they were all happy for him.

So there you have it... I can't tell you how pleased I am that this is working out. I am so thankful for all that donated money and for Edward for helping Albert see this through. I feel this was really worked out so well as many of you that donated specifically mentioned wanting to donate to something that was tied to Selina. To be able to help another child from her school that lives in the same neighborhood that she did and that is from the same tribe is a perfect way to honor her roots. Thank you for this and I look forward to updating you in the future on Albert's progress.

Friday, September 26, 2008

The Smile Award

Heather nominated me for The Smile Award. So in nominating me for the Smile Award, Heather said the following:
Jen went to Ghana to pick up her little girl and did so much good while she was there. She uses her blog for the powers of good by spreading the word about things like breast cancer and needs in Ghana, but she also shares the joys of parenting a newly adopted toddler.

Thank you Heather- you are so kind! It is Heather though who is awesome! She is also incredibly patient as who else would talk to me on the phone for hours (did I mention that my analytical abilities and attention to detail are a relative strength for me?) answering my questions about what to expect in Ghana. I also love that when adopting her daugher M, Heather took advantage of the opportunity to travel around Ghana to get to know the country that her beautiful daughter is from and am so happy that she also has a love for Ghana and the people there.

So back to the Smile Award: The smile award is a fun little blog award. In short someone makes up something and awards a few people and then they award a few people and so on and so on and so on....kind of like chain emails!:-)

Characteristics for the Smile Award:
1. Must display a cheerful attitude.
2. Must love one another.
3. Must make mistakes.
4. Must learn from others.
5. Must be a positive contributor to blog world.
6. Must love life.
7. Must love kids.

These are the rules for The Smile Award.
1. The recipient must link back the the award’s creator
2. You must post these rules if you receive the award.
3. You must chose 5 people to receive the award after receiving it yourself.
4. You must fit the characteristics of the recipient of the award, as posted by Mere.
5. You must post the characteristics of a recipient
6. You must create a post sharing your win with others.
7. You must thank your giver.

So. . . what fun and a great opportunity to share some of blogs that make me smile.

People I’d like to give this award to:
Kiara at Andy and Kiara http://andykiara.spaces.live.com
Kiara is incredible. She is a mom to five including children through fostering and domestic adoption, having added two or three within the last year (sometimes you lose count)! She is the reason that you have seen beads in Selina's hair as she teaches classes on caring for black hair and skin. She is a moderator in a local adoption group and she plans so many events for us and is truely inspirational. I have many new friends in the adoption community and my children will grow up with other transracial families because of what Kiara has started.

Erica at The Road Less Traveled http://thisshubinclan.blogspot.com/
or their adoption blog A Journey of Our Hearts http://journeyofourhearts.blogspot.com
I met Erica at a weekend adoption class last June and have been following her blogs ever since. I love her family and her passion for adoption. Erica is strong in her faith and that she is always encouraging others and sharing her knowledge and adoption experience with others. She is always quick to congratulate someone or encourage them on the different groups we are both on. I also happen to be in love with her new little man Silas who is simply the coolest and cutest little guy ever!

Nikki at Blogs for a Cause http://www.madebynikki.blogspot.com/ or Ends of the Earth at http://www.endsforyou.blogspot.com
I want to be as generous and philanthropic as Nikki when I grow up (oh yea, she is much younger than me)! She is a student that has a passion for helping children in the Dominican Republic. She has traveled there a few times and does amazing things and the way she connects with others is beautiful. She also designs blogs with a portion of the proceeds helping to fund her trips to the Dominican Republic as well as a worthwhile charity that she chooses to help each month. She designed my blog and I just LOVE it.. I only wish I knew then what I know now as I would have loved to have done more to help others in Africa when I was much younger as Nikki does now...

Whymommy at Toddler Planet http://toddlerplanet.wordpress.com
I have read this blog for awhile. Whymommy is a survivor of Inflammatory Breast Cancer. I love what she has done to bring awareness to breast cancer and how she has helped so many by sharing her story. She has brought so many women together. Being that I am passionate about fighting breast cancer and have done the 3 Day Walk a few times, I read several blogs of women who are battling this cancer. I just so admire whymommy for being so real and for sharing the good and the bad. I don't know what it is like to have breast cancer and I don't know what my friends that have it go through but I feel that I get a closer glimpse into their experience by keeping up with whymommy. She is one amazing mommy...

Ginny at The Westerby's Are Ready For One More Crazy.. at http://westerbywhatsup.blogspot.com
Ginny and her husband Ben have three children and are in the process of adopting a sweet little girl from Ghana. I am really enjoying following her story. Okay, so this is the smile award and Ginny has said something that I think is so incredibly cleaver that no matter how many times I hear it, I smile.... here it is...
Ben frequently describes life with three young kids as 'crazy'. On one particularly chaotic day during the time we were thinking about adopting, Ben turns to me and says, "Do you see this? This is crazy...how much more crazy can we handle?" To which I replied, "Just one more crazy."


This was so fun... I hope you get a chance to check out these blogs that make me smile...

PS- Come back soon for an Albert update... I am working on it now and am so excited!

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

The death of the consumer reporter...

This post is for all my friends that have known me over the years as a sort of consumer reporter if you will...

If you were having a baby after me, there is not much you needed to do as I researched EVERYTHING! Strollers, monitors, doctors, hospitals, breastpumps, bottles- I only got the best for me and my wee one. My friends would call me all the time and ask what I knew about something and I would share my knowledge. I really was especially particular about car seats. I did the most research on them and once I selected one, I took it to the fire station to have it securely fastened into my car by a firefighter.

I enjoyed learning about every thing and enjoyed sharing what I learned. One time, I kid you not, I got an email from someone I did not even know. It said this... "I was told to ask you what car seat to buy. Let me know what you think..." So I emailed back several questions and once this gal answered, I sent my response- of course letting her know that some car seats can be good but not good for your vehicle so it is always important to have a fitting by the local fire department to ensure that the seat is appropriate for the vehicle...

So now that my newer friends have background let me tell you what happened when Selina, child number three came home...

Me- We have to go to Babies R Us and get a new carseat. Selina is light for her age so I need chair with a five point harness that is more like a booster seat.

TR- Okay

So off we go to Babies R Us..

TR- What one are we looking at? (Expecting me to whip out my notes on car seats like I used to do)

Me- The one with the best cup holder.

TR- WHAT???

Me- The one with the best cup holder. I am sure they are all great these days. The problem is that with car seats with a five point, they often have "strap on" cup holders. We don't want any of that crap. Selina needs a built in cup holder. It's hot, she's thirsty. Were picking the one with the most comfy seat and definitely the one with the best cup holder.

TR- We are selecting the car seat based on the cup holder??

Me- Damn right we are...

I seriously rock... Look at that cup holder- I have 13 cup holders in my 7 passenger van (14 now with Selina's) and hers is the best- by far!

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Look at that smile- she loves her cup holder!
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Off to the baby monitors....

Me- We need a baby monitor too.

TR- Which ones are we looking at?

Me- I have no idea.

TR- WHAT? You have no idea about any of these? What are we supposed to do?

Me- I don't know, do what most Americans do and just pick one. Look for a brand we like or one that looks like it can be thrown across the room and still keep working. Are any of them waterproof?

TR- (annoyed) I can't believe we are just going to pick one.

Me- Yep. Let's get one that is a little smaller. I want to be able to pull it back out when the kids are teens and hide it in their rooms to listen in on their conversations.

TR- You aren't going to do that?

Me- We'll see, I am definitely keeping my options open. On that note, grab one with a thicker cord so it won't get sucked up in the vacuum and break like the last one did.

TR- You're unbelievable.

So there you have it. The third child did me in. Love the car seat! The monitor- not so much. Too much interference. In the chaos of my life at the time, I lost the receipt right away so I am stuck with it. Oh well.

I am a resourceful woman though and have come up with a plan. I am going to seek out a younger version of me to become friends with so I can call her from Babies R Us or whatever store I am at next time and get her advice.

So calling newer, fresher moms out there... if you are the consumer reporter that I used to be... send me your number!! :-)

Monday, September 22, 2008

Albert...

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His name is Albert. While in Ghana, I came across this fabulous center that helps those with missing limbs. You can read about it here. The following day, I met Albert. Ever since, I have been trying to get him help. I have made some progress. I am not yet ready to share, but please keep him in your prayers...

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Selina has a brother too!...

I just noticed that my last few posts only showed Selina and Cater. In case you were wondering where Kman is and how it is going with him and Selina...
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The kids are all doing very well, don't get me wrong, we have our moments but it has been so sweet the way the kids have become so attached to Selina.

With Selina and Kman, their big bond is "balls". Kman loves to throw, catch, kick, roll balls (often in the house without the accuracy of a pro). Selina loves balls too and so they can often be seen playing ball when it is just the two of them home.

We do many things together as a family but it is also important to us to separate the kids so that they each get some time alone with one of us or with just one of their sibs. Cater was especially needy of extra attention when I got home as she really had a hard time with me being gone for a month so to do this has really helped make the transition easier. Sometimes it was as simple as running errand or other times it was more exciting things like baseball games!

A few weeks ago, I took Kman and Selina to a Dbacks game. It was a really good time. Kman was so concerned about Selina and if she was happy, eating enough, enjoying the game, etc. We had nice seats and so in the 500 pictures of the players that he took, he caught this one of Selina...

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After the game, the kids were allowed to run the bases. You had to be at least three years old so Kman did it alone the first time. I noticed some kids smaller than Selina going so I asked Kman if he wanted to take his sister around. He was so excited! We went back over and off they went!!!
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I got teary eyed at the end as I snapped this last picture of Selina and her new brother at a baseball game on the field. She has come so far the last few months and is doing so well, I can't wait to see what her future holds!!

Monday, September 15, 2008

Casino Night Baby- 3 Day Walk

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Calling Arizona Friends and Family,

It is once again time for the 3 Day Walk here in Arizona supporting breast cancer research and programs through the Susan G Komen Foundation. I did this walk for the past two years. The walk entails walking 60 miles over three days. We walked 20 or so miles each day and slept in a big camp the two nights in between. Doing this walk and supporting this cause has been a wonderful experience for me and I feel blessed to have been able to do it two years in a row.

Last year, a coworker, Michele who had breast cancer, did this walk also. Even though she was affected by breast cancer, as long as she could get out there and walk, she wanted to do so for her children so they have a better chance of avoiding this horrible cancer. Michele died five weeks after the walk. I blogged about it last year here.

So for this year, I am not walking because of our adoption and having a new toddler at home but I am still supporting my team. Last year we did an awesome casino night fundraiser and brought in over $17,000 for breast cancer research.

I will be participating in Casino Night again this year on October 4. This event is HUGE and is so much fun! I would love to have any of my friends and family that would love to support this cause and have a phenomenal night out to contact me for more details- anyone is welcome.

If you can't come but would like to donate, here is the link to my 3 Day Team. Please donate to Marcy Fredette Roman or Kimberly Mularski or any of the women who still have not met their goal. If you have ever considered doing the 3 Day Walk, DO IT! It is s fabulous experience. You can always contact me and I can fill you in on it and answer questions..

Thanks-
Jennine

A few goofy pics from last year:

Debbie our good friend that just moved back to New Jersey- LOVE YOU and MISS YOU DEBBIE
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Kim, tearing it up on stage because after walking 20 miles, we have a dance at camp in the evening
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The girls and I last year at the last mile mark! We did it again!!
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Sunday, September 14, 2008

H2O Fun...

The other day as Kman had soccer practice, I took the girls to the park. At first they had fun playing on the playground equipment...
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...until they noticed the water shooting from the ground.
It was probably not best to do it since it was early evening and I had no dry clothes for them ...but hey, you only are a kid once and I know I would have loved doing it...

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Selina was having so much fun that I couldn't help but take tons of pics...
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Hey, when it rains, it pours- read below as I did TWO posts today! :-)

A new room and den

Prior to bringing Selina home, I redid our den and the girls bedrooms. I finished most of it a few days before I left for Africa so I never posted the finished product...

I love decorating and feel I am especially gifted at getting nice things at good prices. It helps because I love nice things but cannot afford them but have found that if I am patient, all good things are at least 75% off at some point! LOL

THE DEN:
Right before getting our referral for Selina, I started going a little crazy with the wait and had to do something so that it felt more real to me that we were adopting. I posted about it here at the time.

So in preparation at the time for what I thought might be two older siblings because we were open to two children up to age eight, we redid the den. As TR was painting the den, we got the referral call for Selina. We had to laugh as we thought that a two year old probably won't get the full benefit of the remodeled den.

This gives you a feel for the den before- this is just a pic I took of the desk for when I sold it on Craigslist.
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We wanted a new desk that had a lot of storage and space to put the kids games and such. I really lucked out as I called my favorite wood furniture company to get a quote on buiding a custom desk. When it was way out of my budget, I asked if they had any desks they were trying to get rid of that might work for us. Sure enough, this was a desk that an employee used for three years and then it sat in pieces for another five years or so. It had water damage on the top. So they offered us this desk at about one seventh the cost of a custom desk and that included them fixing the top of it. It was the deal of the century, I still get excited thinking about it. This desk also has room for two kids to sit if they are doing something together on the computer.
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So we ended up painting the room, putting down laminate wood floors and getting a new desk. An example of my bargaining skills are with the wood floor. I fell in love with a floor that was more than I wanted to spend. I did some research and got it for $2 less a square foot, then when getting quotes on installation, I found someone with a good reputation that was dollars less a square foot to install than the flooring stores charge.

I wanted to do a cornice board over the window to add some texture and color and fell in love with this tapestry.
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Here you can see the fabric a little better although the light is making it look a little weird. Can you see my multicultural people on there? I think this fabric is so fun!
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We still are not done with the den but we have the kids table and an easel out and the kids play kitchen is in the closet. I still need to finish arranging things in the desk, (it has only been five months!), putting decorations and art on the walls and paint the closet door with chalkbard paint so they can use it as a chalkboard and I will be done! I never can quite finish a project before moving on to the next...


THE GIRL'S ROOM:

With the addition of Selina, Cater and her were to share a room. It has been important for me to have the kids room ready before they come home. I did this with Kman and Cater and so I also wanted to make sure that when Selina came home, she had a pretty room and a comfortable bed.

This was Cater's room before...
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The girls have their own bathroom in their bedroom. I kept the bathroom the same but we (or should I say TR- thank you honey) painted it a fun yellow (the second picture)
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Their room is a nice size for a room here in Arizona (for some reason secondary bedrooms tend to be smaller that other parts of the country) but it has only about a wall and a half of space for furniture because of the closet, bathroom door and a large window looking out front. I only had one wall for both girls bed and wanted a lot of storage yet needed both beds on one wall. I had this unit done (by the same nice man that sold me the desk) and it worked out perfectly as it has nice big drawers below the beds for their clothes- saving me from having to get a dresser.
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I had it all set to take Cater's comforter and have it cut in half and finished off so the girls would each have half of it at the end of their beds. Unfortunately when I took it in to get dry cleaned per the instructions, it was destroyed as apparantly the colors were not ever locked. You can see below, whe difference between the pillow that was not washed and the comforter. The solid patches in the comforter that look off white were supposed to be a bright coral. The company that sold me the bedding had no sympathy for me and did not stand behind their bedding at all (bad, very bad Davenport Home Furnishings) and so I ended having to get different bedding because I had bedding that I could never wash. (thank you mom and dad for doing that as a gift for the girls!:-))
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I also wanted to repaint this room. TR wasn't excited about that but when the new bedding did not have purple, we ended up deciding to do green as it is Cater's favorite color and I think it is more calming. My neighbor was getting crown molding done in her home and since the crown molding guy was across the street I had him stop by for a quick quote. Since he was already in the hood, he gave me a smoking deal to just do the girl's room and bathroom. I thought it would look good with their white shutters and bed unit. We painted the walls green and then the ceiling the same green but two shades lighter.
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So there you have it! I finished their rooms with a few days to spare before leaving to meet Selina and bring her home. I can tell you that after the 14 month process and a month in Ghana, how wonderful it was to see our new daughter sleeping in her own bed. I pictured her at home and sleeping peacefully in her bed for weeks and it was so much better than I ever imagined!...
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Sunday, September 7, 2008

Father/Daughter Dance- One Year Later...

TR and Cater before the dance last year...
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TR and both his girls this year...
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Each year the club that we belong to has a father/daughter dance. It is such a wonderful event and such a special evening for fathers and their daughters.

Last year as I sent TR and Cater away, we were in the adoption process and were completing our homestudy. We had requested a boy and girl between birth and eight years old so we really had no idea who our daughter would be. I remember thinking a lot that night about the daughter we would have the following year. I wondered what age she would be, what her personality would be like, how bonded she would be to us and how our daughters would get along as I especially worried about Cater losing her status as the youngest and the only daughter in the family.

So here we are! The dance was a few weeks ago. It was the first time that TR, Cater and Selina were going out for a special evening. I was so excited for them all. I spent six hours doing Selina's hair the night before as I am still learning and it is really hard to do when she is sleeping (although still easier than when she is awake!). Selina wore a dress that is one of my favorites of hers and is a gift from another adoption mom that has become a good friend (thanks BFF!)

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As a special treat, I took the girls to get their toes done and to have their big toes decorated with a flower and jewel. The girls loved it. Selina kept looking down at her feet smiling the rest of the afternoon!

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I had fun taking pictures of their first father/daughter dance as a threesome...
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They headed to dinner at the club with another dad and his daughters and then they all headed to to the dance. TR said that the girls had a blast and that Selina really enjoyed herself and did not seem nervous at all. The girls had a great time dancing with daddy and each other...

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And trying to do a flip on the dance floor...
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Last year, I did not know what our future had in store- now I do. We are so blessed to have two wonderful daughters. To watch them together and how much they love each other after 12 weeks has been beautiful. Cater has blossomed into a caring and considerate big sister and it is obvious by the way Selina follows Cater and copies her that she is happy to have her.

What has been even more wonderful is to see TR with both of his girls. Cater has had him wrapped around her finger for years. She just LOVES her daddy and he loves her. Now it is a fabulous sight to see Cater and Selina run as fast as they can yelling "daddy, daddy, daddy" and leaping into his arms when he comes in the door. Any yup, Selina also has him pretty much as putty in her hands! There is nothing better than to see a father with his daughters.

Thank you God for daddy's girls... and for making the addition of Selina turn out better than we ever could have imagined...
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