I've been exchanging email with the agency again - I'm wondering how I will wait for a referral if I can't even wait 13 days for someone to turn down a 2007 spot... they've said that most likely I will get it, since they still haven't gotten a response (how that happens, I'll never understand). I'd be dancing and screaming yippee!!! if the boards hadn't been full of rumors about a change in China's adoption policy.
The rumors boil down to : No singles will be allowed to submit paperwork to adopt any child (SN or NSN) after 12/31/2006. What will the actual rule change be? No one knows... who knows if there will even be a rule change? Others are saying that rumors like this appear every year. However, with referral times stretching to 13 months, and the increasing numbers of adoptions by two-parent families, I guess they would feel that some type of restriction would have to be put into place.
What will I do if they do ban single adoptions? At this point I don't know... it already seems like, two steps back for every step forward.
Adding to the stress is telling my father this weekend. He's been in Alaska for the past 3 months and while giving 3000 miles of space while he mulls it over did seem like a good idea... it also sounded like the chicken way out. I know that he won't exactly be on board with the idea, mostly because of financial reasons - it's too expensive (children in general), too much responsibility and I won't have enough time to do it right being a single mother. All things that I continue wrestle with on a daily basis. Plus at this point, there isn't really anything to tell him.
Aug 25, 2006
Aug 13, 2006
No reply
The agency who's packet I finally received... they still aren't responding to email. I even tried emailing from another address thinking that maybe a free email address might have been shunted to the "spam" pile, but still no response. It's not that big of an agency, how long can it take to answer a simple email question? Is this how they would act during the adoption process? I'm not a demanding type person... but I do think that an simple email should be responded to within 5 days. Am I crazy?
I also got an email from an agency with a spot open for 2006 - but I would have to get all my paperwork in by Nov. 1st. That means a lot of running around and shelling out at a lot of money that I thought I would have time to save for. On the other hand, it also means I could have a child in my arms by early 2008! (or even less time if the wait shortens, heh.) I finally discovered some local homestudy agencies (phonebook, who knew people still used those?), so on Monday, I'll start calling around to get prices. I'm hoping that going local will save me a bit of money.
Great Wall will be having their "application review" in two months for 2007 slots. It's so crazy to be haunting the net like this... searching for an opening and hedging bets everywhere. But every way I've thought about expiditing the process seems to be at least unethical, if not illegal.
I also got an email from an agency with a spot open for 2006 - but I would have to get all my paperwork in by Nov. 1st. That means a lot of running around and shelling out at a lot of money that I thought I would have time to save for. On the other hand, it also means I could have a child in my arms by early 2008! (or even less time if the wait shortens, heh.) I finally discovered some local homestudy agencies (phonebook, who knew people still used those?), so on Monday, I'll start calling around to get prices. I'm hoping that going local will save me a bit of money.
Great Wall will be having their "application review" in two months for 2007 slots. It's so crazy to be haunting the net like this... searching for an opening and hedging bets everywhere. But every way I've thought about expiditing the process seems to be at least unethical, if not illegal.
Aug 9, 2006
Update again
I finally broke down and emailed the agency to find out what was going on with their single's wait list. The reply I got was "wait some more"... They got their two slots and are waiting to hear if the number two person still wants the spot. I know I waffled between really wanting the spot and waiting longer, but right now I really want that spot.
Another agency I contacted finally sent me their information packet. Initially they had told me that the time line was that they would probably be able to get me to DTC by mid-2007. However, that was over a month ago (apprently my email was lost somewhere in the ethernet), so who knows if it is still good. They're definately a cheaper route, but again, the thought of jumping in makes me nervous.
I've been telling people that I'm thinking about adopting - aquaitance type people... so I guess that means, I'm making it more real for myself. Yesterday I almost bought a really cute shelf to put into the baby's room, but stopped myself. With two years to go, it seems like it would end up sitting around reminding me that time is moving slowly. Or that I'm getting older quickly. Or something.
Another agency I contacted finally sent me their information packet. Initially they had told me that the time line was that they would probably be able to get me to DTC by mid-2007. However, that was over a month ago (apprently my email was lost somewhere in the ethernet), so who knows if it is still good. They're definately a cheaper route, but again, the thought of jumping in makes me nervous.
I've been telling people that I'm thinking about adopting - aquaitance type people... so I guess that means, I'm making it more real for myself. Yesterday I almost bought a really cute shelf to put into the baby's room, but stopped myself. With two years to go, it seems like it would end up sitting around reminding me that time is moving slowly. Or that I'm getting older quickly. Or something.
Aug 4, 2006
Vacation!
Summer School is over! I'm free! Free, I tell you! MWWWAAAAHAHAAHA!
Ok, I'm a little excited to be done with summer school. I know the money will come in handy when I need to start school, but it is not enough money! Anyways, I don't have to do anything for next 3 and half weeks.
I haven't heard anything from the adoption agency. I guess I'll just have to go with the "no news is good news" line of thinking. What is good news? At this point, I don't know. If they called and said I had an spot, I'd probably freak out - both positively and negatively. If they call and tell me I'll be waiting for another year, I'll be sad, but chalk it up to fate. I realize it's not exactly the best plan, but right now, it's the one I'm going with. I'm still worried about money, but let's be real - I worry about money no matter what happens. That's just part of my personality. Some days it really seems like I'll never attain my goals, but somehow it always works out. I still haven't whether I need to keep the curtains.
Ok, I'm a little excited to be done with summer school. I know the money will come in handy when I need to start school, but it is not enough money! Anyways, I don't have to do anything for next 3 and half weeks.
I haven't heard anything from the adoption agency. I guess I'll just have to go with the "no news is good news" line of thinking. What is good news? At this point, I don't know. If they called and said I had an spot, I'd probably freak out - both positively and negatively. If they call and tell me I'll be waiting for another year, I'll be sad, but chalk it up to fate. I realize it's not exactly the best plan, but right now, it's the one I'm going with. I'm still worried about money, but let's be real - I worry about money no matter what happens. That's just part of my personality. Some days it really seems like I'll never attain my goals, but somehow it always works out. I still haven't whether I need to keep the curtains.
Aug 1, 2006
Payday
Payday has come and it has me all stressed about finances. Several bills have come due and I can't save as much as I wanted/hoped/planed. It makes me wonder about whether I can actually afford to adopt. If I had a child, would I be worrying like this every month? Probably. Should I push it back another year?
It's disappointing to watch money go out and think, do I really need that? I switched to DSL from a cable modem because it's cheaper, but should I have just switched to a dial-up service? It would be even cheaper. I pay for hosting of my regular site... that's probably money I could save. What about selling my car and getting a cheaper one? How far do I go? Should I stop teaching and get a new job?
I bought curtains this weekend (50% off!) and they're still sitting in the bag. I can't decide if I need to take them back or put them up. On the one hand, they're thick curtains that will help with the winter heat bills. On the other, they cost $$ and I could order cheaper ones... that aren't as nice. It kinda sucks to be this worried about money.
It's disappointing to watch money go out and think, do I really need that? I switched to DSL from a cable modem because it's cheaper, but should I have just switched to a dial-up service? It would be even cheaper. I pay for hosting of my regular site... that's probably money I could save. What about selling my car and getting a cheaper one? How far do I go? Should I stop teaching and get a new job?
I bought curtains this weekend (50% off!) and they're still sitting in the bag. I can't decide if I need to take them back or put them up. On the one hand, they're thick curtains that will help with the winter heat bills. On the other, they cost $$ and I could order cheaper ones... that aren't as nice. It kinda sucks to be this worried about money.
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