Grumpy Rumblings 2025 Year in Blogging

It looks like I just forgot to do this last year?  Let’s look at stats for 2025!

Traffic continues its downward trend.  Posts are up a bit (208 this year compared to 205)).  Comments are up a little bit compared to last year, but down compared to 2023.

These are the posts that got the most views in 2025:

Four of these are from 2025 and recent!  Liberty Tabletop continues strong, but otherwise we seem to have disappeared from search algorithms.  I’m not sure what to make of this grouping other than my one colleague definitely spurs posts people want to read (#3 and #5).

According to our stats, here’s another five of the most popular posts from 2025:

These five are a snapshot of this year’s internal drama, possibly a relief against the backdrop of national fascism and global turmoil.  Maybe I should do more complaining about medical problems!

Top referring sites were (no changes from 2023!):

Most visitors came from The United States. Canada & the UK came next.  Then Germany and Australia.

Our most commented post was Are you feeling angst?  Because I’m feeling angst.  (note to self for next year:  this stat is now hidden under “insights” which is now a tab on site stats) (Thank you previous self!  Also, self next year, it’s been further hidden in the comments part– you have to scroll down and change to comments by posts and pages where it says comments by authors) (Thank you, again, previous self!)  (What would I do without you, previous self?)  Also thank you everyone who commented on that post– your comments were really helpful at a difficult time.

I can’t get the most active commenters for the year, only for what appears to be all time but may be weighted somehow.  So what I’m doing is looking at how many pages of comments each person in the top 6 (which is all they show) gave this year (each page has 20 comments) :( These were the most active commenters of all time, sorted by the number of comments in the past year, but I may be missing newer active commenters or regulars who have changed the email they login with over the years.

1. Debbie M/debomill 8.5 pages
2. CG 6.5 pages
3. Revanche@agaishanlife 6 pages
4. heybethpdx 3.5 pages
5. rose 3.1 pages
6. bogart 3 pages

Gone from the 2023 leaderboard are First Gen American, Jenny F. Scientist, and delagar!  You all are valued!

Debbie M is the winner this year!

Yay Debbie M!  This means you get to tell us where to donate this year. Either tell us and link up in the comments (if you want more exposure) or email us at grumpyrumblings at gmail if you want it to be more secret-like.

Any blog commentary or highlights from the grumpy gallery?  Also, congratulate Debbie M in the comments.  :)

More books

The Ties that Bind by Jayne Ann Krentz was not very good.  It was a library book and dated and while not horrific I’m not sure I would recommend reading it unless you’re feeling the need to be a completionist.  It’s sort of on the edge of her moving from faux feminism to actual feminism (something she does 10 years earlier than most romance novelists, to be fair!)

Someone recommended Julie Garwood as an unproblematic romance novelist of the 80s and 90s, so I tried The Lion’s Lady.  The prologue had Native Americans in it (skipped– 1980s portrayals are not ok) and then the first chapter had the hero’s wife dying of childbirth on screen so I was like no thanks.  Not sure if I will try any of her more modern stuff.  Apparently she passed on in 2023.

Skipped to the last chapter of Aracana Academy by Elise Kova after seeing how thick the book was.  It ended on a depressing cliff-hanger and let’s just say that this is not a romantasy book.  Maybe if Kamala Harris were president I’d give it a go, but I can’t right now.

Sort of skipped through The Magician of Tiger Castle by Louis Sachar.  It was fine.  Not really what I’m looking for these days.

Gave up on page 2 of A Fellowship of Bakers & Magic by J Penner.  The first scene is the heroine running late because she’s always running late because she has time blindness.  She gets to the market at 10am that she’s supposed to get to by 8am if she wants to get a spot.  This wouldn’t be a problem, but it’s all written in a way that is very sympathetic towards her and not at all sympathetic towards either the guy running the market who should have realized she’s the HEROINE, and thus saved her a good spot, or anyone else in the market who got there on time.  If it were written in a way where she didn’t think she deserved special treatment, I think I would have continued, but as it was it reminded me too much of old Captain Awkward threads where a subset of late people argued that they should never have to be on time no matter how much it inconvenienced anyone else because ADHD is a disability.  And it is a disability, but also you have to make use of accommodations to help you get places on time or find a less time-sensitive job because the market is there to sell goods and services which it can’t do for you if you’re not there.  Oh hey, also gave up on Just our luck by Denise Williams for exactly the same reason!  She’s irritated at her mother because she’s making her mother late for work with her time blindness as she does every morning.  Like I get time blindness is a thing, but it’s a thing you should not blame the people you are inconveniencing for.  (And you should set up systems to not inconvenience people! Be early to things if you have excess time instead of getting distracted.  Set up multiple alarms of varying intensity.  Other people have worked on these problems and come up with structures!)

I enjoyed Earl Crush by Alexandra Vasti.  I didn’t really feel much chemistry between the protagonists but that didn’t matter because there was an actual plot.  Good romantic suspense and both the protagonists were very likeable.  Stupid completely unnecessary and slightly out of character third act breakup but it didn’t last very long.

Started on a new old romance author– overdrive occasionally recommends one of these and I work through them.  Joan Smith seems a bit higher quality than most of the previous authors– not just retreaded tropes.  Aunt Sophie’s Diamonds was not perfect and unfortunately it referred to one of the side characters as “the Trump of Coal” which was jarring (and it was meaning he was rich as well!), but other than that it was a perfectly enjoyable read.  I also appreciated that she made it clear that the actual age difference between the hero and heroine was much smaller than in most of these books (it’s a joke/plot point about how her mom pretends she’s a teenager when she’s actually 25).  She published a lot so I’ll have to see how much variance there is in the quality.

Did not like So Sweet by Rebekah Weatherspoon.  It felt extremely Mary Sue in a way that I did not enjoy and with all that male billionaires are doing these days the hero just wasn’t believable.  Stop being a billionaire or use that money to fight the power.  Also, I don’t actually daydream of going to parties with aging rock stars.

Speaking of spoiled rich people who need to get real jobs, Pomona Afton Can So Solve a Murder was a slog so I gave up.  The protagonist is clueless but not very likable.  I read some reviews to see if she got better and the answer seems to be no, things just fall in her lap like they have all her life.  Not satisfying.  I know I’m a member of the working elite, but I’m feeling class warfare against those who both don’t need to work and don’t make the world a better place with their privilege.  I used to be more laissez faire about people who lived off inherited money and just wasted money, but in the current environment not really enough.  They’re leeches on society and that money could feed a lot more people.

Wow, this all sounds terrible except Earl Crush– no wonder I hadn’t posted this yet.  Since then I have read more!  I really should have posted this before Christmas…

A Case of Mice and Murder by Sally Smith was extremely good.  It’s a murder mystery and it’s not one where finding the murderer out makes you feel warm and fuzzy.  There’s some social commentary in there.  But the cast of characters is fascinating and all the mystery threads get tied up in a bow at the end.  It’s a little easier to read and gentler than the Flavia de Luce books, but I there’s a little bit of that British unsettling darkness.  I immediately put myself on library hold for the second book, which I should get in about 6 months…

Best Wishes from the Full Moon Coffee Shop by Mai Mochizuki was a lovely update to the first book.  And you get little glimpses of how things have worked out for characters from the first book.  A very cozy read about people having small problems solved (or big decisions made) by eating delicious food served by a bunch of cat astrologers.

I love Drew Hayes so much– when I’m not reading his books there’s now a small part of me wishing I were.  Sadly I’m catching up to him as an author and am getting close to the point where I will have to wait for him to finish writing.  Not quite there yet.  Amazon links are affiliate and I wish you could buy all his books elsewhere too, but Amazon has a monopoly on smaller authors’ kindle unlimited books.  He’s a must-buy for me, even for the series the library has.

It took me a little while to get into Siege Tactics, the fourth in the NPC’s or Spells Swords and Stealth series, but there’s nothing like a 13 hour plane ride to get you settled into a new epic.  It was really good and I immediately bought the fifth book, Noble Roots.  It was also fantastic.  Fortunately/supposedly the last book in the series is supposed to be coming out in 2026.  I hope that’s true!  I don’t normally like really long books, but I do love Drew Hayes’ epic novels and am happy with them the longer the better, which is really unusual for me.  I think it’s probably because they’re ensemble casts and he follows different groups across time and place.  There’s a full story thread that they’re all hanging on, but they also have their own episodic journeys.  And they’re just comforting in a way that makes you feel like if we work hard, right will prevail.  Hopefully.

If you prefer a little lighter and shorter fare, Drew Hayes finished his Fred the Vampire series recently, with Posthumous Education.  It was a good and fitting end to the series.  Very similar in tone to the previous books.  If you liked the earlier books you’ll like this one too.  And it wraps up every loose end I could remember. Even what gift the house was given! This series is also available outside of Amazon.

I also read some what I can best describe as goosebumps for grownups, the “Shingles” series, to which Drew Hayes was a contributor.  These are not really for children.  They came from Studio 13 was ok.  Slaughter on Giggletime Mountain was quite good though definitely horror.  I think I probably most enjoyed Aliens Wrecked Our Kegger of his three contributions — it had a strong Gordon Korman + Bruce Coville feel, but with like drunk college kids instead of middle schoolers or high schoolers.

The newest Roverpowered was also good!  These are child-friendly.  It started out with the first book being like a JV book, but Drew Hayes cannot leave things to be simple so of course the world building is getting more complex.  I’m glad that he can push these out faster than say the Spells, Swords, and Stealth series!

An early Drew Hayess work, Pearls and Peril wasn’t great — readable, but very jv and very (totes) of its time.

I thought two of the short stories in The Time Traveler’s Passport were worth reading.  Scalzi’s 3 Days, 9 Months, 27 Years was decent standard Scalzi stuff.  Less frenetic and a little more Connie Willis than many of his short stories.  The really big standout was Cronus by P Djeli Clark.  It’s just correct in ways that I’m not sure time travel has addressed before.  Like of course that’s what would happen.  

ADD friendly ways to organize your life by Judith Kolberg and Kathleen Nadeau was quite good.  I wish copies weren’t so expensive!  I ended up checking it out of the library as an e-book twice.

Have you had any good winter break reads?  

ADHD and earrings?

DC1 was thinking of getting earrings.  But zie couldn’t get the executive control together to actually figure out how to do it in Japan.  (Zie may be able to figure it out once back in the States, but zie suspects not in Northfield.)

I was like, I mainly don’t have earrings because I don’t like body ornamentation or modification of my body generally (I can barely handle wearing a wedding ring when I go out!) but also I would not be able to handle having to remember to take care of my ears and earrings, to pick different earrings, to keep track of earrings.  It’s like, just one more thing to have to remember in the morning.  (I already have to remember to color in half my left eyebrow!  Which I frequently forget to do.)  One of the ADHD organizing books I read suggested that maybe earrings aren’t all that compatible with ADHD, and I was like, man, how much of my life have I set up to be compatible with ADHD?

Or I could be like my sister (who got hers pierced in her late 20s) and wear just one pair all the time and never take them out.  But at that point what’s the point in wearing them at all?

Anyhow, in the end I was like, maybe when you are able to figure out how to get them you’ll be ready for them.

Do you have earrings?  How do you handle having to like… remember them and stuff?

Link Love

Ask the grumpies: What is #2 up to job wise?

Jen asks:

I would love to hear an update on the other half of nicoleandmaggie if they are open to sharing! Any regrets leaving academia?

The contract ended for #2’s dream job, but zie is still working for a PI on that grant… and is thus sort of back in academia just not tenure-track.  Research track only.

She has gotten several new publications.  She’s basically doing the part of academia she likes and not the part she doesn’t like.  No regrets!

Merry Christmas to those who celebrate!

What is a favorite holiday tradition?

What is a tender offer and why you should decline Paramount’s offer

I got a weird email from E*Trade with the subject header:  WARNER BROS. DISCOVERY, INC. Corporate Action Notice.

In the email it started:  “We are writing to notify you that there is A TENDER OFFER for WARNER BROS. DISCOVERY, INC..”

There were things to click but they weren’t very informative, and I have no idea what I should be entering in the boxes if I did want to sell, which after some internet reading, I decided I did not want to do.

So basically we’re currently in a world where there is no anti-trust.  Lina Kahn was doing a great job under Biden getting us back to a semblance of normality and that is now completely gone, replaced by corruption.  Markets, particularly entertainment and media markets, are rushing to consolidate power, both of the monopoly kind and the political kind.  Everyone wants the same kind of ability to affect politics that Fox News has.

Netflix wants to buy WB and WB wants to be bought by Netflix and they’re waiting for approval from the government.  This isn’t great for the consumer, but it isn’t as bad as what’s going on here.

Paramount (along with foreign interests and maybe Trump’s son-in-law) ALSO wants to buy WB.  But WB doesn’t want to be bought by them.  So they’re trying to do a hostile takeover.

The hostile takeover involves buying as many shares as they can, including from regular investors like me.

Recall that Paramount cancelled Colbert’s late show, presumably because Trump asked them to.  (Though unlike the case with Jimmy Kimmel, they claimed it was cost-related.  The timing is weird though.)  Paramount, as Colbert noted, has also done some shady bribing of Trump instead of fighting Trump presumably because they want the corrupt administration to rule in their favor.  This is not ok.  And Bari Weiss, who is evil, has taken over CBS (one of the subsidiaries) and is trying to turn it into another Trump mouthpiece.  (Fortunately ratings are dropping because turns out Fox News viewers are still watching Fox News, not CBS, and nobody else wants to watch Bari Weiss or Erika Kirk.)  So, to sum:  Pro-Trump forces in Paramount want Warner Brothers for monopoly and propaganda purposes.

Netflix is the lesser of two evils here.  But in an ideal world neither of these mergers would be allowed.

I should note that because I used to own AOL stock back in the day, I have exactly one share of Warner Brothers.  My decision not to sell isn’t going to affect anything.  It’s currently worth $28 (twenty eight dollars) and unraveling its tax bill would cost way more than whatever WB could pay above cost.

Link love

Imagine your precious child, a high schooler, goes out to walk the dog & never comes back.The reason: he gets abducted by #ICE who just release the dog.Neighbors rescue the dog & return it with the news of #ICELawless.Your son's detained for months in brutal conditions.youtu.be/NumOmTjZHoY?…

Malena-PRO-CHOICE 🌊 🟦🟧Fighting Tyranny! (@malena.bsky.social) 2025-12-14T17:13:56.539Z

Armed ICE agents trapped US citizens in a restaurant and demanded their papers. Federal agents walked into East African restaurants in Cedar-Riverside, MN. They closed and blocked the doors. Then they demanded to see everyone’s papers. Every person present was a US citizen.

Scott Horton (@robertscotthorton.bsky.social) 2025-12-14T17:54:30.872Z

Paired actions:  This 5Calls.  Donate to this gofundme for a Chicago-based group that is getting whistles and instructions all over the country (with the help of Bree@Kitrocha!) or donate directly to Bree’s amazon wishlist for supplies (it is really hard to boycott amazon).

David Brooks, who wrote in the NYT last month, "The Epstein Story? Count Me Out" is… in the latest Epstein photo dump published by @oversightdemocrats.house.gov.He should absolutely be fired by NYT for this. Major conflict of interest that he didn't disclose.

Parker Molloy (@parkermolloy.com) 2025-12-18T17:35:32.673Z

Paired action:  Cancel your NYTimes subscription.  Complain to the NYTimes.  Don’t buy or read anything by David Brooks.  Also let people know on your social media.

please take a moment to appreciate Tesla's epic accomplishment of coming dead last in the auto industry in reliability, despite making relatively expensive cars with a tiny fraction of the moving partswww.consumerreports.org/cars/which-b…

e.w. niedermeyer (@niedermeyer.online) 2025-12-15T15:53:05.378Z

Paired action: Don’t buy a Tesla. (Here’s the report if you want more info)

Also, do you know how bad things have to get before something like this happens? http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/article…

Maureen Johnson (@maureenjohnsonbooks.com) 2025-12-19T19:06:50.883Z

It looks like cell phone bans have a short-term disruption to learning (potentially explained by increased suspensions) followed by long-term gains after people get used to it.

What would you do in the nail salon situation The Road Less Travelled discusses here? I am also highly conflict avoidant and went to a dental hygienist I didn’t think was very good for years before I got lucky and got someone I liked better in a random reschedule (and was thus able to request her next time– she’s fantastic).  But I’m also a little oppositional defiant and sometimes lash out at upselling (depending on how it is done, sometimes I am quite susceptible to it, but I think I might have lashed out at that woman).  So I’m not sure what I would do.  (I hate the feeling of anything on my nails, so this specific thing is a non-issue for me, but…)

Wisdom in the machine provides step by step instructions for an AI proof class written paper.

KJ Charles’ husband has been making increasingly fancy gingerbread structures each holiday season– check out her thread.

Ask the grumpies: Where do you put your semi-dirty clothes?

CG asks:

Where do you put your semi-dirty clothes? We are having a debate at my house.

Ooh, I like this question.  John Green on the Dear Hank and John podcast recently talked about the alley between his bed and his nightstand where he keeps his.  I think of it as a liminal space.

I keep mine on my night-stand, usually.  Sometimes they end up on the floor between the foot of the bed and the laundry, but mostly on the night-stand.  Sometimes my pajamas end up on the foot of the bed.

DH keeps his in front of his night stand next to his side of the bed.  He is a less messy person so wears his shorts multiple days in a row, whereas I’ve usually spilled something on myself so mine have to get washed.  Thus his shorts complete with his wallet etc. end up basically where he takes them off at night and puts them on again in the morning.  He keeps his pajamas under his pillow and wears the same ones all week.  But he also has separate workout clothes and I tend to work out in my pajamas and then they go into the laundry.  (He has different white t-shirts for sleep and for working out!  One set is smaller and newer and one set is older and larger.)

Where do you all keep your semi-dirty clothes?

RBOC (cw: parental emotional abuse/estrangement)

  • My MIL signed her amazon gifts to me this year with, “Love you” which made me surprisingly teary-eyed.  I’m not quite sure why– probably partly me being love-starved from parental figures and appreciative of her thoughtfulness (she knows about my parents because they sent her a letter a few years ago asking if I was abusing my kids), but maybe also a little bit reminded of how my own parents don’t.  (I mean, my mom loves me, but she doesn’t love me enough to do the things she would need to do to have a relationship with me, for example, not allow my father to impersonate her on her email to send me abuse.  But she is also a victim.  So I can understand but it probably still hurts me.)
  • I tend to go to LGBT events at conferences because it’s a way to see a lot of my econ friends in one place and the food is always good.  I’m never sure whether to pose in the picture– I always do when they say allies welcome.  My kids have told me I’m NB-Agender, whose definitions definitely fit with how I feel, but without gender dysphoria, so technically I’m not just an ally, but when they say “no allies” I also feel like maybe I shouldn’t (given that being agender has zero effect on my life so long as I’m not forced to list pronouns, and may even be helpful since I literally can’t be misgendered) even though I know individually each of my friends would say I should.
  • At the last one, someone’s wife who is a therapist was there– I don’t know how I started talking to her and I didn’t know she was a therapist and not an economist until she’d left and her wife (who had told her to get food before it was gone) introduced herself to me– but wow she got me talking about things I never talk about at work.  Some people are just really suited for their jobs!  (She would also probably make an insanely good reporter.)
  • I’ve started avoiding pork products in my old age.  Partly I feel bad because pigs are supposed to be similarly intelligent to dogs.  Partly I just don’t want it anymore (except bacon, but DH can’t eat bacon now because of the gallstones, DC2 doesn’t like bacon(!), and DC1 is off at school).  We have been eating a lot less meat these days.  I try to get some beef in once every couple of weeks and fish once a week give or take.  We eat chicken once or twice a week (no guilt about eating chickens).  We’ve been going through a lot more veggie-heavy cookbooks.
  • DC2 has started disliking foods zie used to like, like bacon and shrimp and whitefish.  This is bizarre to me, because I started liking more foods in my teens.  Dislikes were more when I was little and stopped liking things like sardines that I had previously loved, and then sometime in early adulthood I stopped liking most fast food burgers (which I blame on an internship where the only food available was McDonald’s), and later when I started eating for PCOS in my late 20s I lost my taste for super sweet stuff, but with that I gained the ability to enjoy things like dark chocolate, so it was more of a shift than a subtraction. Mostly though it’s been me gaining the ability to eat and enjoy tomatoes and Swiss cheese and fish that wasn’t bland and so on.
  • DC2 has started complaining about all the in-class writing they’ve started having to do this year.  AI really is making life more difficult for everyone who is trying to learn/teach.  It’s especially bad for this generation that hasn’t learned cursive… those tiny writing muscles will strengthen up, but they’re still going to be writing slower than those of us who grew up in 90s and earlier.  I suppose if they were better resourced they could have locked down laptops to do their in-class writing, but alas.
  • DH has started printing whistles so we’ll be ready when ICE comes to our area.  The cost is essentially zero per print he says, but it does take a full work day to make a batch of the little ones.  They’ll need rings and instructions and plastic baggies and DH is wondering if we should do this ourselves or bring it up with the local resistance group.  I’m leaning towards the resistance group– we can provide materials but I think assembling would be a good group endeavor.  We still need to get rings or lanyards
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