Thursday, March 12, 2009

I'm Not Romantic But A Romantic

I have an admission to make: I am a romantic.

No, not that kind of being mushy-lovey-dovey-buy-presents-always-call-and-say-I-love-you-to-your-partner romantic. I'm the "other" type: the one who sees-something-as-nostalgic-&-god-damn-beautiful-and-sets-out-to-do-it romantic! Still not getting the drift?

Okay, here's an example. My Malaysian peers way of traveling is to go on road trips where they'd plan out multiple places to go and head out to each place, one by one. The upside of this type of travel is that you can cover a lot of places in a certain amount of time while the downside is that you can only spend a limited amount of time at a particular place then you have to move on to your next stop (unless you have wads of cash and lots of free time, that is) besides being susceptible to unavoidable fuck-ups which could cut short your tour.

In contrast, my method of traveling is backpacking to a certain city or town and bunking out there for 5-7 days before moving on. Now the romantic part is when I'm there, I want to immerse myself in the soul and culture of that place until I know (almost) every nook and cranny of the place. It's more than just buying a fridge magnet or key chain to show you've been there, it's trying to become a part of the city, even a teeny-weenie bit of it.

Another example which has some connection close to home (meaning my tanah tumpahnya darahku, Malaysia) is my insistence on taking the bus to travel rather than driving a car although the cost of riding the former ($30 to $40 one-way to Philadelphia) would be more costly than the latter. As a self-proclaimed romantic, taking the bus reminds me of riding the express bus heading back to my hometown, Kuantan, when I was in Malaysia. Taking the slow KTM commuter & LRT trains from my campus at Shah Alam to the bus station at Jalan Pekeliling then straight away bought a ticket for RM 16.90 (around $5.00 at current exchange rate) and always, always, always went for either Plusliner, MARA Liner or Bulan Restu which was way comfortable and faster than the gobshite Transnasional.

Next, I had to wait under the bus stop which had only two fans capable of giving little room for a breather as long I was shielded from the hot and sweaty tropical climate. So, taking the bus to-and-fro Philadelphia reminds me of my going back home where I have time to see the sceneries (Pennsylvania has livestock farms while Pahang has oil palm plantations) and just reflect on whatever I wanna reflect on. Read a book. Listen to music. Or just take a nap. When I've finally arrived, I felt a sense of rejuvenation and elation of going through a long physical and spiritual journey to reach home. Sweet home.

Told ya I was a romantic! =P

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

No More Birthdays For Me...And You Too

Ah, birthday. 

The day where everyone celebrates you adding your age by one; 
the day you were brought into this cold, beautiful world;
the day you escaped floating in your mother's womb;  
the first ever day that you saw light and life.

But have you ever wondered why the birthday boy or birthday girl is often, if not always, the center of attraction and the cause for celebration? I have received an epiphany realizing that it is our parents that we should celebrate our birthday with, not the other way around. Come to think of it,

without our father's sperm & mother's egg,
without our mother carrying us around for nine months,
without our father taking care of our mother's needs,
without our parents toil & trouble to raise us,

we wouldn't exist! Shouldn't this be the occasion that we dedicate and appreciate our parents' sacrifice? It is because of them that we have this special day, which no one can claim to or take away from, called our birthday. 

So, starting from this year I shall not celebrate my birthday but use that day to call my parents back home to thank them for bringing me into this world. I shall shut-off my Facebook wall and shun any sort of surprise birthday party planned for me. 

Whomever feels offended by my nonconforming weirdness, I'll be happy to redirect you to this blog post here. Remember, don't always think that your birthday is all about you; it is your mom and dad you should cherish and love. Always.