Today was one of those days when you realize you have discovered something almost life changing. I have been struggling with my youngest child. Warrant, she is only three, but demonic all the same. As hard as it is to admit, as well as publicly, I haven't really enjoyed her. She really has been a challenge for me since the day she was born.
I find myself often saying things like, " I'm going to make her if it kills me ( or her), or " she will never change", and my favorite, " I did nothing to deserve her". Well, honestly I think I do deserve her.
Don't you just love those "aha" moments that the Lord places in your mind, with the twinge in your heart to back it up? I had more than one of those today in regards to my little Savanah. The first was when after venting to my sister, she shared with me something her husband had counseled her in regards to one of her children. I paraphrase, " It is just like a marriage. You can't make them change, but you can change to make the relationship better. Once you change, they change too". That stuck a bell for me. It was a road I came to in my own marriage at one point and knew that what was being said was true, and have experienced the outcome of such a change.
The 2nd was while counseling with my husband about what I can do to change, to like my child. He stated, " she will grow out of it. You both will learn and will love each other for it". I have heard him say something to this affect many times, but for some reason this time was different. I have always thought of parents raising the child, but today....I think Savanah was sent to raise me. It was kind of a humbling experience for me this evening. One of those, " ok, I get it, and I feel kinda foolish now" feelings. Yes, I am the mother, I am expected to parent her and raise her, but in a very real sense SHE is changing me. At first I have allowed it to change me in a not so fantastic way, but now I understand. Thank you Father for sending me Savanah. And thank you Savanah for just being the little you that you are.