It turns out being finished by October was being awfully optimistic. In the last 15 months we were matched with a social worker (in September, not by April) & started our home study which is just about finished now. Right now we expect to go the board ‘early this year’. For a third year in a row it’s January and I’m hoping we’ll be done by December. This year it might actually happen – don’t hold your breath though. 🙂
Just a quick update to say that we are officially on the waiting list for a home study. The wait is about 6 months so we are expecting a call sometime in April. It’s such a relief to have a timeframe to work with.
We have survived the first 3 stages of the application and now have the Home Study, Board Decision, & Placement (if approved) ahead of us. Given no problems with the home study we should be approved or disapproved by this time next year. I’m in no rush, but it will be so good to have the uncertainty over.
FYI – It has been 2 years & 8 months since we started our application. We have certainly taken our time with it, and I’m still not in a hurry, but from what I’ve heard our application isn’t at all unusual. I know some people have been wanting to know how long it’s taken us to get to this point, so there it is. At the end of the day, we are incredibly lucky to be young enough to be able to take our time and know we still have options ahead of us. Personally, I’m thankful that I’ve had so long to read and become better educated about adoption. I think that will make me a much better Mum if we are able to adopt.
I’ve cleaned out my blog. All my posts and all my pages are gone. What does this mean? I’m still not sure. I’ve been uncomfortable with my blog for a long time. I might start blogging more often about more than infertility or adoption. I might only post once or twice.
Even with a password I haven’t felt safe. I’ve blogged about a lot of really personal stuff over the last five years and the internet has changed a lot in that time. It’s more malicious, there’s no anonymity, it’s not the safe place it once was. So everything I’ve blogged about in the past is gone. It feels good, but a little sad too. But it’s time to move on.
Whatever I blog about here will be stuff that I’m happy for anyone to read. There will (probably) not be a password in the near future, but I might password some posts depending on how our adoption application pans out. Either way, I will update here when we find out if we’ll be approved or disapproved to adopt. I’ll do that because I really appreciate all the support the people who read here have given T-Rex and myself over the last five years. I am on Twitter, not sure if I’m going to continue that either but I tweet a lot more than I blog.
So that’s what’s happening here. I’m okay, I’m happy, life is good. But this blog is now a clean slate, and it might stay that way for a long time yet.
Over The Rainbow 
