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It's been 5 years since we started fostering.  We have been 'empty' since January.  We've done some respite here and there.  I think we may be coming to the end of our journey.  This has been the hardest road we EVER walked.  I am so ambivalent.  Not sure if I want to just have our names pulled off 'the list'.  Or wait.  I'm not getting any younger.  My heart breaks as I think about the dreams unfulfilled.  The plans I made to walk down the street holding the hand of the boy that was to be my son.  I'm starting to think that they were all idealistic and unrealistic.  5 years.  I've seen people foster and adopt their kids.  I've seen families grow biologically...many times over.  It seems to be happening for EVERYONE else.  Maybe it's just not meant to be.  Maybe it's time to lay this all down...for good. 
Maybe it's not His will for us. 

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Well, the boys have been here since Friday afternoon.  The first hour was ok.  Arizona didn't seem to remember me and Lil' Man really could care less who I was he was just happy to go along.  I posted the whole story on the other blog. The boys leave tomorrow.  I can't say that I'm sad to see them go.  Here's a qucik timeline to catch you up...

July 4th, 2009: Boys enter care
                      Owen and Arizona go to one foster home while Lil' Man goes to another.
July 5th, 2009: Owen is moved from that foster home due to violence on foster mom's son.
July 6th, 2009: Arizona and Lil' Man come to live with us.
August    2009: Owen is moved from foster home to ANOTHER home due to foster parents
                       financial situation.
August    2009: visits start with bio mom
January  2010: We request boys to be moved to another foster home due to violence.
April      2010: ALL boys back home with bio mom (ON TRIAL)
May       2010: (just a mere 3 weeks later) Boys BACK into care.  Boys are placed together 2
                      county's away.
July       2010: Boys are moved back to our county into current foster home. 

The boys were 4, 2 and 1 when they entered care last year.  They are now almost 6, 4 and 3.  Arizona is an angry little man (who they now medicate).  They desperately need 'permanency' to begin to heal and start their life instead of having to worry about visits and their 'foster parents'.  Arizona loves to cuddle and hug and he is so sweet but his attitude can change at the drop of a dime.  It's all very scary to me.  Lil' Man is still a shaggy little man (his mom won't let anyone cut his hair till he's 3...that will be REALLY soon!!!)  And although he throws tantrums...he still seems 'pliable' and workable.  Like, it's NOT too late for him.  I have never seen a child like Arizona.  I cannot even speak to him while he's screaming.  I have to wait for his 'episode' to be over and after he 'comes to' he will look at me.  He also is a 'spite' pee-er.  Yesterday, I left him home with my hubby to run 2 quick errands.  Arizona asked to come...I said no (because he had just thrown a HUGE tantrum over not being allowed to have a 3rd cup of juice) and he hit my dog.  So, I explained that 'good listeners get good things and bad listeners get NOTHING'.  And I left.  He stood there and peed.  Hubby was NOT happy.  It feels like they have been here for a week!  There are many other things I can tell you but I should say nothing more than PLEASE PRAY!  I do not think that bio mom can parent these children AT ALL.  I know our job as foster parents are to work with the bios and help them (and all that) but, frankly,  I am a realist.  I know it will most likely come down to adoption for these boys and it's so sad.  They have a HUGE extended family NONE of whom stepped up to take the boys. 
More soon... 
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