Agency worker called at 7:30am to tell me that bio mom called to confirm her visit for today.  Sprout was picked up at 8:30am and usually when the worker comes to get him he is ALL smiles.  Not today.  He didn't want to leave my arms or be put in the car seat.  My heart broke.  There is not much that I can do but I sang to him as I was buckling him in and he stopped for a minute.  I pointed this behavior out to the caseworker to remind him that he hasn't had a visit since Monday.  Her visits are getting more sporadic and Sprout is noticing. 

Lil Peanut had a visit today as well.  Bio dad now had to confirm the day before. 

Found out that Arizona and Lil Man's mother (Hope) is preggers and expecting a baby boy in April.  This will make #4 for her.  It might be a matter of time before her boys are all back in care.  So sad.  (No, I wouldn't take them again).

Also, Baby 'C's mother (our first placement) is pregnant due in May. 
And the cycle goes on...

No visit for Sprout today.  I had to call the agency worker because I hadn't heard from him.  He checked his messages and confirmed that she DID NOT call for a visit. 

Lil Peanut didn't have a visit either.  I called the agency worker and she called bio dad to make sure he was coming.  He said he had no ride.  Due to him cancelling AGAIN they are now requiring him to call to confirm the day before his visit.  I saw Lil Peanut's bio grandma in (that Bullseye store).  She was with bio dad's brother, girlfriend and their new baby girl.  Keep in mind that bio dad had twin sons that are (almost) 8 months old and a new baby due the first week in April.  Fertile family...  But my question is if bio grandma was at the store down this way WHY couldn't bio dad have hitched a ride???  Just sayin'???   

Visit today.  4 hours.  Unsupervised.  Sprout came home wet and hungry.  He fell asleep in the agency worker's car.  Agency worker said that bio mom is starting to slide...big time.  He also mentioned that there is a chance for surrender ad it gets closer to court.  Like I have any other choice but to wait and see...  :P

Details found here. 

Every day that there is a visit, bio mom has to calI that morning to confirm.  Friday was a scheduled visit day.  No call.  No visit.  If you're keeping track that's a possible 6 visits in 2 weeks and she missed 4.  Court is in May.  I think it's time we retain a lawyer and talk about a petition to terminate parental rights. 

Sprout is 15 months old today!!!


Sprout had a well-baby visit at the pediatrician yesterday morning.  Since bio mom has been so sporadic in her visits I wondered if she'd even remember.  9am came and went so I called the agency worker to see if he was coming.  I left a message on his voicemail.  He called me back 15 minutes later and said that 'no', he couldn't make it due to having 3 appointments booked at the same time  I also asked if he could have the c0mi$$ioner sign an approval to get Sprout's shots.  End of the story is bio mom never shower up, agency worker didn't show and the county worker faxed over an approval. 

On another crazy note...

Baby C was our very first placement almost 7 years ago.  He went on to be adopted and I keep in touch with his adoptive family still today.    A year after he left us (2008), bio mom gave birth to his full bio baby sister.  CP$ took the baby when she was only 3 hours old.  She went on to be adopted by the same family that adopted her brother.  Early 2010 I found out that bio mom was expecting again.  I found her (she is transient) and kept in touch until I heard from a friend (that owns a soup kitchen) that she miscarried a baby girl at 7 months.  Not sure who she was with at that time but I DO know that Baby C's bio dad was in prison.  A few days ago that same friend (that runs the soup kitchen) told me that bio mom resurfaced and she is, indeed, expecting again in May.  I have mixed feelings.  I know she will keep having babies until she finally gets to keep one.  But at this point, there are all new people in the agency and no one will know her.  There are also many new county people and she is on NO ONE'S radar.  She just might have out smarted them.  I do have major concerns for this baby if she brings him/her home.  Baby C was a shaken baby...in public.  He had many issues and delays.  Her parenting abilities are less than average but she can meet basic needs.  I wonder, if given an apartment and temporary assistance like Sprout's bio mom, could she possibly keep this baby?  My friend contacted me as soon as she found out and I'm wondering if there's anything I can do...

Sprout's mom called to confirm only to call back 1 hour and 45 minutes later to cancel because she's 'sick'. 

Peanut's worker cancelled the visit for today. Re-scheduled for Monday...

I asked the agency worker how the visit went yesterday.  He said that aside from Sprout getting a scrape on his back from the playground slide...it went well.  She (supposedly) broke up with her boyfriend.  We'll see how long that lasts.  So, visit tomorrow and later this week. 

LiL' Peanut's bio dad had court today for the neglect charge.  Hopefully the agency worker will call me later today to tell me what happened.  (I was told that it was only for lawyers and that I didn't need to be there).  He has a new baby due in 2 weeks.  He and his new girlfriend are expecting.  The babies will be 8 months apart.  (:P)  Many red flags with bio dad lately.  Lots of stuff going on behind that scenes and I'm sure this is not the last time we'll be hearing of him. 

Hubby and I are still pursuing custody of his cousins baby.  Will be updating more on that soon.  Many things keeping us busy right now.  Off to enjoy this weather...  :)

This week was interesting.  Monday's visit went as scheduled.  Afternoon visit.  Sprout came home hungry.  Wednesday was a no call.  So there was no visit.  Friday morning the agency worker called to tell me that bio mom did call and that he would pick Sprout up for 8:30am.  I planned on Sprout being gone from 9-1 but I got a call at 9:10am from the agency worker.  He said that when he got to bio mom's apartment she met him outside and wanted to bring Sprout in herself.  He told her he had to see the apartment and would follow her in.  When we entered he saw some guy passed out on the couch.  The worker told bio mom that whoever it was had to leave in order for Sprout to be able to stay.  She said that she told him to leave but he refused.  The worker said that the visit was cancelled then.  She started crying and said "but he treats me so good".  She chose her boyfriend over her son.  How horrible is it that I hope she's pregnant?!?!

Took the Peanut to the cardiologist and he is FINE.  There are NO problems with his heart.  They did an ultrasound and an EKG (EEG)?  and all is NORMAL.  The blue hands and blue lips are normal for a preemie.  The cardiologist said that preemies have underdeveloped something or others.  I left with such a sense of relief!  I spent most of the afternoon with the agency worker and bio dad.  Bio dad was also reported to have said (to someone supervising last Friday's visit) that 'maybe I should just give up and give custody to Auntie'.  Did I mention that bio dad has twin sons that are 7 months old and his girlfriend is due to have their baby in a few weeks???  Crazy.  There has been mention of taking the baby.  Time will tell...  Job security for the foster parents!  LoL  Tomorrow is the developmental pediatrician.  More soon...

It's the weekend.  Quick note to bring you up to date in this foster home.  Lil Peanut is growing well.  He is up to 14 pounds 5 ounces from the measly 9 pounds 4 ounces he came to us at.  He is now 7 months old and LONG and skinny.  The county is still working on the I$CPC so he can be sent down to be with his twin brother.  I am in close contact with the family member that has his twin.  They are identical baby boys.  Aside from his twin being a bit bigger and stronger they are both as sweet as can be. 

Sprout is getting a bit more fresh and gaining attitude.  Not sure if it has to do with the visit change (we just changed the visit one day a week from morning to afternoon...number of hours are still the same).  I expressed my concern with the county worker and she seems to think it is age appropriate BUT she doesn't know him like I do.  We see Sprout back to his normal happy self usually by Sunday afternoon then we have to send him for a visit again on Monday :(  I will continue to speak my opinion and see if anything can be done to see what his 'triggers' are.  

I spoke briefly about my hubby's cousin's baby that was born last fall.  We are still actively seeking to bring him home to be a part of our family.  His mother will not be a part of his life but his father is working an aggressive case plan in hopes of parenting his son alone.  From what I've heard (second hand through hubby's family) it seems that dad will not be able to be a long term resource for this baby. We have already contacted the director of youth services in the county in which he is placed and his law guardian.  They are both more than aware of our intentions.  They are 6 hours away and will not let us take him until there are no more efforts made on  the father's behalf to be reunited with his son.  Still trusting God's hand in this.  His fingerprints have been ALL over this case since the moment I found out about his birth.  Even if the ONLY reason we were made aware of him was to pray for him...I'm ok with that.  I think God knows what He's doing a bit more than I do :)  Thanks for your prayers in this situation.  I covet them!!!

Took Sprout to the Dr on a whim today.  I had spoken to the agency worker about him falling so much and expressed my concern that maybe he needed to follow up with a specialist (ENT or eye Dr).  The agency worker left a message yesterday on my cell stating that he and bio mom both would like to know what was going on with Sprout and to make sure I let him know about the appointment.  I got Sprout into the pediatrician's office today and the agency worker called bio mom TWICE and left messages about his appointment.  The appointment was made for this afternoon and only the agency worker showed up.  Good thing is that there is nothing visibly wrong with Sprout's eyes or ears.  Even at 15 months he is a bit clumsy (moms of boys holler if this is normal...) and seems to fall down ALOT.  With or without toys in hand.  Shoes or barefoot or with socks with treads.  The Dr said to give him another few months. It should get better.