Tuesday, December 30, 2008

REPOST --- Good Gay Youth Support Site





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What a GREAT Mom!
Read Sharon Underwood's inspiring letter in support of her gay teenage son.
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Words Of Wisdom
Some thoughts to live by express- ed in some cute and funny pictures.
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Coming Out?
If ur thinking of coming out, read our advice first. Check out Jono's real life experiences.
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Suicide is NOT the answer
A first hand account on being gay and contemplating suicide by a survivor -me, Scott and Justin.
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Overcoming Shyness
Being in a room full of strangers is the number one social fear, even above the number two fear - speaking in public.
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Sunday, December 21, 2008

Newsweek article on Marriage Equality and HRC support

Newsweek's story [<------- click here] provides an in-depth debunking of many of the popular myths about Scripture that the religious-right has used time and time again and should be read by everyone in our community.

Saturday, December 20, 2008

Pastor Warren WRONG on 5000 years of his "traditional" marriage norm.

http://www.salon.com/politics/war_room/2008/12/19/categorically_false/print.html

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Warren misstates marital history

The Saddleback pastor repeats convenient oversimplification of marriage history.

Thomas Schaller

Dec. 19, 2008 |

If you haven't had a chance to read our own Mike Madden's fine reporting and analysis on the Obama-Warren controversy, it's good stuff. One statement from a video Rev. Rick taped in support of California's Prop 8, as partially quoted by Mike in the piece, really aggravates me.

That quote is this: "We should not let 2 percent of the population determine to change a definition of marriage" -- that definition being one man and one woman for life, of course, as he states moments earlier in the video -- "that has been supported by every single culture and every single religion for 5,000 years."

This is simply not true. Different cultures have supported different definitions of marriage, to include the following, ahem, deviations from the pastor's purported pristine, 5,000-year tradition: polygamy, marriages involving children and/or forced marriages, marriages for dowry, divorce and remarriage, and now, increasingly, same-sex marriage.

Sure, some of the above deviations from the mythic, Ozzie and Harriet norm do, technically, involve just one man and one woman (or in the case of children, one man and one girl). But Warren's clearly intends to imply the voluntary, adult, non-coerced, loving, biological or maybe adoptive child-bearing, straight, monogamous version. To even hint that this model has obtained, only and everywhere, for five millenia is a lie. From a pastor's goateed mouth, no less.

I'm sorry, but when people talk in categoricals, and those categoricals are false, and those false categoricals are used to fashion a revisionist history, such people become immediately suspect -- period. If you heard the testimony of a budget analyst say the United States has always run a deficit, every year, would you trust that person's word about next year's budget projections, or anything else?

If Warren wants to claim that one-man/one-woman marriage has predominated, and that it is the majority preference, and that it is the only way to procreate biologically (and that's no longer technically true either, btw) . . . well, OK, that's fine. But mischaracterizing history, including very recent American history (damn those inconvenient Mormon polygamists!), is irresponsible.

Frankly, a nuanced argument would not only be more legitimate, it would be more powerful because of that added legitimacy. But true believers shudder at nuance. The world is always easier in blacks and whites.

And that means no grays -- and no gays -- allowed.

-- Thomas Schaller

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Wednesday, December 17, 2008

The Making of MILK

I know, I know, this is a long article. But it's important, so try to read it.

I suggest reading this AFTER seeing the movie.



For Cleve Jones, 'Milk' Is a Promise Kept

Activist Sought to Bring Friend's Life to Film

By Ellen McCarthy
Washington Post Staff Writer
Friday, November 21, 2008; WE28

On the night of Nov. 21, 1978, hours after he found the slain body of his friend and mentor, Cleve Jones stood at the center of a candlelight vigil and made this promise to his friend: "For the rest of my life I will do whatever I can do to keep your name alive."

But as time went on, the vow became harder to keep.

Eyes didn't widen or well up at the mention of Harvey Milk. Even people living in San Francisco, especially young ones, didn't know that Milk was an early leader of the gay rights movement. That he rose from lowly camera-store owner to the nation's first openly gay elected official and champion of an enduring civil rights movement.


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Emile Hirsch as Cleve Jones (his hand in on Penn's left arm.)

That he and the mayor were shot in cold blood by a former city council member.

After 30 years, Milk was beginning to be forgotten.

"I began to despair," Jones says, "and think that I would not live long enough to see this story make it to the screen."

Jones was convinced that it was only through the big screen that his friend's tale could fully reenter the collective American psyche. His theory will be tested now, as "Milk," the biopic of his friend as played by Sean Penn, is released nationwide Wednesday.

Jones was in his early 20s and estranged from his parents when he met Milk while walking down Castro Street in San Francisco. Though he didn't initially take the eccentric man's politics seriously, Jones reluctantly found himself reeled in by Milk's warmth.

"I needed a father figure, and Harvey was really such an appropriate mentor," Jones says from the couch of a Georgetown hotel suite during a press tour for the film. "He was extraordinarily kind to me and saw strengths in me that I didn't even know I had."

Jones says Milk taught him how to speak in public, how to lead others and how to believe in himself. The protege has gone on to become a renowned activist in his own right, a labor organizer and the founder of the stirring AIDS quilt that traveled the country and was spread across the Mall in 1996. None of that would've happened, Jones insists, had he never met Milk.

So at every speaking engagement and in every possible conversation, Jones intones the name of his assassinated friend. And though there have been books and documentaries (one that nabbed an Oscar) about Milk, mentions of the man were increasingly met with blank stares.

Because in many ways, the world moved on. Much of what Milk fought for has been realized; maybe so much so that his story was expedited into the annals of history. Milk's movement came from a different century, when gay men could be beaten or arrested just for gathering in the clubs of San Francisco.

But there is more progress to be made, Jones says, and moreover, he has a promise to keep.

Eighteen years ago, he became friends with director Gus Van Sant, who had approached him with the idea of doing a feature film about Milk. That project fell through, but the two became roommates briefly and kept in touch through the years, Jones continually pressing Van Sant to return to the story.

There was a lot of interest. Jones estimates he has read more than 40 scripts and screenplays tackling Milk's tale, though, "none of them I remember as being very good at all."

Then a few years ago, Jones had a chance meeting with Dustin Lance Black, a writer in his late 20s who tagged along with a friend interested in doing a musical based on Jones's life. (For the record, that project also fell through.) Jones encouraged Black, who was fascinated with Milk's life, to try his hand at a screenplay about the activist.

"The last week of February 2007, he showed me the first draft, and it was really excellent," Jones says. He immediately called Van Sant and a week later drove Black to meet the Oscar-nominated director. "I didn't have to say a word. They immediately got into the strategy of what would be the challenges of telling the story, the little details about it."

Penn quickly signed on, and a feature film about Milk was underway.

Filming took place in San Francisco, where 1978 was brought back to life on Castro Street, right down to the reconstruction of Milk's camera shop in its former location. Jones was on set every day advising and helping designers execute Van Sant's directive to just "make it real."

For the former protege, now a bespectacled man in his mid-50s, it was thrilling and once again wrenching.

"Revisiting that period was painful because everybody I knew -- almost everybody I knew -- has died," he says, voice cracking. "So dredging up those memories in the past has not been a pleasant experience and was something I avoided.

"In a way, this film gave me back memories that had been too painful to recall for a long time."

Jones now deems the three decades it took to get the film together fated. Even 10 years ago, he postulates, a movie like this might not have gotten a wide release. Now, he's confident that "Milk," distributed by Focus Features, which also handled "Brokeback Mountain," will reach beyond art-house crowds and the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community.

"That's part of why the whole miracle of the timing to me is just so lovely," he says. "After waiting and waiting and waiting and then suddenly: Boom! It happens. And happens with breathtaking speed and this magic alignment of talent."

And Jones is happy with the result of that alignment: a film that encompasses the personal and political facets of Milk's story and doesn't treat the man's life to posthumous airbrushing.

Jones knew it was his boss who lay dead on the floor of City Hall that November day. He recognized the shoes stretching out from the doorway: a pair of old, thrift-store wingtips, soles worn clean through.

Milk was broke. His relationships were routinely in disarray. His life was anything but perfect.

Which is, to Jones, the most important part.

"In most regards he was an ordinary person," he says softly. "I think there's a great lesson for us . . . to see an ordinary man who did, in fact, change the world."

Milk R, 128 minutes Contains language, sexual content and brief violence. This movie opens Wednesday at area theaters.

Monday, December 15, 2008

Harvey Milk, Martyr for Human Rights

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We saw MILK tonight. It was both tragic and hopeful. And all you young gay bloggers are in it. It's YOUR story and OUR story. Don't see it alone. MILK can speak to all of us. Dan and I are in it, and so is N-getz man and James. I'm sure I saw Mboy and one of David's ancestors, or maybe David in an earlier incarnation. Zee and AEK were there too, as were AJ and Matt. And many more than I can list here. Small roles, no dialogue, but we all were there. We held candles, organized rallies or maybe almost rioted. We worked and defeated Prop 6. It set a national trend. Perhaps a reminder of who went before us. They had Prop 6, we have/had 8.

Watch for "Paul" from Minnesota. He has wheels. Small part. Two very brief scenes. He's on the phone. He's all the young confused men.

If you are a film buff and appreciate powerful acting, it's a double bonus film for you.

PLEASE go see it and come back here to tell us about it. It's about the love .

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Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Are You Smart Enough to Ask for Help?

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Think of your best friend. If he/she was in BIG trouble or had a MAJOR problem wouldn't you
expect him/her to come to you and tell you and ask for some help?

No brainer, eh?

Well, that "rule" works BOTH ways! If you are close to hitting bottom, if you are at the end of your rope, if you have had about as much as you can take... well, pal, it's time to put that old shoe on the other foot! Help is a two way street. Today maybe your friend or brother needs support. Tomorrow if it's your turn in the pot o' poo, well speak up. Go to someone you can trust. Friend? Parent? Aunt Sue? Shrink? Therapist? A Favorite Teacher? [
shameless plug...]

Letting yourself stew in your own juices seldom accomplishes very much.

Whether you are 14 or Forty, the time is likely to come when you have to reach out. So do it.

Someday when you get the chance you can "pay it forward". Remember: two-way street.


Friday, December 5, 2008

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Plight of Gay People in Poland - a blog


http://poisonedhappiness.blogspot.com/


I just found this site last night. I have emailed the author and he responded with a detailed email describing how awful life is in Poland for homosexual people. Go read his blog [very new] and chime in with some support if you can. steevo

An email quote used with permission... Besides, Poland is far from western Europe, USA or Australian standards of being gay in society. Sorry,...you know nothing about central Europe post-communist countries. Kids at school are rarely out because they are scared, calling someone gay is like big offend, gay parades are attacked by skinheads and police is not doing much about it, personal data of people that are working in GLBT organizations or support them are publicized in internet by nazi organizations, only thing church is doing is talking that gay have to be cured and what they do is a sin. That's my reality right now. 11/23/08
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Thursday, November 20, 2008

MILK: An Important Film About Our Family's History

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Here's a Fresh Air audio review of MILK that will be released November 26 and
Stars Sean Penn.

http://www.npr.org/templates/player/mediaPlayer.html?action=1&t=1&islist=false&id=97245530&m=97245529

SYNOPSIS: Gay Rights Activist. Friend. Lover. Unifier. Politician. Fighter. Icon. Inspiration. Hero. His life changed history, and his courage changed lives. In 1977, Harvey Milk was elected to the San Francisco Board of Supervisors, becoming the first openly gay man to be voted into major public office in America. His victory was not just a victory for gay rights; he forged coalitions across the political spectrum. From senior citizens to union workers, Harvey Milk changed the very nature of what it means to be a fighter for human rights and became, before his untimely death in 1978, a hero for all Americans. Academy Award winner Sean Penn stars as Harvey Milk under the direction of Academy Award nominee Gus Van Sant in the new movie filmed on location in San Francisco from an original screenplay by Dustin Lance Black and produced by Academy Award winners Dan Jinks and Bruce Cohen. The film charts the last eight years of Harvey Milk’s life. While living in New York City, he turns 40. Looking for more purpose, Milk and his lover Scott Smith (James Franco) relocate to San Francisco, where they start a small business, Castro Camera, in the heart of a working-class neighborhood that was soon to become a haven for gay people from around the country. With his beloved Castro neighborhood and beautiful city empowering him, Milk surprises Scott and himself by becoming an outspoken agent for change. He seeks equal rights and opportunities for all, and his great love for the city and its people brings him backing from young and old, straight and gay, alike – at a time when prejudice and violence against gays was openly accepted as the norm. With vitalizing support from Scott and new friends and volunteers, Milk plunges headfirst into the choppy waters of politics. He also mentors young street activists like Cleve Jones (Emile Hirsch). Bolstering his public profile with humor, Milk’s actions speak even louder than his gift-of-gab words. Soon, he is known all across the city and even beyond, but his persistent determination to be a part of city government drives him and Scott apart. While making his fourth run for public office, Milk takes a new lover, Jack Lira (Diego Luna). The latest campaign is a success, as Milk is elected supervisor for the newly zoned District 5. Milk serves San Francisco well while lobbying for a citywide ordinance protecting people from being fired because of their orientation – and rallying support against a proposed statewide referendum to fire gay schoolteachers and their supporters; he realizes that this fight against Proposition 6 represents a pivotal precipice for the gay rights movement. At the same time, the political agendas of Milk and those of another newly elected supervisor, Dan White (Josh Brolin), increasingly diverge and their personal destinies tragically converge. Milk’s platform was and is one of hope – a hero’s legacy that resonates in the here and now.
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Saturday, November 8, 2008

Rosa sat so Martin could march so Barak could run and sit [in the Oval Office]

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I'm sorry Prop8 passed. Most pundits agree that if this had been an "off-year" election it would not have passed. Ah, the irony of it all. Obama gets big turn-out of "minority" voters who also happen to bring Prop. 8 an unfortunate victory. Perhaps it is some solace to realize that he is a leader who can help educate folks and expand the concept of civil rights. He was publicly against Prop8.

My own grandmother was no fan of homosexuals until she found out I was "that way." It did not take long for her to realize that Dan gave her two grandchildren. [My dad clued her in quite honestly and bluntly.] The two of them are thick as thieves now. Sometimes I kinda feel left out... Our pictures have assumed an appropriate position of honor on her mantle.

So the more out we are, people will get used to the idea. My dad loves to tell the story of the first TV ad with black people. Gleem toothpaste I think. It was considered quite brazen of the network that dared to be so controversial. AND it was big news!

Likewise when the Brooklyn Dodgers promoted Jackie Robinson to the major league club in 1947. That was planned very strategically. And it was a BIG DEAL!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jackie_Robinson

Today we roll our eyes and say how silly they were. Time marches on. And we can speed up the clock by how we live and what we do.

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Sunday, November 2, 2008

Remembering: The Whole World is Watching

Tim [ http://euroestilo8.blogspot.com/2008/11/whole-world-is-watching.html ] posted today about his frustration and worry for LGBT teens who live in fear of violence. He mentioned Matthew Shepard and Lawrence King, a 15 year old boy who was killed by a fellow student last February in southern California because he apparently thought Lawrence was gay. Tim knows what he's talking about first hand. Be sure to read his post.

Here's a video PSA that was made after Lawrence King was murdered.

GLSEN, the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, is honored to partner with Logo on a new public service announcement campaign denouncing hate in the wake of junior high student Lawrence King's murder.





Read more at: http://www.glsen.org/cgi-bin/iowa/all/news/record/2277.html
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Thursday, October 30, 2008

Dia de los Muertos --- Honoring and Remembering

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On this Day of the Dead I wish to honor my family members who have passed on. I especially want to honor young gay and lesbian people who have been victims of violence. In 10 years of teaching I am certain that at least 3 boys I had in class tragically took there own lives because they could not face the pain. One young man I knew well. He told me I was the only person he ever came out to. He was very popular and talented in many ways. He was an outstanding student, who excelled in many ways, except one. He could not accept himself. He'd send me an email and say he needed to talk. We'd meet somewhere away from school because he was so fearful. I think I am the only person who knows why he did it.

His suicide was the saddest teacher experience of my life. I'll never get over it and I'll never forget. And I don't want to. I decided to not go to his funeral. I was afraid I'd fall apart and people might wonder why.

He's a big reason I put up with all the crap teachers have to endure. I want to be there and help prevent another senseless tragedy.




Taming the Tiger




I had a very good wank talk with my mom in about 4th grade. I was utterly clueless about that one particular piece of the pie in an ultra progressive home where nudity was unremarkable (...unless there was company of course). Sexual topics could be discussed at the dinner table...nobody was ever uncomfortable. Dad was the primary instructor for some reason as I recall now anyway. So I had no body image problems and had a fairly clear idea of intercourse (which seemed confusing), erections, etc. and to end a "lesson" I usually told dad what he wanted to hear: "OK, dad, I'll come see you if I have any more questions."

He was utterly kewl and relaxed. If I giggled he told me it was fine and he'd chuckle too. He always made sure I knew that sex was an important part of who I was and also, as icing on the cake, that it was often loads of fun. He even knew that I played with "it" and it felt good, and was supposed to. He told me I'd understand more as I got older. When I asked how he "knew" he said I was a boy and all boys and men do it. Just what we do. NO harm, no foul.

But somehow wanking got left out or I did not understand it specifically. There was SO much info to digest!!! I had heard some boys talking at school, was not sure what they were talking about so... mini-steevo goes home and mom is the first rent available. So ask her, right?

Well, she got out the note pad and pencil. She explained without a trace of embarrassment just what it was. And, what was really kewl... she drew pictures a kid could understand. "This is a penis soft, this is an erection, etc". Finally she got to the up and down, back and forth part! "And when you are older and your body gets bigger you will ejaculate, which many guys call cumming* or shooting. Remember learning about sperm?" And so on.

I think I often requested a follow-up "lesson" from mom cuz she did those great pictures. By 6th grade or so I was the resident sexpert at school, no small honor! "ask stevie...he'll know..." And if I didn't a rent would explain it and I'd report back next school day. I knew the definition of gay, but not the reality of it all. Until the summer before 9th grade which I think I blogged about. If not, I'll work on a g-rated version and post it.

A friend sent me this video. He's also a teacher and knows I sometimes co-teach sex-ed. I wonder if I could get permission to show it with just the boys?

Hope you enjoyed a trip down my memory lane. If your experience was not like mine, that's OK. Even today lots of parents are embarrassed by the topics. Go figure. Sex is everywhere, sells anything, permeates our media, but many parents just don't get it.

Some of you will have kids someday, two daddies being more and more acceptable. So get real, my sweeties.

*LOL: spellcheck knew the right spelling, 2 Ms. Ha! I thot it looked wrong!

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Congratulations to Zee!!!

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http://zmane.blogspot.com/2008/10/step-outside-closet.html

So if some of you silent readers out there need a little boost, Zee's your man. If you read these posts, but have hesitated to comment, well you can do it anonymously to tell Zee, "Good show, my brother!" And if you wanna chat or ask questions or just say how scared shitless you might feel, we're here and on your side.
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Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Welcome to Tim in St. Louis

http://euroestilo8.blogspot.com/

Check out Tim's blog. I've been asking him to blog. Now he is. I'll let him introduce himself.

Friday, October 3, 2008

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I saw a comment on another blog that I'd like to reply to myself on my own blog. The quote:

"i'm pretty sure obama doesn't give a shit about gays. the fact that he defends civil unions does not offset the fact that everyone he is connected to believes we should die in a fiery pit."

I just don't think the assertion is true at all. All major national LGBTQ organizations support him enthusiastically. If one makes that sort of inflamatory claim, there ought to be some evidence, IMHO.


Find Obama Pride Online:

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Resources

• Obama on the Issues

• Comparison of Obama and McCain’s positions on LGBT Issues

• Barack’s HRC Questionnaire

• Open Letter from Barack Obama

• Letter to the Family Equality Council

• Letter to the Alice B. Toklas LGBT Democratic Club


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On June 27, 2008, Michelle Obama spoke to the Democratic National Committee's Gay & Lesbian Leadership Council, in New York, NY.


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This used to be available online in video. Note the last question and answer in purple font. Parse the message.


TRANSCRIPT: Jake Tapper Interviews Barack Obama

Presumptive Democratic Nominee on Gay Marriage, Education & the General Election

June 16, 2008—

The following is a transcript of an interview conducted by ABC News' Jake Tapper with Sen. Barack Obama, D-Ill., for "World News with Charles Gibson" on June 16, 2008, in Flint, Michigan.

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TAPPER: OK, last one [question], and that is same-sex marriage is now going on in California.

OBAMA: Right.

TAPPER: You oppose same-sex marriage.

OBAMA: Yes.

TAPPER: Do you think that the fact that this is now going on in California, does that cause you to re-think your pledge to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act?

OBAMA: No. I still think that these are decisions that need to be made at a state and local level. I'm a strong supporter of civil unions. And I think that, you know, we're involved in a national conversation about this issue.

You know, I believe that marriage is between a man and a woman, but I also think that same-sex partners should be able to visit each other in hospitals, they should be able to transfer property, they should be able to get the same federal rights and benefits that are conferred onto married couples.

And so, you know, as president, my job is to make sure that the federal government is not discriminating and that we maintain the federal government's historic role in not meddling with what states are doing when it comes to marriage law. That's what I'll do as president.

TAPPER: Does it bother you, what California's doing?

OBAMA: No.

TAPPER: OK. Thank you, Senator. We really appreciate your time.

OBAMA: Appreciate your questions.

TAPPER: Good luck. Good luck on the campaign trail.

OBAMA: Thank you very much, Jake.

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Monday, September 29, 2008

Two dads, a daughter and a marriage that is finally legal

"On the dance floor at the Stud," answers Ed Valenzuela, 48, to the question of where he met his husband. He knows that for gay men, it's a cliche to have met his partner, Gary Walker, 46, in a bar. But in 1987 he had no way of knowing their life together would be anything but cliched. "I like the way you dance," Gary admits was his trite opening line. He smiles: After more than 22 years together (parents for the last seven), the men share humor, an ease with being together and a lot of history.

After the fortuitous run-in on the dance floor, the two men arranged to have dinner the next night, and, as in the movies, they talked until the servers were tapping toes to get them to leave. Gary left for home in New York. Three months later, they rendezvoused again and soon Gary was moving west. "When you're 25, you don't think you're so young!" says Gary, over the dining table at their Berkeley home. But by 1988, on National Coming Out Day, the two decided to marry on the steps of San Francisco's City Hall.

Over the next 12 years, the couple traveled, focused on their careers - Gary in banking software, Ed in the specialty food business - and 10 years in, threw themselves a commitment ceremony. In the background, was a faint ticking - Ed's biological clock. "I would bring up children," says Ed, "Gary would say 'Sure, honey' and pat my arm." On the morning of his 40th birthday, Ed arranged to attend a seminar on gay parenting. His heart was set on an infant. "I love babies," he admits with a grin. Gary made the baby-on-board leap.

Nine months later, the men were on a plane to Texas to meet Kiki, now 7. Born before the two had time to arrange paperwork, Kiki and Ed stayed in a Texas motel for three weeks while legal wrinkles were ironed out. Ed was in heaven. Gary was on more shaky ground. "Terrified," he says, "Kiki was so fragile; I remember thinking that she might break!"

In 2004, the couple married again, and in July, they repeated their vows once more. Kiki reminded her dads that they were already married. Legalities were explained, and Kiki was all too happy to dress up for the occasion.

"It means so much to Kiki that we're married," says Gary, who sometimes worries about how being the poster child for gay families might affect his daughter. "But if our story convinces people to vote against repealing the law, it's worth it."

To see a video of Ed and Gary's most recent wedding, narrated by Kiki, go to www.sfgate.com/ZEXZ.



Friday, September 26, 2008

Saturday, September 20, 2008

still dark like midnight

so i went to sleep early and everyone else stayed up for hours. now i am wide awake and trying to be hush hush like the proverbial church mouse since the rest r like ZZZZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

It is 6:30 AM FFS and completely dark outside. I guess the days r shorter here way up north.

last w/e in san diego my phone died... got it replaced free since i only bought it in late june. now the new one is dead! arghhhhh Round 2: gotta find my carrier's warranty store here. bother!

at least the San Francisco Giants beat LA 7--1 last night. Always good to piss on THEIR parade. They lead the division. If we play well and they stumble, we could be a major spoiler! Which is always fun when it's damn blue LA! *evil laugh* We play them the last 3 games of the season next w/e in SF. Got tickets to go. That'll be a biggy! this LA/SF rivalry goes back over a hundred years when they were both still in NYC. living history

ttfn from seattle!

...well there's just last night's americano w/ an add shot --- but that will do. cooffee is coffee... but a little low class for Seattle FFS!
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Friday, September 19, 2008

OFF TO SEATTLE

Flying up to Seattle tonight to visit family for the weekend... like a mini reunion. Got Monday off too cuz the principal owes me favors! I always sub in any class when the teacher is suddenly called away, or whatever. Like so sudden there is no way to get a sub. So I can get the occasional xtra day off. It's fair too, cuz I save them a lot of hassle.

I'll check in to keep up with the soap opera....

steevo

Friday, September 12, 2008

sneeked away to a so cali city to see a baseball game....

Heh Heh... even playing hookie sorta. This city has a new ballpark that I want to see from the inside and my "boys" are playing here this w/e.

Shhhh.... don't tell. Itz our lil secreet, OK?

TTFN

Saturday, September 6, 2008

Film: By the Way I'm Gay!

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Sunday, August 31, 2008

Out Gay and Lesbian Athletes Take Home Seven Olympic Medals

Out Gay and Lesbian Athletes Take Home Seven Olympic Medals

By L.K. Regan

Aug 25,2008

The thrills, the spills, and the sheer crazy spectacle of the Olympics are over.... sniffle, we miss it already. As the nations of the world tally up their medal counts, the world's gay community is taking stock of its wins as well. No one knows how many gay athletes participated in the Beijing Olympics—though, if the proportion of gay Olympians follows the percentages of gay people in the general population, there must have been hundreds of them. That said, there were only 11 known out LGBT athletes—and only one of them was a man. And yet this tiny group received an astonishing seven medals!


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http://gaybodyblog.blogspot.com/2008/09/matthew-mitcham.html

Here are a few of the highlights of those athletes who've chosen to talk to the press about their journeys (note we intentionally skipped the ones who were outed against their will).

Among the more remarkable stories of gay and lesbian athletes is that of Katja Nyberg and Gro Hammerseng of Norway, who took gold in handball. These two are not only out teammates—they're a couple. As for so many of the athletes at the games, their focus is on their status as role models. In 2007, Hammerseng told a Norwegian newspaper that, "If girls can see me and Katja and know that it is possible to be a known athlete and still live openly [gay], that is really good." The same spirit of inspiration has been a motivation for Rennae Stubbs, an Australian tennis player who told an Australian newspaper in 2006 that, "I don't hide who I am any more. Everyone in the tennis world pretty much knows who's gay and who's not; the only reason I would like it spoken about publicly more is that I wish everybody would realise that, 'See all those people you admire? Out of 10 of them, four are gay, and I just want you to know that your child can still idolize them.'"

For gay and lesbian athletes, the team itself could provide the inspiration to talk about their sexuality. The U.S. women's softball team took home the silver medal, thanks in part to the efforts of lesbian catcher and infielder Lauren Lappin. Lappin credits her own openness about her sexuality with her teammates to the example of the team's bisexual infielder, Vicky Galindo. Lappin told the Advocate recently that "[Galindo] seemed very comfortable with her sexuality, which really inspired me to be less guarded and to share with my teammates things that I wouldn't hesitate to share if I was straight."

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One of the more dramatic figures of the games was Natasha Kai, a 25 year-old, heavily tattooed Hawaiian, and a forward on the gold medal-winning U.S. women's soccer team. Kai off-handedly revealed her sexuality in an interview with NBCOlympics.com in June. Describing how close she came earlier this year to being kicked off the team for lack of both focus and fitness, Kai said, "It was a hard time. I had missed the first camp in early-January because I had bronchitis, and I was going through a nasty break-up with my girlfriend. Then [the coach] told me my job was on the line." Kai pulled herself together, however, and then some—she wound up scoring a goal in overtime of the quarterfinal match against Canada, giving the U.S. a guaranteed berth in the finals. This was a dramatic moment—but not a surprising one for a player who scored 10 goals in 14 games this year.

Undoubtedly one of the most dramatic medals of the games won by any athlete was the gold medal in men's 10-meter platform diving earned by openly gay Australian Matthew Mitcham. Coming into his last dive, Mitcham stood more than 30 points behind Chinese favorite Zhou Luxin. But Mitcham's two-and-a-half somersault, two-and-a-half twist went into the water like a knife, earning 10s from four of the seven judges, and an overall score that, after Luxin mangled a much easier final dive, gave the Australian the gold. Twenty year-old Mitcham has spoken to the press about his sexuality, and his relationship with his boyfriend, Lachlan Fletcher. Fletcher, speaking to a reporter after Mitcham's emotional win, said that, "The biggest thing he was worried about was people paying more attention to that than his actually diving. And I suppose that kind of did happen a little bit. Hopefully, now it won't be so much of an issue any more."


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Matthew Mitcham and partner



As the Olympics come to a close, the question of why so few LGBT athletes disclose their sexuality—and in particular, why so few gay men are out at the Olympics—remains open to discussion. For men, the threat of homophobia may be greater than for women, particularly in team environments, where the fear of being ostracized may be particularly strong for male athletes. And this is particularly true for younger men, of the age groups that make up the majority of Olympians—a fact that has been pointed out by gay news outlets. It may also be that men are more likely to perceive their gay status as undermining their athletic identities than are women. But until stereotypes change, not only in the world at large but within sports themselves, we are unlikely to know just how many gay athletes have broken records, and brought home the gold.

US Gymnastics Team With Bronze medals

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The above photo does not imply anythings about these athletes' orientation.

Sunday, August 24, 2008

Nice to look at; lovely to behold

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I think what makes Michael Phelps so impressive, besides his body, is his personality --- at least as seen on TV and in interviews.



Thursday, August 21, 2008

For DavidSTAM

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My creation
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For David STAM... back to school...enjoy.

Thursday, August 14, 2008

High School Boy Friends: ANGUISH... ANGST



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One of our friends tells the story of his first BF in high school. He had known he was gay for quite a while and was pretty much fine with it but very shy and hesitant to come out enuf to have any boy fun. He admits to being a complete digital nerd who liked staying home and his only date was the five sisters.

Well in sophomore year he met a guy that he kinda liked. They had many geek nerd things in common and started hanging out. Our friend decided to kind of spice up his image a little. His big sister
, who he was close to, was always after him to clean up his act, get a stylish haircut and some new clothes rather than the same boring rags he wore, as he says, just so he was not naked in public. [The nerd is now a very funny self confident nerd and quite delightful company.]

So the next time his sister started in on him, he said OK! Lets go shopping. His parents said they would gladly foot the bill. Big sister ordered a long hot shower, double shampoo, etc. He says she was really good at cajoling him gently enough to get him going but not piss him off so he'd refuse to follow thru. Besides, he was out to impress his friend. And he knew he needed help.

So grooming, wardrobe and toiletries were handled on a Saturday; everything from sox and undies to shoes, jackets, sweaters etc. Skin out transformation. The rest of the family made the appropriate fuss and had him do a fashion show when he got home. His sister was young enough to have good teen taste. He now realizes that his parents spent a bundle, but he was a clueless 16 yo nerd.

Big sister was also smart enough and knew him well enough to demand that all his old stuff was tossed except for just a very few fav items. They bagged it up and his dad took it to the Goodwill drop off place. Mom fixed his fav dinner and dessert. He was a little embarrassed he recalls, but deep down was loving all the attention.

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Monday: it's off to school where hardly anybody recognizes him. Except his friend who teased him a little. Our friend fibbed and sed his parents forced him to do it. His friend did seem impressed and told him that, well, "You look hot!" A good sign.

Over the next few weeks the other nerd boy made a gradual sartorial transition. Things were looking up. Anxious to explore their new found boldness, and discard more and more of their old personas, one night they got 2 beers and headed for the park at sunset. Our friend reemphasizes that they were nerds, not prudes. LOL

They had NO experience drinking which was fortunate. Half a shared can of beer later, well, let's just say nature took its course. Their friendship blossomed to a new more intimate level. Not much happened, except some awkward making out and uh, er, mutual satisfaction. They were like so clueless, but hormones supplied all that was necessary for a "not-so-bad" first date.

Things progressed slowly, but steadily. Being brainiac ex-nerds, they devised more and more opportunities for more prolonged periods of privacy. Never underestimate the power of 2 randy lads with brains!

The summer was great and they started their junior year. Their intimate moments improved, but they kept delaying the top/bottom roles. Our friend admits it was a ruse to avoid such a big step. And they were quite content winning the baseball game without a grand slam.

Some time in November their luck changed. The BF's dad was transferred to a new far away city. They were devastated of course. They made the most of the time they had left and off the BF went. There were mutual pledges of fidelity and promises of staying in touch. Cell phones were new and expensive. There was email, but it was primitive with neither IMing nor web cams.

Again nature took it course. They both moved on and resigned themselves to the necessary adjustments. New friends were found, life went on.

By the time they both entered prestigious but different Universities they began to compare notes and support each other in the "I need a BF" search. Today they are "just friends" and both are in LTRs. And happy.

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One time they were both in our town and they came to dinner with current partners. Being the nosey writer type and looking for good stories for dull GSA meetings, I asked them if they had any regrets. Hardly any they both quickly admitted.


Today they are grateful for the experience of a wonderful "1st Time" and a brief but intense "courtship". They chuckle easily about it now, but also realize that they both learned a lot about being gay. And were well prepared for their subsequent relationships.

So to all you young high school readers that I hope are out there... it may seem like the first BF has to be "The One", but know that if for some reason he isn't, you can still learn and grow from just about any relationship.

As I like to say, "It's a process and life goes on." Hey, maybe it's time for a haircut!
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Sunday, August 10, 2008

People ask why I risk being OUT at school

I am out at school to the degree that all the staff knows since we socialize with some of them frequently. I have a picture of Dan as a screen saver on my "teacher" computer. When students slip into gay bashing comments, I warn them, and they all know I simply will not tolerate it. One line I use is, "I have gay family members, and it bothers me a lot when I hear that sort of language." If a student asks as part of a


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casual conversation: "Hey, Mr _________, have you seen Dark Night yet?" I am likely to reply, "No, but Dan and I are going to see it this weekend." ... "Who's Dan?"... "Oh, he's my partner [guess I could say husband] ...we've been together for a long time." Once a student was sorta clueless about partner and together and asked, "Partner?" Thinking quickly and wanting to appear as matter of fact as if I were str8, I managed a "We're like married, we live together." Then he/she got it.

Now if a student is asking to be a rude jerk, I stay calm and pretend I don't understand his very obvious motivation and say something like, "Ya know Bobby, I don't care to discuss my personal life right now. We can chat after class if you like, but right now we need to stick to math, [or whatever class it is]."

One time Jimmy [big mouth, mean streak] did stay after class. He was trying to embarrass me. I was ready for him, so I waited until just the two of us we alone in the classroom and closed the door.
I fiddled with some paperwork for a few seconds, so could could stew in his own juices a bit. By then he had lost most of his nerve and all his audience, so: advantage queer. I was excessively kind and gentle, seeking a teachable moment, and I quietly and calmly sed, "So Jimmy, what was it you wanted to ask me?" He was flustered. I told him it was OK, just ask. He was now polite but was avoiding eye contact with me. Finaly he sed he had heard that I was gay and he just wanted to know if it was true. Summonnig my most casual tone I sed, "Oh, yeah, it's true. No big deal. I'm gay. I live with Dan, my partner. We went to high school together. He comes to Varsity baseball games here sometimes. We both played on the same team in high school. If you go to the games, come by and say hi. I'll introduce you."

He said something like, "Oh, OK, Mr. _______. Sorry i was sorta a jerk in class today. I gotta get going." I smiled, shook his hand and sed, "No problem, Jimmy. We can talk anytime you want to."

After that Jimmy was the nicest boy in the world and always worked hard and earned good grades. I had him in class a few more times. We'd say hello passing in the hall, etc. He was always genuinely pleased to see me and seemed to kind of go out of his way to cross paths with me. Once a month or so Jimmy came by my classroom to simply visit, ask how Dan was, etc. I thought, how cool. One less homophobe in the school. It was easy to talk to him. Gay "stuff" never came up. Just two guys talking; often about baseball.
dutch 16 year old boy by marjanhols.
Fast forward to Jimmy's senior year. Baseball season. Jimmy was popular and well respected. Dan and I are at a Varsity baseball game. Jimmy comes walking up to me and Dan, and he has another boy with him. I'm talking serious HUNK. At least a 9+. "Hey Mr. ___________, howz it goin? I want you to meet my boyfriend. Paul, this is Mr. K__________, the best teacher I ever had in this school." So we did ritual introductions all around, me introducing Dan as my partner.

Now you know why I am out at school. I'm no hero, the risk is minuscule. And you never know.

Dan reads this blog, even comments at times as anonymous. He insisted I post this story on the blog. Here it is, hott stuff! xo
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