Time is Love and the 5 love languages.

I have to post about this song. I just have to. I am been soooo obsessed with this song, but it depicts my personality to a T! I will explain how but first I need to discuss love languages.


Love languages. Ever heard of them? Well the idea is off a book written by Gary Chapman. The idea is that everyone shows and feels love differently. For example, some people enjoy picking expensive and/or meaningful gifts for the people they love. Others feel that the affection of a hug or kiss exemplifies love best. You get the idea.

So obviously, when wishing to express love to someone, it is fairly important to understand how they perceive love.

The 5 love languages are:

Words of Affirmation Language

Quality Time Language

Receiving Gifts Language

Acts of Service Language

Physical Touch Language

Before I even started dating my husband, I bought this book and became familiar with the various "languages." I began looking for them in other people. Trying to figure out what I thought their language was. This was helpful because I began to notice the things people did for me that they perceived as love, that possibly I had just taken as annoying or questioned their motives. I also realized that I needed to modify my actions towards others if I wanted them to feel loved. And naturally, everyone is a combination of "languages," so there are a couple of languages that will speak to them.

My main love language is Quality Time. Something that has been in short supply the last year of my life. I feel that my life literally revolves around clocks. One of the main reasons I bought an iPhone was to have my Google Calendar withe me, wherever I am. 

 Most of my time is already spoken for.
In one week there are 168 hours.
40 work40 sleep (I realize this should be more, but let's be realistic here)
10ish class time
10ish homework (this should also be more....)
12ish clinicals
10 commuting time
6 church related
10 household duties

That averages to 20 hours a day that are already spoken for.

 I am extremely stingy with my remaining time. I believe that how someone spends their time is a direct reflection on their priorities. I spend my time where I believe it is most beneficial and most appreciated. And, on the receiving end, I feel particularly loved when people take time out of their lives JUST to spend it with me, and only me (or only my family). I often think about how many children I want to have because I would hate for any of them to feel like I didn't have time to spend it with just them. This is, of course, taking for granted that all of my children will have my same love language, which is highly unlikely. 

Enough of my rant and back to my song :) Time is Love.

I can identify with literally every lyric in this song. I have been so busy with work and particularly with school that sometimes I worry about my family. I worry because it seems like I never see Travis and I don't get to walk and play with Zuka as much as I wish I could.  I hope that they still know how much I love them and know that we are making this sacrifice right now so that I can spend my Time where it is most important, in years to come.

I'm so thankful for Travis and how much he supports me. He has a ton on his plate. Working full time. School full time. House payment. Car payment. Yard work. Even with all of that, he still supports me working, helps me with school, helps me soooo much with housework, takes care of Zuka, and is still there for me emotionally.

I'm also thankful for Zuka. I have wanted a dog forever, and even though I haven't been able to spend as much time with her as I would like, she's still there for me. Waits for me in the morning then cuddles with me in bed. She is so good when we leave. Never makes messes, even when she has to be home alone for a long time.

Sorry my posts always seem to end with gushy love and thank-a-monies! But I AM very grateful for my family and how they make every minute count that I get to be with them. I'm so glad that this semester is coming to a close so that we can spend more time together and I'm also looking forward to what the next few seasons will bring.