legit (?)

hmmm... there seems to be a new thing going around small legit spas--outside they are very legit looking, offering your usual spa services, some even have female masseuse. but inside the cubes a different story is told.

as i was being kneaded, the masseur started to tell me how their business goes. most massage places these days dont prosper because of the high price of maintaining that sort of biz--payment for the biz upkeep itself plus payment for the cops and city hall, plus when raids and media comes in, they can kiss the biz goodbye.

a legit spa front takes care of those problems. they even have an association for it. they just have to make sure that they do offer real massage and spa services. the masseurs only make their move inside the cubicles. thats also how they keep the massage services inexpensive--the masseurs make the money when the extra service happens--without the authorities knowing

a funny thing happened at the spa

i usually go to a certain spa to get a massage, plus a side dish of the nasty.

the place never fails. the sauna is always cruisy and even the staff tolerate the stuff happening in the wet areas.
of course, you have your typical share of chubby stocky men, plus some twinks and a few hot ones
i usually find someone i like and get it on with him or them, as the case may be. but last night was new...weird even.

i found a few guys passable and worth my time under the circumstances, but somehow it just didnt feel ok. no one really excited me. i thought maybe im just too tired or too relaxed by the massage to get into the game. so i washed up and went home---and jacked off to porn.

could it be im way into too much porn that ive lost a sense of what real guys in a real cruising environment are?
or (and let's be honest and own it) real guys just arent hot enough?

look back

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first base

*sigh* why is it that i always have to make the move? and if they do make the first move, it's usually by those who i'd rather didnt.

went into the sauna, not looking for action. someone was in there ahead of me, he wasnt bad looking a bit on the chubby side though. i sat down and just tried to enjoy the heat--but of course i was taking glances at the guy just to check if he was trying to signal anything. after a while, i realized he wasn't into it, so, ok then, let's just try to enjoy the sauna. i closed my eyes and leaned back, just trying to relax. after a few minutes or so, i opened my eyes and caught him staring at me. ahhhh.... ok so tried to do some things to tell him i was game. opened up my towel a bit; touching my crotch every now and then; etc.he was actually getting into it. taking glances at me--then the door opened.

that sort of got my goat, probably because we could have started a lot earlier had he just been more aggressive, a little bit more of a risk-taker not just in terms of doing it in the sauna, but also in terms of taking chances with me. why is it that i always have to make the first move? that frustrated me, plus the fact that I needed to be out of the gym by a certain time, so i stood up, opened the door and just went out my way.

is it really that hard to make the first move?

moon madness

wasnt really looking for action that night, in fact he wasn't even my type. but he was there and i dont know why but i had the feeling i wanted to be risque, more than just plain horned up. so i made up my mind that id jack him off but i wasnt going to suck him. and he was fine with that, but he sucked me. too bad he didnt really know how to play with my tool (come to think of it very few guys know how to suck well, especially the way id like to be sucked--yeah, im not easily impressed) he sucked me till i came. he watched me spurt a few, then he went at it again, finishing my last few spurts in his mouth and cleaning me well (that said, i always admire men who swallow on a casual encounter, real troopers!) i helped him out with his predicament and he shot his load quite far. as usual, when things are finished you go on your separate ways.

told a friend about it, espcially about the part that i wasnt really horned up, just wanted to be risky and playful. he tells me it's the full moon and maybe that was it. personally, i tend to buy some of the esoteric stuff that comes my way. i believe in some cosmic energy that works its way into our system. or maybe its just hormones. what do you think? got any moon madness tales to tell?

COMING OUT

Coming out... the first topic for theorgy

for manila raunch, coming out was pretty easy. he didnt have that much trouble from his family or himself in really understanding what was happening. sure there was the identity question and the label issue, but thankfully, he got over the drama fast and just accepted who he was.

now, coming out as someone who dabbles in all things raunchy is a different story.

especially before manila raunch found his hubby, dating and getting to know can be quite a problem.

life as a raunch purveyor can be a double-edged sword.

on one-hand, it's great for one night stands and play sessions. if i charged everytime someone would tell me that it was the first time they had experienced that, i could probably quit my dayjob.

it's also great once you find fellow raunch enthusisasts. the conversations flow easily, inhibitions are dropped and everything just mellows out, contrary to what people think (that all we talk about is how to get hot, dirty sex)

but once you're dating or interested in dating, then BAM! life hits your right in the kisser.

vanilla people, once they find out youre into raunch easily puts you into a box of either:

a) psycho person--as if only the demented can like getting pissed on.

b) player--if you're into raunch and good at it, they automatically think you play around and thus not worth dating--regardless if he called you soulmate over dessert; once he sees the whip, you're just one sick playing freak.

c) person who'll give them an STI--see letter b. interpolate.

finding a good man who can understand, tolerate or better yet join in on the raunch fun is quite a difficult task. then there's the matter of finding if your kinks match (what if you're both masters or slaves?)

i wish i had better advice to people who like raunch as to whether to come out with their desires or keep it hidden. personally, even i play it by ear. if you're dating, i suggest you hide the harness till oh, say the first year. keep it slow and let your partner's own boredom with vanilla ( and believe me, he will get bored) be your cue to bring out the harness.

or talk to your partner about it-and do it discreetly. let's face it, if your partner's a true blue vanilla lover, he aint gonna go lookin for some chocolate...ever! so best that you lay down your cards and tell him that while you love him and only want him to spend your life with. you still need that fresh from the tap golden shower every now and then. he'll probably scream, be disgusted, think of breaking up with you...but if he's truly your man, he's accept you---both your clean and dirty side. after all, isnt coming out about acceptance in the first place?

look who's joining

with a name like theorgy, you really think i'd miss this?

get ready people, manila_raunch is joining theorgy