… the thunderous hard consonant, ‘D’, thumps rhythmic and loud, when you articulate it loud and clear. It’s a happy sound of cheering onwards, or it can lend ominous overtones in either- while tom-tomming agenda-driven blather, or the verbiage that accompanies witch-hunts! So what are these sounds d-d-d-doing here? A bit or a lot of… well, read on and somewhere in the ramble you might discover it, even if I have failed to convey it! Typical post, here, in other words 😀
After years of instructions on how to flow with the community and make sure one conforms, given that that is how I had been brought up, no matter what, I decided it was time to lend a helping hand to the rebel within. And many without.
Deify-ing vs Defy-ing. What a danged difference an “i” makes. We clamp down heavily on those who defy, and we adore those who deify. To what result? Most times when defiance ought to be considered, and examined, as to the reasons why, we tend to invert, and revert to the time-honoured maxim “Thou shalt do, and not ask why!” It must have been a couple of years ago, that it finally dawned upon me, that the more one makes the young listen and “obey”, no questions asked, the more one is training them to be the fall guy and accept any kind of authority, especially the toxic kind. So, in later years, when one is in an oppressive situation, and one ought to defy and disagree, the default mode is so ingrained, that even in cases of assault, sexual assault, to be precise, the focus turns inward, instead of being directed where it ought to go, and one blames oneself for what happened.
Grown-ups know best is no longer the norm, in my opinion. So, while discussing randomly, off topic, as usual, in a senior class, I happened to mention that it was okay to disagree, and to say NO, if they wanted to. The response to that was bewilderment, and confusion. Not surprising at all! I mean we’re always telling them they have to listen to the “elders”, and that grown ups know best, and here was this teacher telling them that it was okay to say NO. Impressing upon a youngster that dissent is important has to be done. And it is best that it comes from a non judgemental source. (To be continued in another post, hopefully)
4/5 Sept, 2018 (Serendipity)-4Feb, 2019, for Day#17 of #SeptemberMusings
TripawChangu giving a damn, right here. Kind of the best peg to hang this post 😀



