And there are people who think she is fake
So let the world know
That she is smart hard worker and writes well

🏋️‍♀️ Do not take her for granted for heavens sake..
Or she shall shove you down in deep stinking lake 🏋️‍♀️

With all the garbage on your face
You will roam moaning all around the state
Thinking what you did wrong that lord has painted like this in your slate.. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Be nice be polite
Or remember
That someone is there to banish you and put you on utter shame

Never even try to defame her ability
as she who is much mightier than what you only think and crave…

Coward you are for gods sake
Put your eyes down or else you will drown in your own grave....👊🏻👊🏻

Slated grated and busted!!!!

Couple of days back I met an elderly lady and as a ritual and out of respect, I bowed down to touch her feet ( a gesture and respect given to get blessings from all elders, followed in India).
The blessing every one wants is for a better life better being long life happiness prosperity and for a better and healthy prodigy.
But as a shock what i got as a blessing was “ bhagwan kare ladka ho” “Hope god gives you a baby boy”. I was petrified with the fact: —

1. that if at all this is the wish god graces then definitely the god will get furious on that person who blesses and also on the one who gets it.

2. the spirit who by chance steps in the womb of a mother will get offended and will feel outrightly unwanted. ( as it is known that the spirit is never born nor dies, its only the body which the spirit changes in the realm of life), then how come one can offend the holy spirit and at the same time expect to be a happy family after and a happy baby with a bright and a happy future without any remorse ( coz its a known fact that the initial feeling induced in the womb become the prosthetics of life ( example of various sages who learnt things inside the womb only))

3. And the most important thing that how can an elderly lady bless like that when she herself knows that without a girl this whole world is worthless and no life can be formed if theres not a girl.

Why is that every women in-fact even the males who are in a position to give blessings, give blessings that — may god give you baby boy “ bhagwan kare ladka ho”
I do not get this :

1. what difference a baby boy and baby girl will have in life who so ever is born.
2. are they getting any benefits, out of blessings like these.

Moreover being ladies themselves how can they wish from lord to give them a boy and not a girl. It really pinches me to think that these people are mostly the women.
What an irony of life :-
A life giving human, a being who has the potential of making life. The one who gives birth and is the only one who is potentially capable of bringing a new life in the world.
A lady, A Mother and above all being THE CREATOR — she is the one responsible for all these cursed words. 😔

At various places there is the ritual of not even celebrating the birth of a girl child but if a boy is born all sorts of celebrations and rituals will be done at a grand level.

👼🏻 This is so evident that a baby who comes into the womb is a holy spirit and no one knows which gender the baby will be. The nature’s natural ploy is that a calm spirit will come into life and no one should know how and which gender will it be. The natures play is such that no one knows when the inception happens and how one tiny cell multiplies and disintegrates yet remains one giant body of cells. 👼🏻 👼
And the biggest mystery is that how the nature has created this fact how a second living creature will be born inside a living creature itself. What a beauty of life and nature . This was the natures duty and this is how and what it wanted.👼🏻

It is now that with the advent of technology one can know the gender but in the early days it was unknown. Though much more superior knowledge was there which speculated the same but then also all our vedas and vedic science never discriminated on the basis of gender and never ever propagated the fact of male dominance.

In-fact all our deities, maximum of them are all female deities, whom we worship.

We the people have become monsters. We only render the fact a boy/man can be the best prodigy one can have and thus the blessing and hopes which one keeps in mind comes in that ways.

I penalise all those those Males/Mothers/Mother in laws /and all who support this, basically all who have ganged up against female being born as a baby and wish for a boy.

Then I wonder if this wish is only for monetary gains, ( So I’l explain, in India this is believed and adhered too, that if a boy is born the family gains a lot in terms of money and gifts from the girls birth parents as well as the neighbourhoods).

So on that fact they wish that if a boy is born:-

a) they will get lots and lots of fund,
b) they (expectant parents and family) do not have to spend much for a girl.. for her dresses, her monthly periods, on her studies ( that’s a new and rather disappointing aspect all together coz. most think its not needed) and then on her marriage.
When in-fact one day they have to send her away, then why all these unnecessary expenses,
c) and that a boy will become the successor of their lineage and the expenses done on him will be more worthy than done on a girl.

Wonder what prayers they do on all those days when they pray to goddesses and keep Fasts ( one of the ritual to please the deity for a pleasant life, not eating/drinking whole day in order to rectify the sins done in this and past life and please the god for a good life ahead and next life as well).
In-fact the various Pooja (prayers) done are all for the female deities. 🕉️

Then how they do not fear that they themselves being ladies praying to a lady goddess, that they should give them a boy and not a girl.
HUH! WHAT A PITY AND WHAT A SHAME.

What I feel is that they all should be afraid of the almighty and their fierce wrath which can definitely destroy those eyes who hinders between the natural concept of birth and take things in their own hand and make them dirty by either doing female foeticide, penalising the birthing mother, accusing her of not giving a boy prodigy or harassing in all sorts. Making the surrounding unhappy for the pregnant lady and wishing only and only for a boy.. day and night and then making arrangements according to that as well.

The wrath of god should burn those minds and souls with these sinful whimsical goals.
Make them definitely suffer not only in the next life but in this life as well so that they get to know the reason of their worries of being so cold !!

Hope God graces everyone with a beautiful baby girl soul.

Confusing is what it is
We meet we leave, meet again and we again leave...
Destiny plays around round and round it goes about..

Who knows whats coming
Who knows whats going ...

What we are is the State Of Mind ..
Which can think and react, coz action is all what the life plays ..

We all are in hurry to grab as fast as we can...
What we dont understand is the pace..
That we are running and loosing all the Grace...

As they say

Patience is the key
And most powerfull remedy...

Gradual and Slow
We will get things with the Flow...

And

The LIFE as well
will become beautiful
Like a PEARL in a Shell !!!!!!

#slowwithflow

The heart speaks out today..

Do you like him?
Heart says..
“He is good! ”

Asked whether you love him?
Heart says..
“He is sweet”

It asked are you in love with him?
Says…
“He loves me !”

A question again
whether you want to be with him?And here it says..
“He wants a-lot !”

ok tell do you care about him?
says..
“yes that i think i do”
you think ?
“no i do”????

“I do get hurt if he gets hurt..
i do get hurt if he does not talk..
i do get hurt if there is a fight…”

Here where have you come my child
it’s all about him, nothing less

Then the mighty heart says..
That is love my dear

An unconditional selfless care and settled feeling you get to be just being near.

When we think of something good about to happen. It never does. And when we never think , those things come booming on our face.

2018 — A wonderful year , at least of what she thought of

So she wanted to get married. The biggest dream of her life. One of the favourite page of her Diary. The best page of her 27 years. All sorts of fairy tails written and supposedly made up in her mind. The dreams of a perfect marriage.

She always had been a dreamer since a child. What she always thought her dreams should never remain just dreams but actualise them and make them true. As for her when she know that they can be achieved then why not, why to fear and why not take an extra leap to fulfil them.

FEAR — she described was all self made and self made cocoon where one binds herself behind the bars of society.

All thoughts were, how she had been raised up similarly it will be. Similarly she will have her new world and its surroundings. Fulfilling every expectations for her from herself and her partner . The thought of creating a beautiful world was there always in her mind, having wonderful ideas for fresh over.

Who had thought of a drastic change in her life.Who had thought of having an entirely upside down hill and she will have difficulty throughout.

What she realised is happy married life is a myth.
As when the man of her life can not take decision for the betterment and is fickle minded. The man on whose bestow she was going to survive all her after years, can not stand on his own words. And if the family she got was orthodox — it is cherry on the top.

The mindset that if a girl going ahead of man is looked upon degraded.

One will succumb under all what her fantasies were as she shall never be able to full-fill them.
It became all the more difficult when the man of her life couldn’t OWN her feelings. Making her dreams as his own and improve and help her further to achieve them. Accept her family as his own and take full responsibility as a son of the house and be happy and doesn’t bring men-hood ego in between.

The fact that only the men of house are like king who can demand and order to do anything to a women. which century are we living in. But still the irony is that for a women, family comes first even when she is still in danger.

But it is important for the men — predators of the society , to understand that the women of their life does not wants the same. That mediocre thinking of them, that the man is earning for the house so he should be given respect and treated like a king EVEN the girl also wants to work and walk shoulders together with her man also be given due respect and love and care.

Try to teach the boys of the house that no work is specifically for a girl. Household chores are even a boys responsibility and also a duty.

Marriage is a gamble if wrongly chosen else its a BEST LOTTERY ever!!

Its for you
Who once said that its a show
So FYI its NOT at all !!
But a pure bond which can also be flaunt
Within 4 walls not necessarily farm malls...
Happiness showered in a way of extravagance
if the pocket allows leads to full satisfaction
Only with both parties acceptance!!
But creating a fuss of it is not very prudent.
Keeping aside all the feelings
Not caring about the love of all the meetings!!
Killing others only for the sake of showing off
As if its their property..
Cruelly asking for all what they have and laying them off
And not even thinking morally!!
God never forgives who hurt others for silly reasons
He well knows who is a fake and who has to do self anticipations..
Nothing is for others its all for us
Tying a knot is not a show
But a happy vow...
Which should not be mixed with parental wealth and show..
Leave the society and show-bazzi
Open your eyes and be a man
And don’t do and let others do dhande-bazzi...
Be self and be afraid for what you ask
As its not yours but earned hard and life long task...
For you too once will be a father to a beautiful daughter!!!

#shameonyouall
#poemwriterme

So here i am at 11 pm just after the days work and resting after the much needed physical desire of life, my husband and me did kaboom inside me.

and here I am wondering why is it so much necessary to bring up a life inside me, when it is just to satisfy other’s happiness others wants.

not getting sad or disheartened but just a thought that why one wants to have children

when they very well know finances will be cut, long sleepless nights, matter of fact sleepless days as well, extra work, unpredicted self carrier, less self time , much more responsibilities , extra tension more than ours theres another being for whom you are the only one to think and take decision for life responsibilities

negatively impact your finances, cut into your available time, disturb your romantic relationship, interrupt your career goals, kill your sleep, and raise your stress levels

= means more 2–3ripple tension

i mean when you or in that case for a person himself knows he has lodz of things to do to think to accomplish an has like abundant of tensions of his own and mind it here i am just pointing out about a person’s his owns problems life sustainability is a question for him’’and he is thinking of getting a new life in to this life which already so much messed up

why so

i mean like many of us put all the bloody desires on the children the offspring even long before they are brought in life . when we are so much disappointed about our life that we were not able to accomplish , will we be able to do justice with the new being new life.

will we

with this i do not mean like every person is sad or unhappy or un-wealthy , Like i am sound enough( be it wealth health family by gods grace) in my life but yet there are various desires yet not finished and accomplished which i very well know will extinct once new life will come.. what i mean is that even after like 25 years or more no purpose is been sought out then why to bring up a new confused personality who might again will be caught in this vicious circle — MAYA

what i was — -a girl studied did 10- and then 12 then college then job then parents did arranged marriage for that even if you do love marriage then also then what the same cycle is or is going to be repeated what is new point and simply ending up as a regular person with regular life with his abundant problems ( arn’t you helping he being by not giving life as by not bringing him up in this not so normal very extra ordinary life where he/she is destined for an average life with life full of dangers and diseases be it health or society ( its a social stigma).. facing all those dangers which exist

why i do not understand that chid need is so imp

i feel its a burden i do not want to rule the fact that ok that infant laugh infant play-full nature is much refreshing its brings life in you

but my question is if al what we want is that infant-full laugh or play-full nature or that kin of freeness… then why cant we become like them why is need of bringing a life in … in this turmoil of problem

we can ourself make our minds like infant play like infant enjoy of whatever we want to wherever we want to go

why do we always need one reason to be happy like that and in that case related to everything

why we adults find reason or want to find something which can make us stick to do what we want why cant we become that thing or that rock whose support we search in that sound proof rock which for in the eyes of society os flower but others is thorn

why not letting the life go on just so normal without this high mountainous trek

and the much heard quote is then that “that the needs of the child should come before the desires of the parent.”

arey! WHY IF I MAY ASK WHY? DON’T I HAVE LIFE???

Having a baby is, at the very least, an 18 year commitment to extreme responsibility. It’s HARD, it can be tedious, it’s stressful in the extreme. It’s very expensive because you are responsible for a little human life you have to feed, cloth, educate, keep healthy and keep safe. And they don’t stay babies. They grow up and need more food and care. I’m sure you have some fantasy that a baby is a cute cuddly thing that will be your bff. But that is just a fantasy. Babies cry a lot. They scream. They keep you awake at night. All night. They get colicky or start cutting teeth and don’t stop crying. They snot and puke and poop and pee all over you routinely. You are looking at spending 5000–10000$ just in the first year just on that child and its needs not including the hospital costs from giving birth. You’re looking at around 1000$ just on diapers in the first year. Five or more diaper changes per day for twelve months. That’s just year one. Babies don’t potty train until between ages 2–3 so you’ll have another year or more of diapers changes and buying diapers. Plus formula. And clothing that you’ll have to buy every month or do as the kid grows. And equipment like cribs and car seats and play pens that are not cheap.

a lady goes though all these

I know many of you who are reading this might think — if one needs to ask strangers about why then better not to have one. on this my view is that a person is susceptible of what mentioned above ,that mental trauma(not using in negative sense but yes tension ) is all the more difficult the take care off because of which it becomes a thought that whether its a good idea to have one or no because that mental tension is only that lady knows how she has to bear with

No one wants to say, “I honestly don’t know. But I’m getting up there in my twenties, I’m married, and all my friends have kids, so…,” or, “I really didn’t think about it much. I just ended up pregnant,” or, “What do you mean ‘want’ children? You get married, you have children. It’s what you’re supposed to do.”

if at all i get an answer for this ….

why i fail to under that why is it wrong to have these traits
whiny, selfish, self-involved, irresponsible character

so correction what do we say or rater i should ask how do we represent a baby an infant whose has not gotten in his right mind or in other words has not become adult — we say that “ he is a child, child like mind, carefree, so involved in him/herself sooo cute, a baby girl wnats to play with doll with her friends or all by self … when offered a chocolate or an ice-cream .. came running towards before anyone else get a hand on it.. how do we quote.. how cute, so childish, so sweet
and when a child like miserably cries to want her parents to buy that toy which she saw just a in before, or to go and play outside or watch tv and play video games even when elders are shouting screaming or even scolding.. what do we say bachha hai” he is a child, if he will not do then who will do bacha hai nasamjh hai then also we love that nature..

why i do not understand we use those terms mentioned above in al the scenarios that the child is irresponsible or only self involved, selfish or he i s soo whiny in nature that what and how, if he whine’s his/her wishes will be fulfilled

why is all these adults nature

an adult an also behave childishly an adult can also have whiny nature and can be without any vicious purpose be selfish or self involved..

BUT then the adult is judged like s/he has done some crime and that the society then wants that adult to be responsible..
Then my question is when that new life comes into being, will that life not face these kind of issues and atrocities…

then why ?

question is till unanswered?????

Love is giving importance to someone really important
Love is sharing and caring with that only one
Love is showing the affection
Love is not which is kept inside
Love is doing everything for that single one
Love is when in the air where you feel light
Love is friendship
Love is keeping secrets of each other and not from each other
Love is telling everything each and every secret of life of self and of others..
Love is being together and sailing together
Love is equal and modern
Love is understanding each other that when do they need each other
Love is talking endlessly
Love is not about touch but emotions
Love is trust and respect
Love is acceptance of each other and each other's family
Love is giving respect to people related and importance to each other
Love is taking care of each others family
Love is when you don't feel their family as theirs but yours, their happiness and sadness as yours, because it's family
Love is not one sided
Love is always two sided one gives and other takes and vice versa.. it's always give give and take take..
Love is all about you and me
Love is when you don't see anything important or worth other than the one..
Love is compatibility
Love is taking part in each others interest
Loving and living each other's dreams
And full filling each dream which never just remain a dream
Love is giving time and spending time
As time never brings back the golden period once passed.
If you fail doing all this you still haven't understood love..

God tell me who am I
Whom am I pretending
Whom am I living for
When I have no one to look up
When I have no one to trust upon
And no one is even waiting for
Loner who has ruined life of self..
Whats the use of living
What’s the use of willing
What’s the use of wishing
No one can’t find peace
No one can find love
In this world
As everyone is missing!!!

She who was once a bird 🐥
Crept crawling all way in the heard.
Least she knew what was coming for her
Yet she wished to be merrier!

Visionist painter strongest and bold👩‍⚖️
Were her qualities before..

Now she defines herself best as a sheep
Locked inside the beast
With all those boundaries…

Which once were hurdles in relay🎖
She used to jump and cross to free away..

Now she feel the mirrors around
Which might break even with a ping sound!!!!

Once again the water is up to the brim
For all the birds to drink it up and swim..
Yet one is laid back
As certain strings are still attached…

In which she is strangled and can not be freed
To fly to her full potential Thus! she weeped…

To cover the highest point of the sky
Which she knows she can
But is being unable to scan..

The entire might which she once acquired through her dreams
With the heights of positivity filled in mind and screams..

Waiting for the right moment to be free
To be able to fly again in the sea!!!

#tryingtobefree#