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    22

    Today I’m 22. Officially one year older. This year, I’m grateful to be celebrating another year of life in my favourite place, surrounded by the people I love most. 

    As I get older, I realize how quickly time flies and how every moment should be cherished. One of those moments for me is right now. I’m writing this blog at our house in Portugal with my family. We’ve taken over the front yard, all doing our own things. Some swinging in hammocks, some working on puzzles and some playing with a ball. I was talking with them about what I wanted to write here, and told them I wanted to share 22 lessons from my 22 years. But when I sat down to write, the words wouldn’t flow.

    They all started helping mostly with jokes or those classic t-shirt sayings, like “keep calm and move on,” which, don’t get me wrong, is still solid advice, just not exactly what I was going for. But as the words finally started to come together, I paused to look around and really soak it all in. Watching them just exist made me feel even more grateful. 

    I don’t know if it’s the energy this home holds or just being across the world, but every worry feels smaller, and the feelings of thankfulness are so much bigger. I feel at peace and wouldn’t want to be anywhere else right now. Truly, the perfect place to reset mentally and celebrate another year of life. 

    I could go on forever about the last 22 years and cover about every aspect of my life, but then I’d basically be writing my own novel. So instead, here are 22 lessons I’ve learned in 22 years. 

    1. Showing emotions is a sign of strength, not weakness.
    2. Don’t let envy or what people think of you shape your path.
    3. The best place to be is where your feet are.
    4. You’re your own longest commitment, put yourself first.
    5. Sometimes, all it takes is a family dinner or tradition to feel like yourself again.
    6. Growing up doesn’t mean leaving your inner child behind, the one who was silly, hopeful and free.
    7. Everything really does happen for a reason. Trust it. 
    8. Watch the sunset. It heals more than you think it does. 
    9. Forget the 5-year plan. You don’t need it. 
    10. How people treat you says more about them than you. 
    11. It’s really not that deep. 
    12. The spaces you exist in and the people you let in reflect in you. 
    13. You cannot grow by staying where it’s safe. 
    14. If it won’t matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes being upset about it.
    15. Be your own best friend. 
    16. Leave home, even for a little while, it teaches you who you are without the familiar.
    17. Sometimes all you need is a 2-hour nap.
    18. Let your little cousins annoy you with brain rot; it keeps you young and slightly unhinged.
    19. Making your bed every morning sets the tone for your day. 
    20. Celebrate little wins, they add up.
    21. Be mindful of your actions, but never forget to protect your energy.
    22. Take it one step at a time. 

    This year has taught me more than just the lessons on this list. I truly feel like I’ve grown, especially over the past twelve months. Everything that once felt heavy finally feels lighter, and I’m stepping into something new in almost every area of my life. 

    I’ve never really taken the time to reflect on each year individually, but I think that’s something I want to start doing. So much growth happens quietly, without you even realizing, until you finally pause and look back. 

    So, one of my goals this next year is to document more. Journal the little things, track the changes, and have something to look back on when the next birthday rolls around. Sort of like a collection of quiet wins, big feelings, and everything in between. If the past 22 years have taught me anything, it’s that the little moments end up meaning the most, and I want to look back on it all. 

    That’s all she wrote for today, I have some expensive cheeses and cake to go eat! 

    Bella

  • The Change That Changed How I See Change

    The Change That Changed How I See Change

    Change is a concept that never really bothered me. Growing up, I was never scared of it; in fact, a part of me craved it. One of the biggest changes in my life so far was moving to a new city four years ago for university. I always knew I wasn’t going to stay home for school. There was something inside me that needed that shift, that experience. At eighteen, the unknown was exciting, and I couldn’t wait to go. There I was on my own, ready to take on whatever came next. I wasn’t scared. 

    Now here I am, writing this from my childhood bedroom. I’ve moved back home, and I’m staring at the diploma that represents the last four years. For the first time, I find myself wondering: How was I never scared? Those years were challenging, heavy, rewarding, and exciting, and yet I was never afraid of the unknown. But now? It scares the sh*t out of me. 

    As much as I try not to worry about the future, it finds its way in. A worry that feels different now than it did then. Why? 

    I think we’re kind of sold this idea that turning eighteen is some grand rite of passage into adulthood, but it’s not. Sure, it’s a milestone. A new phase. But it doesn’t mean you’re suddenly wise or untouchable. At eighteen, I thought I knew everything. I was so sure of myself, where I was going, what I wanted, who I was becoming. And honestly, I loved being eighteen. The four years that followed were some of the best years of my life, all things considered. I wouldn’t trade the memories I made for anything. 

    But no one really talks about the switch that happens when it’s over. No one warns you that at twenty-two, you might feel like you know nothing. That all the certainty you had somehow slips away. Eighteen-year-old me was confident and sure of her next steps. Twenty-two-year-old me is hesitant and constantly questioning what’s next. And I wasn’t prepared for that. 

    If I had the chance to talk to my eighteen-year-old self, I know she’d judge the heck out of me, in both good and bad ways, but I also think she’d be proud. Proud because the last four years changed me. They matured me. I really feel like I became someone new, but with that came something I never expected: a fear of change. 

    It’s strange when you think about it. I needed that first big change to show me how good change can be, but what I didn’t realize is that change doesn’t always look the same. You can change your environment, your habits, and your mindset, but each one hits in a different way.  

    Changing my environment? That has always come easily. Changing my mindset? That’s the hard part. 

    I think back to how excited I was to leave, and now I wonder why coming back feels so heavy. I think it’s because this change feels more real. The first one was exciting because it had structure: go to school, get the degree, make friends, enjoy every minute. There was a plan. Now? There’s no step-by-step. There’s just change. 

    Up until now, my life has felt like it was on a schedule; first elementary school, then high school, then university. I knew what was next and that made it feel manageable. Now it feels like I’m standing in this wide-open space with no direction. 

    Change isn’t always pretty or simple, but maybe that’s what makes it real. I’m slowly learning that not having a clear path doesn’t mean I’ve failed; it just means I’m in the middle of figuring things out. And maybe that’s where most of us are, even if we don’t always say it out loud. We spend so much time chasing the next step, the next milestone, trying to make it all make sense. What if the goal isn’t to forcefully try and figure it out? 

    If you’re going through change, allow yourself to think about you. What you want and how you feel, not just how to get through it as quick as possible. Change is normal, and so are all the feelings that come with it, but the goal isn’t to escape it. I think change is the universe’s way of checking in with us and asking us if this is what we want. Change forces reflection. It slows us down so we can take a closer look at where we are, and where we’re headed. 

    This is where I’m at, and I know I’m not the only one. So take a minute, slow down and let the change happen. 

    If you’ve made it to the end, comment a “🦋”. I’m rooting for you!

    Bella

  • This Wasn’t The Plan

    This Wasn’t The Plan

    Rejection is a word that carries a lot of weight. Just hearing it can trigger waves of negative emotions. It’s become a familiar feeling for me recently, and honestly it’s been hard to shift my mindset around it. You see quotes like “Rejection is redirection” and while they sound empowering, they don’t sink in until rejection hits you and that’s what happened to me. 

    Last month, I was rejected from a master’s program by every school I applied to. It was a hard pill to swallow. After all the work, dedication, and hope into a specific path over the last four years, it started to feel like none of it was enough. Like I could’ve done better. But at the same time, I knew I did the best I could given everything I had to navigate during those years. Sometimes, even when you give it your all, things still don’t go the way you hoped. Plans change and that can be heartbreaking. I’ve always been someone who needs a plan, and suddenly I didn’t have one, and that was scary. 

    This wasn’t my first time facing rejection but for some reason, this one hurt the most. Maybe it’s the pressure that comes with being in your twenties and feeling like everything should be figured out. But the thing is, sometimes being too focused on the plan can be more damaging than not having one at all. When mine fell apart, I had to deal with the weight of that. 

    When you become vulnerable in situations like this, it’s easy to fall into negative thinking patterns, like comparison and questioning why doors open for others but stay closed for you. I’ve caught myself asking “why not me?” It’s a question that lingers and hurts your self-worth and confidence, but the hard truth is that there is no answer to that question. Learning to live with the idea that some doors stay closed and the uncertainty of that is part of the process. 

    Changing your mindset isn’t easy. I’ve tried everything. Affirmations, journaling, and catching myself when my thoughts get too negative. While those techniques usually work, this time felt different. Heavier. But maybe that’s the point. Maybe this is what growth looks like. Being forced to sit with rejection long enough to realize that it’s not the end of the road, but a redirection. Life doesn’t have a timeline and maybe neither should we. 

    I always preach the idea that you don’t need to have everything figured out and that it’s okay not to have a plan. But honestly, I didn’t fully practice what I preached until my plan took a detour. It wasn’t until I was forced off my path that I had to actually live out those words and it’s been hard. 

    I’m still trying to accept my new reality, a reality of uncertainty and some days are tougher than others. The emotions come in waves: frustration, sadness, confusion, and even a bit of hope all tangled together. Learning to let go of control is something I’m working through, but I’m starting to understand that growth doesn’t always come from sticking to the plan. It comes from learning how to move forward when the plan falls apart. 

    If you’re in the same boat, feeling lost, confused or disappointed by how things are unfolding. I just want you to know that it’s okay. It’s okay to feel all of it. It’s okay to not have the answers, to question what’s next, and to feel unsure about where you’re going. Just know that you’re not falling behind, you’re just in a chapter that’s still being written.

    You’re not alone.  We’re all just figuring things out as we go, even when it doesn’t look that way on the outside. Be kind to yourself and give yourself permission to feel confused, to grieve what didn’t happen and to take your time finding your way. Just because your path looks different now doesn’t mean it won’t lead somewhere meaningful.

    There is a plan for you, but it’s a plan that needs to unfold itself. Trust it. That’s just the way it goes. 

  • Detox Your Mind and Body: How Your Diet Affects Mental Well-Being

    Detox Your Mind and Body: How Your Diet Affects Mental Well-Being

    As we come out of our winter blues and step into the fresh energy of spring, it’s the perfect time for a full mind-body reset. Have you felt like your mind is scattered, your body is sluggish, and you’re just not feeling like yourself? What if we told you the secret to feeling better both mentally AND physically lies in something as simple as what you put on your plate? It’s true! What you eat doesn’t just impact your physical features; it can have a huge effect on your mood, stress levels, and overall mental well-being. 

    By combining Fuel the Root and The Way it Goes, we’ve come up with a reset formula to help you feel your best both inside and out. The key to feeling more balanced, energized and calm all starts with what you eat and how you nurture your mind. 

    The Mind-Body Connection 

    Your mind and body share an incredibly strong connection. They may feel like two separate systems, but in reality, they are always influencing and communicating with one another. When one’s feeling good, the other follows suit. But when one is off, the other usually isn’t far behind. The mind-body connection is so important because our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors have a big influence on our physical health and vice versa. This connection impacts everything from body system functions to stress levels, therefore, it is important to prioritize and take care of this interaction. 

    One of the easiest and most impactful ways to nurture this connection is by fueling your body with nutrient-packed foods that support energy, digestion and mood. When you nourish your body with the right foods, you give yourself the tools to handle stress better, think more clearly, and feel more positive. Balanced diets have also been shown to help lower anxiety, improve concentration and boost overall mood. This is why your mental well-being is equally as important as how you fuel your body. If you haven’t caught on yet, everything is connected!

    How Diet Affects Your Mental Well-Being

    To fully understand the connection between your diet and your mental well-being, we’re going to dive into the real science behind it. The connection between your gut and brain is more powerful than you might realize. Our body has a network of nerves that connects our gut to our brain called the gut-brain axis. This axis is a two-way communication system that involves the vagus nerve (a nerve part of your parasympathetic nervous system), the eccentric nervous system, as well as chemical messengers such as neurotransmitters and hormones. All this to say that your gut health can significantly impact your mental state. The bacteria in your gut can also have a direct influence on the production of serotonin and dopamine, the hormones that are essential for regulating mood, cognition, and overall mental clarity. When your gut is out of balance, you’ll feel it mentally through mental fog, anxiety, and even depression. 

    Chronic inflammation, blood sugar fluctuations, and nutrient deficiencies can also all play a significant role in mental well-being. Inflammation has been linked to depression, anxiety and cognitive decline, with processed foods high in sugar and trans fats worsening these conditions. Meanwhile, unstable blood sugar levels can trigger mood swings, irritability, and mental fatigue as spikes and crashes activate stress hormones and reduce the brain’s energy supply. Additionally, deficiencies in essential nutrients can amplify mental well-being challenges, making it harder to manage stress, anxiety, and depression. 

    What to Eat for a Happy Mind and Healthy Body

    By now, you’re probably wondering what kinds of foods can actually help you feel your best. Some foods have been shown to boost mental clarity, elevate mood, and support overall brain health. We’re going to dive into specific examples like fatty fish, berries, leafy greens, fermented foods, and whole grains and explore why they’re so beneficial. 

    Fatty fish

    Fatty fish like salmon, tuna, and sardines are rich in omega-3 fatty acids, which are essential for brain health. These healthy fats are known to boost mood and cognitive function by promoting the growth of new neurons and reducing inflammation in the brain. While inflammation is a natural part of the body’s healing process, many of us experience chronic inflammation, which is a key contributor to a range of issues such as diseases, digestive problems, fatigue, body aches, and mood disorders. 

    Berries

    Berries such as blueberries, strawberries, and blackberries are packed with antioxidants, compounds that protect cells from damage caused by harmful free radicals. These antioxidants combat oxidative stress, which can speed up brain aging and impair cognitive function. When the production of free radicals outweighs the body’s supply of antioxidants, it can negatively impact proteins, DNA, and fatty tissues. Adding these vibrant berries to your diet not only supports a healthy immune system but also helps protect and improve brain health, contributing to a more balanced and uplifted mental state.

    Leafy green

    Vegetables such as spinach, kale, and broccoli are high in vitamins and minerals, including vitamin K, magnesium, and folate. These nutrients are associated with better cognitive function and may help slow cognitive decline. Leafy greens are considered power foods that boost cognitive function, which includes memory, decision-making abilities, mental response time, and mood. Antioxidants from these greens provide the body with fatty acids that can strengthen and stimulate the brain, and folates contribute to serotonin levels, which can lift mood and reduce the risk of depression. Serotonin is an important chemical in the body that can regulate mood, memory, social behavior, digestion, sleep and appetite. EAT YOUR GREENS! 

    Fermented foods

    Foods such as yogurt, kiefer, and sauerkraut are a great example of fermented foods that are rich in probiotics and support gut health. Emerging research suggests a strong connection between gut health and mental well-being, indicating that a healthy gut can positively influence mood and cognitive function. To briefly touch on the deeper understanding of the mind and gut connection, the enteric nervous system, often referred to as the “second brain,” is a complex network of neurons that are located in the gut and connected to the esophagus, which controls digestion. Of course, the gut doesn’t function like the brain, but it can be influenced by it and communicate with it. Ultimately, a healthy gut is essential for the mind to function at its best. 

    Whole Grains

    Whole grains like oats, quinoa, and brown rice provide us with a steady supply of glucose, the brain’s primary energy source. They’re also rich in fiber, which helps regulate blood sugar levels, keeping energy stable and reducing mood swings and fatigue. 

    Resetting Your Mind

    Now, let’s talk about your mindset. You could be eating all the right foods, moving your body and doing everything “by the book,” but if your mental space is cluttered or overwhelmed, it could be hard to feel truly balanced. That’s where mindfulness and intentional mental practices come in. Just like you fuel your body with nourishing foods, it’s essential to feed your mind with positive thoughts, calming routines, and space to rest and reset. 

    Practicing mindfulness is one of the best ways to help clear and feed your mental space. Mindfulness is a mental practice that is quite misunderstood. It isn’t about clearing your thoughts completely or being perfect at meditation, it’s about becoming aware. Aware of your thoughts, your feelings, your breath, and your surroundings. By taking a few minutes a day to be present and aware, you’re giving your brain a chance to slow down and rest. Whether you’re journaling, practicing deep breathing or just sitting in silence, you’re allowing your brain to reduce stress, sharpen your focus and help regulate your emotions. 

    Think of mindfulness as mental nourishment. It’s not something you see the results in immediately, but over time, the benefits start to show up in your mood, your energy, your relationships and how you respond to stress. Just like you wouldn’t expect to eat one healthy meal and experience all the benefits, the same goes for your mental wellbeing. It’s about consistent care.

    During your reset, try setting aside 5-10 minutes each morning or throughout the day to check in with yourself. You can try a breathing exercise or write down three things you see, two things you hear, and one thing you feel. Allow yourself to observe and feel without judgment. This can create a calm start to your day and help you feel grounded throughout it. A clear, calm and focused mind supports every other part of your health journey.

    The Full Reset: Mind & Body 

    As we wrap this up, remember this: resetting your mind and body doesn’t have to be complicated. It can start with something as simple as your next meal or your next mindful moment. With the right foods, a bit of awareness, and some daily intention, you can feel more connected, more centered, and more like you. 

    This reset is a lifestyle shift toward feeling better inside and out. It’s about reconnecting with your body, re-centering your mind, and building habits that actually support the life you want to live. Of course, you’re not doing it alone. We’re here to guide, support and cheer you on every step of the way. 

    Here’s to fresh starts, nourishing choices, and a happier, healthier you!

    Isabella & Milana 

  • Why Journaling Isn’t Just a Trendy Hobby

    Why Journaling Isn’t Just a Trendy Hobby

    Journaling became a huge trend during the pandemic. Every influencer was doing it – posting photos of their perfectly curated notebooks, aesthetic titles, and motivational quotes. I was guilty of the “aesthetic” journaling but in all honesty, I had no idea what I was doing. At the time it seemed like if you didn’t journal you didn’t fit into the healthy girl lifestyle trend of 2020. But was it just another trend like whipped coffee or does journaling actually have great benefits? 

    Spoiler alert: It’s way more than just a passing trend. Journaling isn’t just about aesthetics or jumping on the self-care bandwagon, it’s a tool that has been around for centuries. Whether you’ve tried it and given up or never picked up a notebook, here’s why journaling deserves a spot in your life (and why it’s not as cliche as it might seem) 

    The History of Journaling 

    Journaling didn’t start with Instagram aesthetics, it has been around for centuries way before it became a part of the self-care kit. Some of history’s greatest minds used journals as a way to process their thoughts and recall the events of their time. Today, journaling allows us to write for our mind, emotions and creativity. It’s not just about filling up pages to keep up with a trend; it’s about giving yourself a space to grow 

    It’s More Than a Trend

    Writing things down helps you organize your brain like a mental detox. By putting your thoughts on paper you’re decluttering your mind which allows you to process and focus on your emotions. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed and you aren’t sure where to start, journaling is perfect. 

    It is also like a mini-therapy session. It has been shown to lower stress hormones and provide clarity during emotional chaos. Whether you need to rant about a bad day or work through tough emotions, getting them on paper is a great way to release tension and refocus. 

    When you start writing without judgment your brain gets the chance to breathe and let loose. My favourite technique to use is the “brain dump”, where you jot down anything that comes to mind. It helps you manage your thoughts, reduce stress and can limit overthinking. 

    Journaling Doesn’t Have to Be Extra 

    When you journal you don’t have to be a calligraphy pro or spend hours trying to perfect your handwriting. You should do whatever feels right. Whether that’s writing in multiple colours or just writing in one. You also don’t have to write a novel every time. Start small with simple prompts like “What made me happy today?” or “Three things I’m grateful for”. There are a number of different journaling techniques and If I’ve learned one thing there’s not one that is better than the other. It depends on what you feel will help you the most. There’s gratitude journaling, brain dump journaling, creative journaling, and manifestation journaling. It’s up to you to decide which one you feel would benefit you the most. 

    So if you’ve been holding out on journaling because it seems like just another trendy hobby, it’s time to rethink that. Grab a pen, open a blank page, and start writing. It doesn’t matter if it’s a fancy journal, you’re doing something good for your mind and that’s what counts. Give it a try and your brain will thank you later.

  • The Importance of Setting Boundaries: Protecting Your Energy

    The Importance of Setting Boundaries: Protecting Your Energy

    Have you ever felt like you’re juggling a dozen things at once only to realize none of them are for you? That’s what happens when you don’t set boundaries. Life can get chaotic and overwhelming, your energy gets declined, and all of a sudden you’re running on empty. But guess what? You don’t owe every ounce of yourself to others! It’s time to draw some lines and protect your energy by setting boundaries. 

    Why Boundaries Matter 

    Boundaries are like doors that enclose your energy. They show where your space ends and where someone else’s begins. Without them, it’s like leaving your door wide open and inviting everyone to come in and take what they want. You end up feeling drained, overwhelmed, and sometimes even resentful. But when you’re setting boundaries it’s like you’re putting up a big fat “do not disturb” sign for things that don’t serve you and leaving room for what does. Setting boundaries does not mean that you need to shut people out, it means you’re not letting yourself get stretched too thin for the benefit of others. 

    Signs You Need to Set Boundaries

    1. You’re a serial “Yes” person. You agree to everything just to please other people. 
    2. You feel resentful. Ever done something for someone and immediately thought “Why did I say yes?” That’s your inner self waving red flag
    3. Your “me time” is nonexistent. If you can’t remember the last time you relaxed for yourself it’s time for some boundaries. 

    How to Set Boundaries

    1. Know your limits. Think about what drains your energy versus what actually fuels you. 
    1. Communicate Clearly. You’re allowed to tell someone you’re not available or you don’t want to partake in something. 
    1. Start Small. You don’t have to set immediate boundaries in every aspect of your life. Start by saying no to one thing this week. 
    1. Stick to your boundaries. Once you set the boundary, enforce it. People might test you, but it’s really important to stay true to your word. 

    The Importance of Protecting Your Energy

    When you set boundaries, you’re not just saying no to the people around you, you’re saying yes to yourself. You’ll have more time for what you want to do and you’ll feel more in control of your life! 

    Remember that setting boundaries isn’t selfish. Get that into your head. It’s self-care. It’s about knowing your worth and protecting your peace. So the next time someone asks for more than you can or want to give remember this: you can’t pour from an empty cup but you can refill it by knowing your limits. Now go have fun setting your boundaries!

  • Loving the Sensitive Side of You (Even When Others Don’t Get It)

    Loving the Sensitive Side of You (Even When Others Don’t Get It)

    If you’ve ever been told you’re too sensitive, I know exactly how you feel. Three simple words that can make you feel ashamed of yourself. But the truth is, being sensitive is nothing to be ashamed of. It is part of who you are and it’s actually a good thing even if other people don’t always see it that way. Being sensitive allows you to be more attuned to your feelings and the feelings of everyone around you. I have been trying to acknowledge the importance of my sensitivity and how to let it no longer negatively get to me. Here are a couple of ways to start loving your sensitive side. 

    See Sensitivity as a Strength 

    Being sensitive means you care deeply. You notice things others might miss and you can connect with people on a real level. That is not something that everyone is able to do and it’s not something to feel bad about. It’s something to be proud of. Your ability to feel and understand emotions is what makes you strong.

    Stop Worrying About What Others Think 

    Not everyone will understand your sensitivity and that’s okay. People might say things like “You’re too emotional”, but guess what, their opinions don’t define you. Focus on being true to yourself. The people who really care about you won’t let you feel sorry for feeling too much. 

    Take Care of Your Feelings 

    When you’re sensitive, it’s easy to get overwhelmed by stressful situations or other people’s emotions. Trust me, I understand what it’s like to not only feel too much for other people but also put their needs above your own. That’s why it’s so important to set boundaries. Don’t feel bad about saying no if something feels too much or too emotional for you to deal with at that moment. Put your emotions and energy first and don’t feel guilty about it. 

    Appreciate What Makes You Different 

    Your sensitivity probably makes you notice much more than anyone else. You’re able to notice the beauty in the little things like small moments that others overlook. These are the things that make life meaningful. Be proud and grateful for these parts of yourself instead of hiding them. 

    Learning to love your sensitivity can take time, especially if you’ve been made to feel bad about it in the past. But being sensitive isn’t a flaw; it’s a gift. By taking care of yourself, setting boundaries, and surrounding yourself with people who appreciate you, you can embrace this part of who you are. So the next time someone says you’re too sensitive, remember that it’s not a bad thing. It’s what makes you, you, and that’s something to be proud of.

  • A Cozy, Grateful Winter: Embracing the Season with a Thankful Heart

    A Cozy, Grateful Winter: Embracing the Season with a Thankful Heart

    A Cozy, Grateful Winter: Embracing the Season with a Thankful Heart

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    Winter is an interesting time of the year. While many people love the cozy, festive atmosphere, others can feel down due to the cold shorter days – talk about a mix of emotions! But I think you can’t go through a winter season without feeling a little bit of both. Winter can be the coziest, heartwarming season if you choose to embrace it with gratitude. So, let’s ditch the “I can’t wait for spring” mindset and shift gears to make the most out of this season!

    Gratitude for the Little Things 

    It’s easy to focus on the big things we’re thankful for (like family, health, and a home), but don’t forget to appreciate the little things. Winter is the one season that lets us appreciate the little moments. Maybe it’s the first sip of your coffee, the smell of fresh cookies, or even the extra 5 minutes in your warm bed every morning. Whatever it is, it’s important to notice these small, everyday joys and be thankful for them. Allowing yourself to feel gratitude and thanks for these moments can turn the coldest and greyest winter days into brighter and happier days. 

    Appreciate the Winter Season

    While it’s easy to complain about the cold, there is something so peaceful about crisp, fresh air and snow-covered trees. Take a moment to step outside and connect with that peacefulness. Allow yourself to reset your mind and appreciate what’s around you. Focusing on the positive aspects of the season allows us to shift mindsets and embrace winter with a little bit more gratitude. 

    Gratitude for the Holidays 

    The holiday season, whether it’s Christmas, Hanukkah, New Year’s, or any other celebration, is a wonderful opportunity to reflect on the blessings in your life. The holidays bring families together, offer a chance to reflect on the past year, and allow us to create new memories. Even if the season is stressful or doesn’t look the way you imagined, there is always something to be grateful for—whether the people in your life or the ability to rest and recharge. 

    Practice Self-Gratitude 

    It’s important to show gratitude to yourself during this season. Give yourself permission to rest, recharge and take care of your mental and physical well-being. Celebrate the moments where you prioritized yourself and allowed yourself to take a break. Self-gratitude is just as important as being thankful for the things around you. At the end of every day the only person who is always there is yourself. Take care of yourself, and let yourself be aware of how well you are doing. 

    Reflect on the Year Gone By

    The end of the year gives us the chance to reflect on the past 12 months and be grateful for the lessons, growth, and experiences we’ve had. Take a moment to value how far you’ve come and allow yourself to foster a positive mindset moving into the new year. Reflect on your personal journey and write down your accomplishments, the challenges you’ve overcome and the relationships you’ve created within the last year. Practicing gratitude for your personal growth lets you end the year on a positive note and can encourage you to be an even better version of yourself in the upcoming year. 

    Winter may be cold and dark at times, but it also gives us the chance to slow down and focus on what truly matters. By practicing gratitude, you can find joy in the smallest of moments and create a sense of warmth in your heart, no matter the weather. Whether you’re appreciating the beauty of the season, celebrating the holidays, or showing kindness to others, gratitude has the power to transform your winter experience and help you embrace the season with a thankful heart!

  • The Start of the Winter Rut: 5 Ways to Avoid Falling Into the Slump

    The Start of the Winter Rut: 5 Ways to Avoid Falling Into the Slump

    The Start of the Winter Rut: 5 Ways to Avoid Falling Into the Slump

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    Well, as much as I hate to say it, the start of the winter rut is here. There are more gloomy days than sunny days, the weather is colder and the days are shorter, and it’s the time of the year when you just want to hibernate, binge-watch TV shows, and do absolutely nothing. I’ve really felt like I’m falling into the winter slump over the last couple of days. Motivation levels are at an all-time low, productivity levels are going downhill and my brain has felt like a big pile of mush – we’re doing great over here! It’s so easy to fall into the winter slump but the good news is, you don’t have to let it completely take over you. Here are five (very doable) ways to avoid sinking into the not-so-productive winter funk:

    Create a Morning Routine That You Look Forward To

    If you are anything like me, you are not the biggest fan of the mornings. Getting up early and starting my day has always been harder for me to do (more than I would care to admit). Even with that said, I know that the way we start our day sets the tone for the rest of it. Hitting snooze has become a part of my morning routine and I’m always rolling out of bed feeling sluggish, which leads me to feeling very down in the dumps all day.

    So, learn from me and create a morning routine that wakes you up and boosts your mood. Incorporate things that make you excited to get out of bed. Instead of grabbing your phone the moment your eyes open, take a minute to wake up naturally and let your brain revive itself. Try leaving a notebook on your nightstand and plan your day instead of doomscrolling on TikTok (guilty!) From there, get up do your skincare, grab a cozy drink, and fuel your body. A good morning routine can make the rest of the day feel more manageable and positive. 

    Move Your Body & Get Outside 

    I get it, when it gets super cold outside, the thought of leaving your house can feel like a bad joke. Going to the gym or for a walk feels more like a chore than an enjoyable activity. As someone who is trying to get back into moving her body, I’ve found that starting small is the way to go. Moving your body and working out should be something you are excited to do. Even just a 10-minute stretching/yoga video on YouTube will help you a lot more than you think!

    Getting fresh air is another huge mood booster. I know winter isn’t exactly the best season for outdoor adventures but even just a few minutes of fresh air will do a lot. Step outside for a quick minute or take a walk to your nearest starbucks (reward yourself!) Give your body a chance to re-energize itself. 

    Plan Fun, Low-Key Goals

    The winter slump doesn’t have to mean productivity is out the window, even though it may feel like it. Instead of tackling a long list of to-dos, set small, fun goals that make you feel accomplished without overwhelming yourself. Clean your room, start reading a new book, try making a new meal. The key is to make your goals feels achievable and enjoyable. Crossing off small tasks will give you a sense of accomplishment and keep you from feeling like your stuck in an unproductive rut. 

    Stay Social

    As tempting as it is to stay isolated during this time of the year, being a hermit isn’t the best way to avoid the winter rut. Keeping social connections are key to keeping your spirits high. Coming from an introvert herself, making it a point to stay in touch with your friends and family truly does make you feel better. So plan a girl-friend date night, facetime someone you haven’t talked to in a bit, or maybe try making new social connections. Talking with other people about everything other than how cold it is can help keep your mind active and connected to others. Plus, nothing beats a good laugh with people you love being around. 

    Practice Gratitude

    When the days feel gray and endless, its easy to get stuck in negative thinking. Make it a habit to practice gratitude – whether thats writing down three things you’re grateful for each day or taking a moment before bed to reflect on the positive things. This has been something I have been trying to incorporate into my routine. Acknowledging these things and your little successes will help shift your mindset and remind you that you’re moving forward, even on the dreadiest of days. 

    Winter doesn’t mean surrendering to the slump. Instead, treat it as an opportunity to embrace the season in your own way. Stay warm, stay active, and most importantly stay connected to what makes you happy! 

  • Stress Is Normal: How To Turn It Into A Tool For Growth (AKA Surviving Your 20s Without Losing Your Mind)

    Stress Is Normal: How To Turn It Into A Tool For Growth (AKA Surviving Your 20s Without Losing Your Mind)

    Stress Is Normal: How To Turn It Into A Tool For Growth (AKA Surviving Your 20s Without Losing Your Mind)

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    Oh, our 20s. That exciting decade where everything is supposed to come together, but in reality it feels like you’re juggling so many things at once. One minute you’re feeling like a total adult and the next minute you’re calling your mom to ask if a certain container can go in the microwave (or is that just me?). 

    I get it. Navigating our 20s is hard. There are so many new responsibilities, career decisions, friendships that come and go, and let’s not even get started on the pressure to have your life totally figured out (spoiler: no one does). Stress is basically a rite of passage during this time, but here’s the thing: it’s not all bad. Stress, when you know how to work with it can actually become your bestie. 

    So, let’s dive into how to turn that stress you’re feeling in your 20s into fuel for growth, confidence, and your best adult self! 

    Make Stress Your New Best Friend (Seriously) 

    Okay, no one said stress was fun but what if you could stop treating it like the villain in your life and instead, see it as an opportunity to grow? It’s all about perspective. In our 20s, we’re constantly learning and figuring things out. Whether it’s the stress of your first big girl job, figuring out what you want in relationships, or dealing with the pressure of adulting. Stress is inevitable. But instead of letting it throw you off, try to flip the script and ask yourself: “What is this stress trying to teach me? 

    That stressful situation might just be showing you where you need to grow. Whether that’s learning time management, becoming more resilient, or improving how you express yourself. The list is endless and stress can be a total teacher if you let it. 

    Turning Stress Into Motivation 

    You know that feeling when you’re about to completely freak out because your to-do list looks like the plot of a novel? Yeah, that’s normal. Here’s the trick: stress can make you more productive if you use it right. 

    When you feel that sense of urgency, your brain is in high alert, which means you can knock things out faster. So, instead of getting paralyzed by stress, use it as fuel. Break your tasks into tiny pieces and tackle them one by one. If you can learn to turn your stress into action, you’ll feel accomplished and you’ll prove to yourself that you can handle whatever life throws at you. And that kind of confidence is priceless in your 20s!

    You’re Doing Your Best And That’s Enough

    Here’s the thing, as much as you might love to grind, it’s also important to hit pause sometimes. In our 20s, we’re constantly pushing ourselves, which is great, but you’re also allowed to have moments where you just… breathe. Don’t be too hard on yourself when things don’t go perfectly. Instead of adding more pressure with “I should be doing better” thoughts, try thinking “I’m doing my best, and that’s enough”. Because it is. 

    Taking the time to practice self-care is very important. It helps you recharge. The more you take care of yourself, the better you’ll be able to handle stress when it pops up. 

    So, the next time you feel your heart racing or your brain spinning, take a deep breath and remind yourself: You’ve got this. You are learning, you are growing, and every stressful moment is just one step closer to the person you’re becoming.