Ferguson and A New Movement

Well my Facebook has never been so quiet about one of the most important human events of our lifetime.  No comments, no posts, no shares, no likes.  Really?

I am struggling because although it is not easy to accept the decision as a human being, as  a lawyer, I must try to understand and respect the Grand Jury’s findings.

Presenting a case such as this took thousands of hours to research, develop, prove and argue. The jury was obligated to weigh scientific evidence, witness testimony and circumstantial evidence against their emotions.  No matter what your opinion is on the findings, please do not judge them until you have read every transcript, reviewed every piece of evidence, and come to your own conclusion.

That’s enough on that,

In reality, I have learned that that the magnificent revolutions of my mother and others in the 60s and 70s have not only stalled but have almost been wasted.  As a woman in 2014, I feel more constrained than I did growing up in the 1970s.  Does anyone else feel this way?

My entire life, I was told that I could and should do anything anyone else can do.  Reality check:  I still made less money for doing double the work AND watched others who did the same thing while being mothers, caregivers, wives, lovers, hand-holders and friends.  Oh, and I was expected to smile and say “thank you” the whole time.

My mother fought hard to make me a strong, independent, curious, accepting person.  I will not judge or conform to archaic ideals against race, color, class, creed, gender,or  sexual orientation.    If you do, then let’s end our relationship now.

If you do not, then come with me.

#alexunleashed

The New Relationship

Out of true love, our parents, schools, peers, society and everyone else told us to follow a path: get married, have children, retire, live happily ever after. If you don’t, you are a “failure” and there must be something wrong with you.

Bullsh#t.

Guess what? We are all injured, insecure, and imperfect. Unless you live in a perfect bubble, someone, somewhere, somehow has touched your life in a negative way. And it has affected you. But that should not define your life.

The new relationship admits it’s imperfections at the start with things like “I’m insecure,” ” I’m lonely,”. “I have an eating disorder,” “I filed for bankruptcy,” “I have an issue with…..”

What if we didn’t judge.

Imagine that world.

The power of “I love you.”

Do you know how many people go without someone saying this to them in a day?  A week?  A month?   Or even a lifetime?

When was the last time you told someone you loved them?  Why or why not?

Not only loving but saying so has made me a  far better person than I could ever have imagined being.

I love you!

From Scared Girl to Warrior Princess

Imagine you wake up one day.  No job, no family, no friends, no support and alone in a foreign land.  I remember this day very clearly and just asking myself:  “What am I going to do?”

I have a story to tell about the highs and the lows of reinvention, chasing your dreams and how the universe subtlely guides you.  We are all born for a reason and it is so powerful when you find it.

Love Yourself!

Things I have been told:

Be quiet.

Don’t speak up.

Know your place.

Be a lady.

You’re “crazy.”

You can’t do that.

You’re not strong enough.

That’s just the way it is.

Learn to get along.

You shouldn’t…

You can’t…

My response:

I am a trailblazer.

I am a rebel.

I love whom I love.

No apologies.

No judgment.

Life is short.

Be who you want to be.

Do not let anyone threaten you.

Crush the ones that do.

Explore.

Laugh.

But most of all,

Give.

You can’t love yourself if you don’t like yourself.