Strong Women – Yes, have a Strong Woman by your Side! 

From my childhood I was enamoured and awestruck by strong women, I found a different kind of beauty in them. Looks didn’t matter, their spirit mattered most! I always thought of having a wife who would be stronger than me older than me, because it’s commonly understood that olders are stronger! 

A strong woman is the best present you can gift yourself! This is not a discriminatory statement!

Through your childhood and adolescence you felt safe because your parents protected you, your mother took every care of you emotionally & for your well-being as was needed by you. Your father protected you & provided everything you needed & desired! Yes it was their duty for they brought you into this world! You were feeble, helpless & weak when they got you! They nurtured you into a strong person. You felt safe under their parenting because they were strong. 

As we grow up and the parents age and start withering, we achieve a sense of bravado & strength as we mostly can take care of most of our needs and our parents really are not as capable of doing everything that they could when we were kids. 

However, what is the meaning of strength, the meaning of being strong? Strength or being strong is not just desirable it is a necessity not for feeling good! But for doing good! To be helpful to be protective! If we are strong and consider ourselves strong then we must be capable of protecting others who need protection, even better we must train others to become strong! 

My pictures of my family was that my wife & children would walk alongside me shoulder to shoulder not lagging behind me or following me! However, at least in India women are brought up to be submissive & obedient & silent, they are also brought up to be unable to be independent & financially dependent! So how can such a woman ever be strong if she’s Inconfident of being capable of surviving in the big wide world without support from a husband or a father which was taught to her all her life. 

In many ways a woman from birth is always under a man till her end, childhoods under the father, youth under the brother, adulthood under the husband, old age under the sons! And they live this life as such without thinking and without any resistance! And the biggest culprits of carrying on this culture are mothers of the daughters of families. And mother-in-law of the wives, they do not want their daughters or daughters in law to become independent as it would upset the balance of the family & society. 

In my life I did not want it to be so! I therefore as a very young husband made my wife learn to handle finance first of home expenses management, writing cheques, paying bills, she resisted because she never did them and did not like to do so. I also told her the most taboo thing, if I ever die you should be able to run the family, she lived in this fear I instilled into her but this made her strong without a choice. She understood the costs of living, then I said I did not want her to be a sit-at-home housewife, as the real world is outside! Initially, she became a teacher, then she became an entrepreneur and managed both her home and business. I felt very proud of her! 

Over time she learnt to stand by me in everything, alone in this world I found an able, capable strong partner in life and Business. She was not only capable she supported me in every way and took off the burden of the family and financial management responsibilities from my shoulders and let me free to succeed in my career! And of course I did make best use of that freedom to become one of the very respected professionals. Very successful & well paid! It was not just my achievement, it was our achievement! 

My fear of the possibilities of having an early death was not unreal, yet I took risks and enjoyed life to the fullest! To keep the family safe in case of eventualities I kept no properties in my name, everything was in my wife’s name! She was the owner of all our wealth! Many did call me stupid, for if she’d leave me and everything belongs to her I’d be zero, I told them all my property which are with her does not measure up to her worth to me so if I lose her nothing else would matter to me! I would accept to walk away a penniless pauper! But if she’s mine and with me, then, I’m the richest man in the world for I need nothing more! 

I gifted myself a strong woman! Several years ago! The strength was a gift from me to her! My submission to every family is to make your daughters strong, don’t allow your Sons to think they are princes & the daughters maid servants(born to serve) this is a lopsided upbringing, as long as such mindsets exist in our country and humanity will not improve! 

Discrimination, lust, disrespect, rape, will all prevail! Kill the mindset! Don’t fear your wife because she makes your life miserable, respect her, love her and treat her equally such that she’ll respect & love you.

Of course if her mother-in-law did torture her when she was a new wife and you were young and you stood by and saw her getting miserable and did nothing to protect her, you did not only made her strong, you made her into a monster that you & you mother will need to endure. This is the irony of a strong wife: you make her strong with your love & respect. Don’t let your mother make her stronger into a monster with her torture & misries, it will be a curse you don’t want!