You're Turning Me On

I love to watch men eat. If you’re ‘friends’ with me on facebook you may have seen my post on that. It’s true; I shamefully admit I love to watch my date/man/male companion eat. It’s such an erotic turn on for me. It’s no secret that food is one gateway to a man’s heart, so it’s something they hold dear to them. I like to watch because they eat with such passion and nothing else really matters at that moment other than their hunger being sated, and they are usually very happy and accommodating afterward. Let’s face it, men get mean, irritated, moody, and down right cranky when they are hungry. Feed them, and all the world’s a happy place. I think for me it also turns me on because I don’t have full undivided attention because he’s focused on something other than me, and yeah…it makes me think about that, too. Go ahead, judge me.

I am obsessed with men that let me do and be me but also let me know when it’s time to submit. I am very offbeat and quirky with many fleeting passions and obsessions, so it takes a special man to keep in sync with me. I had a special friend; we shall refer to him as Dr. Cush. Dr. Cush would allow me to tease him to his limits. I would straddle his lap, instruct him to lay back, close his eyes and not touch me. I would then very slowly maneuver my lips about his face but never have them actually touch his face. When he was done being teased he very gently but authoritatively let me know it was time for me to get up so he could put it down. He was also very patient when it came to dealing with me and my never ending quest to balance my highly spiritually aware half with my highly sensual and hedonistic half. It’s a dichotomy of incredibly opposing forces that causes me to indulge in my craving and later withdraw from sensual pleasures of the physical kind then start all over with indulgence. He was there. We would switch from teasing and coy wordplay to having conversations that never included sex. He intrigued me because of his ability to always be on whatever page I was on. That made me crave him all the more.

Danger is arousing. Not DANGER danger, but a small adrenaline rush. Dr. Cush sometimes came over for gatherings. I would be in the kitchen cooking or fixing a plate or something of the sort, and he would pass me to go to the refrigerator. If my hair was up in a bun he would very lightly kiss the back of my neck or ‘accidentally’ run his fingers across my bum. Because it was always so subtle coupled with the fact there was always to chance someone would see him, I would be instantly aroused.

Last but certainly not least, potential is a turn-on. A man’s potential, real or imagined, is often what keeps a woman’s heartstrings attached to a man she should probably let go of. As long as she can see potential she has hope.

So, what are your turn-ons?

The Good Thing

I believe inside every woman lies a portion of the Arc of Covenant, but I think the world has gotten it twisted. Thirsty females vying for men by any means necessary and putting up with nonsense are making men feel like they are the gifts, when in reality, women are the 'good things' that bring the promises of enriched lives. To truly love and cherish a woman is to love yourself and taste a small portion of Heaven on earth.


I can’t speak for all women, but I like to be pursued. Summon me like the king that you are, and I will respond in a queenly fashion. Many men have told me they don’t like being ‘hunted,’ rather they prefer to be the aggressors. They admit they like for a woman to show interest before they make their moves, though. Fair enough. A well-timed genuine compliment or warm smile can work wonders for a man’s ego and opens the door for communication, allowing him to make his move. That being said, hardly anything makes a woman feel sexier than being wanted. It makes her softly purr like a kitty and elevates her femininity factor. Make her feel wanted and you’ll be treated to her feminine wiles that you know you can’t ever get enough of. A thirsty woman will lay it all out and show you her hand from the onset and not save anything for later. A calculating woman, on the other hand, will bring variety, spontaneity, and a bit of mystique to the table, slowly stripping away her layers and leaving you wanting yet always sated and eager for her to give you more. That is a rare gift. One of my personal mottos is: I am many things, but a girl has to reserve some secrets, otherwise the mystique surrounding her wanes, and she’s left being just another average woman.

Women are healers, nurturers, and producers by nature. A mother’s kiss can heal anything from a scraped knee to a broken heart. A wife’s touch can heal a wounded ego and the safe haven of her body can erase all the stresses of life. When you release into her, physically or emotionally, she takes your raw emotions as they cleave to the walls of her heart, and she either produces you a miracle that shares your DNA, or she takes on whatever ails you and intercedes on her face at the feet of God on your behalf until the issue has been resolved. Just a soft look from her has the power to make you feel comforted and supported.

Our gifts are not only spiritual, but natural as well. Every man I know that has gotten married has experienced financial growth and stability like never before. Wives are indeed a blessing. I leave you with advice given to me from my mother. If a man truly wants you he will make an investment in you. Not necessarily monetarily, but he will want to spend time with you and do the little things that show he wants and respects you.