With Fathers Day coming up I am thinking aplenty about my “voids” and their meaning, how they impact my days, and how difficult they are to escape from. Some truly are voids in the dictionary sense, being emptiness or nullity, but generally form around my ongoing sense that I am not a good father to… Continue reading Emptiness Caused By The Loss of Something
When Love Breaks Down
My love and I, we work well together But often we’re apart Absence makes the heart lose weight, yeah, Till love breaks down, love breaks down Oh my, oh my, have you seen the weather The sweet september rain Rain on me like no other Until I drown, until I drown When love breaks down… Continue reading When Love Breaks Down
Wish I’d Seen This Sooner
Along my marriage journey and working with an individual counselor I have read many of Dr. John Gottman’s books and research papers. He, along with Gary Chapman (5 Love Languages) and John Gray (Men are From Mars . . .) have been required reading and I have really tried to put into practice the… Continue reading Wish I’d Seen This Sooner
A Dark Day
Yesterday was probably the worst day I have had in my life. I told my wife (married 20+ years) I cannot function in our intimacy and sex-free marriage any longer. I told her I had met with a lawyer the day before and today she would be served. I had hoped to wait it out… Continue reading A Dark Day
Christmas in July
For a change of pace I wanted to share a fun fact. I love Christmas and the whole holiday season. A Lot. All.Year.Round. The Hallmark Channel magnifies my excitement as they play their holiday movies year-round too, with a couple exceptions for summer stories, Valentines (XO) and Fall Harvest movies. When they don’t I have… Continue reading Christmas in July
Lucky Man
Yesterday was such a gorgeous day outside and my sons agreed to come with me to our favorite stand-up paddle boarding spot. I decided to try a kayak to mix it up and really enjoyed it. It is a different kind of workout, my upper abs really feeling it afterward. As I young child I… Continue reading Lucky Man
Peaceful Easy Feeling
I live in the outer ring of suburbia with a hellish drive to work and expensive parking downtown. When the weather is nice for part of the year I give up the garage, park free on the street and jog or walk several miles each way in to my office each day. Great views in… Continue reading Peaceful Easy Feeling
Fake it till you make it
The random nature (perceived) of the Youtube algorithms strike gold today and this catchy little song landed in my feed. Am I good? No. Was I good while I listen to this song? Yes, I think I was for the several plays and I can’t help feeling a little sunnier for having heard it.
Flying Solo
Very excited that Fathom events, the company whose movie theater ads for the Metropolitan Opera I usually ignore before the new movie trailers show in theaters brought back the film version of West Side Story. I had bought a ticket (also for one that time) to another movie “reshow” from decades past a few weeks… Continue reading Flying Solo
Summer Escapes
One of the best things about summer is when the weather warms up bands begin to tour. I prefer regular music clubs for their sound quality, but open air venues have a great vibe. This summer and fall (ish) I have tickets for many of my college era and late 20s favorites. I may get… Continue reading Summer Escapes
Do the little things matter?
I had to take some time and consider whether writing this even mattered, but it gnawed at me all evening yesterday. My wife is not a sentimental, all-in holiday celebration type person. She doesn’t save much in the way of cards, notes or kids drawings over the years (confession: I have them organized in binders… Continue reading Do the little things matter?
Facingthevoid 
