A few weeks ago, Bob and I attended a "function," and we were seated next to a couple we hardly knew. While getting acquainted, we had the pleasure of watching an adventure in stereotyping. Our conversation went this way:
The Husband: "So, Bob, where did you grow up?"
Bob: "In Idaho."
The Husband: "Oh! . . . . . . ."
Bob (trying to fill the void, hauled out a long-standing joke between the two of us): "Yes, Idaho. And Judy vowed she'd never marry someone from Idaho, or a farmer, for that matter."
"Me (chuckling): "I was a little . . . um . . . snooty back then."
Pause.
Me: (being the wordy person that I can be in slightly awkward situations): "Yes, a tad bit snooty. But you know, farmers are not what you might think. When we lived in Idaho, I was pleasantly surprised at the people I met and learned to love. They are really very wonderful."
Pause.
Me: "They have a great work ethic."
Pause.
Me: "That is actually one of the things that drew me to Bob in the first place."
What happened next was incredibly funny. Have you ever dug yourself a hole that you couldn't climb out of? Bob and I watched it happen. Gosh, we gleefully let it happen.
The Husband: "Well, Bob, that's interesting. I knew a farmer once. You don't look like one."
Shovel, shovel. Scoop, scoop.
Long pause. We looked at them. They looked at us.
The Wife: "I THINK there was a farmer in the outskirts of our town many years ago.
Yes, yes. I'm pretty sure."
Shovel, shovel. Scoop, scoop.
Bob and I smiled and nodded, but we were silent.
The Husband: "Well, we certainly need farmers. Why, what would happen if we didn't have those kinds of people?"
Shovel, shovel. Scoop, scoop.
Still, Bob and I stayed quiet.
The Husband: "And you really work at a bank?"
Bob: "Yes, for about 25 years."
The Wife: "But you, Judy. You don't come from farm people, right? You're musical!"
Shovel, shovel. Scoop, scoop. Fall in.
All of this only took a minute or two, and it was I who finally had mercy on them. I honestly don't know if they thought they NEEDED mercy, bless 'em. But though I was becoming uncomfortable, I do believe Bob would have let them swing in the breeze a little longer.
"No, I'm sort of a city girl," I said. And I went on to explain where I DID grow up and, my husband told me later, artfully steered the conversation in another direction.
Shovel, shovel. Scoop, scoop. Rather delightful.
And to be truthful, it was Bob's broad shoulders that made me take a second look.
He got them "working out" on a farm.