(My Beautiful Tivi the wonderful djane come check her out at The Venue on Saturdays 6pm slt)

Recently someone that will be left unnamed came to me about an incident involving my babygirl, Tiviyah Spiritor.  This person is a dominant, and he also learned a valuable lesson.  Now i find myself to be a very reasonable person and dominant.  I also find myself easy to speak too.  I however have developed a soft spot for my Tivi.  Anyone that has an issue with Tivi has the full ability to come to me and I will gladly look into the problem and makes things right or set things straight. I however will not tolerate any slander or defamation of her character.  Is she perfect? No far from perfect but I will take the next few moments to tell you what she is.  She is very strong minded.  This poses one hell of an issue for most dominant figures as they for some reason do not believe a submissive can be this way, i however love it. She is very independent.  This is also another thing i love about her, her independence makes it to where I don’t have to foot her bill so to say.  her independence has also brought about many talents that she has.  These talents including modeling (currently coordinating INK a charity fund raising event for bullying awareness), building (Most recently a beautiful dance instructional area that honestly is probably one of the most amazing things I have seen), dancing (honestly something i love watching more than anything, her words and movements are deep and i can’t wait to see what you do for your graduation on the 6th of Oct.), Djaneing ( your love for music and the need to share with other can only be matched by mine), and blogging (fashion mostly, and things that she needs to get off her chest, but mostly through fashion)  to name a few, have opened her eyes  to ways of dealing with pain, stress, and other emotions.  Ahhhh Emotions…. She has the tendancies to allow her emotions to run high and you would think it causes a problem but she always finds a way to channel these emotions, normally through the before mentioned activities. This brings me to what happened today.

(Tivi the beautiful and talented pageant Model)

Back to the dominant,  This person in my opinion has about as much of a clue as to what happened here as good ole Bush did when he ran our country into the ground for eight years.  Allow me to make something clear, the incident that he brought to my attention came almost 2 hours after it had taken place.  Knowing this i will continue again.  Now as i said i will keep the dominants name  unknown.

Dominant: Howdy
ωyℓđεя şţуﾚεⓏ  (balthazargoodwing): yers
Dominant: were you with Tivi at the ope discussion at sos earyler?
ωyℓđεя şţуﾚεⓏ  (balthazargoodwing): yes why
Dominant: she was rather rude to me at that meeting, topping actually
ωyℓđεя şţуﾚεⓏ  (balthazargoodwing): oh really and why do you feel that way
Dominant: it doesn’t matter shes yours right?
ωyℓđεя şţуﾚεⓏ  (balthazargoodwing): yes she is
ωyℓđεя şţуﾚεⓏ  (balthazargoodwing): but you must excuse me if i dont just “take your word for it”
Dominant: you said you were therte
ωyℓđεя şţуﾚεⓏ  (balthazargoodwing): if you have an issue with what she did or said i need some kind of scenerio
ωyℓđεя şţуﾚεⓏ  (balthazargoodwing): i caught the very end
Dominant: you said you were there, ahh well the best way to handle something like this is have her admit to you what
she did wrong, you need to ask her

(Express yourself babygirl)

Ok so unless i missed something this gentleman came to me about an issue he was having with Tivi, yet he didn’t even want to tell me How she did what he claims she did. At this point i should have blown it off and been like yeah ok sure mhm and go on about my evening.  But being the stubborn ass person i am i decided to divulge further into the bullshit spewing from his fingertips.

ωyℓđεя şţуﾚεⓏ  (balthazargoodwing): well sir tbh with you if and when she realizes shes done wrong she normally confesses
to me befor other dominants say something or have a chance. so this is why im confused by this so if you have a grievance about
what my Tivi did aka “topping” you in an “open” discussion i must ask you to provide me with some sort of proof
Dominant: no i dont, just aske her what she said to me ?????? in open at the open meeting, see what she says, look
thisim not the only one who accuses her of topping, so this isn’t a “rare” occurrence

See now at this exact moment i should have stamped the word Void on his forehead and sent him along his way. but to be fair i decided to ask Tivi what happened.  She was very open and honest with me as she always is and explained to me that today during an “open discussion” She was waiting patiently to speak her comment when she was cut off by the banter of said Dominant who did not wait for his turn in the order of how things were going. she also held her the whole time she was being cut off.  Now when it was her turn to speak her comment she was polite and very respectful. She called said dominant out by his name and used what just happened as an example to back her comment and reinforce it.  Keep in mind there is a  Facilitator (group leader) at these “open discussions” this person didn’t find anything wrong with what Tivi had done or said in fact later that night he came to me and said that she was very respectful about the issue at hand and that if there was a problem he would have stopped it and/or came to me about her behavior.  Now if you haven’t noticed I’ve been “” the words “open discussion”. ill explain later why.   I also asked the opinions of two other sub figures at the event and a few other dominants.  In the end they all came to me with the same conclusion. this conclusion is that what Tivi did was in fact not topping  nor disrespectful and that i should be proud of how she handled the issue.  This brought a slight tear of joy to my eye yet i felt enraged at the same time.  Who the fuck is this Dominant to come to me and accuse my Tivi of something she didn’t do.  I then quickly came to the conclusion that this gentleman with the missing VOID stamp on his forehead  was feeling guilt, wow what a concept a Dominant the feels guilt. Most do not know how to deal with guilt especially when they feel this feeling because of a submissive.  So in turn he attempted to come to me an attempt to get and innocent sub into trouble.

(Most current picture My beautiful Submissive)

Before i post to you what should have been my final reply i want to tackle some things. First would be the “” around “open discussion”.  In my opinion an “open discussion” implies the ability to speak freely  now granted there are certain protocols to use and keep in mind. Respect being the only one that matters in this situation.  And from what i was told there is only one person that found disrespect in what happened (I call that being ass-hurt). Also with this being an “open discussion” that implies that a dominants opinions are no more important than those of a submissive. In this “open discussion” there is a format to be followed by both Dominants and submissives, this format consists of C and Q. C respectively stands for comment, Q for question. participants enter the letter into main chat to keep from everyone speaking at once or someone not being heard.  it is the group leaders job to recognize these c’s and q’s and put them in order of importance. When your called upon you speak and when finished say  done to let the group leader known its the next persons turn. Someone didn’t stick to this format and got their feelings hurt because of it. How is that my Tivi’s fault?  The next thing id like to tackle is the idea of a submissive topping a dominant. and because i cant find better words to explain it i would like to use the words of a submissive. no this submissive isn’t Tivi but one that i had talked to.  This was her response after asking me if she could speak freely.  “submissive2: My understanding of topping from the bottom is that it is what a submissive does with their own Dominant…Expressing our feelings, and speaking freely during discussions is NOT topping from the bottom, regardless of a particular Dominant’s sensitivities.”  now that’s another persons submissive speaking freely.  Now what I have always been told is Topping from the bottom is to imply that Tivi in this case was commanding this Dominant to do her will.  What will was this?  Where was this will? now if he feel her will was to make him feel like absolute shit then sir get the fuck over yourself and move on with life. Learn from what you did and realize that your feelings are no more valued then that of a submissive.

(Go ahead tell me she isn’t beautiful)

After thinking and deliberating this is the response i wrote in return to the Dominant.

ωyℓđεя şţуﾚεⓏ  (balthazargoodwing): After further research into this situation. i have found out a few things. One the facilitator of the discussion tat the time doesn’t feel as if Tivi did wrong. two YOU broke format. and three if anyone at the discussion should feel they where topped it should be Dark as he ran the discussion and allowed the format breaking to occur and her comments where about the incident. just because you lost face because your ego got bruised by the comment my Tivi made  doesn’t mean she did wrong. you feel guilt for stepping out of line and breaking format and you want to place guilt. thats understandable yet your guilt is being placed wrong. you can rest assured that if Tivi did wrong you wouldn’t be the only to tell me so.  and i would take action. now for my final statement i will say this. i also asked if other felt that Tivi “tops” often and everyone i asked said no they don’t feel so. all of them stated that tivi is a very strong and independent woman that knows how to handle her own business and does it in the most respectful manner she can. Which is more than most men/woman  can do
whether they are dom or submissive. its something most masters and dominants can’t stand. you however feel as if you lost face tonight and honestly you should. you did wrong and your placing your guilty feeling in the wrong place.  if anything i am very proud of Tivi because she makes me proud the way she behaves. i know i don’t have to worry about her or her actions. if she does wrong she always has and will come to me and i do take care of it. if you feel she tops often its more than likely because shes not afraid to speak her mind. if you like your girls to be mindless then thats your choice to make. i enjoy intelligent conversations therefor she will be the way she is.  once i send this to you i will pretend you didn’t come to me tonight and say anything at all. because honestly  the only person im angry with is you. for making a fuss over something you have no reason or
right too. and FYI  in the words of a submissive that was present at the discussion “My understanding of topping from the bottom is that it is what a submissive does with their own Dominant…Expressing our feelings, and speaking freely during discussions is NOT topping from the bottom, regardless of a particular Dominant’s sensitivities.” so please refrain from allowing yourself to have your feelings hurt when you did wrong. not the other way around. the only person you have to blame is yourself. you know who you were stepping on and you know she isn’t going to let it blow over. especially when an “OPEN DISCUSSION” Implies the ability to speak freely. I will not “muzzle” Tivi at an open discussion unless she does step out of line and becomes disrespectful. so until such a day before you come to me please allow yourself the time to think through what happened and not throw stones at
glass houses. until we speak again or on a different topic i bid you a good night and hope your ego isn’t too bruised.

(Dance babygirl Dance)

His response in return was that i let Tivi write that and i hadn’t, also that he didn’t care what Tivi did (obviously not the case since he reached out to me). he also said that the way she represents me doing these things makes me look bad… Well honestly if being independent strong minded and having every ability to take care of herself and speak her mind while being respectful and knowing without a doubt if she does wrong shell tell me is wrong, then i don’t want her to do it the right way.  Shes great in what she does and I’m safe and confident knowing i can leave her side for a period of time and not have to worry of what mess ill have when i get back. I couldn’t be prouder of what she is does and represents.   I promise anyone out there that wishes to come to me with an argument of what MY TIVI did wrong,  You better have evidence to back your claim and a valid reason for your claim. Do not and i repeat do not fucking come to me ass-hurt because my strong minded, independent, and intelligent babygirl made you feel like and idiot because you did something to set her off.  She may be a submissive but her feelings and he thoughts matter. they matter to me and i do not hold my own above hers. I may have the final say in what happens but i always hear her out and make sure her voice is noticed and recognized. in fact I have stopped and started events since she came into my life because of the insight she brought. So if you are bitter because you were schooled by a submissive and think coming to this Daddy Dominant is the answer your wrong. ill make you feel even worse about yourself than she did.

(Please please please don’t make me end you)

Now in the end I would like to think this person learned his lesson. This lesson being i wont put up with bullshit. If you have a grievance about my Tivi and its valid please bring it to my attention, but be warned you better have a solid foundation if you don’t then may god have mercy on your soul because i most definitely will not. being a Dominant doesn’t imply nor make you better than your submissive or any other. Please don’t fall into this trap.  For any submissives reading this blog i hope your masters/dominants have this much respect for you as well. to any Dominant that doesn’t agree with what i did or how i handled the situation please keep your thoughts to yourself. I DO THINGS MY WAY AND IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT THEN FUCK YOURSELF.

-The End-

P.S. if you’d like to contact me in world go for it i invite it thats why i left my screen name in the convos.