Joseph Burgo, Ph.D., reminds us that shame and guilt are not one and the same. Rather, the two intermingle to create obstacles that stand in our way of self-care. Burgo explains shame "reflects how we feel about ourselves" while guilt is the "awareness that our actions have injured someone else" (See Burgo (2013)). Shame and self-care also intermingle; … Continue reading Shame, Guilt, and Self-Care
Awareness of Shame and Thriving in Sobriety
Let me first say I am only thriving in sobriety by the grace of God and The 30-Day Sobriety Solution. This system has literally changed my life. Now, let's address the elephant in the room, shall we - "How bad was your alcoholism?" Three fifths a week. A six pack a night. Maybe a liter a … Continue reading Awareness of Shame and Thriving in Sobriety
Essential Oils and Self-Care
Hello, and thank you for stopping by! Skeptical. That is the one word I would use to describe my thoughts on essential oils (EOs). Until I tried them. Sure, I had used EOs in the past to make homemade soaps and lotions, and I was drawn to them over time. But, no, they were not … Continue reading Essential Oils and Self-Care
Self-Care Sick Days and Shame
Today, I had to take a sick day. I got food poisoning from a new restaurant. But the worst part? I am so ashamed of taking a sick day as a form of self-care. Even though I could not wander fifty feet from a restroom, I still drove to my rotation. I got there and … Continue reading Self-Care Sick Days and Shame
Self-Care, Shame, and Admitting Anger Toward God
Part of exposing shame is admitting the anger that surrounds it. I have been so angry, and completely putting it out of my mind. I had a conversation this week with a new-found spiritual mentor/friend. She is SO wise. I cannot handle how honored I feel when I talk to her. But she was tough, … Continue reading Self-Care, Shame, and Admitting Anger Toward God
Shame, Vulnerability, and Whole-Heartedness – Cliff Notes of The Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown
I know how cliche to say it is that God put everything into place for me to find a TED Talk that has changed my outlook on my vulnerability. My new church has been doing a common sermon series this summer regarding feelings. We have reviewed feelings such as anger, fear, hurt, and shame. Along … Continue reading Shame, Vulnerability, and Whole-Heartedness – Cliff Notes of The Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown
Starting the Week with Self-Care – A Lofty Goal
Plan out your week. Take a bubble bath. Enjoy some "you" time. All examples of the things I know I should be doing this Sunday evening, but even though I know darn well it will help, there is this strange mental block I face. I call it the Perfectionist's Block. The desire to do something … Continue reading Starting the Week with Self-Care – A Lofty Goal
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