The father that this man wants to bury before following Jesus probably isn’t dead. He might not even be ill. This man is mostly just saying that he is not willing to do something his father will disprove of while his father is still alive but that he will be free to do as he pleases once his father is dead.
Another disciple said to him, “Lord, first let me go and bury my father.”
But Jesus told him, “Follow me, and let the dead bury their own dead.”
Matthew 8:21-22 (NIV) Full Text Matthew 8:14-22
This interpretation is not unique to me, I’ve heard it elsewhere, but this time, Wilda Gafney’s Woman’s Lectionary expands the passage to show us what came before.
So now I’m wondering what Peter’s mother-in-law thinks of this.
When Jesus came into Peter’s house, he saw Peter’s mother-in-law lying in bed with a fever. He touched her hand and the fever left her, and she got up and began to wait on him.
Matthew 8:14-15 (NIV) Full Text Matthew 8:14-22
Apparently Peter’s mother-in-law lives with him. In my understanding of household formation in this time period, this suggests to me that she is widowed and doesn’t have any sons.
This is Peter’s house after all, not his father-in-law’s house, and she apparently lives here, she’s participating in the work of welcoming guests in a way I wouldn’t expect if she were a guest herself. If she had a husband or a son to support her, wouldn’t she be living in their household?
Perhaps I’m making to much of her presence here, but this suggests a precarious situation to me. If Peter fails to support her, and his wife for that matter, do they have anyone to fall back on?
How does Jesus’ call to let the dead bury their own dead in the second half of this week’s passage sound to this woman?
She’s a recent recipient of a miraculous healing, but still desperately dependent on others for her every day survival. How does it sound to her to hear Jesus instructing his followers to abandon their elderly parents in order to follow? And in fact, her son-in-law has walked away from his job and his family to follow this teacher. Not that it was a great job.
Jesus clearly cares for her, and all of those coming to him to be healed, but I’m finding a contradiction here in the way he cares for the hurting and the marginalized while at the same time calling away the people supporting the hurting and the marginalized.



