Everything here is grounded in established clinical models, then translated into language that actually helps. No jargon, no shame, no quick fixes that fall apart by Monday. These are the frameworks the quiz and the guide are built on.
Attachment theory
John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth
The deep, mostly unconscious template, formed in your earliest bonds, for how safe it feels to need someone and to be needed.
Schema therapy
Jeffrey Young
How a young mind, meeting unmet needs, forms the self-defining themes, the core wounds, that quietly run into adult love.
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Dr Sue Johnson
Beneath every reaction in love sits a softer primary feeling and a simple question: am I safe with you, do I matter, will you stay?
Polyvagal theory
Dr Stephen Porges
Why the body reacts before the mind can think, mobilising to fight or flee, or dropping into freeze or fawn, faster than choice.
Transactional Analysis
Eric Berne
The Parent, Adult and Child within us, and the part that takes the wheel in conflict when the grounded adult goes briefly offline.
The trauma-response model
Pete Walker
The four survival responses, fight, flight, freeze and fawn, the old automatic moves that once kept you safe in love.
